| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/6/2007 6:50:14 AM | As a comedian once said, "Sex isn't the only important thing in a relationship... but it's in the top f***ing five!" For men that is ABSOLUTELY true.
I hate to break it to you ladies, but for all of you who said things like, "I don't need to be a 'keeper' sexually" or "I shouldn't have to be good at anything, he should love me for my mind...", you're fooling yourself into a life of loneliness or failed relationships. Just like so many of you said that men need to "grow up" and we need to be "mature", so do you and address the reality. This is a legitimate question for all women to try and answer realistically if you truly want a good relationship.
Most all men NEED physical love to confirm that you love them. When we are not satisfied in that area of the relationship, we do not feel loved.
Most all women NEED emotional love to confirm that they are loved. When they are not satisfied in that area of the relationship, they do not feel loved.
Therefore, as part of a good relationship a woman must give physically and a man must give emotionally but it's a reciprocal relationship; you probably won't get one without the other on either side.
Now as a man, once again, good sex is not all we want, but it's in the top 5, and most lkely the top 3. | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/6/2007 7:07:13 AM | Seems to me, OP, you should be more concerned about:
1)your view of women with long-term potential as primarily a skillful, sexually satisfying object as opposed to being a friend, confidante and lover.
2)your lack of interest in knowing what skills YOU need to have lasting appeal for a woman.
3)the presumption that judeo-christian teachings make sexual acts criminal.
You have yet much more to learn grasshopper, and the sexual skills of women is the least of them. | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/6/2007 7:49:38 AM | OP:
Today all i want is a hand-job....can u even imagine how good your hand-job will have to be for that...??
So how many of you women know how to give an excellent hand-job??? Anyone? What is your technique? Could you please go into it in detail?
Am I the only one that thinks the only reason this guy posted was for some light reading to go along with his own personal "job"?
OT: That thing I do with coffee filters, a bike helmet, Diet Coke, and Mentos is the only skill I need to "keep" my man.  | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/6/2007 7:59:44 AM | Well as much as it pains me to say it there arent any really
I think someones mindset and outlook regarding sex is far more important than their gymnastic dexterity
I've known women who were extremely adept at sex, a few even did it for a living but they werent even close to the sexiest women I've ever slept with and the sex wasnt as mind blowing even tho "technically" it was far better
I think whats really important for a long term relationship where sex is concerned is that youre reasonably on the same wavelegnth, have fairly similar outlooks, values and levels of inhibitions and have reasonably well matched levels of sexual voracity
Its more to do with matching and compatibility than what someone will or wont do or how well they do it
It would be too much like hard work for me to actually describe what I would want a woman to be like sexually for it to be conceivable we would have a long and enjoyable sex life without me getting bored shitless, but figuring out if someone hasnt got the right kind of mindset is an absolute doddle | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/6/2007 8:15:37 AM | Like many of the posters above, I think OP is asking the wrong question in the wrong way. It is not a matter of specific techniques, but my list would be as follows:
Comfort with her own body and acceptance of her sexual needs.
Knowing what she needs to be satisfied and a willingness to teach me.
A healthy interest in sex and in making the effort it sometimes takes for it to br great.
A sense of adventure to experiment with something new.
A sense of humour when a new thing does not work out as we hope. | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/6/2007 8:20:46 AM | Most important skills:
Listening and Open minded.
Not to be confused with random over thinking and unconditional giving in.
I've had deal breakers with someone's inability to compromise, when she just isn’t doing much in the relationship outside the bedroom and sex just plain sucks. You just have to cut them loose. It has to be at the least one or the other if ya don’t have both. | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/6/2007 8:37:09 AM | Lady bug is along the right lines
Nobody can really "keep" someone, the best you CAN do is be someone they would WANT to stay with
It IS however possible for someone to be so pathetically accomodating that its easy for someone to stay with you, but thats not "wanting" to in the true sense of the word as they would want to be with anyone who did what you did rather than you specifically
And the moment someone with some intrigue, excitement and passion came along your accomodating nature wouldnt be worth shit
the sad thing is tho, that I think a lot of women really do think this is an important question, think that sex above all else is mens motivator
And personally I think thats quite sad, that in their lifetime they dont seem to have bothered to take the time to get to know a single man to any decent degree and still cling to bitter judgmental sweeping stereotypes they were probably told by their mum when they were a teenager
Two things that I think more people need to realise are these
If you think there are things that "men" or "women" want and dont want then you will never learn to be anything of any great value to the "individual" you are with
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What you expect from life will tend to be what you will attract or cause people to supply especially where negative expectations are concerned | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/6/2007 10:45:19 AM | I hope OP, it was a mistake mentioning MEN rather than a MAN in your opening question.
One man is well enough and for him to gravitate in my space it doesn't require only sexual "skills". As George Michael once sang: "Sex is natural, sex is fine ..." and this touchable bind I would not underestimate ever but to make it work, it takes lot of untouchable links IMO. It is a two way street of pleasing and being pleased on many levels, not just sexual. (Hmmm ... Toni Braxton is coming to my mind on this  topic) | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/6/2007 12:51:57 PM | jeeeeeeesus, babes, can u say co-dependent?
love is based on natural chemistry ad compatibility, u do NOT need concern urself w breaking it down in lists and lists of skills. u could be the best and still not get the guy, he might like someone more naive. THEN what???
i say just chill and be u, and the right man will come at the right time. spend ur life being happy, not aiming to please. not saying is anything wrong w improving ur sexual respionse and being more sensitive to another's needs, but i would work more on ur self esteem and id recommend therapy first, just from the highly insecure tone of this posting. self esteem is really hot! trust me, that will make more of a difference | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/6/2007 5:20:44 PM |
Keep in mind, we are talking about pleasing men. Not rocket science.
Speak for yourself bud
Just because you might be a fembot asskissing apologist that takes whats on offer and doesnt expect anymore doesnt mean ALL men have such low expectations
Pleasing any other man however requires imagination, spontinaity, excitement, expectation, romance, creativity and eroticism the same as pleasing a woman does
However thick or inherently "grateful" men ARE probably just happy enough to get sex however vanilla it might be | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/6/2007 5:48:19 PM | Skill Un:
LIKE SEX. Do with happniess, enthusism, passion. Do it like a slut on a porn. Be his lil ____ toy. All men want slutty lil ____ toys.
Skill Deux:
Master the blowjob. And throw in skill un while you're at it. Suck it with intent, suck it like your life depended on it.Try and make it come out of the back of your skull. Make him say in his mind "wow, this is straight out of a porno".
Skill Trois:
Now, in my findings this is what seperates the girls from the women. Anal. Some women have no problem with it, some will die before anything goes up the bunghole. Now, I don't know about all men, but most of the ones I've encountered like anal. But it's hard to find a woman who'll let a man do it, so when you do, you know she's a keeper.
Skill Quatre:
Talk. Some women have a hard time talking dirty. It does take some getting use to cause at first it does sounds silly. Never underestimate dirty talk. | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/7/2007 4:23:17 AM | I would agree with cunning linguist, while it may be "easier" in some ways to satisfy a man, just like women each man likes things done differently and "values" certain acts above others. It is up to both partners and part of the fun to discover what those things are. That said, just like women, some men know themselves sexually while some don't.
Another point to bear in mind, is how each individual thinks of sex. Some people think that sex is an extention of their intimacy/love and some others may think that sex is for play and that there are some other things that show intimacy/love and again some others may be in the middle. | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/7/2007 4:45:33 AM | | Ummmm, don't know. Haven't gotten around to that yet. But I think that it's more of a "personality" thing--knowing that you and he (or you and she) have something special that goes beyond sex. Now if the guy is a "horn dog" and can't keep his "manual" to himself, but decided to love him anyway--and stay with him--then there is nothing that you can do to keep him "exclusive". Not even memorizing the entire Kama Sutra--and being adept at all the positions--would do the trick. (And this goes for the men as well. If you have an extremely "liberated woman", then you better be prepared to share...) | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/7/2007 5:07:15 AM | For permanent keep, a woman needs to "tame" a man like a man "tames" a horse. Manage to "beat" the independent psyche out of him, enslave his spirit, turn him from from a free man to a slave. Not too hard, employers do that to men and women every day, and often mothers have prepared their sons to become slaves. Whereas mothers do not have sex in the arsenal they use, a man's GF does. But it is not sex or love as an emotion that does the trick, It is psychological manipulation.
As per the dichotomy between sex and emotion, emotionless sex does not exist. During love making, both lovers normally have and share strong emotions. Normally. Some pretend to have them, they are so calculating in nature that they can pretend.
What many women do is to wish, to have the illusion of wanting, to perpetuate that emotion, w/o realising that this is like putting a human into a freezer (cryogenics) and keep him there to revive him at will.
The other, very rare, way that a woman can keep a man, is by actually letting him him be free. In that rare case, she not only keeps a man, she keeps a free man, and that is priceless. Thus many prefer to keep a "beaten" man, because it is safer and easier for them to do so. It is many women who want to have the pie/cake and eat it too, as the popular saying in this forums goes. They do not realise that a pie kept in a freezer, rots. | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/7/2007 5:20:21 PM | Dear Forum, I'm not trying for subtility, finesse, or anything remotlely civil. The subject is "What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?", and there's an answer. You don't gotta like it, or believe that's what men want women to be like. But I'll tell you right now, porn exists for a reason, strip clubs exist for a reason, Hooters exists for a reason. Men watch porn for a reason, and in part it's because they want to see women do things most women won't do. Like what I outlined above.
You can call it a moronic "skill set", but I'll tell you right now, it can go a long way. I don't know about the rest of the world, or men. But here, where I'm from, what I've seen with my own eyes, what I've talked about with other guys. It works. | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/8/2007 11:05:27 AM | Ok, if I say what I am really thinking about what you just said about my faith and the fact that you think my daughter should be taught how to do a hand job in high school (that is what you meant about "practical sex education" isn't it?), I will definitely get booted...
so all i have to say is this..
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/8/2007 3:59:18 PM | | Too funny... I read all the posts in here and some of you are close, some are guessing, most have not a clue. The simple answer is total open communication. If both parties are comfortable enough to truley communicate with each other then and only then does a whole new set of doors open. | |
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| What sexual skills does a woman need to become a permanent keeper of her men?
Posted: 11/8/2007 5:37:38 PM | Agreed, by the age of the men you are referring to! A mature, stable man would never, EVER approach a woman with your aforementioned SKILL SET! IF a woman thinks you are worthy of the SKILL SET, she will do so on her own accord; IF she thinks you are a moronic, immature BOOB - meet Mr. Hand.
Approach? What are you talking about? I'm not talking about approaching anyone for anything. Read the topic, that's not what this is about.
The topic is more or less asking what sexual skills women need to have so that their man will never want to be with anyone else, "permanent keeper" as it's put. This was a sex based question, not about personalty, or fidelity, or any other trait. This person is asking, as far as sex, what do I have to do to keep my guy?
I could be very wrong about the male mind. But then the very nature of porn affirms what I'm saying. Take what I say with a grain of salt, call it what you want. But under all the civility of society, I see the same things about males. Perhaps it's just the curse of my town, who knows. But what I can tell you for certain is this: somewhere here in America, a man watches porn because his woman has become vanilla and would never dare do things like in porns. | |
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