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Posted: 11/10/2008 5:45:35 PM | whatsallthis - I totally disagree. After being on a couple of different sites, since my divorce, I have realised that I will never meet anyone remotely "normal" on the internet. I would much rather take my chances in a bar or at the gym because you have half your battle covered. EG. I can see the person.........straight away I know whether I'm attracted..........talk to them..........find out whether they are boring...........etc.
On here you may think you are getting to know someone but boy do some people tell some whoppers!!!! Then when you decide to actually go and dress up and waste your time having a "coffee meeting" you realise you've been fooled.
I spent about 3 weeks talking to a guy I was convinced was my other half. Perfect man for me..........I'd even seen his photo. Finally we met and I can't tell you the feeling of shock that vibrated through my body as I walked in the door and saw all my hopes just fly out the window. Why? Well he didn't look anything like his photo, not sure why, and he was a big man and when he smiled he had a huge gap between his teeth (which wasn't in the photo). I stayed for a couple of non-alcoholic drinks because he was a nice man and when he told me he had received some money afew years back and taken an overseas holiday I asked if perhaps he didn't think he should have spent some of it getting his teeth fixed.................yes I am very direct.
He simply said that he didn't think it was a big deal. Ok fine and this is a man who has been divorced for 10 years and is still searching for someone. I felt sorry for him that he didn't see that fixing his teeth would help improve his chances..................I guess there's just no telling some people.
To conclude - if I had met this guy in a bar/gym/shop I would have seen him warts and all and could have moved on instead of wasting 3 weeks of my time getting to know someone that I had no attraction to whatsoever....................... | |
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10of6
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Posted: 11/10/2008 5:54:30 PM | | Given that there are no links to your profile, unless a recent change, I fail to see how anyone can approach you except via forums. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2008 5:57:08 PM | | 10of6 if you're talking to me and I'm not sure if you are, I am in Australia which is why you cannot contact me. Only friends in the US that have access to my profile can. Cheers. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2008 9:44:42 PM | | Ha ha "groups of 45+ women" who in their right mind wants to get shot down by a group? That sucks and is a humiliation that women do not know. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2008 10:39:55 PM | I don't go to bars because I seldom drink, and I detest drunks.
If I do go to a gym (haven't been in years) I go to work out, not to pick up sweaty women.
Grocery stores are a better place to meet women, anyway ("Good grief, do you believe the price of beans?")
If I "approach" a woman here it's likely because she said something in her profile or in the forums that I liked. If she responds with grace and humor it might lead to an actual face-to-face meeting; if she's unreceptive, rude or hostile, I know not to waste any more of my time or hers.
Sometimes I send a message to a woman who lives impossibly far away just to say "I like what you said." That may apply to women young or old, here or there, short fat thin tall or "perfect," but I try to avoid the crazy ones. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 11:23:59 AM |
Can someone please explain to me why men that would never approach me in the pub or club do so on here? What do they think is different about being on here? It's puzzling me because i have recieved lots of mail from men that i never get approached by whilst out...i'm not moaning about it..just curious as to why men are so much braver on here!! From what I have read on the forums, it seems than some/many men think that because a women has placed a profile on this site, it means she is placing herself 'on offer' to all men in general. As another poster said
On here you are definately single. And looking. They seem to believe you are then asking to be approached, and they even get mad when their approach is not positively responded to. As well, I think that basically average guys approach the most attractive women here and ignore the average women. Then these guys also get angry when these very attractive women don't respond. It also explains why many men contact women with rude and sexual comments, expect the women to talk about sex right off, etc. I think in RL they would be much more restrained because they know such behavior would not be met with in a positive way. As other posters have said, they are sitting behind a computer screen and people tend to say a lot of things that they wouldn't normally say when it is just online. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 3:45:53 PM | Cause were all just plenty of fish waiting to be caught and usually end up gutted (something people think they can avoid online).
Ready, set, get your worms ready......Goooooo | |
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