| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 9/2/2009 9:19:22 PM | It's one of those poorly defined ambiguous settings on this site.
Personally, I believe it SHOULD mean that he "Doesnt want to create/birth/raise anymore children"
I mean if he HAS them, how can he say he doesnt WANT what he already has.
Now for some men, they dont want another man's abandoned children. Meaning that if you arent getting your children parented and financially supported by their spermdonor maker, most men wont want to take on that responsiblity. LOVE doesnt pay for college.
As a man on here, I'd first properly define what YOU want in your own profile, backing it up with a sentence or two in the text. If you still want to make babies, say so. If you DONT, say that too AND say "Doesnt want children" in the checkoff box. Any man will see that and then read your text, and decide whether or not your pictures were hot enough to motivate him to respond/contact you.
Be specific. Men like that. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 9/2/2009 9:29:01 PM | ask him...some do not want produce...some just do not want children around
it depends on the person...everybody is different
do not push him...accept his choices | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 9/3/2009 5:55:49 AM | I interpret it several ways:
If the person checked "I do not want children" and that person does not have children, then I interpret that he isn't interested in a potential partner who already has children (especially if the children are under 18) and he does not want children.
If the person checked "I do not want children" and that person does have children, then I interpret that to mean he does not want to produce anymore offspring but is possibly open to a potential partners children.
If the person checked "Prefer not to say" and has children I tend to lean towards my second interpretation
If the person checked "Prefer not to say" and has no children, I'm baffled (especially since I'm looking at older folks!).
No idea if I'm anywhere near close, but if I get the "feeling" (and admittedly it's my feeling, I have no idea what the man's feeling is on the topic unless he writes it in his profile) that a man isn't interested in children in any way, then that would be a deal-breaker. (Not that I've been in that situation!  ) | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 9/5/2009 11:38:37 AM | It could mean either.
I think that part of the problem here is that many men see fathering children as a lose-lose proposition. In the US, little if any esteem accrues to a man just because he is a father. This is in contrast to some cultures, where having children is an important right of passage, a way of gaining full personhood. In the US, fathers play a relatively minor role in child raising. This is true regardless of whether they live with the mother or not. Plus, fathering children places financial burdens on men. All in all, men see much to lose and little to gain by becoming fathers. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/5/2009 9:22:49 PM | | You're probably right to be leary. Men who say they don't want children usually mean just that--they don't want to have any, they don't want to date women with children, etc. They are being honest. | |
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