| | girls with high sex drivePage 3 of 22 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22) | Compatibility is the key word in ranking a sex drive as high or low. It's relative to whom you're with. I spent 25 in what felt to me an almost sexless marriage, because even at 49 I'd be up for a minimum once a day while once a month for him could be a lot. That destroyed my self esteem since sex is one of the things I feel very competent in. And I can forgive a lot of other things if I'm well-f....d, to be blunt. It's true you can't have good sex unless you have passion in other areas of your life.
I agree that a higher sex drive can be intimidating to men and women who don't share the need, and that eventually degrades a realtionship. There's nothing wrong with wanting a ton of sex or very little as long as you find a match for the drive. Besides physical abuse (no experience there), there's very little else that can feel as bad as not being wanted as much as you want. It can be a form of control, manipulation and emotional abuse/neglect. Definitely not healthy. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 8:29:57 AM | Not one poster has admitted to a 'low' sex drive. I'd be curious to know what classifies a 'high' sex drive.
Well I can't speak for what others count as a high sex drive, but mine is high enough that I went to the doctor concerned. They did blood work to test my hormone levels. I came back very high in testosterone levels, which is what drives the sex drive in both men and women.
And for the poster that was referring to women being called nymphos, well for any of he women that have posted on here really, there is an interestng book I really recommend. The book is called Nymphomania: A History. You can find it on Amazon. Its an a great read that really tells where thhe term came from and how women became defined sexually. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 9:56:21 AM | Thanks for the suggestion on the read smartn2sexy. I went to see a doctor also for the same reasons ...and your doc told you the same thing mine did.
My x husband considered it a curse and when married to him I did as well. Like an above posted commented, it's a terrible thing, and very frustrating, to want and not get! I don't think it was his problem of not wanting, because he loved me very much, it was just his lack of need or sexual drive. So in the end that non- compatibility hurt us both. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 10:27:21 AM | OP, when I was about your age, or maybe a little older, I dated a girl who also had an extremely high sex drive. In fact, at the time, I called her a "nympho", but to be honest, I think she actually was. If you knew just how to touch her, she was almost helpless. For example, I could gently caress the soft the soft spot on the inside of her elbow, and give her a full blown orgasm.
Unfortunately, almost every guy she'd ever been with also knew just how to touch her... And she'd lose control of herself almost every time. Well, obviously, that not only caused her a lot of shame and guilt, but also caused her to trash relationships, including ours...
If your "high sex drive" falls into THAT category, then it's a problem. If it doesn't, and you tend to just have tons of sex when you're in a committed relationship and you're not out sleeping with every guy in town, then ease up on yourself. I think for a young woman, part of maturing and coming into your own is learning that it's okay to embrace your sexuality...
When you're young, and you have sex, it's almost like the girl is losing something, and the guy is winning something. As a woman gets older though, most learn they don't have to judge themselves so harshly, and it doesn't need to be so black and white. It CAN be a win-win situation...
My 2 cents for what it's worth...
Mark
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Posted: 10/22/2008 11:52:59 AM | Most girls do like sex but have been taught they are not suppose to. So the end up burring that part of them until they are older (thus the myth that womans sex drive increases with age). It really is a shame that anyone is taught that their sexuality is shameful.
Just be respectable in your expression of your sexuality. If you want respect that is. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 12:33:52 PM | | So don't give it up untill your in a stable relationship...No don't think your cheap...but your mistake is letting them know about it...or they will only want you for sex....keep it to yourself for the one of your life. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 12:46:31 PM | I suggest you ignore the posting about guys your age being at their sexual peak.
Their ability to become easily aroused does NOT mean they know ANYthing about pleasing a woman!
What I suggest is finding NOT many multiple partners BUT but perhaps ONE guy who can be with you a lot!
I used to work at a totally nude strip club. I socialized with porn stars, strippers, cute waitresses, etc.
During my last year of employment there I was with a girl who would have sex with me 3 times a day during the week and 5 times a day on the weekends.
I never even thought about doing any of the waitresses, stripper OR visiting porn stars.
I was never both so tired and so happy in my life.
SO listen to somew of the other posters. FInd one guy you can trust and then f*ck his brains out!
(On a side note, I LOVE how posts like this allow others to advertise things about themselves!) | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 12:57:33 PM | | Don't really see anything wrong with one wanting or needing sex a lot. Now if you mean as one of the other's answering that you are having multiple partner's then you'll have a harder time getting a commitment from someone. Don't think it makes you less as a person. If anything most guy's including myself would pretty much jump at the chance to have sex a whole bunch, you know like morning, Noon and Night... | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 1:05:00 PM |
It CAN be a win-win situation...
My 2 cents for what it's worth...
Mark
Awww.....Mark, I love your 2 cents. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 1:09:32 PM | LOTS of Girls have high Sex-drive . .
I'm looking for a _Lady_ with some...!!!
The kind that like to be treated like a Lady .. and still have the *FIRE* to make something really Special...!!! | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 1:42:12 PM | damn were did all the gurls with a high sex drive come from and Y CNT I FIND THEM DAMNIT!!!!!!!!lol    | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 1:46:57 PM | | Should I run my "add" here? Go for "brownie points?" Maybe, I could try to figure out what women desire in a man, even though they are supposed to be all different. I could try to understand women? Pretend I do? (I don't. Not my job) You will get the girl? I won't? So what? Yeah, once a month is fine for me, thanks. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 2:31:23 PM |
I'm looking for a _Lady_ with some...!!!
The kind that like to be treated like a Lady .. and still have the *FIRE* to make something really Special...!!!
Thats' the kind of man I'm looking for! | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 2:33:18 PM | | women are just as sexual as men, matter of fact i would say women are more sexual in my opinion | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 2:44:26 PM | | I hear from most females that I know the older they get the worse it gets....makes me look forward to getting older | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 4:44:18 PM | I don't just count orgasms as the ruler to measure a high sex drive. I feel sexy all the time. It is in the fabric of my thoughts ,words, food I cook and the music I play. It is another way of expressing passion. I identify with my need to be 'driven' sexually and it's importance in my life.
It is sad to hear anyone get down on themselves for wanting to have lots of sex. I think of it as a celebration of life. Life is for the living....you get no do-overs after you're gone. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 6:14:44 PM | Psychological issues?
Are you serious?
Are you saying that, perhaps if I have a higher sex drive than some women, it means I'm not normal?
There is NO normal libido for a woman, which makes every one unique. Just because I want to f*ck more often than one of my friends do, it does not make me abnormal, with emotional and psychological issues.
So...does that also mean, that since so many men have crazy libidos that it makes them emotionally and psychologically unstable? I would LOVE to see where your "research" came from, to back all of this up, because it's a bunch of bull.
Just because someone has a high sex drive, it does not make them sexually promiscious, or a habitual cheater in a monogomous relationship.
Call it what you like, but I'm going to enjoy my high libido.
If you've got one too, enjoy it.
Don't play the dead fish in bed.
Just my opinion!
Thanks!  | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 7:18:26 PM | As Mafiachix posted, just find a guy with your level of sex drive. How many times you want it a day, and how many hours.
But I'd also listen to daisypetals01 in msg 2. She is completely right in what she says about being passed around like a party doll. I've seen girls your age treated like that, dating a guy, then his friend, then his friend, and so on. It just doesn't make you happy.
The best bet, is to keep it under wraps, for the guy who will appreciate it, and who has a sex drive comparable with yours. Then you can blow each other's brains out in bed. If you want a good example of that, rent "Pyrates" with Kevin Bacon. The very best example of sexual chemistry I've ever seen. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 7:18:43 PM |
I hear from most females that I know the older they get the worse it gets....makes me look forward to getting older
Not me! It scares me a little! I'll have to quit my job!!! | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 7:41:50 PM | It can be a curse...
....having a high sex drive with no man in your life is like being at an all you can eat buffet and not being able to take any food!!  | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 7:52:14 PM | Why is it that I never seem to meet women with a "real" high sex drive?
I'm starting to think it is just an urban myth like bigfoot.
Sure it gets posted and chatted about, yet never seems to be the case in real life!
Seems like the older I get, the more I want. the more I get the more I need.
Where in the hell is my match, ladyfoot where are you? | |
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Posted: 10/22/2008 9:33:34 PM | | Truth is all woman have high sex drives well higher than men atleast lol, and its normal healthy and you should be happy and whomever you date should be happy as well as long as that sex drive is with him lol. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2008 4:33:20 AM | | hi glad u like that,iv a very high sex drive i aim 2 please,nothing wrong wiv women being like that. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2008 4:37:23 AM | most men dont complain,but more women r like this now,playing men back at there own games.dont do it if u dont enjoy it.thats wot i say,just depends who ur wiv. | |
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