| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 7/8/2009 6:51:12 AM |
I get most of my read/deleted rejections from "average" fat little oompa-loompas
^^^I got read deleted by the chi 
as for the hotties... why waste my time
Hehe, speaking of untrue, 75% of them ^^ are fake profiles.
The other 25% have heard so much shit in their life on POF that nothing you can say will penetrate hehe. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 7/8/2009 8:39:46 AM | I've only been out on the dating scene for 7 months after a 17 yr marriage. I spent some time on POF at first and found it was generally a meat-rack mentality. I'm back again just for the support from the forums because I think there is a lot of wisdom here. With that said: Why do women lie? There's probably a hundred reasons. It is always about them and not about you. If I lie and say I am 5'10" and not 5'9", that is because of me and my insecurity. Women lie for the same reasons. Insecurity and fear are at the base of any lie. Gotta cover your ass and protect yourself. Some women are so afraid to be rejected that they will say anything to get you to know them. Women think that if you meet them and realize that they are a wonderful person that you will over look other things. Most men don't think that way. We want to know what we are getting into before we get into it. (I know a lot of my comments apply to women too and there are men who are liars also). Also, not everyone is on the same emotional and metal health level as you are, OP. There really are people out there that will never be able to comprehend what it takes for a relationship and that lying is wrong no matter what the circumstance. My ex-wife was/is honest to a fault so I know for a fact that not all women lie.
I see this as the real problem: How do we tell the difference between a liar and a non-liar here on POF. Some things are obvious on the first date. Did she post a recent pic depicting what she really looks like etc. After that it takes time to find out who a person really is. Now that you know that there is a very good chance you may meet a liar on here, you can watch your back better and not invest too much too soon. Don't let a woman rush you into sex. Things get too messy if sex happens too soon and there ends up being a connection before the real "getting to know you" part kicks in. I;m saying this cause as a guy it is very hard to pass up sex and push away a woman who wants you. It seems that women tend to be more into rushing things than men are.
I don't think POF is a GOOD place to find a real connection and a life long love. But you can make some great friends here and get good support. And if one of those friendships blossoms into something more....wow! | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 7/8/2009 9:59:30 AM | | It works both ways. I am tired of hearing you are the only person I am dating. Honest. Yea, right. My X said the same thing. He married her 2 weeks after our divorce was final. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 7/8/2009 12:21:21 PM | | Yes lies from both sides. Also lets just look at the profiles from ladies for a moment, do they remind you of a shopping list. I read one profile from a lady? just today, one of her hobbies was going out for dinner, oh come on. Oh yes then we see the ones that are on pof full time, the good lookers and the ones who , dare i say, are in a job and earning a very good wage. No ladies we don"t all earn over 70 grand a year and own our home (our x wives took it) We are a little overweight because we can"t aford the gym (paying spousle support and rent) i am honest in my profile but there has not been one time when a so called lady has bothered to reply to an email with "sorry not interested" it has just been total ignorance and no reply at all. When i meet ladies i am totaly honest, do i hear from them again, no, ignorance again no phone call or email saying sorry not interested. However saying all this there are some honest ladies out there but where and yes i have met some (very few) who are now friends only. Sorry but this is the way i see things | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 7/9/2009 8:57:12 AM | OMG -- the same thing is happening to me... the men are lying to me?
You meet someone, they show up after having had a few drinks? It is right over right there, if you cant face the fact that you are meeting an adult to show up without drinking -- it is over.
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 7/9/2009 4:43:00 PM | well, this kind of sentiment runs both ways ... pal! there are just as many women just as sick of b.s. men lying to them, etc. and, yes, the games are actually worse than high school because we are supposed to be adults out here by now.
and besides that, many women are honest and straightforward with men, but the men choose to ignore what is said. many men believe that they are so fabulous, so amazing, so desirable, that they can behave in any stupid, disrespectful, phony, d*ckhead way they choose and women are supposed to take it and be grateful! | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 7/9/2009 4:47:15 PM | yes, this is exactly what is going on now ... men just think they can "cheat" as they wish. dating now means a cheap dinner and they get laid - no responsibility, no obligation, no respect. the media has pushed the theory that there are so many more women than men that men have gone infantile. they behave like spoiled children if they don't get to have sex with as many women as they choose, or lie to as many women as they want, and so on.
it would be interesting to know if this is one of the second marriages that lasts because the second wife puts a choke chain and short leash on the guy!?!?! | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/12/2009 11:22:06 PM | | I've not been to this thread in awhile, but to better clear up my comment about the "BBW/average/athletic/a few extra pounds", I simply meant that everyone has their opinions on what those terms mean. There really is NO exact definition of any of those "terms" when you think about it. Hell, these days, "Average" can mean ALOT of things. At my place of work, I'm average, and most of the men I work with are over 200lbs and near 6'+, but somewhere else, "Average" could be 5'4 and 150lbs or something. And I know everyone has physical traits that they like. I, myself, am an "eye-guy". But if someone has nice eyes, and even looks like the typical model-type person, and is a total 8itch, then she's not worth the time. Personality can go a long way, and physical looks shouldn't stop people from being at LEAST friends, and I don't mean "**** buddies". | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 11/16/2009 12:33:47 AM | | A lie is really only a lie if you are dumb enough to believe it. It is up to you to grow the F up, and just figure that everyone always lies. Refuse to believe anything, and then you won't get hurt. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 11/18/2009 7:30:35 AM | | Wow I can believe this post is still up! Anyway, I have left and come back and now I look at it as like this...You have to take it as they come. Brush of the women who B.S. me and try to find the honest one. The sad part is Im still looking...lol. And for those who havent figured it out, I was the one that started this post. In any case, I hope Im off this site for good soon. Just have to stop running into the liers...;) | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 11/18/2009 12:25:55 PM | I think that is also true with me because it seems that I get asked out by the white women but never get asked by the black women. Not that it would bother me that I never get asked out by any black women, but I have nothing against any white man going out with a black woman. There are a lot of black women out there who like white men and I believe it is due to the shortage of black men or the increasing numbers of black men who are dating non-black women. There's nothing wrong with you I think it is just that you need to make yourself available to the white men and start asking them out if your interested in them. I often hear that the nice guys finish last and I get stuck in the friend zone a lot. Nice guys should date nice girls but usually the nice guys are not dating the nice girls. The nice guys start to turn into badboys because they think it makes the relationship more exciting or that they want to attract more women (certain types of women though). I have had some white women lie to me and tell me that they are looking for a nice black guy to start a long term relationship but later on I find out that they are more interested in the black guys who are badboys. Or that they tell me that a nice black guy is boring or no fun in bed (not true there). I tell them that I am not like that and they usually come up with the line "Let's just be friends okay?" That usually is interpreted to me is that they want friendship but they really want the badboys for more than friendship. I think this runs true with all races of men and not just black men in general. The way the media stereotypes and plays up to the image of the badboy black man it is kind of like women are expected of us to be the bad guy types and not the nice guy types. I think that oppossites attract and for some women it holds true. Nice guys and girls finish last.  | |
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