| Not ready for a relationship but ready for FWB?
Posted: 12/17/2008 5:37:04 AM | | I'm probably going to take a lot of heat for this but in my experience when the communication falls off it is a pretty good sign that his interest has fallen off as well. Why would you want to settle for this, or even consider this a friendly gesture? Friends don't leave friends twisting in the wind. I call this a *serial coward* if you have had any sort of in depth conversations with him about previous relationships I'm sure all the signs are there that this has been his M.O. in the past. | |
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| Not ready for a relationship but ready for FWB?
Posted: 3/16/2009 3:28:44 PM | I think I know what happened here. This guy liked you but not enough to be in a relationship. When you were with someone else then he did. See he didn't want you but cares enough that he doesn't want any one else to have you but once he had you then he doesn't want it any more. I'd put money on it that if u were with someone else and talked to him about it then he would magically love you again. So if ur ok with fwb and I don't think its such a bad thing if u do care and respect each other, then do that but if you want more and he doesn't save yourself the pain. A little off subject but for me I think fwb is better then sleeping around with strangers but I'd rather find my lady and be with her and only her.  | |
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| Not ready for a relationship but ready for FWB?
Posted: 3/16/2009 4:18:09 PM |
HOW...for the love of God, HOW do we know when a guy is playing us to get some, and when he really does mean the tons of sweet nice things he says
A guy can say anything to you for any length of time online, easily....
Here's a hint I got from a lady friend....
If the guy types something really moving and deep....
Copy and paste it and see what happens when you "Google" it...
Amazing how often those 'sweet nothings' are from some book or poetry etc.... | |
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| Not ready for a relationship but ready for FWB?
Posted: 3/16/2009 8:03:26 PM | | I guess it just means that he's more willing to give away his body before he gives away his heart. Why don't you talk to him about it, tell him how you feels about him being more and more distant. Ask him why exactly he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you at the moment while you're at it, but you might not get an honest answer if he just doesn't like you in that way but didn't want to hurt your feelings. Personally I don't believe there's such a thing as friends-with-benefits as it's difficult to untangle the emotional side of sexual intimacy from "just friends". | |
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| Not ready for a relationship but ready for FWB?
Posted: 3/17/2009 12:18:28 AM |
HOW...for the love of God, HOW do we know when a guy is playing us to get some, and when he really does mean the tons of sweet nice things he says? How....?
Base everyone on their actions and not their words...talk is cheap, easy, and misleading (especially to people skilled at it)
Actions, consistently over time are what establish someone's true character | |
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| Not ready for a relationship but ready for FWB?
Posted: 3/17/2009 2:39:06 PM | He is avoiding responsibility and wants his cake and to eat is too. You will get hurt from this- the warning signs are right up in your face- Find better....
Down the line is a line that makes you think he will change so he can get you in bed- he won't ...change | |
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| Not ready for a relationship but ready for FWB?
Posted: 3/18/2009 11:24:40 AM | It sounds like when he is back with his SO or GF that he treats you the worse. Did he say he was with anyone? This does sound like that. If you are just wanting a FWB then you'll have to settle for what comes with it. Hate to sound blunt about it all, but...
My take is this: he is either not serious (he told you he wasn't wanting a relationship), or he is taken. For all we know, this man could even be not telling you the whole story. He could be ignoring your texts when his GF is nearby, because he doesn't want to get in trouble with her. It could even be her computer for all we know. It might not be, but it's something to think about. | |
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Landra
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Joined: 9/10/2007
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| Not ready for a relationship but ready for FWB?
Posted: 3/18/2009 3:24:23 PM | After using his prowess with sweet, empty words to get you into bed, he used you for sex and now wouldn't mind doing it more often if you'd be willing to provide.
Why is he willing to be friends with benefits but not in a relationship? For the obvious reasons. You don't sleep with your " best guy friend". Once you did, he became a guy you had sex with. Everything falls apart somewhere between the first and second visit-- which is after you had sex with him. | |
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