| Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 11/3/2007 6:36:25 PM | I think it would be much more special if it had thought into it instead of just the traditional rose. I mean, if he knew I liked a certain colour or knew a flower had a certain significance to me and gave me one of those...I would appreciate it all that much. Anyone can buy a rose just to score points...there's no real thought in that...unless u know it is special to her.
However, I'd still be flattered/pleased rose or other flower...but I'd be MORE impressed if it was a flower/colour special to me.
Kimberly | |
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| Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 11/3/2007 6:47:02 PM | | Adorable....one rose is perfect ....not too much....It's extremely sweet.... | |
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| Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 11/6/2007 9:38:18 AM | cosmos. Al Paulchino is correct. This link you posted for Al Paulchino to read is basically for people who are married and in love. Which the page also happens to sell flowers .  So let me get this stright. A web-page that sells flowers is also a web page that says you should buy flowers for a loved one? What a coincidence. 
This post is about giving a rose to a stranger.
It's no secret that women love attention and loved to be treated special and many like to be spoiled. So naturally many women who post here will say "Oh yes bring me a rose It's such a sweet gesture. " Of course they will say that because it makes her feel good whether she is attracted to you or not. I can remember when I used to think that I had
to buy women jewelry, flowers, and gifts to get heir love and approval and affection.
I did that for years. And it never worked very well.
There is a time and a place to do buy flowers and gifts but doing so upon meeting a woman is not the time or the place for it. Most men meet a beautiful woman and they feel compelled to start spending money on her, bring her a rose and buy an expensive dinner. It’s natural to want to be generous towards people you really care about but a woman you have just met (or a first date) does not qualify as someone you genuinely care about. The feeling behind the rose is not there for a stranger.
Most guys run around chasing after women... buying them things... and generally acting needy with women that they hardly know... hoping to get some love and approval. When you do these things, you send a clear message:
"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to bring you a rose to try and buy your attention and affection to win points out of the gate".
You might say you disagree, OR, “When I like a girl, I want to show her how much I care about her or how generous I am.”
I’d say bull-crap. You want to spend money on her in hopes that she will like you in return. Let me put it this way, if she were unattractive, would you feel the same way? Would you show up with a rose? If she looked like a demon, imagine Gene Simmons of the Rock band Kiss with breasts, (how is that for a sick visual?) would you still show up with a rose?
Women are attracted to you because of the FEELINGS that they get when they're with you (as opposed to the thing you buy them)
Buy something for your mother if your in the buying mood, after all she is the real woman of your life and she will always appreciate it much more....
But please, do not waste your money on strangers you barely know.....
BadBoy~ | |
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| Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 12/2/2007 10:49:20 AM |
But please, do not waste your money on strangers you barely know.....
Why does it make you angry that other people do nice things for people they don't know? Does that mean you get angry when people give to charity. Or show a little kindness to someone in public, like in the grocery store line-up? I think a lot of the people who give flowers on a first date are people who just like to make other people happy. We're all human, and if people just showed a bit more kindness to their fellow human beings without asking for anything in return directly, then this would be a much more pleasant place to live in.
I was thinking about how easy it is in a big city to feel disconnected to people, and it's really sad. Road rage and internet dating are great examples of where it just takes a small barrier to make you feel disconnected to people as people. In nasty driving behaviour, it's just a layer of metal and glass that makes you forget to empathize with people. With internet, some people will write the rudest things in an IM to someone, that they would never say to someone's face.
I say, bring a flower if you want to. It's a nice thing to do. And if bitter, angry people don't appreciate it, pity them, but don't become them. | |
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| Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 3/2/2009 11:59:16 PM | | cosmos, you are absolutely correct... roses convey significance by their color. other flowers are supposedly appropriate for differing occasions, not certain what they are though. - well never give a woman Lilies, they're for funerals. I'm usually one to take the cautious approach and give a single, non-rose flower; a small potted flowering plant is generally well received, especially if a card with a pleasant, non-stalker sentiment is attached :) | |
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| Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 10/14/2009 9:04:21 PM | | Yes, I always appreciated roses on the 1st date. One time I got a dozen roses on a 1st dtae. One guy I dated for 5 yrs bought me roses almost every day, and a dozen roses once a month! | |
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| Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 10/15/2009 12:50:50 PM | Yes,
A flower or flowers on a date is will always put a smile on my face... :) | |
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| Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:34:55 AM | | I had a date a few months ago.......this man gave me 2 dozen long stem red roses......geez....and he kept doing it for almost every date. We had 10 dates then I found out he was a stalker type guy and had to let him go BUT I sure do miss those beautiful red roses, lol | |
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| Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 10/20/2009 2:03:35 AM | On a first date, I suggest you only bring your great sense of humour LOL. Try to just be yourself, bring her nothing and see if she sticks around. If she does, she is worth it. If she doesn't then she is materialistic.
If you want to be romantic, there is plenty of time left for that when you enter into a relationship. | |
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