| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/7/2008 10:13:09 AM | | odd , did he do survey after the sex , did u say ,, hey hey i never came ?? somethings a miss here | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/7/2008 10:24:44 AM | Well, I once had a girlfriend who had difficulty in getting there.Through patience and practice we had found a way to cum at the same time. When she found this new power she would hold her climax to the very end, (wait that didn't come out right) lol
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/7/2008 10:41:16 AM | | That is not your problem. We can make plans but we can't predict the outcome! In sex the plan is always for everyone to have a good time that results in a amazingly fantastic, mindblowing, earthshattering, eyes-rolling in the back of the head, toes curling, orgasm. However that does not always happen. It is no ones fault if both parties did their best to reciporcate the pleasure. as a result it is in no way anyone's right to balme someone or break up with them. Sounds like many other insecurites he may be dealing with. Count your blessings you are no longer with him. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/7/2008 10:57:29 AM | It wasn't funny at the time, but I dumped a man because he didn't cum. He was on Viagra. And although he made me cum, he could not cum. We spent hours trying to get him to cum, he just couldn't. My vagina felt like raw hamburger afterwards. He literally pounded me into the mattress. He was mad because he couldn't cum. I avoid guys that are on any kind of male enhancement drug. I will never go through that again.  | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/7/2008 4:44:20 PM | then u better stick to younger men ^^^
cuz as we age.....it's a huge possibility we are gonna be dealing with it! | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/7/2008 4:46:31 PM | | Absolutely ridiculous! That's pretty lame of whoever he was. You seriously shouldn't worry about it. The guy is obviously shallow and worth not a moment more of your time or thought. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/7/2008 5:31:50 PM | | wow look how fast girls turn on guys here lol... im sure you know how to get off a guy im sure no guy has faked it or said ur the best ...lol its funny how its the guys fault the girl doesnt get off but yet they do very lil work, its mostly on the guy to start it and finish it 4 her...but when u throw most girls on top 2 ride they still find it hard 2 get there spot cuz most dont really know how to get them self off with a guy ...only with toys or other things...but anyways for him to dump u cuz u didnt cumm is lame it must be sumthing else or he didnt want to put in the sweaty and work to get ur body shaking and goose bumps all over he must be lazy ...next time fake it and see how it works out im sure ull end up dumping the guy cuz he can t get u off ...lol | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/13/2009 9:17:52 PM | yeah he was an idiot, i had a similar situation. the girl i was dating i had a hard time cumming too, she said one day "i don't care if you stand on top of your head and cum, just cum damit, or i'm going to have to move on"
i always cum if its a one night stand, but if its somebody i really like its alot more emotional, i guess its psychological. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/13/2009 9:20:10 PM | | Shit i fake it all the time just to get the girl to shut up, it goes both ways | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/15/2009 8:28:43 PM | I'm sorry but 1st sex is always the worst. This is why I like to date for a bit before I go there. That way when the awkward stuff goes down, we'll still be around and see each other the next time; and have a better shot at good sex afterwards.
But to dump a girl because she cant cum? This is just silly. I'm sorry. I've heard of guys being upset cause they couldn't make a girl squirt (not every woman does) but for not cumming on demand? Jesus, your not a pet. Your a person. Show a little respect for a woman, my God!
This guy is vain, shallow and insecure if he's dumping you over something really trivial. Maybe he's just making up and excuse. But if so, he really took a low blow and very cheap shot at you. Be glad he's GONE!!! | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/15/2009 8:53:20 PM |
Am I the only person that understands that both people getting their jollies off generally requires both people's minds to be comfortable and willing?
No you are not the only one.
Here's the thing: Everything we were taught about sex from our parents and porn and magazines did not explain this type of stuff to us. This is something we learn as we get older. Unfortunately sometimes too much time goes by before people learn this.
As I've said a million billion times, parents should be suggesting their kids watch good sex shows (like the old Sex with Sue show), she has a website too in order to help them with their developing sexuality. Don't watch it with them or discuss it with them, just make the suggestions and move on. Heck, give 'em a list of websites, no talking is required. While it may embarassing at the time, your child will appreciate it later in life. My biological dad had a very easy going (and I discovered to my shock and dismay one day, quite open) attitude about sex. Only later did I actually realize that this helped me.
The thing is most parents won't even acknowledge to their child that they know they are watching porn. The problem is, your kid is learning more about sex from that and their peers more than anywhere else.
And you people wonder why sh*t like this happens?!?! When learning from the wrong sources, we think normal people ALWAYS cum....and that something is wrong with you if you don't. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/15/2009 10:24:36 PM | | Guess what, it feels good for a man when a woman climaxes with him. It also shows a woman who is really in love with her man. Climaxing can be for a woman not just about physical stimulation, but also about love and seduction, i.e. a mentally romanced woman. A man can really know his woman is in love with him when she climaxes with him. I've had a girl tell me she wasn't climaxing with me and wanted to know if it was her or me. It didn't matter for me afterwards if it was her, I felt I had not be good lover and moved on.... but in a way, she had done it too me. She was being indirect, but I knew it was also meant I wasn't making her cum.... the next time we did it, she said she would try harder, but faking it, doesn't help either... | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/15/2009 10:52:04 PM | ^^^^ the truth about "that " woman was she knew that you were not in the present with her as a beautiful spirited vulnerable ... woman but that you were guaging her worth via your symbiotic climax.. which according to sex therapists happens but is bunk as a daily ritual... and if less than 17 percent of women get off on penile rubbing as an orgasm ... gl with your knowledge in double coconuts ... college...
Sorry fella but the mental romance of a woman means that the man is extremely attracted to the mind of the woman he is wooing.... you did mental romance .. YOU WERE NOT INTO HER ... HAD YOU BEEN IT WOULD TAKE A MILLION YEARS FOR YOU TO LOSE INTEREST.... when you are in lock down with the real deal ... every molecule of her being here with you... alive, in love, in care .. in bed ... snoring ... sex.. sleeping, awake.. it all matters... because life without her is meaningless.. that is how a real man feels about his woman.. it is not about her vagina.. it is about her seeing inside him how precious she is to him... that is a two way street .. an erect pecker is a no brainer....
as for the op's situation with an insensitive uncaring d-ick- head... Women need alot more than a man to be totally engaged full throttle in the moment .. any gal that is fully engaged in the act in their first sexual experience with a new partner is either faking it with good acting skills or is seriously emotionally invested in complete adoration, admiration with a man deeply in love with her.. with unspoken trust and is with the most amazing man she ever met who has already won her spirit, sex-mind and body.... this only happens with honor and extreme decency and vulnerability .. you were obviously engaging in sex with an energy of an erect penis and a no brainer idiot when it comes to winning the love of a worthy beautiful woman. Never invest yourself in anyone that hasn't proven that they are invested inside... if you don't see that in them do not allow loss to your precious and sacred inner heart .. you have the right to be embraced by something greater than flesh or it is not worth it... if he is not more than flesh he is not a man..
It is okay he is not a man ..... we can tell by how you express yourself that you were wounded but you are a real woman .. and it is good to know that you are as deep a woman as you should be to yourself and unafraid to remain true to you.... | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/15/2009 11:05:29 PM | | You'd be suprised, howbig. You've obviously not slept with many women. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/15/2009 11:07:05 PM | ^^^ after that response .. you may have slept with females .. but I doubt you have ever met a real woman.... or slept with one either .. maturity, intelligence and depth is not for sale or it would outsell collagen and breast augumentation and the dumbing down of the female human like the crap .. we have taken in our society for way tooo long .. hollyrock and the media sells it like misery and inadequacy.. shovelled in spades.. woman scramble to upkeep their outsides ( not all) just some .. for insensitive no good jerks like the d-ick head this gal met... hmm.
I doubt that anyone that narcissitic finds anything but trouble anyway... I doubt anyone that really knows what decency, bonding and real love beyond a sex rag magazine or a good porno... thinks late in life that their sixty- seven year old partner needs the shove because they didn't sing the national anthem while they did gyrations doggy style... f'ck most people on here don't get it .. and sadly never will and last time I looked .. life only deals yah existence once... | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 3:10:41 AM | WOw...Thats ****ed up hun...Im sorry to hear that! Its HIS fault you didnt cum...I make sure to make EVERY girl I ever slept with cum at LEAST once or twice on our first time...I personally, dont like to cum..Cuz then the funs over for the next 10 minutes...lol But making my partner cum, is not only easy(Its not hard if a man ACTUALLY puts some effort in it), but its what gets me off...
Truth is, he didnt dump you cuz you didnt cum...Sounds like he simply was trying to hit it, then quit it...Be happy anyway, the right guy will make you cum over and over again..Yes, even on ya'lls FIRST time...
But wow..it trips me out to find out how many guys are like that....I just dont understand it..Theres NOTHING better than the feeling of giving a woman MULTIPLE and gushing orgasms...both clitoral, and form the G-Spot...Or both at once..(My favorite!! lol)
Find a guy that takes his time, and DOES FOR YOU! We're out there hun! Quit ****ing with punks, and wanna be players! | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 6:53:33 AM | Don't worry about it. Everything happens for a reason and this guy is definitely not the type you want to be spending much time with AT ALL. Take it as a learning experience and move on to something better.
Good luck :) | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 7:27:23 AM | You're right, Howbig. You're the only real woman around. The rest of us flounder around trying to find the real things that you alone have experienced and fail miserably.
What is it like being so perfect and awesome? If only a few of us could even know what you're even talking about. Oh well. Back to meaningless sex with I-Can't-Believe-It's-Not-A-Woman as usual. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 8:10:33 AM | OMGosh... that is horrible. He was terrible to do that and you are lucky to be rid of him...
Incuubus, don't let HowBig get to you... she speaks in foreign languages sometimes. I think she spends so much time researching she's forgotten what it is to experience what most are. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 8:25:49 AM | | Hard to imagine. As a guy I am of the opinion that the first time should be a no holds barred event. Do and try everything you can think of to let your freak out so there are no surprises later on down the road. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 8:54:23 AM |
she speaks in foreign languages sometimes
Yeah, I couldn't even understand her post to support or knock it! | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 9:36:38 AM | ugh..Thats pretty rank of him, OP.. Perhaps you should have apologized for not faking it like his other gfs did to prop up his imaginary prowess in the bedroom..
This is why so many woman fake it because of so much pressure to emulate unrealistic depictions of sex in the media.. wherein the guy drives it home and within 10 seconds the gal is squeeling in waves of orgasms.. oh yeah that's certainly realistic!! LOL | |
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