| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 11:43:55 AM | that is how a real man feels about his woman.. it is not about her vagina.. it is about her seeing inside him how precious she is to him... that is a two way street .. an erect pecker is a no brainer....
that is why when a woman fakes it I hate it. Erect pecker is not a no brainer, it just shows physical stimulation. Men have boners in their sleep and can even be stimulated by woman in their sleep. Like I was saying finding a real woman and being a real man by having that mental romance is what matters more than just a vagina. A woman's orgasm is much more related to mental romance and thoughts than a man's is what I was saying.
This is a very intellectual subject as PhD students are still trying to explain a female orgasm. Seriously, some woman orgasm during rape, which is hard to explain why. PhD studies hypothesis the reasons. One theory is that woman have fantasies about letting a man dominate her (in the sense they control that situation by letting go). It's a mental thing, that orgasm during rape is not physical stimulation, but a mental thing. Hence why some woman have trouble with reporting rape since some climax during it and feel guilty or bad. That is why rape can have long lasting mental effects. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 12:30:58 PM | when you are in lock down with the real deal ... every molecule of her being here with you... alive, in love, in care .. in bed ... snoring ... sex.. sleeping, awake.. it all matters... because life without her is meaningless.. 
'howbigisyourlove' is not talking in double-Dutch and it is more than sad when people are dumped - by own honest admission - for not "delivering/receiving goods". Hmmm ... one would wonder where so often suggested "practice ~ practice ~ practice ... makes better" derives from? Sounds to me that people's expectactions and reactions in these modern days & times are even in human relations and relationships just like in IT department: " Press the key => problem resolved". But human mind doesn't work that way and that is what 'howbigisyourlove' is trying to tell and share with us. To "unlock" sacred ... takes time and tuning into each other and it is not a cliche when saying "Seduce my mind ... " | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 12:59:54 PM | Sorry to ring in so late here---but it seems to me being dumped for just the stated reason seems shallow, on both levels. I have to agree with "howbig" and "buzz" on one primary point---engaging the mind is the ultimate avenue for successful intimacy. We have been trapped in to believing the performances we see in porn, and the myths we read in magazines is what intimacy is. It is never the time it takes, it is always the time you take, that insures intimacy. My male brothers, let me assure you of this one thing...seduce her mind, and all else will follow. Fully engage her, and you will not be dumped. Didn't cum? So what? Did she? Was it all about you, or her, individually? If so, you were doomed to failure. Normally, I try to lighten things up here, and to be honest, this thread screams for hilarity...didn't cum for instance...damn that is funny. Boyos, engage their minds, stimulate their senses, make nothing else matter but the intimacy you share, and didn't cum isn't even in the vocabulary. That is all from Florida. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 6:11:35 PM | Id like to know what a guy perfers a women to do,Have them work at it,have some real fun,get the it hot,build it up,pull the toys out,and have her come multiple times,ot someone they can just touch and they come right away...How boring | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 7:30:21 PM | That'd be a blessing in disguise- is what I'd be thinking.
Good God, LOL- are you kidding me right now?!!
Humiliated by what? He should learn to use his tools alot better and be a man instead of a boy.
At least Thank him for dumping you. Tell him that he actually did you a very big favor.
Too much, too little, TOO LATE!
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/17/2009 12:34:23 AM | Thanks Incuubus again .... for your disdain and clinical analysis , seems to be a guy thing that they all think that they know someone they don't know.. hah .. now I must again remind you of something that transpired many moons ago between us.. regarding forum posts. I told you that if you don't like what I write here don't read it .. go bully someone less ink-whipped.. k. Maybe you have ah .. ah ... short term memory issues with a long term problem!
I never really believed Dr. Phil's comment that there are only two kinds of people in the world, those that "get it" and those that " don't" .. however after reading thousands of forums and responses .. I am a believer.
If you don't understand what I am talking about .. and never aspire to attain clarification and then give it a go to belittle me and you do this in your real life with real woman ... you have already acted out who you are. If knowledge is failure and misery ... I'll take a round trip on that ship before I flounder around ... any day.
Instead of constantly using only your knowledge basis for your interpretations on females why not read on the minds of the sexual beings that you pursue and find out what is truly important to the psyche of a female.. kindah turn the tide on what woman have been scrambling their eggs for centuries doing... | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/17/2009 12:41:37 AM |
It is okay he is not a man ..... we can tell by how you express yourself that you were wounded but you are a real woman .. and it is good to know that you are as deep a woman as you should be to yourself and unafraid to remain true to you....
I think we have a winner for this year's Valerie Solanas bitterness award. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/17/2009 4:35:38 AM | Be glad that he's gone.
He knows nothing about sex if he dumped you because you didn't orgasm.. takes time for two to get it right like......clockwork lol | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/17/2009 7:56:22 AM | This can happen to anyone. Thie 1st time with somebody new drunk or sober, you don't know anything about each other; What you like, don't like, and you just try and throw stuff out there. It's not the best sex. Your speaking different languages and aren't always on the same page. Hence, one of if not both (Yikes!) of you don't "get" there... (Ladies, It happens to men too!)
Unless... you have dated or seen each other once or twice and the tension steadily builds up until you just attack each other with animalistic passion.
But even then, sometimes that doesn't last more than once or twice. So the bottom line to having high quality sex is to know enough about each other to be comforatble in the moment with them and like them enough to let go and lose yourself. It's a total abandonment of your self conscious and just going where your mind and the other person takes you.
That can't really happen unless their is some kind of comfort and trust with the other person. Otherwise you are just limited to getting off or getting the other person off and you miss out on the true depth of the experience. I'll take quality over quanity every time.
Good passionate lovers are more than worth the wait. I can put some time in, if in order to have a shot at having some good quality sex with a person I genuinely like and mutually respect. There is noting more unfufilling and less satisfying that an unresponsive "dead fish" fvck! I'd rather watch a movie with an actress I'm into, or just take care of myself than be subjected to that. (Main reason I'm not in to drunk women, BTW) If the woman is Drunk!, she gets my bed, and I'll take... the couch! | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/17/2009 8:23:02 AM | what an idiot..is it any wonder some women think most men are selfish pigs?..sounds like a wam bam..'is that the time?.. bloke..that said..put it down to experience and his immaturity..one day when he grows up he will feel as small as his brain.. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/17/2009 2:31:02 PM | | I'm a guy and been dumped because I didn't cum. Those two women had multiple orgasms. Oh well, they were a little loose and too wet. Nobody's perfect. I wouldn't have dumped them, would have got used to it and I'm sure after they had more sex they would have become more toned down there. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 7/22/2009 8:36:19 AM | | Maybe I'm looking at this wrong but if I didn't finish and she did is it that big of an issue? I mean, I have never ever been with a lady and not pleased her. Its all about the bunny ears. But sometimes I just literally can't finish, its not that I'm not excited or not happy or whatever, it just doesn't happen. This is all very reminiscent of that 40 Days and 40 Nights movie lmao. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 7/22/2009 8:48:55 AM | Some men just make me laugh..I feel for some of you women,,O.P you are far better off without him
I think most of us men try to achieve our goal of giving our women the magic O..Some of us do not realize women can be fully satisfied without the O....
And to the ladies, just because a guy cums,does not mean we have had a O either.We can come, and often do without the almighty O.
But back to topic, I think so many women fake the O just so they don't here from the man, did you cum, did you cum,did you like it, did you like it..what a turn off for the women to hear that crap constantly from the man.....
I personally do not think men will change,so if I were a women ..and enjoying sex but know I was not going to cum.. I would fake It so I did not hear all night long..Did you Cum,Did you cum, Did you Like it,Did you like It..... | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 7/22/2009 8:50:44 AM | | i've dumped girls cause they couldn't get me off. not sure about dumping someone because they don't... never had that problem. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 7/22/2009 9:14:26 AM | This mut be a joke post !!! Do you make a habit of seeing men who are so shallow? Do yourself a favour and make sleeping with a man a loving experience and not a sports event.
Dave x | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 7/22/2009 10:11:03 AM | | You're better off not getting off with him. Each person has their own path for pleasure. If he were smart, he would have taken time to find yours. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 8/5/2009 4:13:27 PM | Well, I wouldn't go that far! I hope the next one CARES enough to take his time with OP but doesn't treat her poorly if it doesn't happen. ;-) I'm sure that is what you meant! LOL | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 8/5/2009 5:02:07 PM | Wow, Im sorry to hear that hun. Thats a shyty reason to get dumped. And great googly moogly me finks sex is complicated, Im gonna be a nun (this should make mah friends get a good chuckle) . Bwahahahaha.
Off to the convent!!
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 8/5/2009 6:01:56 PM |
Can you believe this? After making love for the first time with a new partner I was told I was dumped as I didnt cum!!! I dont come very often but surely that's not a reason to be dumped? The first time with a new partner is never the best and as you get to know each other you know what works for each other and it gets better and better. He made me feel humiliated and like it was my fault. Have any other women come across this? If so have we all been out with the same guy? lol
He might have been a little more patient, but he did the right thing if that is what he needs. Much better now than a year from now. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 8/5/2009 10:53:28 PM | Might have also been that he got exactly what he wanted and was ready to move on to his next conquest; the lack of an orgasm just made a good excuse. If you could check his history, I bet you would find a long line of one night stands.
Don't fret it or let it upset you. His moving on was a good thing for you. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 8/5/2009 11:03:28 PM | | Maybe he got what he wanted and that was the best excuse he could think of. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 8/5/2009 11:16:45 PM | | Odds are that he thinks a bit "better" than he really is. LOL Truth is that I agree with most here. He got what he wanted, didn't give a hoot about your orgasm or lack thereof and needed an excuse to move on. He probably does have a very long list of single night meaningless sex partners. Consider yourself lucky. Not worth your time. Remember that most people will attack you before owning their own shortcoming(s). You deserve better. Take care. | |
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| Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 8/5/2009 11:36:34 PM | | Your partner was an idiot or...yeh a complete idiot if that was the real reason as he believed, don't waste your time and emotion worrying about someone that would dump you for that. If you are looking for closure on the matter, view it as his gross inability to effectively pleasure a woman...again, not your problem, and not worth your time fretting about it, there are plenty of real men out there, happy fishing. | |
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