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Posted: 11/3/2008 9:24:01 PM | | No, I don't get nasty IM's from people because of my posts. What weirdo's would bother to waste your time with miscellaneous opinions as if you give two craps about what their thoughts are of you. Quite obviously those people need to turn off the computer and phone someone who does care (maybe Dr. Laura?) | |
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Posted: 11/3/2008 11:05:43 PM | | I sometimes wonder if anyone even reads my posts. I notice people talk back and forth with each other in posts, but I never really have any sort of responses in messages or posts. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2008 11:25:19 PM | I am with Oregondaisy - i have not received any comments from a post - guess I will have to try harder - just kidding
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Posted: 11/3/2008 11:40:41 PM | I've had a couple of emails responding to something I've posted, but they weren't negative. Then there's the IMs from guys who've read things I've posted and thought I'd do the cyber thing with them. Been called a b*tch by a couple of them when I told them that I would not carry on that type of conversation with a total stranger. Little did they know, they were complimenting me.  | |
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Posted: 11/3/2008 11:55:26 PM | Re the Opost
"...Men....do you truly believe a woman is a "promiscuous slut" because she is willing to be honest and straightforward in the discussions here?..."
Nope, on the contrary, a woman who openly yet responsibly discusses sex and sexuality issues in the semi-public way it is done here in the forums (ie anonymously) shows to me that she has no hang ups re sex and sexuality and that is very good, IMO. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 1:49:41 AM | I;ve had a few comments too... Seems some of us are too honest... Hey, S%$T Happens!  | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 3:28:56 AM | | I've received emails from people that have read my posts.. a few that were soliciting due to some of my responses on the more risque threads.. but for the mostpart they've been decent emails that opened the door to further discussion. I find the forums great fun for entertainment, and educational value.. but also as an additional tool to weed out people I wouldn't want to meet. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 3:39:29 AM |
Men....do you truly believe a woman is a "promiscuous slut" because she is willing to be honest and straightforward in the discussions here?
This place is fairly tame compared to a few other forums I've seen over the years. I'm not surprised that women get messages on all sides of everything at all. People who come up with the "slut" idea are probably to closed minded to participate in here anyway.
No one has ever sent me any messages in regard to specific posts in the forums at all. I guess I'm not slutty enough... | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 3:43:58 AM | I have not received any "hate mail" or negative emails because of my forum posts. On the contrary. I have had many positive emails from people, both men & women, saying they enjoy reading my posts.
But yes, I have also received several emails from men thinking because I openly talk about sexual issues that I am open to casual sex. I don't think it is intentionally malicious on their part, I just some men misconstrue the concept.
I just think some men have not realized yet that many of us women are no longer submissive and timid about our views or ability to express them. We have the same freedom of expression as they do and we dare to speak our mind.
I easily talk openly about sex & sexual issues because I am comfortable with myself and am confident who I am. If this is perceived as "promiscuous" so be it.
** Any man who tried to bonk me on the head with his club and drag me off by the hair would soon find out there is a BIG difference between sexual expression and being easy!!
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Posted: 11/4/2008 3:50:50 AM | | Leeanne and that LL lady, I resent those remarks, or is that I resemble, not sure leave that to you boss | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 5:01:21 AM | I've had a few ahem offers over the years based on my forum posts. But one is often just assuming.
It's always lovely to receive a crass message from some guy who thinks a woman appreciates a first contact message like that.
My thought is "would you like someone doing that to a woman in your life that you cared about?" or better yet "that could be YOUR daughter in 10 years". Makes me wonder how these men are bringing their children up..... | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 5:22:00 AM | The only messages I've received regarding my forum posts have been positive or helpful.
Although I am often very interested and sometimes amused by very personal and explicit postings by some, I choose to be more discreet and non specific in my postings. I think that could be why I don't get messages from men looking for sex. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 5:30:18 AM | I have been bashed, but its usually within a forum post. Only one person felt the need to contact me through email on this system to tell me "her" side of the story (which only gave me more reason to hold firm on my original opinion). I have met some women in person from here, and some I would love to meet. I have been contacted more for positive than negative I would say.
There are a few kindred spirits in here... Laughinglibra is one. Smart, sexy and funny... if we lived closer would love to hang out!! I know for sure we are on the same page most of the time and judgement would be left at the door.
As for men contacting me for sex... please do!!!! Thats what I am here for. A friends with benefits but it has to start somewhere. I have gotten a number of emails from men who "aren't into big women but you have changed my mind on wanting to try". Those men can go find someone else to experiment with. I have enough self confidence not to be flattered by this "bone".
I like seeing other people's opinions regardless if they mirror my own or not. Sometimes it makes me shake my head at the level of sheer ignorance, but thats reflective of life in general. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 5:41:43 AM | well I thank all you people for having opinions and being willing to share them with the rest of us ...To everyone ...we may not agree but ...your view is important to me ... it exercises my brain ...and many times these forums have actually changed my outlook ...
I try to email many of you when you say something profound or even just funny even if I don't agree with it ...that's what debate is about for me ....how boring would it be to only talk to people that had your exact point of view ... however most of the times there is some restriction you feel you need that keeps me from emailing you ...and I have accepted that most of you feel you need them .
just one question ...why do people that are here just for the forums like me ...have so many email restrictions
to the op ...i was going to email you ..with my support but ...i could not because I have emailed others that were looking for intimate encounters ... not that that proves im looking for sex ....hell I'm not even looking for anything here except conversation
I have even tried to email you Blondcharm and damn it im a tad too old ...forum junkies should consider their restrictions carefully ...if they are open for one on one debate /conversation ...many of the people who have emailed me first ...I could not email them first ..because of their restrictions | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 6:04:20 AM | Something I've noticed in these 2 pages....the folks I consider to be as open and honest as myself....are the ones posting.
The ones I received "negative" messages from.....haven't!!
I think ya'll are great....and I really enjoy posting and getting to know each and everyone of ya!
.........now I feel bad that Deerdog couldn't email me.....cuz I absolutely love your posts dear.....but could u imagine what I would be recieving if I changed that. Call me lazy....but I just don't want to go thru the trouble of dealing with some of these men wanting nothing more than a hookup...(I know that wouldn't be u, Deerdog!).... | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 6:36:34 AM | I love getting messages from ppl who have read my posts and have an opinion about what I write! 
Doesn't much matter if it's negative or positive, soliciting sex, or not. I get a kick out of it. LOL
BUT generally my emails re: my forum posts are positive, friendly, and not soliciting sex. I've gotten a few neg ones...usually saying "Kaylie I think you are just a big fat know-it-all". LOL Oh and if someone were messaging me just for a hook up, FYI...I'd say NO NO NO...I am not here for that. Like I told a, um, certain POFer I had a "meet" with...if that's what I wanted I can get it 2 blocks from here w/the guy I've been "Seeing" who, darn his arse, won't commit.
Anyway, positive or negative, sex or not, it all makes the day a mite bit more colorful.
I think sometimes ppl who don't post on forums are a bit shy about expressing themselves that publicly adn if they feel better emailing one of us, that's fine w/me.
Oh, and I have IM turned off...that keeps a lot of the weirdos away too. Very helpful. I had it open for about 2 weeks and, predictively, hated it.
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Posted: 11/4/2008 6:43:04 AM | .....now I feel bad that Deerdog couldn't email me.....cuz I absolutely love your posts dear.....but could u imagine what I would be recieving if I changed that. Call me lazy....but I just don't want to go thru the trouble of dealing with some of these men wanting nothing more than a hookup...(I know that wouldn't be u, Deerdog!)....
dont feel bad ..I said i understand your need for these restrictions ...I'm just not sure they filter the ones who you need to filter ...me thinks the ones who are truly just looking for sex probably have worked around it by creating a new profile ... i wont do that because I would consider it dishonest ... and I would probably just end up back in the same boat ...as i tend to overlook what people are looking for ...if they say something that provokes me to email them
Its just frustrating to type out a long well thought out email.. on a topic to someone ..then hit the send button and it was for naught because of some restriction ...that really has nothing to do with you or why you are trying to contact that person
I have an idea they should have a restriction that says the person must have been on POF a certain length of time ...me thinks the guys looking for sex must get bored and move on pretty fast ...or most of them...
If I were going to stalk anyone online or off it would be Kaylie ...I am in LOVE with that girls outlook ....Kaylie buddy... I guess I an stalking you online ..I find my self looking for your post ..they always brighten my day ...Your cute too !!! | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 6:56:19 AM | Heck, I've gotten emails and IMS from both genders--some are very positive, mixed in with a few negative ones, but if folks are simply expressing an opinion I don't much mind because we all have them.
Now, on the boards---I've been roasted a time or two, and again--being the thick skinned gal I am, I just let it roll off my back. Being sexually expressive doesn't make a man nor a woman easy, but I'm sure there are some people who think otherwise. I'm just content in knowing I can agree to disagree and move on my merry way.
Sex isn't a dirty word----but sometimes I think it's the dirty mind's of some folks that can make it so. I'm not going to stop writing about things that interest me---because human sexuality has always fascinated me. Yep, I guess that makes me a pervette.
Ha ha ha!!!
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Posted: 11/4/2008 7:01:59 AM | | yes I have received some messages regarding what i've posted it here. I didn't know at first that they would show up on my profile so everyone could see it, but oh well , i'm not shy . Just because someone posts something about the topic doesn't mean they are a bad person or have no morals etc | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 7:15:28 AM |
if they are open for one on one debate /conversation ...many of the people who have emailed me first ...I could not email them first ..because of their restrictions
I've not received any negative emails. All have been positive. At the same time, I have intended to email some posters and am stopped by their filter settings or stop myself when I see that they have their profile set to seeking intimate encounters.
I tend to voice my disagreement in the forums. I don't feel a need to take it private, especially when misinformation is presented. I may share positive thoughts via email and in the forums, when the filters allow it and they don't have "seeking intimate encounters".
Best,
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Posted: 11/4/2008 8:24:40 AM |
Men....do you truly believe a woman is a "promiscuous slut" because she is willing to be honest and straightforward in the discussions here?
A woman's posts on the forums can affect my opinion of her; but it's pointless for any guy to email a woman just to rant against her posts. What a waste of time. If a woman writes something I don't like, I just move on to the next post or thread. It's also good to keep in mind that a person may not always be at their best and their posts may reflect stress, distraction, or particular things they are going through at that time. It's best to take a single post with a grain of salt sometimes. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 8:27:27 AM | when the filters allow it and they don't have "seeking intimate encounters".
well Im just hard headed enough to take it this way ...and I know the people that have that restriction dont mean it that way but It is my attitude that I have to go to bed with tonight
In school it was if you talk to him/her you cant be my friend ...then when I was a young adult walking down town with a group of my friends past an alley there was this woman who had been beaten ...who was obviously a prostitute ..probably beaten by her pimp ...but none the less a bleeding human being ...with hundreds of people walking by ... I gave assistance covered her wounds ...and instructed someone to call 911 ..and held and comforted her till paramedics arrived... one of my friends asked me do you not know what she is ..I bluntly told him ..yea HURT... he walked off and we are no longer friends .
Not now but in my past there have been times where I have been in search of an intimate encounter ...so If you refuse to talk to me because I have talked to another human being.. so be it ...
i am not looking for anything here anymore so it almost never occurs to me to read what other people are looking for ...not that it makes a differance
if the people I talk to keeps me out of your club ... well you get my point
I will never email someone who has said something i disagree with ...or didnt like...I will however email someone to get more of their opinion or compliment their post | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 8:38:20 AM | I have not received negative feedback. I'm out of the loop! What the hell? Sniff. No one heckles me. Oh WOE is me! I'm not even important enough for someone to attack and berate. Um, sorry.
I have received PMs from men that think I'm looking for a hookup. I address that in my profile and I figure they're just drunk and lonely. Poor babes. Not interested.
Maybe now I'll get some fanmail. | |
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