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Posted: 7/8/2009 6:40:12 PM | MsMicki
I want to thank you for a now 7 page thread about the one and only thing that matters...
Truth.
It never gets tiring seeing my name written over and over by all my adoring fans!
Truth, You know, I've been running this show, four nights a week, for... five nights now-TruthinessInc | |
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Posted: 7/8/2009 6:46:22 PM | Ms Micki there is another breed on the forums, one who will trash the poster publicly for sharing what they consider private information, rather than sending a personal trash email.
I have been told I have no respect for my relationship for things I have been willing to discuss on the forums. I personally do not understand why anyone cares, especially in the sex forums. I have provided a degree of detail at times that has caused me to be a target of someone whose style is more private, and thinks I am betraying my man to discuss certain things.
The reality is there is nothing I have posted online that I would not be willing to share with my boyfriend. I would say he has read a majority of my thread posts, because I will send them to him. We both consider the forums a somewhat annonymous place to discuss various issues. He is faceless and nameless on the forums. I have a face, but I am not ashamed by any of my posts, and if someone read what I have to say, my attitude is, if they are here reading the sex and dating forums, they should not have an issue with my posts. If they do they are a bit the hypocrit. (Its ok to get off reading on other peoples experiences, but not sharing their own).
I would say the ratio between positive feedback and negative feedback for my participation is at least 10:1 with most being positive comments. I figure the only people whose opinions matter in regards to what I choose to share is my man and I.
I think he is the greatest, and have never said anything he would find offensive.
It is ok with me if other women are more private with their personal sexual experiences. this is a sex forum and we are here to discuss our sexual experiences.
I learn from what others share, and others seem to appreciate my comments. Some however have come right out and said they "have no respect for women like me."
That is ok though, because I am not here to impress anyone, and will not lose sleep over their lack of respect. I wish they would just keep their opinions to themselves.
The forums are not to be a place to trash anyone personally, and some of these people make their attacks public.
I have been around here long enough to recognize the names, and for some the faces, and have grown to respect some of the fellow regulars and never would condemn anyone for sharing too much information (as long as the identities are not disclosed,
i.e. a photo of the person on your profile and handing out their name).
What man would care if his women publicly stated he (her significant other) is a great lover and this is why. Apparently some do. Can't please them all, so I am not going to try.
Ms. Micki, I happen to think you are great! | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 9:42:32 AM | Alhough I must say, I don't post much in the SEX forums at all, I do post in the forums regularly, so I have experienced some
of the things you mentioned in your OP, MsMicki.
I have recieved PM's from men that think I am looking for a hookup.....
I have recieved PM's from men stating they would never go out with a woman "such as myself"
I have recieved PM's from women that love what I have to say
and I have recieved PM's from women telling me I am nothing but trash. - MsMicki
#1) Yes, mostly guys who like my pics & are too lazy to read the profile first. I hate that row of pics at the top of the page,
they cause most of this!
#2) Yes, usually men who are angry that I am still here, even though I am "not single/not looking". Insecurity is SO unattractive!
#3) Yes, I have made a number of cool chat buddys here that way (most, but not all women, however).
#4) I have had one of those, some nut from Alberta who was offended by my not wearing a bra!
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Posted: 7/9/2009 9:53:03 AM | " I have had one of those, some nut from Alberta who was offended by my not wearing a bra!"
A nut in Alberta!! you must have the wrong province...there's no WAY Alberta has any odd balls...wait...
...you look familiar...
Truth, her cup size is a 44...long-TruthinessInc | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:07:46 AM | MsMicki,
I'm outspoken; perhaps more than I should be sometimes. And, yes, I get PM's from both men and women from time to time - sometimes in support; sometimes to try and keep a (friendly) argument going; sometimes to wordlessly glare at me without the benefit of an actual message. It doesn't bother me. Sometimes this gives both parties a better opportunity to clarify misunderstood posts and/or to extend their point of view. What bothers me is those who claim they are writing in support of what was said in the thread, but were too cowardly to express that in the thread itself. But, as always, it's human nature, and we all have our quirks. Not a big deal. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 11:53:08 AM | It's unfortunate that people have gotten so bitter that on a forum where sexual content should be tatamount, it's so often quelled.
Hello!!?!! Sex and Dating Forum!!! Anyone?? Is this thing on?? (Beats microphone)
WTF is up with this artificial "police" that come on here and aggravate and provoke fights, to goat people into fighting words to get banned? What, you're out to "eliminate the competition"? I guess the less of us here, the more of those that are left will only communicate amongst each other? Sad, and downright pathetic.
Oh, well. I have no purpose in being here longer than I have to be. You see, I am not applying to be a POF lifer.
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Posted: 7/12/2009 9:03:37 AM | Anybody who is familiar with these forums knows I have a passion for SHARING one little known physiological response that MANY women can enjoy yet don't even know about. The most common response from these threads is bordering on hate mail and the rest seem to assume I'm some horn-dawg or that I'm bragging.
I have recieved PM's from men that think I am looking for a hookup.....
I have recieved PM's from men stating they would never go out with a woman "such as myself"
I have recieved PM's from women that love what I have to say
and I have recieved PM's from women telling me I am nothing but trash.
I've received many many many PMs from men and women who thank me for the info after discovering my G-Technique really does work for them.
I've received a few PMs saying I'm a perv and there's no way - even with tests - they'd get close to me. HA! Sometimes I WISH!!! I've had TWO lovers (each briefly) in the 8 YEARS since Sue died. Both were long distance and died because of that. Hide your daughters. I'm LOOSE.
I get PMs from good honest people who are too shy to post on the open forums but have seen my posts and know I will answer them with as much info as I have and WITH RESPECT. I have had PM discussions with people who NOTHING about the G-thing and people who know more than I do. That's what these forums allow.
I've been BANNED for days at a time too for dissing some moron who is calling me and all the women who say their GSpot works, LIARS. I get incredibly frustrated when idiots who openly state they have NEVER experienced anything like multiple-massive G-Gasms or female ejaculation(s) will post complete nonsense based on their ignorance and / or an appalling lack of actual research.
Overall I could care less what the morons think of me but stating that ejaculate is urine makes me want to carve the truth in their foreheads!! Women are getting beaten up and divorced everyday because of this ignorant misconception of what can be a beautiful act of fulfillment to your lovemaking!
I don't really care what ANYBODY thinks of me based on my posts but it's sad - I guess for BOTH of us - that some women would steer clear of me based on posts that clearly are trying to share info and educate. Of course if they make assumptions that are THAT far off what I'm actually doing here then it's likely a good thing we never meet. I don't get along well with closed-minded people who convict with little or no facts - just assumptions and guesses probably based on their own sorry lives.
Oh and BTW ....
http://forum.literotica.com:81/showthread.php?t=70892
(can't help myself) | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 9:30:46 AM |
I have absolutely zero respect for women that toss out the intimate details of their relationship and significant other on the forums primarily because this behaviour shows zero respect for their relationship. They take something that is suppose to be intimate and beautiful and put it out there for all the world to read/hear making it more of a side show than an expression of love.
This is an example of the hostility I have generated on the forums. This quote was posted immediately after a post I made on a thread about who was worse, men or women, in terms of jumping on somone's back for saying something on the forums, vs. being supportive of what is being said.
I have nothing but the highest regard for the man in my life. I would never make a comment that negatively reflects on him in any way. We both consider my participation in the forums to be relatively annonymous. Sure millions of people may take part in these forums, and thousands may read what I write, however, people I know socially are not likely to run across my writings. My love is nameless and faceless. At this stage in our relationship his friends and family have not met me so would never associate seeing my face with him in any way, which protects him from any embarrassment. If people who know me see what I have written so be it. I am not embarrassed in any way. I have a take the log out of your own eye before removing the splinter from mine, mentality.
My relationship is intimate and beautiful, and this individuals disrespect for me for being willing to share my life experience could be kept to herself. If I am ok with it , and my love is ok with it, why the heck should she care. For her to imply I have zero respect for my man is ridiculous. It just means we are of different opinions. She is putting judgment on my behavior saying I show no respect. I do show respect. My love does not see what I do as disrespect. Her opinions do not amount to a hill of beans.
I do not feel that sharing on the forums makes my life a side show. If indeed it does what does this say for the ones who read what we have written. They are far worse for getting some perverse pleasure out of reading other peoples stories.
Just read a thread yesterday where a very regular poster that hangs out in the sex threads, and discusses her sexual activites w/ her boyfriend.....stated she was a Reverend!!
Wonder if the reverend gets any flack? And me too! I would go to that church.
I always couch my comments about my behavior with my man in statements that this for me is only possible because of the caring realtionship we share. I don't sleep around. I don't do casual sex. Its fine for others but not for me.
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Posted: 7/12/2009 9:45:12 AM | You mean... religious people have sex!?! Say it aint so.
I'm joking (religious peeps take it easy)... it's just funny how some people can be so prudish when it comes to sex. As if their afraid that people may think they've fornicated once in their lives!
Maybe that's the problem.. they don't fornicate often enough. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 10:29:58 AM | | Call it "promiscuous slut" if you will--I prefer to call it "sexually open and confident". | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 1:28:44 PM | Well, I already know you don't care for me much Ms.Micki but I happen to think your posts are honest and to the point. I also agree with a lot of what you say and some of it I don't. And it's okay if you don't care for me...doesn't bother me one bit.
Once in a while someone will type something in such a way that it offends you. I am learning to really look at that as an opportunity to grow and try to see if there is any truth in it, even if it hurts to see that. You're the type of poster who challenges me to do that kind of growing and it offers food for thought.
But I think all in all, you're a lot like me...if provoked, you bite! And I respect that in a person. I respect direct and honest people more so than I do people who pretend they aren't angry and seethe beneath their teeth or act as if they are the "better man/woman" for not allowing themselves to react authentically. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 2:51:44 PM | Everyones got their point to be made....some for some reason never get any point made and just wanna ramble....lol....get-it?!?!?! | |
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Posted: 7/13/2009 4:18:05 AM | Frederick......if you weren't across that big pond.......I'd be giving that "promiscuous slut" thing a shot!
Miss C.......for you to say I don't care for you......is an assumption on your part.
I have many people in my life I deeply care for.......and disagree with constantly!
But I don't know you....so therefore.......caring or not caring for you doesn't even come into the equation. I treat you no differently than I do anyone else that I think is giving misleading or bad advice. I also hold no grudge against anyone that takes me to task on a point I might make. (well, unless they resort to insults and bashes because they can't have an intelligent discussion on what they disagree with me about)
I also have no issue admitting when I'm wrong....and have done so in these very forums.
Widowsdesire.......I think it's awesome you found you a keeper......and we have got to go thru all the little "milestones" in your relationship with you. It's been uplifting and encouraging to the alot of us that hope to one day find what you have found.
From your dating experiences, to narrowing it down to "the one", to your nervousness about the first time, worrying about certain sexual issues, and rediscovering your sexual prowess........it has been a great ride for all of us!
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Posted: 7/13/2009 4:55:52 AM | Who said I "cared what they think"?
It's quite obvious by my posting history I don't!
I clearly stated in the OP I wasn't looking for pity.....nor am I looking for validation.....
It was started as a discussion as to what others experiences have been and what they think about this type of mentality. And to quite possibly enlighten a few folks that are quick to judge. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2009 8:31:24 PM | Widowsdesire.......I think it's awesome you found you a keeper......and we have got to go thru all the little "milestones" in your relationship with you. It's been uplifting and encouraging to the alot of us that hope to one day find what you have found.From your dating experiences, to narrowing it down to "the one", to your nervousness about the first time, worrying about certain sexual issues, and rediscovering your sexual prowess........it has been a great ride for all of us!
Thanks MsMicki. I am glad you have appreciated what I have shared.
I think talking openly about my relationship has been an encouragement to both men and women alike. I get ladies writing and asking me privately for advise. I get men writing and telling me things like "If more women thought the way you think there would be a lot fewer divorces." A majority of my personal messages are supportive of what I share.
As for the post above who stated "why do you care what they think," I don't think most of us do care what those critical of us personally do think. I don't think most of us need validation from others for our life choices. When I chose to participate in the forum threads, I realize I make myself target of others who will not agree with me.
It is one thing to disagree with a behavior though, and another to trash a person individually. I can tolerate someone having a different opinion, but no one has the right to judge me for my personal choices. I think those who make personal attacks in an environment like this one have far more character flaws than I do. Those individuals I find to be hypocritical, and bigots with little acceptance of anyone who thinks differently than they do.
Obviously I have not changed what I am doing, so those who have chosen to attack me personally have not forced me to stop. The bottom line is we are supposed to comment on the thread at hand and not make personal attacks. I find when I am attacked personally , at this point after directing someone back to the topic at hand it is best to tell a moderator that an individual is posting off topic.
It is one thing to make a statement like, "I do not engage in oral sex outside of a committed relationship" and another to say "Susy Smith is a whore for blowing guys she picks up on Friday night in the bar." If a persons sensibilities are so offended by the things they read on the sex forums perhaps they should not be reading the sex forums. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2009 8:18:45 PM | | It has gotten really bad when discussing anything that involves physical sensation or movement gets deleted because the thread nazis gets on their high horses. Enough has got to be enough of the ridiculous notion of censorship in a sex forum. | |
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