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| How many times have you been in love?
Posted: 6/18/2005 7:18:20 PM | I have said "I love you" in 4 relationships in my life and I did think I was in love with them at the time but on reflection I can honestly say the real thing has only happened once....and although it didn't last forever it was wonderful while it lasted.  Can't wait to experience the real deal again. | |
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| How many times have you been in love?
Posted: 6/18/2005 7:48:24 PM |
Can I ask something: Isn't part of the definition of "love" as being never ending? If that's the case, can you really be "in love" (I'm assuming we're speaking in a romantic sense) more than once?If it failed, was it really love? I say no.
I looked up the definitions of love....and nowhere did it say it was forever. Basically it is an intense emotional attachment but all kinds of factors can affect it.
That's like saying there is only one soulmate for each of us and I don't believe that. Look at the average here.....most have had at least two loves. | |
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cazar
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Joined: 4/28/2005
Msg: 31 | |
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| How many times have you been in love?
Posted: 6/18/2005 8:16:33 PM | I dunno. mabey once or twice.. but I do know that i'm deeply in love with someone now. Just waiting for the great divide of borders to be crossed and us in arms with each other.
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Missy
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Joined: 1/29/2005
Msg: 34 | |
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| How many times have you been in love?
Posted: 6/18/2005 8:20:35 PM | I have been in love twice, lust well that is another answer to a different question. Wonder what the oldest one can fall in love? | |
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| How many times have you been in love?
Posted: 6/18/2005 8:31:33 PM | okay I think the question shld be how many time did you think you were in love....If you had experienced true love wouldn't you still be with that person? dunno just asking..
thought I was once, apparently I was wrong....and now ....hopefully I will get it right so I know what true love really is... | |
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| How many times have you been in love?
Posted: 6/18/2005 11:25:16 PM | | Gotta say I thought I was in love a number of times until I really got honest with myself. Only once, and I still love her. No, we aren't together because I don't think she was ready to open up to love. We met and dated a couple of times in my early twenties but it never went anywhere and I spent the next eight years with the thought of her influencing decisions in my life until I finally let go. Several years after my divorce from my wife( I tried to love her to the best of my ability but never really opened up to her completely) I ran across the obsession of my youth. That was now 15 years later. She was recently apart from her first marriage also but wanted to date me. For 8 months we had a long distance relationship that F-cked my head so badly I had to leave it. She would be everything I could possibly dream of and then shut me out with no notice or warning. I couldn't take the emotional disconnect, I felt like our connection was cut with a sharp knife and it hurt horribly. Every moment I spent with her was a joy deep inside me, her eyes sparkled with excitement each time we saw each other or held each others hands. Everything was amazing except the shut down. I still think about her and it seems no one is ever enough to replace her and it hurts when I think about it. But, at least I got to experience something that I never really believed was true or could happen to me. Maybe someday I'll get a second chance at that experience, maybe not, I'm not holding my breath. | |
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bean01
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Joined: 4/20/2005
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| How many times have you been in love?
Posted: 6/19/2005 4:21:57 AM | | It is sad to say isn't it? I was married for 10 years to a decent guy, but was never in that magical, swoony, knees weak kinda love with him. I have been in love once. I knew him for awhile as a friend, we were together four months and then he had to go back to Alabama (he was working in my hometown). About a year later, he contacted me and we did the long distance thing, which worked well for both of us. Neither of us could move close to the other, and in the end that is the only thing that stopped us. Now I could move anywhere I like, but nothing is pulling me in his direction now. I have a new "interest" that I hope doesn't have the same ending, but if it does, the journey would still be worth the heartbreak. | |
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| How many times have you been in love?
Posted: 6/19/2005 4:32:24 AM |
I don't think anyone can truly answer this question unless they have found their true love
so you buy into the theory that we all have one true love. See I don't. I think you can have more than one love. At the time, you think that it is the ONLY love you will ever have but as the saying goes....Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.
As much as you can fall in love...you can also fall out of love. | |
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| How many times have you been in love?
Posted: 6/19/2005 11:34:56 AM | Diamondude:....I have some advice for you because the "one that got away"..or that you "disconnected with", possessed qualities that were obviously appealing to you and you think that you will never ever find anyone like her again. You must therefore decide what she had that kept you spellbound. She is not unique...but her personality and qualities were "to you". You need to break the relationship down into segments...how she made you feel...what she did to make you feel that way, how she listened intently to your every word, how she gave you advice, was it the way she tossed her hair...etc...etc., you get my meaning. Every human being has emotions that another person can connect to and expand upon. You need to really give some thought to your emotions and how she affected them. This whole process is actually building a checklist ...When you have your checklist in place...you will find your true love once again...only...be prepared...it will be even more compelling!!! Bestof luck...you can do it!
As for being in love...dunno...haven't gotten to the end of my checklist yet..lol! | |
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| How many times have you been in love?
Posted: 6/19/2005 12:33:31 PM | @siamese
Thanks for your advice, and I appreciate your input. I have done exactly that in most of the relationships I've been in, both long term and short term. It was never very hard to seperate the "wheat from the chaff" but in this case I can't seem to find any "chaff" other than the one obvious problem. Everything about her, from the size of her feet, to the way she answered the phone, her natural smell and her favorite perfume, the sound of her voice, her positive attitude, I called her "sparky", she told me that her grandfather did too when she was little. I thought her family was terrific and I think they really liked me too. Her boys we're good kids and we got along great. I even liked her cat and I hate cats.(I'm allergic to them too) I notice womens profiles that sort of look like her or that have hobbies or attitudes that are like hers. I know I sound obsessed but I've been that way towards this one woman since I was 26 years old. It gradually faded after she had been married the first time for a number of years but was reignited when we met by chance 3 years ago. It's been several years but it doesn't go away. The feeling that is in me towards her is like a wide open wind tunnel to let my spirit pour through and I have never experienced that with anyone else. I don't know if there is anyway to close it or redirect it to someone else or develope another one at the same time but I know it's still there. Got any more specific advice? Something you see I need to look at? | |
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RitzNB
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Joined: 3/16/2005
Msg: 49 | |
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| How many times have you been in love?
Posted: 6/19/2005 2:14:08 PM | Well Squirrly, I was going to say only once (and that was not with my ex) but now that i've see your picture, I have to say twice 
6 times is the average eh ! hmmm, right off hand, I can only come up with 2 and maybe 2 more if the situation would have been different (moved a lot) | |
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