| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 11/28/2008 8:14:46 AM | | My time is valuable. Sometimes I just don't have enough hours in the day. So I want to talk on the phone first and try to establish if there is any chemistry at all before we meet. | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 11/28/2008 4:55:50 PM | | u can get a good vibe when u talk to someone over the phone that u can"t get by email .and beside your on a date and both people want to just go butt know one want to hurt the other feeling | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 11/28/2008 5:09:37 PM | It's an artform I think. It's like you have decide how long to talk to someone versus establishing a genuine interest versus meeting before you get too invested without proof.
To me it's FUN.
But it's definitely an artform. | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 11/28/2008 5:13:44 PM | | I narrow it down by those whose profiles or email content interests me. Then, I'm open to meeting after an email or two. At that point, I only expect to meet someone I'll probably like . . . I try not to make an assessment about compatibility and attraction until I've actually met the person. Emails and profiles are OK screening tools but you could miss out on so much if you hastily judge. For me, the phone is difficult - I don't relish the pressure of having a get to know you conversation with someone when I can't see his body language. I'd prefer to just meet in person and forego the phone - not that the phone conversations are bad -- I just had a very enjoyable one tonight! So that's my complicated formula. | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 1/22/2009 11:33:17 AM | I've met lots of people from this site in person over the past couple years. I meet with no obligations expected and toss that on the table from the start. I don't meet for what is considered a date. I meet for what is considered to be a meeting. Something short and not obligating a lot of time first meet.
My advice to anyone meeting for the first time. Shut your ringer off or atleast to vibrate during the meeting. If the call or text is not an emergency save it for later.
I met this one gal one time an we went to a restaurant and had coffee and pie. I think she must have gotten 10 texts and responded to 6. An got 5 calls and answered 3. She would be in the middle of telling me somthing and the phone would ring or chime and distract her or me in mid sentence. I think I heard the start of a story about 4 times and she spaced it off the 5th time.
I had to be back in her town two days later work related. I didn't bother calling her or letting her know I was going to be there. I've been though that town a dozen times since too. Even buy groceries over there once in a while.
I don't mind meeting a bunch of people. Would love to meet someone thats special in person. Special to me, not everyone else. | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 1/22/2009 11:56:20 AM | I do go out 3x a week. I have been on some amazing dates that have turned out as friendships only. I have been on dates with those that describe what they wanted their wives to do but didn't. BORING.
I have been on a couple where the chemistry has been breathtaking.
Have not found the one yet but am having fun trying.
You may have to "Meet" 200 boys to meet the real man. | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 1/23/2009 8:47:11 AM | I'm looking to narrow the field.
Don't much like playing the field at all.
It's funny how different we all are.
Some want to exchange emails and phone numbers for weeks or months.
I like to exchange a few emails, talk on the phone a few times and then meet in person. The time between exchanging emails and actually meeting in person averages about 3 weeks.
I absolutely need the face to face to determine compatibility.
PLUS the last guy I went out with said he was 52, when I met him he was easily in his 60s and his picture was probably taken when he was in his 40s.
(There were other lies I uncovered upon meeting him in person, that I wouldn't have caught via email/phone conversations) | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 1/23/2009 9:07:45 AM | After a couple of emails and maybe a phone conversation (or two) you should have a pretty solid idea about whether this is someone you would spend time with (romance aside). On that basis alone and with NO expectation (however hopeful of more) you agree to meet face to face.
If you don't click (and face it... most won't) then you have at least met someone that you have a few things in common with and who you may want to introduce to someone else, or invite to a house party or a group night at the movies. (There is more to life than just the hunt for love and sex.)
If you insist on looking over every fish *solely* on the basis of whether they are qualified to be the love of your life... you will soon be burned out. Don't make it more complicated than it needs to be. | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 1/23/2009 9:11:15 AM | It depends on the guy - don't want to waste anyone's time if I'm not sincere in my interest. It' disrespectful. The last date I was on - too funny! Met a restraunt/bar that served peanuts...the kind of place were you toss the shells on the floor. Waited for about a 1/2 hr and thought he was a no show. Was getting ready to leave when this dude walks behind the stool where I was sitting and promptly slips on some shells and dumped his beer on the couple behind me in a booth! I asked if he was ok but the woman in the booth was very loudly telling him ah....that maybe his parents weren't married if you know what I mean?!??! Went home and 2 days later got an email stating that is was him and I wasn't his type?!!? Gave me a grin so best advice to the op - choose carefully!!!!  | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 1/25/2009 11:41:21 AM | | I would not personally be up to meeting a lot of people simply because that would be a waste of my time. I'm only going to meet someone I have a genuine interest in knowing, and there must be some physical attraction! | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 1/25/2009 3:17:16 PM |
Are you in favor of meeting lots of people, or do you prefer narrowing the field, and meeting only a few folks, who you think are better prospects?
I am in favor of meeting lots of people, but I am also narrowing the field cause I am looking for a date. Date ie. ONE person.. 
Meeting lots of people as in friends, is always fun to me or acquaintances b/c that way you have connections everywhere. | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 1/26/2009 5:52:37 AM | | Well, that is the whole purpose of dating sites, to peruse the masses before oodling out money and energy on in-person meetings...but, I agree, there is a time when people should just roll the dice and meet to see what happens. It's only a date, for crying out loud--it's not marriage. | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 1/26/2009 6:21:40 AM | I think it is amazing that anyone ever gets to meet up on this site at all. The amount of messages I have sent since I have joined with 99% of people not replying at all. All of my messages are polite and friendly. Since speaking to friends, they have experienced the same and have come off altogher because of this reason. Not much point in being on here if you dont want to make friends. I have never met anyone from this site, through messages.
The conclusion I have come to is that I am looking for geniune person, and perhaps not many people are interested in quality. | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 1/26/2009 7:05:45 AM | This is a free sight...there are no risks other than the initial meet....if there is one...lol.I have encountered many that cant even say no thanks or give you a one word response...the same goes for the pay sights but it tends to be a tadd less prevalent.While Im not on here for a full out give me ur life relationship....even the other so-called intimate relationship woman are still looking for stability...geuss they dont understand the word...intimate....and should advertise long term...lol...Good luck! | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 1/26/2009 7:06:57 AM | | I am absolutely selective. I value my time and energy. | |
|
| Meeting Other Fish
Posted: 1/26/2009 8:09:54 AM | If you are looking for a potential partner then why would you meet just anyone.....you'd have to look for someone with things in common and definitely narrow down the field....JMO  | |
|
Home
login 
