| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/13/2008 2:21:51 AM | 2nd time around.
First time around involved the delirious choice of a sarong or purple and pea green trouser suit and me being 7 months pregnant I chose for decency's sake the trouser suit. Was travelling around Australia and got married in Cairns in the courthouse in the office avec old adler typewriter and honest to god, a cleaner for a witness. We promised to love and cherish and had the do da man doing the honours not told us to stop arguing about Spike Milligan we would probably have never finished the 5 minute ceremony. Honeymoon consisted of driving hell for leather down to Sydney in three days because hubby's visa was running out. So second time around I have deep sympathy for Happy Little Vegimite's secret wish for the meringue with all the trappings. Though have to say being closer to crumbly in age I think a broken pavlova might be more apt, with lashings of double cream.
Only got married cos he was being deported and I was 'compromised'...ha great euphamism for up the spout there lol. But if I found a best friend with benefits again, would probably be impromptue, private and more pagan than christian. Or being obtuse might insist on a Catholic marriage just to please my mother and put the shits up Jesus, cos he is a boy and stinks. I sound cynical, am not just sometimes the old fashioned ways seem appealing until I wake up and realise that I am not old fashioned or maybe I am. Have decided who needs a husband? I want a wife with a willy. Anyone out there? lol. | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/13/2008 5:30:07 AM | Bloody hell..., who needs a (2nd) wife when the bloke next doors probably got one........,
Shit..., sorry that was a lawn mower....., how could I possibly mix them up. | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/13/2008 3:42:08 PM | | Now, now Sandy settle down.................no-one is asking you to run off and get married are they? LOL | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/14/2008 3:25:37 AM | | Have a trolley called Derek, a lawnmower called Start and three sons called Wheredyathinkyourgoing?. So Mr Freckle may be right to anthropomorphise the lawnmower he just got the gender wrong. | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/14/2008 3:49:59 AM | Ahh - but if your in love, there is no trap, and no feeling of being trapped because you want to be there.
The trap only comes if the other person isn't living up to their part of the bargain, especially if they are undermining your own sense of identity and/or stunting your own growth.
I guess it's a case of once bitten twice shy, or for those that tried again and failed getting gun shy. | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/16/2008 2:10:06 PM | why on earth are we always so surprised when we keep getting the same result from the same actions??? lol you know how it goes......meet entirely unsuitable, inappropriate, incompatible person......have sex, some good , some bad, some out of this world lol, get married , all turns to crap - for above reasons- incompatibility etc- separate , divorce, start again!!! well stop the ride!! im getting off!!! would i do it again?? NOOOOOOO lol
having said all that - i still like men and they are great fun- i just dont want to marry them!! | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/16/2008 3:55:02 PM | | Beautifully said gjay...................I think I'll print that and put that on my fridge................I like men, I just don't want to marry them. | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/16/2008 5:27:23 PM | Ditto ^^^
Women are great fun, good for a laugh and one or two other things, but hahahaaa why would anyone marry one? | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/16/2008 5:42:26 PM |
Ahh - but if your in love, there is no trap, and no feeling of being trapped because you want to be there.
completely agree ..
Is commitment and romance , wanting to spend the rest of your life with the person you love really dead and a thing of the past ? I really hope not  | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/16/2008 6:34:53 PM | Hmmm...Not too sure about that one.
Been married twice. The first for 27 years. It was a good marriage, until the church interfered, she chose them. We still talk and she is a nice lady.
Second venture into the hazardous world of matrimony? Married 14 years, she left me and the kids for a 24 year old. But that's okay, It was what she needed at the time. No bitterness, forgave them both.
So, would I do it again? Right on baby!!!
Of course she would have to have the following attributes:
Young enough to be sexualy attractive to me.
Old enough to know the difference, and light enough for me pick up if she fell over.
Hey I can dream can't I? | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/16/2008 6:43:35 PM |
Have a trolley called Derek, a lawnmower called Start
And I have a Yamaha called Thumper, a car called by several names, depending on whether it starts first go, and a teenage daughter who is called whenever I don't know where she is. But that also depends on whether she has her phone turned on.: | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/16/2008 8:03:05 PM | Sorry Izzy but I thought I'd found the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with so I do apologize if I seem a little jaded........
I just don't see the possibility anymore.................I found him and it ended in divorce. I can't even imagine going through anything like that again. It's nice to dream I suppose. | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/16/2008 8:26:12 PM | | spicynicegirl ^^^^^^ no need to apologise , my comment wasnt targeted at anyone on here. | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/16/2008 8:33:12 PM | hell no havent u heard the joke
how do u stop a woman giving head
obvious answer why would u
real answer marrt her | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/16/2008 9:09:40 PM | Sometimes these posts are really good to read; you learn about how other people deal with the things that come their way and may provide an insight as to how you can modify your own behaviour; then you read the 'red herring' comments to divert the course or depth of the original question / comment .... is it productive to take the piss when someone else is putting it out there for what might just be help ?
Are you that scared of exposing yourself that you'd rather hide behind denial and stay in a rut than start anew ... that you'd rather join the chorus than be your own man (or woman) ? | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 11/16/2008 9:31:26 PM | on a srious note if i do find the person i would like to spend as much of the rest of my life with untill we really piss each other off , i would seriously consider marrying her
yes i would want a pre nup given away tooo many houses
but yes if it i believed it was the real deal i would again get married
for the record married once for 7 years
lived with an other for 6 | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 4/17/2009 1:53:47 PM | Goddess of dreams, you are soooo right. I also believe that meeting someone that has had similar experiences can lead to a stronger bond. On the flip side some people unwillingly or willingly use that pain as a reason to never trust or get close to anyone again.
I've had many reasons to use that pain as a wall but can't stop being a hopeless romantic. Eve | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 4/17/2009 6:53:05 PM | Some days I think yes I would, others is a definate no way. This said, I do still believe in marriage and the commitment it brings so I guess if someone came along and a couple of years later I was still totally hooked on them (and vice versa) and everything they stand for, I would probably do it again.
To many Danielle Steele novels lol | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 4/17/2009 8:42:15 PM | | I think marriage for a second time or more carries a lot of risks. The biggest problem is usually baggage from the past marriage and complex relationships that have to be worked out if you or the new partner have children. Sometimes second marriages can be happy and work, but the rates of divorce are quite high. | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 4/19/2009 12:56:37 AM | Marriage first time, second time or third time round still have the same risks/ rewards regardless.
Now I cannot speak for anyone else but me so would I marry again, yep.
I also know that the time and effort to make a marriage work is no greater or less than the first time or last time you get married.
I will use myself as an example so here goes; I am a widower with 5 kids and 2 grandkids and if I found someone who was of importance to me and they have kids then we have 7 choices of who to visit for dinner, this works as with th number of kids add up to seven so I and my second wife should not have to worry too much about cooking dinner and the resulting cleanup- first solution to who does the cooking and washing up.
Plus the fact that if all this kids move out of home and live in places of interest for the wife and me, well we cut down on accomadation costs as well.
At the moment I can't see a problem. | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 4/21/2009 5:15:42 AM | | I think I would if the right one came along, I have already been married twice, one good one (widowed) and one bad, (divorced) I realised I jumped to quickly the second time but now I know the different, and what to look for, well I hope I do....maybe.... | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 4/24/2009 2:54:42 AM | | qldblue - that is the most fantastic response!! Let's get married...............LOL | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 5/5/2009 7:39:57 PM | Would get married tomorrow with the right lady. Not a question.
We were not put on this earth to be alone and with Gods help most if not all of us will meet someone to make us smile and put fire in our belly again. | |
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 5/5/2009 9:16:19 PM |
Marriage the 2nd time around is like christening your brand new rowing boat "Unsinkable 2"
There are several men I have met who should give up marriage of any number and just call their boat cirosis of the river.
And come someone tell me how come my redline spell check is not working...cos cirosis is wrong both in spelling and the disease.
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| Marriage 2nd time around?
Posted: 5/8/2009 5:21:39 AM | Well to finally conclude I have decided that I would NOT get married ever again.
Live with a partner - yes - but not do the wedding part.
Thanks to all those who have added their bits to this post. | |
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