| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/14/2008 12:21:45 PM |
One could also say that since she's not using it on him, his being threatened by her using it is also not relevant to him - as in she needs it to climax, regardless of his thoughts about that or projection of it onto himself.
Ah, but she DOESN'T need it to climax! She merely WANTS it to facilitate reaching climax FASTER!
Also, a woman's viewpoint about a guy's feeling threatened/insecure is not relevant because it is HIS issue. Not hers.
Plus, the topic is about MEN'S disapproval, not WOMEN'S viewpoint on men's disapproval. So, it necessarily asks men about their thoughts and feelings. I can appreciate the one poster's attempt at putting herself in men's shoes. But answering for us is invalid!
If all you have to do is show up naked, what's the big sacrifice?
I'll tell you what.
You bring all of your toys.............
And I'll show up nekkid!
Personally, I don't feel threatened or insecure about integrating sex into sex play.
Though, I might have reservations about any strap-on being used on me! | |
|
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/14/2008 1:48:45 PM | If I were a woman,, I'd say to my man,, I'm having a toy party, your invited,,If my toys are an issues for you,, I sill get to Cum with or without you,, but wouldn't it be more fun if we shared my toys, then we can cum together...   | |
|
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/16/2008 7:19:15 AM | | Most men who would dissapprove must be immature. They feel threatened that they are going to be replaced by a toy....lol. You could talk to him about using toys just to spice up things. Ask him to give it a try and i am sure he will love using toys on you. | |
|
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/16/2008 8:55:02 AM | Men who disapprove of including toys when having sex with their partner are either: So focused on themselves that they are all you'll ever need to get off or very unsure of themselves and think you'll like the toy better and won't need them at all. Neither type of man will understand that it's just for some added fun.
In either situation, tell them how it is or show them the door. You don't need to deal with either type of man. | |
|
| |
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/16/2008 4:56:16 PM | | Toys are one way to add a new, or different dimension to lovemaking; I never felt like I was being "compared", or inadequate. Talking openly about it ,....Always a great idea,,,But I have never been able to understand 2 people who have been sexually intimate, not being able to talk about things ??? I mean, 2 people being naked together, touching and being touched in all ways should be able to talk about ANY thing !! JON | |
|
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/17/2008 7:29:34 AM | | Well Yesterday he said lets go to baton rouge and I said why. he told me sex store. So we went and didnt buy anyting at that time. He had never been in a sex store ever. But he must have seen something of interest becuase on the way home he said, whatever I buy you have to use it. I siad ok well as long as it has nothing to do with back door we can use it. so atleast he is showing somne interest in it...atleast I think. We shall see what he buys. | |
|
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/17/2008 7:36:34 AM |
I siad ok well as long as it has nothing to do with back door we can use it.
Interesting comment,, you were a little upset your man didn't want anything to do with toys, yet, now he making an effort,, I was wondering,, if he liked your back door,, would you make that same effort to please your man, as he is trying to please you... | |
|
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/17/2008 7:41:12 AM | He already knows back door is off limits. there are many toys that are not for back door.
if he liked your back door,, would you make that same effort to please your man, as he is trying to please you...
No a man can be please just the same without back door. I was joking with him aobut using his back door and he jsut about shit. not gonna happen. I was laughing so hard so I siad well I just wnated to show you what it feels like. I dont like it and he wont even try it ..thank goodness....I think I made my piont. he dont want anything up his and i dont wnat anyhtihng up mine. we understand each other concerning that.
to the poster below me, Its my ass not his and i say what happens to it ..not him. A penis does not belong in that area to begin with. Ya some people like it, but it doesnt mean its right. some peope like fucking animals but that dont make it right, some people like pissing on each other, but that dont make it right. get my point? | |
|
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/17/2008 7:51:50 AM | Kittenhere: You are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO lucky that I'M not your ol' man!
Being the smartazz that I am................
I would've had you seriously believing that I was honestly giving the whole backdoor thing some considerate thought!
HEY! If it's good enough for then it's good enough for her! Right????
Sometimes my mind can be just SOOOOOOOOOO  | |
|
| |
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/17/2008 8:15:49 AM |
Its my ass not his and i say what happens to it ..not him. A penis does not belong in that area to begin with. Ya some people like it, but it doesnt mean its right. some peope like ****ing animals but that dont make it right, some people like pissing on each other, but that dont make it right. get my point?
I got your point, and I do agree it's your body and you have a right to pick and choose what works for you, as it should be.
Some men/woman don't like toys that doesn't make them wrong,,see my point, it's all a personal choice and that is a good thing,, I was wondering if toys really belong in a woman's sweet spot, again it choice, then again, men and woman can achieve orgasm through anal stimulation,, Atleast your man is open to your ideas,, | |
|
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/17/2008 8:24:51 AM | Some men/woman don't like toys that doesn't make them wrong,,see my point
Atleast i have tried the back door and klnow I dont want any part of it. He on the other hand needs to atleast try a toy jsut as i did the back door before saying no. | |
|
Shri_1
|
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 114 | |
| |
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/17/2008 8:51:18 AM | | Toys are a beautiful thing and men if haven't incorporated the use of toys in your bed room u should especially if your woman is not having orgasms ,but its not really about that with me .its a real turn on for me when a women is playing with her toy and you can concentrate on stimulating other parts of her body wich i found to make there orgasms more intense the toys i found women like to use are. Magic massager,Bullet, Dildo'men you would be suprised how happy and fulfilled your woman would be and lets face it we should do whatever it takes to make our women happy in the bedroom | |
|
| |
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/18/2008 9:26:00 AM | which website did you use if not adam and eve that was cheaper? What I did was type the name of the toy in Google, and search for the toy itself. Lots of different web sites came up; and I just went from one to the other. It only took about 15 minutes. I don't remember the exact web site I bought the toy from, but it really doesn't matter. When you find the toy you like; simply Google the exact name of the toy.
I just Googled a glass dildo "Triple+pleaser" it was $15.69 at American Beauty and $39.95 at Adam and Eve. Same toy! Good luck and enjoy. | |
|
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/18/2008 5:29:05 PM | | It probably goes back to communication...I don't know if he would share with you his favorite pinup poster or playboy centerfold even if you asked...maybe it is just his feeling about toys...is he afraid your thinking about someone else when you are using them? I think it is the level of communication you are at...if you can share your deepest secrets...what you like...you can understand that communication at a deeper level is going to lead to a deeper level of understanding each other. Kudos for being able to share at that level. | |
|
| |
| |
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/6/2008 9:03:04 PM | I wouldn't mind the guy not wanting toys because if he is god then who has time for them? If he is good with his whole body then who the hell would be thinking about toys? Not me, hmmm no further comment I guess
KISSES
KAT | |
|
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/6/2008 9:51:39 PM | Let's see, can you say fragile ego? Or could it be that they are uneducated about the range of sexual expression in women. Or could it be that they are a legend in their own mind and a woman is flawed if they don't realize that.
I say, get over it. Any man who is stupid enough to realize that there is nothing more natural, beatiful and sexy than a woman who feels free to express herself with her partner, is missing out. | |
|
| |
| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/7/2008 10:44:08 AM | | I guess this delimma should have been discussed before you were married...if you were intimate before you got married, did you have orgasms then?? if not, why wouldn't you tell him you didn't and offer some suggestions?? Men cannot read your mind, and like others have said, some men prefer no toys. If a woman told me that I was making her feel good but wasn't bringing her the pleasure she needed, I would either want to know how and what to use or find someone else... | |
|
| |
Home
login 
