| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/13/2008 3:36:27 PM |
I am not talking of dildo's. I do not use them. I am speaking of simple small vibrator to enhance the evening. You see I have never in my entire life had one orgasm from intercourse alone. I need the extra help of a tiny vibrator that massages the clit. he is completely against it.
Perhaps he is concerned with the legal ramifications of purchasing a vibrator or using one in a state that has banned them since 1998?
"Alabama's Anti-Obscenity Enforcement Act prohibits, among other things, the commercial distribution of 'any device designed or marketed as useful primarily for the stimulation of human genital organs for any thing of pecuniary value.'" and "The penalty for disobeying the Alabama ban includes a $10,000 fine and up to one year in jail for a first-time offender.
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"The penalty for disobeying the Alabama ban includes a $10,000 fine and up to one year in jail for a first-time offender."
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/13/2008 3:49:30 PM | ACP
that can't be true, is it,, I was under the assumption what goes on in a home, behind closed doors is no one business,, unless the states are now requiring bedroom cams as they now say all bedroom must have smoke detectors,, I under stand why fire and smoke detection,, all those toys in use,, I'm sure can make a bedroom to hot to handle, opps not in OP case,, sorry...  | |
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/13/2008 3:50:11 PM |
Ppl who fear toys...must think they could be replaced...NOT!
For men...it's the fear of being replaced. It reveals an insecurity they don't like to face. It's an egocentric and uneducated position to cling to the "if she really loved me, she wouldn't need the toy" myth or the "there is something wrong with you, not me" myth. That places the blame on the woman which some men use as an excuse for not questioning their own assumptions. Such men need to open their minds.
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/13/2008 4:03:14 PM | Believe it or not ... Tis' true. Yet we wonder why the U.S ranks 2nd in the world when it comes to repression of sexuality. #1 is Ireland.
http://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&lr=&q=info:17JHOm1pgWsJ:scholar.google.com/&output=viewport&pg=1
http://rackjite.com/archives/713-Court-Leaves-Alabama-Vibrator-Ban-Intact.html | |
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/13/2008 4:21:04 PM | ACP
I went to that site, I can't comprehend such a law. I'd think the time spent by legislators could be better spent on much more important issues,, what the hell are they thinking... next it will be a ban of birth control, and the only access will be for married couples,, therefore, if some woman get pregnant out of marriage they get fined 10k and or a year in jail.. so many ridiculous laws... | |
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/13/2008 7:12:18 PM | And, I like that one even better! 
"Honey, after you perform fellatio, I'd like to bring to your attention Alabama legal code section 36..."
"I'm calling my mother, so she can take care of the kids while you're in JAIL."
Clears throat. "Seriously now, the reason I'm saying no...well, you know if I'd had my way...well, I'm ALL FOR IT; however, it is unfortunately...well, you know...AGAINST THE LAW!"
Bubba will be here in a minute to read you your rights.
(I'm assumin' we still do have rights in this country!) | |
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/14/2008 6:02:52 AM | Perhaps he is concerned with the legal ramifications of purchasing a vibrator or using one in a state that has banned them since 1998?
I dont know what state your in but in my state no sex toys at all are banned. I have never even heard of such rubbish. | |
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/14/2008 6:21:12 AM | A little history lesson could be called for...
originally, vibrators were a medical invention. ..used to treat a variety of "female disorde
what does that matter. who cares why they were invented. the point is they are not banned in my state and i have never heard of banning a sex toy. Doesnt mean that in some foreign country or somewhere it has not been banned just means its not where i am from nor have i ever heard of it. stick to subject no one cares why it was invented.
as to the poster below me thankfully I dont live in alabama. besides if i did i would simply go get one from antoher state. the laws are outragoeus. what htey gonna do come watch me have sex and make sure i dont use one? ya know I am firend with a cop who once told me the laws are so ridiculous that even cops dont enforce some of them. | |
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/14/2008 8:08:27 AM | | I don't mind toys if it helps her have more pleasure. I will be glad to hold her toys and use them on her. Se ix about stress release and pleasure. Whatever works I say do it. | |
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/18/2008 9:58:43 AM | Toys are typically reserved for single women so they don't have to sleep around, but even then seem unessessary as its basically like you're paying for sex because you bought a toy. Personally it seems pretty desperate actually for anyone to use sex toys. Why waste your money when you can just play with yourself for free! And if you are in a relationship there should be no need for toys if you have the real thing so why use something that is 2nd rate at best? Why would any woman need to use or prefer a toy over the real thing anyways? If you do then you have some issues you should see a sex therapist about. That would be like a guy saying he would rather have sex with a blowup doll than real woman? A man and woman should be enough for one another and they should be getting off on one another's bodies like hands, fingers, tongues, feet, mouths, genitals etc and the need for a toy is not needed. If a couple needs to bring a toy in their relationship to enjoy sex then its obviously they have more problems in their relationship that need worrying about than what toy to use. Bringing a toy into a relationship would be an insult to any man or woman. The sex toy industry preys on desperate people like them and tells them they should use a toy because thats their business and they want your money otherwise they would go out of business. Instead of worrying about what impersonal toys to use maybe you should concentrate more on enjoying your partner's body. I'm amazed how something so simple eludes people. | |
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/18/2008 10:12:34 AM | ......That would be like a guy saying he would rather have sex with a blowup doll than real woman?
Did anyone hear me say anything about him not receiving????????? A toy does not prevent that. A toy is an addition and thats it.
.....Why would any woman need to use or prefer a toy over the real thing anyways? If you do then you have some issues you should see a sex therapist about.
In that case your saying 98 percent of the human race need sex therapy????? Who would have ever thought?????????
all the sex books, therapist, and video on teaching love and sex all include toys. so i doubt very seriously a sex therapist would do anything but agree with the ones who use toys. | |
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/18/2008 10:19:07 AM | I'm a man and I love toys in the bedroom. When you get tired and she still wants more bust out that vibrator and keep her going while you regain your strength.
They are great for foreplay too, sneak up behind your woman while she is getting ready to go out and run the vibrator up the inside of her leg while kissing her neck. All of a sudden she doesn't care if she is late meeting her friends.
The possibilities are endless, and there is nothing to fear from them. Most woman I have known get far more pleasure from toys when their men use them on them rather than doing it themselves. A toy can't whisper how beautiful she is, or how amazing she smells while she is getting off.
I am still waiting for some woman to invent the clit GPS system for clueless men when it comes to oral. | |
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/18/2008 10:29:50 AM | I am still waiting for some woman to invent the clit GPS system for clueless men when it comes to oral.
lol kinda tired, You know each woman is different. you have to learn what the woman you are with likes. how one woman likes it done another may not. It is hard in a way on men becuae they cannot feel what the woman feels. best thing to do is let her guide you.
You know that man that sits on a rock and he says, "got an idea"? you really should send that one in about gps for oral lol | |
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/18/2008 10:41:24 AM | I never have any problem in that area because the first thing I tell my women in bed is to guide me where they want me, tell me exactly what they want done and where. Communication is the best tool you have when it comes to making love, you know how to get yourself off better than anyone else on the planet, so it's your job to teach your lover how to do it exactly how you like it.
Once you are together long enough everything just becomes instinct, you can tell just by the sounds she makes and the way she moves her body, but those first few times words can mean the difference between ok sex and mind blowing sex.
That's also the reason I love toys in the bedroom, she can pleasure herself while I focus on other parts of her body. One of the favorite things my ex loved was her using the vibrator on herself while I sat behind her and massaged her back and neck while talking dirty to her. That's pretty hard to do without a toy. :) | |
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/18/2008 1:19:14 PM |
In that case your saying 98 percent of the human race need sex therapy????? Who would have ever thought?????????
all the sex books, therapist, and video on teaching love and sex all include toys. so i doubt very seriously a sex therapist would do anything but agree with the ones who use toys.
I seriously doubt 98% of women use toys. If they did its usually that ugly or fat ones that can't get a man that do. I suppose if their man doesn't know how to use his tool or has a small one then I guess she would have to use a toy. Any man that can use his equipment or has a good size one, then his gf/wife prefers his penis.
All those sex books and sex videos companies are out to make money also off desperate people or people without a good sex life, so they prey on people with these problems in order to get their money. If two people concentrated on enjoying one another rather than trying to insult or replace their partner by bringing in something other than their partner to get off, then relationships would be much healthier and happier. I mean really why would any man or woman need to use a toy with their partner if they enjoy having sex together. You seem to think its ok to use something other than your bf to get off, but do you think it would be acceptable if he wanted a blowup doll over you? Yeah I didn't think so! People that think they need to try these unessessary and impersonal toys to get off when in actuality nothing is better than the real thing are very sad misguided people. If you already have the real thing why bother with something second rate? | |
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/18/2008 1:29:41 PM |
why is it that some men get angry if the woman wants to add toys during a night of lovemaking? I always thought men were all for it. Is it becuase they want to be what causes the woman or orgasm? How can I possibly change this situation to make him feel better about using them?
You basically answered your own questions. I think you would find that most men wouldn't want their wives or gf's to use a toy, so your assumptions were wrong, most men aren't for them as its basically admitting he can't do the job! Of course a man wants to be the one to make her orgasm, do you even have to ask that? I think it is very insulting for you to want to use a toy in the bedroom if you have a bf. I think it is you that needs to change your outlook on it and enjoy your bf and what he offers rather than worry about a toy. If you just want to use toys why didn't you just stay single and masterbate 24/7 if you want? Does your bf have a small one or is his plumbing broke? If not, I think he should seriously find another gf who doesn't try to insult his manhood. I'm just saying! | |
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| men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 12/18/2008 1:38:19 PM |
Some men love it and others get jealous because the size of the toy is bigger then they are.
Or maybe women use a toy because no man is interested in having sex with you....errr I mean them, unless he was high or drunk which is the more likely the reason. | |
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