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Posted: 11/18/2008 7:15:59 PM | Although many people have a problem with their partner maintaining a friendship with an ex, to a few of us its a sign of great maturity. I believe it was Lee Iacocco (Of Ford Mustang fame)who later said in his book on being fired by Henry Ford, "Don't Get mad, Get Even". Plotting revenge takes up valuable personal time and gives the guy a holiday in your mind. You don't need that as its also very destructive personnally.
While you should move on and find someone else worthy of your time and affection, I suggest that any future partner be advised that you have a friendly relationship with your ex. With that notice, the individual has advance notice and you are not forced to hide a call or meeting in the future. If the new person cannot accept same, then he is screened out early in the relationship.
Presumably of course, the friendship is not intimate which is a No!No! if you want a new partner. Best wishes for the future. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 11:50:18 PM | | i agree w my darling bestfriend camba :> what better way to get at a guy then haveing him see you with someone else?:> | |
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Posted: 1/28/2009 6:26:51 AM | Why do you need revenge? Yes, you had your heart broken, but is that any reason to feel like you need to "get even?" That is a totally immature approach to the end of a relationship. For whatever reason, he broke things off with you. You need to move on. By asking people on this forum the best way to get revenge, you have severely limited your chance of meeting someone. I'm just guessing, but I think any potential date who reads this will think you are a nut. At least that would be how I'd think of a man who asks how to get revenge on an ex.   | |
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Posted: 1/28/2009 7:34:04 AM |
'Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people who treat you right, forget about those who don't and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said it would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.'
Live well. The best revenge is to live well, and get everything you ever wanted in life. Live well, and be generous with the people that took from you. Let them understand their mistake, and be reminded of it as you live well while totally moving beyond them. | |
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Posted: 1/28/2009 12:40:10 PM | | Find yourself again, laugh and live life fully.... ultimately revenge only hurts those who commit it... very seldom does it hurt the person you really want it to. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2009 12:56:20 AM | Two things I find a total waste of time & energy is jealousy & revenge!
I simply refuse to to be a part of either one.
That said,my philosophy on being wronged by someone is simple....Let God take care of it!....or if you rather.....Karma!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/29/2009 1:43:50 AM | Dog poo under the door handles of his car?
Tuna juice down his vents?
Following him to a dates house and join them for dinner?........
Oh wait sorry supposed to be a mature grown up
Seriously though, a person will get what they deserve without you having to lower yourself to provide it. Forget about him and move on thats the best revenge of all | |
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Posted: 1/29/2009 2:01:30 AM | | Don't waste the energy - the Universe will do it for you! If he has agrieved you, Karma *will* get him, have no doubt. It may not be obvious when it happens, but it will!! | |
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Posted: 1/29/2009 6:11:13 AM | | :( no more tears now I will think about revenge. all the old knives that have rusted in my back, I drive in yours. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2009 6:12:39 AM | | wht goes around comes around but since my world has come to an end its doesnt mattr to me ny more if it'll come back to me...um ready to embrace d hatreddd...... | |
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Posted: 1/29/2009 8:05:03 AM | Revenge for what? For the fact that he is jealous, and therefore unhappy?
If he is unhappy, he has a right to move on, and I don't think revenge is very mature, when there is little to no reason for it occurring.
Act logically for once, instead of emotionally, maybe this is why he really left you in the first place. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2009 11:12:54 AM | | First off, some men cant handle relationships with an ex. If that was his true reason for ending it you dont want a jealous and possesive man in your life. If trust isnt there lets face it, you are doomed anyway. If you really feel he did you wrong and broke your heart, revenge is not the answer. There was a relationship in my life that ended badly and I wanted revenge so bad I could taste it. It wasnt necessary, what you do wrong to others will come back to get you, Im sure of it. Let it go and move on. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2009 2:14:14 PM | Only victims want revenge. Stop being a victim. We all get hurt in this life and we all do our fair share of hurting others. Clearly this fellow decided for whatever his reasons you were not the partner he wanted. I know that hurts. By all means have revenge fantasies if you want they cost nothing and hurt no one. But think of all the energy you are wasting on a man who dumped you. Go and have a great life. I imagine he has done this to other women and is having some fear. There are only two stances in life-fear and love. Choose love and get on with your life. There are lots of great men in the pond and you are a beautiful woman. There will be a great fellow out there for you when you give up the desire for revenge. Good luck  | |
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Posted: 1/30/2009 8:40:46 PM | Vindictiveness causes cellulite. Where it shows. If it's not right better you should find out now that with a new baby bouncing on your knee. The time you spend getting even is beyond dubious if the guy isn't a genuine physical threat to other women. If I found something like this written by someone I'd just started seeing I'd find a nice, quiet way to sneak off before she started pulling the same sort of stunts with me.
Maybe the friendly ex is really the one for you? | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 11:10:35 AM | | the best type of revenge in to "move on" and don't contact him or her ever again. In every relationship that doesn't end in happy story one of the parties usually gets hurt. And wants to project that hurt onto the other person. It doesn't change anything. Hurting someone or their car etc....just makes you feel like a idiot in the end...what works is to accept what has happened and move on and don't look back (easy to say and hard to do at times) But it's the best thing...... | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 7:23:29 PM | | Try getting a life and moving on,best revenge and the healthiest! | |
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Posted: 2/2/2009 1:46:07 AM | | when it comes to revenge i just make a mental note of the ppl im going to come back and haunt when im dead . It makes me feel better at the time | |
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Posted: 2/2/2009 6:00:44 AM | | Get past this, move on, find someone with whom you are deliriously happy. That's when he will decide he wants you back. THAT is the best revenge. And it will satisfy your apparent need for DRAMA for awhile. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2009 8:26:48 AM | It's natural to feel as if you want to "get back" at the person who has done you wrong. Just remember Karma is a b i t c h and will avenge you...so go on and be happy...he's not the one for you and be glad he's gone. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2009 9:37:25 AM | | Revenge never works, there is no satisfaction, you just move on. Sounds like he was too insecure anyway. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2009 9:39:22 AM | Revenge for him being honest with you?..
He could have played you for a fool.But he didnt he told you.Revenge makes you the imature one.Your angry and upset move on give yourself some me time.Maybe go out with you mates.Find yourself again revenge is pointless and just proves your harping after him.In time accept the fact. step back and look at it when you have a cool head. It really is not worth your time or money.Nor the passion to do the dirty on him.Rather put that to good use else were.
Always remember let something if it returns its yours if it dosant it never was.
You can not make someone like you or stay with you if they are not happy. what ever the situation is and who ever is to blame. It will only end up very bitter more than you are now.
Just give yourself some time to relate to the situation. You will find someone more suited and leave this well behind you.
Good luck on your chose path | |
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Posted: 2/2/2009 9:40:09 AM | | You're looking for revenge tells me he was probably smart calling off the relationship. Best not to travel that road you'll only look , and act the fool in the long run. Move on and shine for someone else THAT is the only revenge that is satisfying. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2009 3:47:10 PM | | Moving on and being happy is the nest revenge! | |
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Posted: 2/2/2009 5:32:44 PM | How about going to his home in the middle of the night with a spray bottle filled with Roundup? You could write anything you wanted on his lawn and it won't show up for a while . . .
Seriously, move on and live well. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2009 6:43:03 PM | | You want the ultimate revenge???? Well guess what...any revenge will always come back to kick you in the arse!!! Grow up, get over it, move on, see a shrink. You sound unstable and unpredictable. Heck, your attitude even scares me and I'm a redneck hillbilly. | |
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