| | Do I ever miss physical touch!Page 12 of 13 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13) | Huggs are Paramount for me that is the reason for getting out of my marrage she never reached for me I always had to do the reaching. I felt like a seed in the desert in the sun. I just could not take it anymore. I have a need, like food or water, for touch, I have looked at the bio of several of the posters on this topic, and I think the caliber of these people is astounding someone do some posting don't be alone at newyears. I have found a date for new years, infact I just returned from a date with her. the very best part of that was on the way back from the beach she snuggled up on my right arm and laid her head on my shoulder............. oohhhh boy. just gives me that feeling.
I really hope you all make extra efforts to find what you are looking for. Dont forget to kiss a few frogs that prince/princess is hiding somewhere!  | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 8:10:39 AM | | hi I love that too and know i have had it good. Am single (again) but grieving. Kids helped mom choose i am not for her :) The touch was absent in my life for about 2 weeks before i crumbled...touch is a need not a want in real peoples lives. The balance is not fearing how far touch goes, but in realizing the others need is a great if not more desperate than your's and so infidelity in marriages, far from hot dentist is hammered by the reaction, your reaction, to his touch and his wife understands he does not work with robots but with emotions and people or they are divorced. I think you could use a class on massage. to help through the lack of touch times. if you want a willing student class mate body of course I am a phone call away!! :) aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah that feels good. Good luck and hapy new years! | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 1:41:19 PM |
Are you content to go through life without ever feeling the velvet stroke of warm skin on yours?
Hell no,, I do recall what that was like,, and I still miss it.. and always will... | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 1:48:55 PM |
I think you could use a class on massage. to help through the lack of touch times. if you want a willing student class mate body of course I am a phone call away!! :)
Right. I'll hop on the next plane. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 3:33:23 PM |
I think you pull the energy from the soul by pressing skin to skin,
For me it's the other way around - I give energy from my soul and as a conduit from the 'universe' by pressing skin to skin. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 6:21:03 PM | Yes you are certainly not the only one. If you took a survey of most of the people here you'd probably find out that most of them miss the warm touch and embrace of their souls counterparts.I know I certainly do.The women in my life that I had something special with have passed on and left me all alone and at times very sad and lonely for intimate female companionship.Late at night I think on it a lot sometimes and it usually brings a few tears to my eyes.
The special relationships that we have all entertained with lovers, husbands,wives,girlfriends, or whatever cannot be taken lightly.
When your soul recognizes it's counterpart in another ...it's a fantastic thing and definitely worth pursueing. Nothing ventured...nothing gained.
The intimate touch and embrace of two individuals is a fantastic and wonderful thing that everyone should not be afraid to pursue.
Is there anything more exciting or sublime than two people finding each other arousing and pursueing to all intimate bounds.
After all isn't this exactly why the good lord put us all here...to be happy in love and find our special mate that we can do anything with.
Let's face it, we all deserve to be happy in any way that suits your needs and if anyone professes to tell you diferent, then they are likely a moron, jealous of you , or just plain unlucky in love themselves!
God god I hope I have helped somebody with this revelation, Just remeber and never forget that we all desrve happiness...at any expense!...L.L. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 9:09:54 PM | | It's not only physical touch anymore, we can contact anyone instantly, just at our finger tips. One of the most painful experiances for me was the dead silence of my cell phone, and contacting was out of the question. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 10:35:10 PM |
Mae ....always more where that came from, unfortunately I'm d1ckless, so can't help out in the other department....but hey a hug's a hug
..I haven't been back to this thread for a bit but I damn near choked on my coffee when I read this rusty.... You must be a hoot to have at a party.
But hey, I'll take a hug anytime, thanks
...maeflowers | |
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Posted: 12/30/2008 8:32:28 AM | | The worst and best thing about being single is that you go to bed alone and you wake up alone. I miss the closeness and intimacy but like the extra space in my bed. Go figure! | |
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Posted: 12/30/2008 9:31:42 AM | I think everyone who is alone misses that physical touch...feeling another's touch helps us to survive...This is evidences by hospitals that have studiend "the lack of touch" on newborns who were abandoned by their parents or premature infants whose parents lived far enough away that they could not visit the infant every day.
The study involved the use of people who would volunteer to feed and rock premature neonates when their parents were away. The studies showed that babies who were cuddled and rocked (even though not by their biological parents) gained weight faster, recovered from their medical conditions and left the hospital sooner than those who were not held and rocked.
The study showed such a positive link to the healing force of touch that the hospital would allow employees to volunteer to hold, rock and feed newborn during their lunch hours. Other volunteers would also rock babies throughout the day.
Closeness and intimacy among adults feeds and nourishes our souls. Just ask those who have not been in an intimate relationshipship. I bet many would say what they miss the most is the physical touch and sharing sincere and trusting intimacy with an other. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2008 2:59:42 PM | Sincere and trusting intimacy is what it is all about isen't it.....
I was married for over 20 years and that was lacking in the relationship. Was in a decade long relationship and it was at most hesitant. When I struck out on to the ocean of POF I tried to figure out what I was really looking for and that intimacy of touch was at the top of my list.
Living with out it changes one..... finding it changes one as well , painful longing, painful vulnerablity. The later atleast can be balances with the rewards.
This is a very rich topic. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 9:46:33 AM | | Lil: I agree, and love the feeling of being touched. May I suggest a good orthobionomic massage therapist for $100 a treatment LOL! You don't have to date and have sex to enjoy the pleasure of human touch. Sometimes it's nice just to have hands moving all over our body, and it doesn't even have to be erotic, just nice. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2009 6:00:49 AM | | Went to a NYE party.....dateless....but there were lots of wonderful people there and lots of hugs. Had my fix for about 24 hours............ | |
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Posted: 1/1/2009 7:20:11 AM | hmm.......may its like this
How can we not crave the fire
borne of this contact of non desire
the electricity that fuels our moves
somehow transfers from me to you
Shakespeares eloquence is not much
compared to the timbre of a simple touch
the understanding brush of skin
the silent emotion contained within
often touch without a word
conveys everything that should be heard
we can not live without this thing
the daily healing it can bring
so many ways to say "I love you"
when finger, tongue, or cheek touches you
so many ways to say "I know"
like elbow, thigh, or little toe
we can harden our heart
or toughen our stand
but all can be vanquished
by the touch of a hand
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| Do I ever miss physical touch!
Posted: 1/1/2009 10:54:49 AM |
we can harden our heart
or toughen our stand
but all can be vanquished
by the touch of a hand
...............and it has before...............and I hope it will again.............. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 12:05:54 PM | OP,
I am one that misses the physical touch. I try not to think about it too much..... out of sight, out of mind. I could lower my standards to get back to the physical touching but found that relationships with the wrong people are not worth it.
I got a certificate for Christmas good for a one hour massage and will use it soon. : ) | |
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Posted: 6/21/2012 7:31:09 PM | I have social anxiety disorder and a fist full of depressive issues. I so miss physical contact. I've actually written poetry because I was so moved by accidentally brushing my bare arm against someone a random stranger 's in a crowded hallway at my college. That's where I was five years ago. Now there are no crowded hallways, no buses, I'm self employed, and have no physical contact with anyone for days or weeks at a shot. No friends, no relatives, and none of the help I need. My heart aches when I see people together. No one should ever live this way.
I joined this site in hopes of fixing issues like that. Instead I'm reminded how hard basic contact is. It seems so simple...it should be. This is my first forum post in years. Some nights, like this one, hope crumbles.
It gets better, right? | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 3:21:21 AM | I think it does get better ~ I have SAD as well and kept myself isolated to an extent because I was self employed for 20 years
After I went back into retail I was so filled was anxiety I sought help. For most of my life I didn't realize I didn't have to live that way and there was help out there. Hopefully you're getting the kind of help you need and not suffering. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 11:43:24 AM | You gotta work this one, my strategy for touch when single:
1. Weekly visit to the massage school, keeps it affordable and I alway book with the hot guys, lol. That's an hour or more if scheduled to be naked and have a gorgeous man touching and stroking you without it getting sleazy.
2. I like to sit right next to single men I know at functions and touch in creative and fun ways without it getting publicly inappropriate. On occasion I will sit next to them like we are a couple, with my arm around them, nobody complains. They like the touch too.
3. Hug everyone twice.
4. Touch people when I talk to them in social setting and they uually touch back.
5. My yoga instructor likes to "adjust" us while in difficult positions and he is gorgeous. I've made it a point to remind him that I really appreciate all the adjustments.
6. I rub peoples shoulders alot.
What's your strategy? | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 11:39:09 PM |
What's your strategy?
Ew, I don’t like touching random people or want them touching me. I’ll just touch myself like usual. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 6:43:44 AM | I miss physicality so much too but, good thing we have the gift of imagination.
For me, it's pathetically been years, yes YEARS. Pathetic I know but, it's not by my doing. I am not even talking sexually related content either. I have not been hugged or kissed or you know, "touched" in years by another man. lol lol (I am not assumably counting my brothers, father though). I wonder what it's like?! lol
Hey though, at least I have a life off this computer... :)
Good luck to everyone on this site upon meeting someone & receiving that touch you desire. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 1:56:14 PM |
I don’t like touching random people or want them touching me
Right you are. :)
While I miss the physical part of being a couple, it's not something that I think of separately from the particular person, so I don't miss the act but the relationship...when I do.
There just aren't that many people in the world that I want to touch physically if there isn't other feelings associated with it. | |
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