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 Wisteria-tx
Joined: 5/17/2008
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A wonderful idea about the nursing home Lil Brooker!

I get plenty of hugs from my kids, grand and friends, but it still doesn't fill that other need. To feel the touch of a man.

A few months ago I was with a group of friends among a large crowd. A man came up from behind me and placed his hands on my waist to guide me gently to the side so he could pass by. I couldn't believe how good that touch felt. I thought about it, soaked it in, for weeks.

Of course it didn't hurt that he was one heck of a good looking cowboy and leaned down and whispered, "Excuse me, darlin'" in my ear as he slid his hands onto my waist.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 9:09:33 AM

Surprisingly you may find it's something you do long after Christmas. Don't be so stingy......

For sure. I wouldn't dream of setting up an expectation and then abandoning it.
 Some0nesX
Joined: 10/21/2008
Msg: 28
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Posted: 11/17/2008 9:10:40 AM
OP asked
Are you content to go through life without ever feeling the velvet stroke of warm skin on yours?


Content, no-but have been "alone" for over a decade + and long ago ACCEPTED the fact that I may never be part of a "couple" again.

Supposedly humans need a minimum of 8 hugs a day to be emotionally/mentally healthy and thankfully, I always got my daily minimum dose from my children but now that I'm faced with being an "empty nester" I am dealing with a major daily hug deficiency and so friends have been warned I may unexpectedly hug them multiple times to get my minimum daily requirement
 Lil Brooker
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Posted: 11/17/2008 9:12:50 AM

There's no reason to feel that way. There are always opportunities for personal contact. Go for a hair cut and let someone run their fingers through your hair. Fall into a swimming pool and let a life guard grab you by the chest and pull you to safety. Take twenty bucks off a casino table and run for the door. You're just not trying hard enough!

LOL! Creative ways to cop a "feel"! Any others?
 duckling
Joined: 2/28/2006
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Posted: 11/17/2008 9:20:54 AM
Enroll in a Greco-Roman wrestling class?
 Lil Brooker
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Posted: 11/17/2008 9:25:28 AM

A wonderful idea about the nursing home Lil Brooker!

I get plenty of hugs from my kids, grand and friends, but it still doesn't fill that other need. To feel the touch of a man.

No kidding. However, I don't even have my kids cause they are so far away. And it was shocking to enjoy the touch of my weirdo dentist so much. A real eye-opener in how important "skin-touch" is.

I think there is something missing in our current society. In past years, the extended family stayed together. Grandmas and Grandpas had the delightful touch and physical affection from their grandchildren. These days, the oldest generation lives separate and alone. But, I'm not yet at the point where grandkids and kids can replace a strong, warm male hand.
 rd1955
Joined: 9/10/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 10:00:09 AM
My 2 cents on this topic....

after I got divorced I was alone for a while and not feeling very much like even being near women. it was probably quite a while since I had physical contact with anyone, and someone came up to me from behind at work and touched me and I must have jumped 2 feet in the air! It really made me aware of how I had not had any physical contact for so long and how much I missed it

years earlier I was in a very bad car accident. I was laid up in bed, feeling awful physically and emotionally, and with the pain I hadn't slept for a couple of days which made my state of mind even worse. I heard the side door of the house opne (my room was in the basement) and my ex-girlfriend came walking in. We were on good terms and as much as I was in a "state" it felt good to see her. She told me how she heard I was in an accident and she had to cme and see me. She laid on the bed next to me and just held me....I eased off to what would be the only peaceful sleep that I would have for a month or so. I think touch has a lot of healing power and conversely lack of touching or being touched is not healthy (trust me I know this all too well)
 cdn*guy
Joined: 1/12/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 10:33:41 AM
I fully understand this need in people to be touched. And as a caring and empathetic gentleman, I do my part to help. I offer velvet caresses to women in the fresh fruit sections of grocery stores, give (with no thought of reciprocation) touches, hugs and more caresses to women in check-out lines, movie theatre queues, even those that I pass along the street. It is those gifts that are freely given that are the most meaningful.

Yes, often my gestures are not appreciated as they have been intended, but that does not deter me. The restraining orders aren’t too helpful, either.

cdn guy
 Lil Brooker
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Posted: 11/17/2008 10:41:15 AM

Yes, often my gestures are not appreciated as they have been intended, but that does not deter me. The restraining orders aren’t too helpful, either.

cnd guy
laughing! You wll always be held in the sweetest esteem in my books. Wish you shopped at my grocery store! Can you do fillings?
 Wisteria-tx
Joined: 5/17/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 10:43:10 AM
ROTFL cdn!!!


Now, are you going to provide us with a map of your daily treks????



 AgelessWonder
Joined: 4/12/2006
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Posted: 11/17/2008 11:21:09 AM
IMO, it is normal to want that human touch.

An older lady told me once that we need 12 hugs per day! Now I don't know about that but human touch is very important.

Booker, I work with the elderly and they are truly a blessing. We even have some in their 80s who have b/f and g/f . It is amazing to watch them, come to the dining room in a walker and their eyes light up when they see their SO in the room.

You are never too old to want that human touch!

JMO
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 11/17/2008 11:23:18 AM
^^^I am in total agreement with you my wee lassie! I hope I never grow to old to miss the contact of another human being. And I am sorry but have to admit? Whilst hugs and kisses from friends/family are awesome? I damned sure do miss what a man brings to the equation. *sigh*. Hey wait? I just got an idea for sumpin to put on my Christmas wish list to Santa...brb...
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 11:44:32 AM
OP wow I cant imagine what you are feeling...if i was around I would surely give you a hug. I get a ton of hugs and affection from my kids and from the three pets i have, I often wake up surrounded by them. Still isnt the same as waking up to someone special but hey on cold nights I'll share body heat!

I guess some of the men missed the point that it isnt about sex ...it is about the RIGHT touch...one that is far more than rutting like dogs...vs one the incites the senses. I doubt there is a female on POF who would have a problem getting laid...it is being loved that is the problem. It is the touch of companionship, the way you feel with the warmth of another's hand etc and while it can lead to more it is enough in and of itself.

I hope I die before I become so bitter and withdrawn that I would say I no long want a physical touch...I would rather make a mistake and be with the wrong person for the right reason that to deny the core of human existence to the point I became would become so ugly on the inside.
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 11/17/2008 11:52:00 AM
Well said Miss Saph!
As an example? My younger bro passed away just a couple of weeks ago. He had no insurance. Being the oldest of 8, and not all of the 8 getting along, things were way more difficult than they needed to be. We all got through it though. All during this entire event, I got hugs from family and friends. But oh, what I wouldn't have given to have had that special someone to come to, have him enfold me in his arms and to just be there. Heck, he wouldn't even have had to have talked. Just knowing I was loved by him and that he cared about what I was going through would have been sufficient. And no, I am not talking just sex here either. The gals know what I mean...
 moraima
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Posted: 11/17/2008 12:14:14 PM
Mae It is the word crave that I have a problem with. "...it's very normal to crave physical touch. "

Sure I would enjoy physical contact with the right person, but I don't crave it, as it isn't something that I am going to lose sleep over. I just don't think it makes sense to crave things I can't have right now, and may never have again.

"When I stop feeling those emotions than you might as well bury me."

Well, I am sure glad that I can live a happy, fun filled life without a partner. It will take a lot more than not being part of a couple for me to want to be dead.
 atsomepoint
Joined: 10/3/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 12:16:12 PM
There are some of the guys too that know what you mean. It's not just a gal thing, it's a human thing.
 atsomepoint
Joined: 10/3/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 12:19:46 PM

Well, I am sure glad that I can live a happy, fun filled life without a partner.


Yes we all know. So why is it you are on a dating sight again?
 moraima
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Posted: 11/17/2008 12:21:01 PM
"I hope I die before I become so bitter and withdrawn that I would say I no long want a physical touch"

So unnecessarily dramatic.

There is a big difference between being happy and functional in life without a partner, and being bitter and withdrawn.

The friends I will be joining next week in Cuba would laugh at the thought that I am bitter and withdrawn. While on the subject of Cuba, I remember one day at a fest and it was very chilly for Cuba that day. The men ended up outside playing games, and the women stayed indoors. We spent the day brushing each others hair, and sitting around chatted cuddled up and holding hands. This isn't anything to do with being interested sexually in other women. It is everything to do with a touchy loving society. Too bad most NA people don't touch each other as much as they should. My Canadian friends never meet and leave each other without kissing and hugging.
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 11/17/2008 12:35:12 PM

Yes we all know. So why is it you are on a dating sight again?


All due respect Mr. Atsome? This is not strictly a dating site hun. One can be here for many reasons!
 atsomepoint
Joined: 10/3/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 12:47:41 PM
Yes, I know. There are many, many reasons.

No disrespect intended.

Sorry, back to topic at hand.
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 11/17/2008 12:50:56 PM
Well Mr. Atsome? If I figure out what the reason is for my being here I will be ahead of the game.

OT: Now c'mere and let me give you a great big hug!!!
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 1:02:08 PM

The friends I will be joining next week in Cuba would laugh at the thought that I am bitter and withdrawn


I guess I am confused about when this thread became about you again? And since you took ownership of that statement I guess I would have to say if it was you I was applying it to then it would be based on the SIDE of you I see from the posting that you do!

I was making a statement about my life, that passion is a big part of it...I would prefer not to live without that TYPE of passion in my life...having a group of women do my hair will never feel the same as when my husband used to...or the soft caresses of his hand on my cheek...or the looks into my eyes that made time stand still.

If you prefer to cut yourself off from that, it is your personal choice and one I wouldnt want to try and understand cause it goes against so many different cords inside of me.

Life is made to be lived, another person in your life will never make your life complete...you need to be complete first...but the right person in your life can make your life take on more vivid colors, you can feel completely different when you are in "love" with someone and not in love with love.

Everyone has the right to be what they want in life but when you continually try to make each thread about your superior way of life by not needing or wanting a member of the opposite sex it has stated to sounds like dribble.
 Phoebe48
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Posted: 11/17/2008 1:03:04 PM
Like others, I've read somewhere that touching and hugging is good for our health. Touching is as important as a healthy diet and exercise. And, I've been feeling like crap lately........



I damned sure do miss what a man brings to the equation.* sigh*.

Friends and family can help me feel better with a hug. But, here's one girl who isn't in denial. I know from experience that a man can add a whole 'nuther dimension to the physical touch.

Ms. Moon........I've pretty much kicked Santa to the curb. My "being nice" days are almost over and I'm thinking " being naughty" is the way to go. if they don't bury me first!!!!
 Libby333
Joined: 5/26/2008
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Posted: 11/17/2008 1:16:09 PM

Too bad most NA people don't touch each other as much as they should. My Canadian friends never meet and leave each other without kissing and hugging.


Well I come from a large demonstrative Irish Catholic family and quite frankly I can't imagine life without hugs and kisses and demonstrable acts of affection. I can also say that my North American friends never leave without kissing and hugging either. Perhaps it's a regional thing?
 girldiver
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Posted: 11/17/2008 1:22:36 PM
I'm not going to make any bones about it: I'm here to find a real relationship that involves the physical aspect of it. Forums are fun, getting laid would be easy, but the touch of the lover is the prize.
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