| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/24/2009 10:13:10 AM | what she did before you is none of your concern really.....some are very sexual and others are not...she tried it and it wasn't for her. do not judge, have you ever done anything you were ashamed of? give her a break and if you like her then totally accept her..
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/24/2009 2:18:59 PM | Seriously, 10 men? One word my man: hooker. No woman sleeps with 10 men if she isn't getting paid for it and filmed. Think about it. How often do you just run into groups of 10 guys willing to get naked in front of one another and potentially rub uglies with their buddies, even in Vegas? It would make for some interesting water cooler conversations back at work, that is for sure.
So now that we've thought about what this scenario really describes, you are faced with a choice. It all depends on if you're looking for a serious relationship, or a wild, short sexcapade.
If you're looking for someone to marry, the steps you should take immediately are: 1) exercise knee, and 2) kick to curb.
If you just want to get laid, stay with her and try to tag some of her friends. God knows she's going to be sleeping with your's.
Don't get her pregnant.
Best of luck. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/24/2009 2:57:50 PM | | OP, my ex told me something similar where her and 2 friends took these 3 guys home from the bar and they decided to all switch off on one another. Now I'm definitely no angel either, but I feel for you because you didn't need to hear that. It questioned how serious of a person she was from that point on. I knew she was a slut before me, but not that big of a slut. Now that we are broken up and still "friends", even though she claims she is out of that stage and "mature" I found out she is still ****ing multiple people at once including myself. So basically, CAN'T TURN A WHORE INTO A HOUSEWIFE!!! | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/24/2009 5:07:36 PM | | Sooo, let me see if I've got this right - you can sleep with 3 women in one night and you're a stud, whereas she exorcises the same freedom as you and she's a slut. Dude, they could have really used some of you guys during the Inquisition. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/24/2009 8:03:41 PM | @ Rogue Saint
Said: "you can sleep with 3 women in one night and you're a stud, whereas she exorcises the same freedom as you and she's a slut"
Response: No, both individuals are still sluts. Now, the question is where the two see the relationship going. Is the final goal one you can imagine this person being able to fulfill? If the OP is looking for an easy lay, and nothing much more serious, then by all means, continue the relationship.
If he's looking for a woman to take home to meet mother, then maybe he'd better put some serious thought into this. He isn't going to be able to forget the fact that this woman slept with 10 guys at once, it hit him hard enough that he posted it here. That's going to be a major hurdle later on in the relationship. Nothing against the girl, or her actions, but it's already bothering him, and it isn't going to stop doing so. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/24/2009 8:09:43 PM |
I recently started seeing a woman who admitted to having an orgy with 3-4 men the last time she visited Las Vegas.
3 to 4 men?? that's not an orgy .........where I come from when people do that it's called a gang-bang. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/24/2009 9:14:37 PM | | Call it whatever you like, but it's still reeks of archaic christian double standard. We all have the choice to explore our sexuality as we will. Exactly what need does it fulfill to call others derogatory, if antiquated, names? And what is the exact number of partners one can have before the 'slut law' goes into effect? | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/24/2009 11:13:28 PM |
Call it whatever you like, but it's still reeks of archaic christian double standard. We all have the choice to explore our sexuality as we will. Exactly what need does it fulfill to call others derogatory, if antiquated, names? And what is the exact number of partners one can have before the 'slut law' goes into effect?
Sorry, I have to agree also, a male stud is still a 'slut' it may be a different word but it still means the same thing..... And to be honest, the last few times I heard anyone use the term "stud" other than in high school (which we've all grown out of...) it was being used as an insult also.....
Sure we can all explore our sexuality to whatever degree we want....(for that matter, we could all explore Heroin to whatevr degree we want to, or alcohol.... or whatever.... - doesn't matter.....) but then, people who do, shouldn't **** because other's don't want them..... They made those choices and shouldn't whine if they turn out to be bad choices....
And there is no slut law... it's just whatever the other person decides.... just as you might decide you don't want a car with too many miles/years on it or how it was driven, you may decide you don't want a woman who has had too many men on her.... or how she was driven... No one makes you 'choose' a specific mileage or age for a car... you just go with what you feel comfortable with.... same with the number of men your partner has been with and how they drove her....
There's always some fool that will buy the junker on the lot.... | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/25/2009 9:39:48 AM | | People should be free to explore their...'humanity' if you will, without fear of judgment and reprisal. But of course I will add the caveat that 'as long as it doesn't harm another.' I think that should fall to everyone. But you're correct - you picks your theory and makes your choice. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/25/2009 2:57:41 PM |
Msg: 222 -- Wait, so it's okay if she totally allowed herself to be
manipulated sexually through emotional blackmail, but not okay if
she's consciously exploring her sexuality? That strikes me as a rather
twisted view.
My personal view is that a woman is not accountable for what she does
out of her love for her man. The blame lies with the man who imposed a
given requirement upon her.
HOWEVER, if she CHOOSES an engagement that I find repulsive, it then
becomes her CHOICE which causes me to revile her.
I ABHOR multiple partner arrangements. So, if a woman has CHOSEN such
an arrangement she becomes undesirable to me. HOWEVER, if she did such
a thing to satisfy a man she LOVED, and ONLY for THAT reason, she
becomes appealing simply because more important factors come into
play.
Msg: 223 -- Starregazer....you are a little too uptite and easily
offended to be in this particular thread, if you cant wrap your mind
around this....dont jump in when the title says its about an orgy.
I jump in any time I wish. You ARE correct, however, I DO find orgies
and multiple partners to be offensive. Personally, I prefer one-on-one
arrangements, but the REASON I jumped in here is because it involved a
discussion regarding a woman's LOVE.
But I'll revise to include you anyway.....MOST guys would have no problem jumping in with 3 willing women. I agree, "MOST guys" would. However, I may be the "freak" among you. I want ONLY one, and my requirements regarding HER are QUITE stringent.
And to say the only way a woman would do such a thing is if she was
forced also shows you are too narrow minded for this
I won't argue this point. I freely admit that I am QUITE narrow-minded when it concerns my sexual preferences. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/25/2009 3:03:52 PM |
My personal view is that a woman is not accountable for what she does
out of her love for her man. The blame lies with the man who imposed a
given requirement upon her.
So women aren't responsible for CHOOSING to capitulate to the requests of the men they're dating? Somehow, I think that argument would never hold up in court if they were "required" to commit crimes for a mate. A woman can always choose to say no, and wouldn't you prefer to date a woman who won't do things she doesn't feel are right for her?
Personally, I have a great deal more respect for people who take responsibility for their own actions than those who put that responsibility onto others. Someone who blames a partner for sexual situations to which they agreed is refusing to admit their participation is such an act, and who knows what else they'll refuse to take responsibility for? | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/25/2009 3:10:39 PM | I think not, her past is her past and its nothing she can change or take back right. If your really interested in this girl let it all go and start afresh now. Be grateful she took the time share this experience with you and thats that really.
Anyways all the best. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/25/2009 3:14:14 PM | | I don't understand this whole concept. If you aren't in a commited relationship, then what does it matter what you do sexually as long as you are being safe and don't have any diseases? A persons behavior when they are single and not committed doesn't have any bearing on their actions when they are committed. I've never undertsood that "can't turn a ho into a housewife" thing for just that reason. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/25/2009 3:40:10 PM | | Different things turn different people on,that is what makes the world go around. I am currently am having sex with a women who has had several partners. I encourage her to go out to find new partners. We are planning on attending a gangbang where she will do in excess of 20 guys. I can't wait to watch her in action. We all make our own choices. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/25/2009 3:57:20 PM |
Msg: 241 -- So women aren't responsible for CHOOSING to capitulate to
the requests of the men they're dating?
I won't go so far as to say THAT, but LOVE is a FAR better excuse than
anything else I can think of for a woman to do something offensive.
Somehow, I think that argument would never hold up in court if they
were "required" to commit crimes for a mate.
I could care LESS for what holds up in court. I prefer to have NOTHING
to do with LEGAL arrangements regarding my emotional life. ANY woman
will do what I wish BECAUSE of her love for me or FAIL to do so
because of her lack thereof. That is all I care for, and legalities be
d@mned.
A woman can always choose to say no, and wouldn't you prefer to date a
woman who won't do things she doesn't feel are right for her?
A woman in love is UNABLE to say "NO" to the man whom she loves. And
as for preferences regarding a date, the Dating Stage is FAR too early
to determine the state of the relationship. A romantic relationship
BEGINS with one partner loving the other and SOLIDIFIES when the other
partner reciprocates that love. IDEALLY, the end result is that BOTH
partners do what they can to satisfy each other.
Personally, I have a great deal more respect for people who take
responsibility for their own actions than those who put that
responsibility for their own actions than those who put that
responsibility onto others.
If you will CAREFULLY review what I have posted, you will note that
**I** have ASSIGNED responsibility. Again, I have given NO
consideration to whatever blame the woman may have placed on herself.
Someone who blames a partner for sexual situations to which they
agreed is refusing to admit their participation is such an act, and
who knows what else they'll refuse to take responsibility for?
I place no blame on anyone but myself. I assess the facts as I see
them. As such, **I** take responsibility for the decision that I make.
The success or failure of ANY relationship that I assume DEPENDS on
ME
Msg: 244 -- Different things turn different people on,that is what
makes the world go around. I am currently am having sex with a women
who has had several partners. I encourage her to go out to find new
partners. We are planning on attending a gangbang where she will do in
excess of 20 guys. I can't wait to watch her in action. We all make
our own choices.
This procedure seems to have the possibility of endearing you to her.
Were she mine, she would succeed only in ALIENATING me from her.
JMHO
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/25/2009 4:47:31 PM |
ANY woman
will do what I wish BECAUSE of her love for me or FAIL to do so
because of her lack thereof.
So a partner who fails to do what you wish is proving a lack of love for you? Interesting. Where does that end, or does that apply to anything you might wish, no matter how outlandish?
A woman in love is UNABLE to say "NO" to the man whom she loves.
If she's codependent, sure. I'd hope that most grown-ups are able to look out for their own interests as well, make sure that their own needs are being met, etc. I'm pretty sure this rationale is also used by abusers. I'm perfectly well able to say no to a partner if he requests something of me that I'm unable or unwilling to do, especially if it would hurt me to do it, and I expect that same assertiveness from anyone I'm in a relationship with. As far as I'm concerned, that's part of being a grown-up. Love is important, absolutely, but there are other important factors as well. If I can't take care of myself and make sure I'm being the best person I can be, what sort of partner would I be to anyone no matter how much I loved him? | |
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Posted: 6/25/2009 6:05:46 PM |
Different things turn different people on,that is what makes the world go around. I am currently am having sex with a women who has had several partners. I encourage her to go out to find new partners. We are planning on attending a gangbang where she will do in excess of 20 guys. I can't wait to watch her in action. We all make our own choices.
I noticed you didn't say you were in love with this woman, nor did you say you were in a relationship.... you just said you're having sex with her...
At the sam time, you're on a dating site looking for a woman to date....
So I guess for you, she's still not good enough?
And this seems to be one of the big differences, men may not have issues with what women did in the past, but they still don't seem to want those women to settle down with .... | |
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Posted: 6/25/2009 7:24:55 PM | I would have to pose a question to you. Does her being w/ 1 man or 10 men, prior to you, make her less of the person you were attracted to? Does she suddenly possess LESS of the qualities you have come to admire about her? Is she now a crazed wild woman that you can never trust again-because of something she did B4 U?
This is the part to really listen to-can you live with someone that has had a past -at all. Or are you truly wanting a virgin-if so, you know what you need to do. Consider the values that you are seeking, those that you, yourself possess and place yourself in the same situation that she was in. (Exchanging the men for women of course)
Most men WANT 2 women-3 if they could handle it. She may be more multi-talented then you had 1st had any idea of. Take what she has told you, embrace it and learn from it-Heck-think of it this way-if she can multitask w 3-4 men-you should be having freakin fireworks if it was all devoted exclusively to you.
Best of luck to you both. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/25/2009 10:19:44 PM |
I would have to pose a question to you. Does her being w/ 1 man or 10 men, prior to you, make her less of the person you were attracted to?
It might.... who knows what she might have been without those experiences...
Well, does it make her more of the person you were atracted to...? Not likely...
Does she suddenly possess LESS of the qualities you have come to admire about her? Well, if one of those qualities was that before, she didn't seem like a slut, yeah, maybe....
Take what she has told you, embrace it and learn from it-Heck-think of it this way-if she can multitask w 3-4 men-you should be having freakin fireworks if it was all devoted exclusively to you.
Unless her idea of multitasking is to lie there like a heap of meat as she gets pounded at each orifice.... Since I prefer a one-one relationship, the last thing I would want is someone who prefers 'multitasking'....
And maybe now, she's decided that she needs 3-4 guys to get her off... maybe she won't be happy with just one from now on.... | |
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