| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 11:28:13 AM | So you ALL hold back a laugh? Good for you, glad you took a poll to make sure it was ALL of you, otherwise I'd think you were a pompous ass.
and you think i care what you think ...
i thought just as you do ...when i was 19 years old ....and at that time i was a male slag also ...but I grew up and realized that whatever i called the women I was with ..reflected right back on me
I am not the person I once was ..and the things a woman has done in the past does not define what she has/will become ...If she is trash for participating in something that I did ...i am trash for doing it also
if she is a slag for pulling a train that i am in ..then i am a slag for riding that train ..its simple
i cant expect more than ..i can give
im not looking for confirmation or a relationship either ...just self respect ...and by no means respect from you
like everyone my respect for myself does not hinge on what I have done in my past ...it hinges on how i treat people from this day till the day I die... i care not what you respect
unless she thought it was going to rear its ugly little head later or she wanted to see your reaction actually some people deal with guilt by confession ...ask millions of Catholics | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 11:37:56 AM | | it all depends on the kind of person u are, put yourself in her shoes, lets say one day you were kinda drunk, three beautiful women came to you and you had an orgy with them, would u want women to discriminate against you just because you had an orgy with three or more girls? | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 11:39:32 AM |
Everyone has a past........some really good things and some I'm sure we would never want anyone to know about.
But it's the differences in pasts that make us who we are too.
I have a friend who was just divorced by his wife of decades. She was his only sex partner so far. As far as I know, she's only ever been with him.
I personally have been with a lot of women.
I wouldn't expect him to see another person's past the same way I do. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 11:42:21 AM |
I am not the person I once was ..and the things a woman has done in the past does not define what she has/will become
Sorry, you can't use that argument. It's been killed by all the people who when justifying a colourful past have said "It's her past experiences that have made her the woman she is..." or something similar.... | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 11:42:35 AM | It's good to see some posters share their opinion, it tells you which of the people here are projecting their own insecurities on people who have nothing to do with them, but rather just asked a question.
If you want someone who's never been anywhere, then by all means walk away from anyone who tells you they've dated someone before you, so that you can be sure you're all set. But if you stay, then stay with a clean slate, or don't waste someone else's time.
Who cares what someone does or where they've been unless it involves your health? Getting tested properly (which we should all be doing anyway with a new person) basically addresses the issue of STD. Beyond that what's the big deal? Methinks a lot here who are up in arms about this are because they're reminded of some crazy thing they did and it's hitting close to home. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 11:44:33 AM |
...If she is trash for participating in something that I did ...i am trash for doing it also
Hence your willingness to overlook and accept it. I agree. The guys that run trains on a girl are always the type of guys that get off on degrading a woman. A woman who allows it is mentally unstable and has serious self-respect issues. A woman who enjoys it is simply undesirable to a decent man. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 11:45:49 AM |
If it's much easier for you to make fun of me than to consider I might be right then so be it.
It's because you make them uncomfortable in their cozy little worlds. Your posts have a darker side than most people want to think about. They'd love to pretend the world and people are not like you have posted. People don't like to have their noses rubbed in things that make them uncomfortable. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 11:52:59 AM | Sorry, you can't use that argument. It's been killed by all the people who when justifying a colourful past have said "It's her past experiences that have made her the woman she is..." or something similar....
Im sorry I can use that arguement ..they are stating their opinion ..just like me ....theirs is not the Gospel ..and mine either
we all have experiences in life ..some are better people because of their experiences, some are worse ...some are better people because of their lack of experiences,some are worse
its all what you learn from your experiencing or lack there of ...every day can be a new beginning or we can repeat the past ...its not what we have done ..its what we do with it
I'm not concerned with justifying my past ...I have put it in its place ...the past ..I'm not proud of my past ...im not ashamed either ..it is what it is ..i am proud of who I am now | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 11:57:21 AM | Methinks a lot here who are up in arms about this are because they're reminded of some crazy thing they did and it's hitting close to home.
I've done some wild stuff in my past and I'm also ashamed of it. I was young and stupid.
Beyond that what's the big deal?
What's the big deal?
It almost cost me the greatest guy I've ever met. His reaction was not good. It's not a big deal if the guy you fall in love with down the road of life is ok with it. But it sure as hell is a big deal if he's not.
I feel bad that I've done things that he hasn't done, and even hypocritically, I wouldn't want him to have done those things either!
I feel bad that there are guys out there telling dirty stories and making jokes about me and what I've done with them. I can't change what I did, but I sure as hell wish I was as smart then as I thought I was.
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 11:59:25 AM | If it was a mistake...which i don't see how and I really liked her then yes I'd have a relationship with her.
I would never go out with a woman who has been with another woman. Anything other than that really wouldn't bother me. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:00:53 PM |
The guys that run trains on a girl are always the type of guys that get off on degrading a woman.
Very true. It's not a thing a decent guy as you put it would do or would want to do.
A woman who allows it is mentally unstable and has serious self-respect issues. A woman who enjoys it is simply undesirable to a decent man.
Sometimes it's simply that the woman has been manuipulated and/or doesn't make smart decisions.
What you enjoyed in the past sometimes becomes your worst moments of bitter memories.
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:04:29 PM | | I would not date her if she was really with 3 at a time...that is just crazy..Now I might date her if she had over 100 ex lovers all in one on one encounters, but as far as her being with 3 all at the same time that sounds very suspect to me...as if she was compensated or maybe those 3 should be rotting in jail...something just sounds wrong here. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:09:36 PM | Sorry, you can't use that argument. It's been killed by all the people who when justifying a colourful past have said "It's her past experiences that have made her the woman she is..." or something similar....
Not to put too fine a point on it, but one's past experiences are what makes everyone who he or she is. That ought to be self-evident. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:19:04 PM |
Sometimes it's simply that the woman has been manuipulated and/or doesn't make smart decisions.
If I were to rule someone out because of her past, it would be because she couldn't accept responsibility for her own decisions. I'd rather have a woman who takes responsibility for what she does. I'd rather not date someone who might keep getting ``manipulated'' in order to go out and act irresponsibly. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:31:07 PM | Should I allow this incident to prevent me from pursuing more of a relationship with this woman?
No and don't lay a guilt trip on her about it either. She has no reason to be embarrassed. Anyone who wants to get the most out of life and who is the least bit curious, will hve led an interesting life. The fact that she's up front about something that could might cause a problem is a plus. The only thing you have to fear is your own insecurity. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:41:50 PM |
actually some people deal with guilt by confession ...ask millions of Catholics
Well, lets just bring church into the sex and dating forums........good grief. I'm sure they aren't planning on having an intimate relationship with their pastor when they confess. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:43:40 PM | | I think whats even more disturbing about all this is that she didnt even know how many d!cks were in the room, she had to guess 3-4. She was obviously enjoying herself way to much to care and probably now does this every Monday after Prison Break. Or did she mean 3 1/2, like 3 regular guys and a midget? | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:49:26 PM | What happens in the past should be learned from and left in the past. IF it is not going to ruin my health then why do I need to know about it.. Still 3 people at one time shows a lack of self respect, if she can not respect herself then she will "Never" respect you. I think you should run away from her as soon as possible. Yes tell her it is okay, but then leave afterwards..That will teach her that for every action there is a reaction.. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:49:34 PM |
What is the qualitative difference between having had sex with 3 men at once and having had sex with 3 men separately?
I would be willing to say how many**** inside her at one time..........but who am I to say. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:51:17 PM | "What is the qualitative difference between having had sex with 3 men at once and having had sex with 3 men separately?"
About the same as you trying to stuff 3 chipolte burritos in your mouth at once instead of eating them one at a time. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:54:35 PM | 3 entering her at once...versus dating one then taking a shower afterwards...Something is wrong here..there is a difference... 3 at once..nothing surprises me anymore because society has this I did not mean to do it but I did it anyway attitude.. I would respect her more if she did not feel guilty and enjoyed the heck out of the experience.. her feeling guilty sends up a major red flag to me..if you feel something is wrong but you do it anyway..come on now., | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 1:04:33 PM | Well, lets just bring church into the sex and dating forums........good grief. I'm sure they aren't planning on having an intimate relationship with their pastor when they confess.
i was not briging church into a sex forum i was using an example that is well known ..I am not catholic and not religious ...ive just heard they do a lot of confessing .Its usually accepted that many younger people deal with guilt by confessing their trasgressions ..even if they are just impure thoughts ...most of us older people are not admitting to anything that can be used against us ..especially guys ...I made that mistake one time ..i told my wife when we were first married that her cousin turned me on ...28 years later it is still brought up periodically...and that cousin now weighs 350 lbs and has not taken any sort of care of herself ...the fact that she one time turned my head is now irrelevant but one would think I had hit on her | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 1:36:38 PM |
"actually some people deal with guilt by confession ...ask millions of Catholics"
Well, lets just bring church into the sex and dating forums........good grief.
Lots of people bring the Church and all those rules to this place, Kirota. Deerdog is not one of them, and in every post of his that I have read, there is either some transcending wisdom, or humor, or both. Perhaps you are to0 recent a visitor, but you could check his post history.
OP- I am envious of your opportunities to speak with this lady, as she has done things I have not yet done, and evidently you likewise lack some experience. Perhaps, even indubitably, there is more to this woman than you have shared, and that she has shared with you. Whether she has committed the sin of honesty, or the sin of confession (j/k, Dog), I recommend that you embrace both her and them. She has been had by the many, and now chooses you, AND confides in you. There is no greater flattery. | |
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