| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/21/2008 9:59:57 AM |
for all I know men who go on and on about this stuff are making it up to impress their friends.
you may have a good point there-- though I'm not too sure about the types of men that would be 'impressed' by these tales of random sex acts.
I'm sure there are many, but I'm not one of them..guess that's why I don't understand so many men.. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/21/2008 10:29:26 AM |
The ego factor is much bigger for men in bed, or at least it always has been in my social circle and region.
There's truth there. Probably party due to it being so much more difficult to bring a woman to orgasm than a man. As a result, a woman can be a good lover, with much less effort than it takes for a man.
I've been in the situation of not being able to bring a partner to orgasm, yet some of her past lovers had managed. Not the best feeling in the world...
Imagine how it would be for you if you were unable to bring your partner to orgasm yet he'd managed in the past with other ladies... don't you think that would affect your ego too? | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/21/2008 10:31:03 AM |
but I do think there are more repeats than not from women who've done it because to them, it's not that big a deal to do it again with different men
This is where an attitude that sex is casual leads to it being no big deal anymore... | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/21/2008 10:36:20 AM |
There's truth there. Probably party due to it being so much more difficult to bring a woman to orgasm than a man. As a result, a woman can be a good lover, with much less effort than it takes for a man.
I don't know about any of this, but then again I don't expect my partners to give me orgasms, that's sort of my responsibility.
I've been in the situation of not being able to bring a partner to orgasm, yet some of her past lovers had managed. Not the best feeling in the world...
Yeah, again - I don't demand this of others.
Imagine how it would be for you if you were unable to bring your partner to orgasm yet he'd managed in the past with other ladies... don't you think that would affect your ego too?
I'd expect him own it, just as I own mine, and expect him to tell me why he think's it's not happening - hey - if I can orgasm alone, I can orgasm with a partner providing I was actually interested in him, and vice versa. I tend to own my sexuality tho since it belongs to me, just as I do the rest of my life. I never blame anything I go thru on anyone else, nor do I expect people to blame their bodily functions on me.
This is where an attitude that sex is casual leads to it being no big deal anymore...
Maybe specifically for those women, but not for everyone everywhere. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/21/2008 10:38:08 AM | There were two questions presented here.
1) "Should I allow this incident to prevent me from pursuing more of a relationship with this woman?"
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2) "Would you date someone who had an orgy with 3+ men."
my answers:
1) I have no idea. If it is going to bother you, if there is a little movie that is going to play in your head every time you have sex with this woman, then you should end things.To do otherwise would be unfair to BOTH of you.
2) Yes i would. I am sure there are many qualifiers that would shade my answer depending on
all of the little details forum questions like this can not possibly cover, but that would be my answer with all of the data you presented.
All of the things added by other posters are assumptions in their minds. Was she drunk ? Was she
getting paid ? Does she have any self-respect? Did the men have at her at the same time or did they line up and take a number ? Are her parents proud of her ? (Who the hell talks about sex acts with their PARENTS ???) Did all of the males involved get off "degrading" her ? The OP didn't fill in those blanks, did he? We all seem to have such interesting Monsters under the bed, yes ?
As for the warnings about STDs. Would she be more "dangerous" than a 27 year old woman
who had only slept with one man her entire life? What if that one man regularly, and unknown to her, hired Homosexual Haitian Hookers who were IV Drug users ? Testing is wise no matter what a new partners back story might be. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/22/2008 6:52:19 AM | I want someone who has lived life a little and has sown some wild oats. They know what they want and are generally not looking to settle
A person can know what they want without having to engage in nasty orgy's. And although many people dont know this but for a woman to have sex with many different men can and has caused cancer. Its got something to do with too many diffrent kinds of sperm or soemthing. I read this yrs ago out of a medical book or soemthing. I cant really remember. But I never forgot it. A person who has sex with many at same time is not an upstanding person and If I were a man looking for a long term partner well it wouild not be a woman who has participated in an orgy or two. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/22/2008 6:54:21 AM |
Would you date someone who had an orgy with 3+ men."
my answers:
1) I have no idea. If it is going to bother you, if there is a little movie that is going to play in your head every time you have sex with this woman,
In my own case, I've actually seen a few of those little movies play out in real life. After seeing a slag gettting boned by a group of guys you realise just how disgusting it looks. It's all wet, sweaty and noisy. The guys look either embarrassed or stupid or weird almost angry. Most of the time they're laughing at her behind her back. The slag's got sweat and cum all over her, messy hair and doesn't really look either sexy or comfortable. Especially the overweight ones. Think of piggies!
The guys often get off on degrading the slag. If not to herself, but afterwards. No one I know has ever repected a slag after a group session. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/22/2008 7:58:57 AM |
The guys often get off on degrading the slag.
I have no respect for men like that. In fact, if I ever had an employee who had that sort of attitude about women, I'd fire him. I have no tolerance for hypocrisy or misogyny. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/22/2008 8:02:26 AM |
(NF) It never ceases to amaze me how many people will only listen long enough to get it completely wrong.
Most men do NOT want a woman who will "do anything sexually"; they want a woman who will do anything sexually... WITH THEM.
Why the issue of exclusivity is such a hard one to grasp for some people, I dunno. I mean, it's not like it's rocket surgery, or brain science...
(djchickie401) No, it's the all men want a sexually experienced virgin theory.
I never figured you for a "Tell men what they MUST want!", dj. I always thought you were one of those women who was willing to listen to what men actually, you know, SAY.  | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/22/2008 9:00:27 AM |
In fact, if I ever had an employee who had that sort of attitude about women,
Ummm where did that statement come from?
We're talking about group sex. Do your employees have group sex? Like hell, I know some companies have decent Group Benefit plans but I had no idea.... Damn.... (walks away impressed all to hell....) | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/22/2008 9:13:55 AM |
There's truth there. Probably party due to it being so much more difficult to bring a woman to orgasm than a man. As a result, a woman can be a good lover, with much less effort than it takes for a man.
yet more sweeping generalizations..this statement MIGHT be more accurate if you said it's more difficult to bring SOME women to orgasm, than SOME men..
it's not all that difficult for a good lover to bring his woman to orgasm..maybe you should brush up a bit, consider using your fingers, tongue & imagination a bit more, rather than just your 'awesome man-tool'? | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/22/2008 9:28:40 AM | They were speaking in terms of aggregate numbers I'm sure, in which case it's a perfect valid statement. It's a simple evolutionary adaptation. Men reaching orgasm is absolutely necessary for reproduction whereas women reaching orgasm is helpful in doing so, but by no means required. Thus it's not surprising that men get there with less aggregate effort overall.
Re the OP: That's not something I could be ok with. I've got fairly broad allowances for what's acceptable but being triple teamed or more is beyond them. I mean if this were an actual orgy with everyone doing everyone, I'd be puzzled as to what the deal was with these guys, but could possibly be more understanding of it. This wasn't an orgy however, it was a gangbang and that's a step or two beyond what one can do and still expect a relationship with me. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/22/2008 9:45:04 AM |
this statement MIGHT be more accurate if you said it's more difficult to bring SOME women to orgasm, than SOME men..
True, but you're arguing small details....
it's not all that difficult for a good lover to bring his woman to orgasm
Not entirely true, perhaps if you had more expeirence, you'd know that.... LOL
I've met women who's responses have ranged from orgasm from a kiss to never having achieved one with anybody....
My own G/F is very difficult to work with as she has a lot of issues related to past sexual experiences that she feels ashamed of...(similar to the topic) | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/22/2008 10:31:09 AM | ^^
does she have an issue with being your "G/F" while you are on POF, a "hot guy looking for a hot girl" ? :P
lol.
sure, ..believe it or not, men can also have 'sexual pasts' (e.g. abuse as a child..) that make it difficult for them to orgasm..
but I don't have your vast experience and knowledge..sorry | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/22/2008 12:41:56 PM | | The past does matter. There's plenty of skanks on here to bang. The woman you want to spend you life with won't have 20 sex partners and 2somes or moresomes. From my experience on this site, most women don't have good morals. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/22/2008 1:53:00 PM | I never figured you for a "Tell men what they MUST want!", dj. I always thought you were one of those women who was willing to listen to what men actually, you know, SAY.
My bad, let me correct that. It's a "men that want a sexually experienced woman theory"
Fixed. Carry on.
It's a simple evolutionary adaptation. Men reaching orgasm is absolutely necessary for reproduction whereas women reaching orgasm is helpful in doing so, but by no means required. Thus it's not surprising that men get there with less aggregate effort overall.
So you're saying a woman who doesn't want kids can therefore render her partner's orgasm as not required? Cool.
The past does matter. There's plenty of skanks on here to bang. The woman you want to spend you life with won't have 20 sex partners and 2somes or moresomes.
You hope. I guess based on this thread, you could but never know about it - I mean look what happens when you do tell someone about it.
From my experience on this site, most women don't have good morals.
It's a good thing you don't bother with any then. If you were trying to date some, that would be a lost cause. Oh wait, your profile says you are. That's odd. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/22/2008 2:17:34 PM |
The past does matter. There's plenty of skanks on here to bang. The woman you want to spend you life with won't have 20 sex partners and 2somes or moresomes. From my experience on this site, most women don't have good morals.
Takes one to know one, me thinks.......The woman the OP is referring to openly admitted to having an orgy "once" , most women wouldn't be so open, so when you meet someone who appears to be 'non skanky' because she tells you that she has only had 1 or 2 sexual partners, how do you really know??....my point is, it's very easy to judge and label people because of their past, but isn't who they are today, the person you interact with, the way to make an accurate assessment as to whether they are right for you or not.... | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/22/2008 2:24:39 PM | as long as proper protection were used by all parties involved in said orgy, then who would I be to judge a woman who has enjoyed herself sexually in the past. now if she has some diseases, then probably not, but if shes D&D free still then sure would.   | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/23/2008 12:41:24 AM | I just had a guy friend tell me tonight...
Everyone wants to ride the roller coaster,
but not everyone can hold theirs when they're on it...
This was in response to the question I asked him about men wanting freaks and then losing respect for the women they think they re lookin for.  | |
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