| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/23/2008 5:28:21 AM |
So you're saying a woman who doesn't want kids can therefore render her partner's orgasm as not required? Cool.
I might have known someone would find a way to take what I said out of context in the interests of being contentious... What I was saying was that it's not surprising if you take a long-term evolutionary perspective that men take less total effort to reach orgasm than women. I was in no way implying that it's not something you need to put in the effort for in the context of a relationship or in any way denigrating the need for mutual satisfaction in the bedroom between the people in said relationship. But, in all honesty, I think we both already knew that's what I was saying. Next time I suppose I'll include a small disclaimer to prevent this sort of silliness but somehow I've got the feeling you'll conveniently miss that part too...  | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/23/2008 8:50:15 AM | | Well we all make mistakes, but a mistake is I picked up a guy in the bar, took him home and never seen him again. This is WAAAAY bigger than that. Personally I would really have to say this isn't the first time she has done something like this, it's probably not going to be the last. Before long she's going to try and get you to accept other men joining in, it will be the only way she can get off. I would really consider everything before you get into anything serious with her, but the fact that you posted this makes it very clear what you should do. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/23/2008 9:37:47 AM |
I might have known someone would find a way to take what I said out of context in the interests of being contentious... What I was saying was that it's not surprising if you take a long-term evolutionary perspective that men take less total effort to reach orgasm than women. I was in no way implying that it's not something you need to put in the effort for in the context of a relationship or in any way denigrating the need for mutual satisfaction in the bedroom between the people in said relationship. But, in all honesty, I think we both already knew that's what I was saying. Next time I suppose I'll include a small disclaimer to prevent this sort of silliness but somehow I've got the feeling you'll conveniently miss that part too...
It was a joke.... | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/23/2008 10:07:36 AM | Why oh Why do people feel the need to blab this stuff?
Honesty isn't all it's cracked up to be sometimes!
Sometimes things are just nobodys business but your own.
OP.......if u think u can get passed it.......and by that I mean never mention it again....even in an arguement.....then a past "mistake" shouldn't be an issue.
But if it will only be fuel to add to a fire in the future....do yourselves both a favor and move on. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/23/2008 2:08:26 PM |
Why oh Why do people feel the need to blab this stuff?
The reason is that it's better to get this stuff out in the open rather than have it come back on you later on in life. I told my B/F about what I have done. He wasn't happy, but now, I know that he's not going to find out through anyone else and I think it's better to be honest and let him know.
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/23/2008 5:00:56 PM | still don't agree w/ telling all.
I'm 45 yrs old........I have had alot of past experiences.....some good....some bad
and they are MY past.....and my business.
Sure......I'll share some of my past......but something as personal as a gang bang in Vegas......will only lead to alot of judgement.....alot of questions.......fuel for future arguements.....quite possibly requests to repeat the performance.....trust issues....and seeing my past spread all over POF!!
Some things are on a "Need to know" basis for me. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/23/2008 5:32:02 PM |
but something as personal as a gang bang in Vegas......
Well, as far as I can see, if you can't be open with someone in a long term relationship about your past, then you shouldn't be in a long term relationship....
Keeping things private from a partner is not the way to base a relationship.... | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/24/2008 11:28:21 AM | It wasn't a mistake for me honey! I had it with three men--two black and one white-and let me tell you: I was wetter than a spring rain after all that
I went to look at your profile to see how young you are. After I read it, and the posts you've already posted (all in one day), I came to the conclusion it's a fake posted by a 14 to 16 year old boy by the mentality of it.
If I'm wrong, please correct me. But I'm betting it isn't.
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/29/2008 3:51:02 PM | | Well since she did it prior to meeting you it has no relevance or merit. What she did before you is her business. It should not prevent you from pursuing a relationship with her unless you let it. You probably did some wild things before meeting her too. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/29/2008 5:54:36 PM | are u telling me u r dating a total sex freak and u r complaining about it?
hun, send her to me, i'll take her off ur hands, no problem :)
ever occurred to u she might open u up to n teach u some new things every man should know? | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 12/1/2008 6:24:28 AM | | To the OP. I would make sure she gets tested for everything before I would get "close" to her. Also if you are having to ask the question, then you probably should not continue the relationship. If it were me then I would not continue the relationship, not because she did this, but because she felt the need to tell me. You do not need to know everything as long as your health is not in question here. 3 at once? and she is not a porn star? That just sounds fishy to me. I mean is this someone you could trust down the road? What were her reasons for doing this? If she feels bad about it now? Why did she do it in the first place? Why do people do stuff, then regret it later? That is what I would be worried about, because if you become very close to her, I bet down the road there will be another "by the way I did such and such also". This is why you never mention what goes on in Vegas. Ignorance is bliss. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 12/1/2008 7:22:27 AM | OP, I haven't read all the post here, but I'm sure someone must have said this before. And if someone did, then it bares repeating.
Right or wrong, the fact that you ask the question is a clear indication, in itself, that you are unable to let this go. If you can't bring yourself to let her previous sex life not bother you, then it will (and already has started to) destroy your realtionship ( but not before causing much pain to both of you).
You can't have a succesful realtionship, with this woman or any other woman, unless every day you think of, appreciate and love the pluses that your partner brings to you instead of what YOU may perceive as minuses. So it's time to move on - you don't show signs of being able to do that. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 12/1/2008 9:59:58 AM | ^ And I wouldn't knowingly date a misogynist who just lumped most or all women into the whore categuory, but the way men are these days, you just have to be careful and keep your eyes and ears wide open - they are extremely easy to avoid in my opinion.
Would I date someone who had an orgy with 3+ men (or women if applied to me)?
Depends.
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