| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 6/21/2005 8:03:14 AM | I have been stood up a few times, and even had the men call a few days later and apologize. But if they don't call by the next day atleast, with a good reason, they can forget another chance.
What torqued me off was a guy that had a good reason but didn't call for a week. That was definitly too late to get another chance! | |
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| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 6/22/2005 6:05:20 AM | | I agree, at our age we should be mature enough to call ahead and cancel a date. I have been stood up a couple of times and it seems that it has always happened after I drove a fair distance to meet someone. I understand things come up and sometimes it's unavoidable but if they are a no call...no show..I don't waste my time.. I'm too old to play games and there are plenty of other people out there! | |
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| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 6/22/2005 4:25:15 PM | You have handled this VERY well Rap. It always disappoints me so much when people don't extend you common courtesy.
You have a lot to offer a man who will value and appreciate you, and treat you with the respect you deserve.
Good luck hun, and chin up.
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| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/1/2005 1:16:33 PM | | been there done that many times lol dont let it get you down nice pic on your profile you can do better then the person who stood you up | |
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| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/1/2005 7:21:36 PM | Hi,
I don't understand it myself, I am shy and makes it hard to talk to a woman but if I made a date I would keep it even if I am scared of letting them down or myself. I have only been with 5 woman and I don't have a pick up line so I have to be myself, which is fine. So let it go and find someone who isn't an ass. Just what I've read from you you seem very genuine. Thats the true beauty. Pics not bad either. | |
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| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/2/2005 2:27:54 AM | I was stood up not too long ago. I was meeting her at the restaurant we were supposed to have lunch together at (she is someone local that I met---not off the net). I have given this woman multiple chances and she has blown them just about every time. Then she calls me up days later when she does this stuff all apologetic and stuff (this happened, that happened).
There is always a reason why she is unavailable and hardly ever time to see me. She goes on how much she likes me and doesnt want to drag me into her personal problems. I don't buy it anymore. I am telling her that she either wants to see me (and does) or she doesnt want to (and won't) I have been MORE than patient with her (I have known her for almost a year now). I have not rushed anything with this girl in spite of how much I like her (although the level of attraction has slipped WAY down due to this).
She is 33. I would expect this from a teenager not someone with school age kids.
By the way I haven't been pining away after her. I stopped calling months ago. She calls and says she wants to go out so sometimes we do. It's more like a friends thing anymore. I have given up on her as a dating prospect. Still no excuse to stand me up. She has a cell phone and so do I. She could have called at least. | |
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| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/2/2005 8:31:52 AM | | rap... you sound like an incredibly wonderful woman that a man like that isn't ready for in his life. count your blessings and consider this a favor to you on his part. think of how bad this could have ended had he shown up. you could have become exclusive with a man undeserving of you. now don't make the same mistake again... you get stood up again and you will accept no excuses, right? ;) i would have come over in a hot second and taken his seat at the dinner table for a nice, home cooked, italian meal.(no, i'm not into women) i happen to be italian and find it a shame you went to all that trouble for him not to show his dirty little face. how incredibly rude. | |
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| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/2/2005 10:18:27 AM | | whosyour Totally agree. This man who stood her up will probably end up 50 something, coming home to throw a TV dinner in the micro, pop a Pabst, feed his cat, loosen his belt and let his belly flop out, sit down to watch the news in his recliner and wonder what happened to all the good women and why he can't get a date to save his life that he doesn't either have to pay for or blow up. | |
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| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/2/2005 10:48:55 AM | I met someone for coffee last Sunday. We seem to have an attraction, exchanged phone numbers and plan to talk on Tuesday. On Tuesday we plan to go out on the weekend. We leave the day open because she has a foster child and she is not sure if her respite care, usually Saturday, might be moved to Friday due to the holiday. I was called into work yesterday and when she hadn't called by late afternoon, I figured we would be on for Saturday.
I know, I could have phoned at that point, but I didn't. I called her at noon today. Her son tell me that she is out and won't be home until much later. Oh well, I have just called to get a ticket to a singles dance tonight.
So yes, it does still happen at our age. | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 38 | |
| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/2/2005 11:32:54 AM | I didn't get stood up for this weekend, but I was asked to leave.
I feel like major crap now, I guess the 2 hour drive home allowed me to think of what I said or did to make her feel the way she did. But I don't see anything I did wrong.
Just hope she can sorta give me more of an idea of what it was. -- I'm thinking it was my looks, maybe somehow she thought I would look better in person.
I'm not mad over any of it, as it was her choice, but it does take a big bite out of someone | |
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| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/2/2005 1:05:28 PM | | shappy Personally, I wouldn't get too bent about it. People's behavior is sometimes unfathomable, doesn't seem to make any sense at all. If you don't think you did anything wrong, be happy with that. If you get an explanation, fine, if you don't, forget about it. There are plenty of fish in the pond, and she obviously wasn't the right one, which means the right one IS still out there and waiting..... | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 40 | |
| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/2/2005 1:29:47 PM | Yeah I got one, seems she wanted a "Spark"
Can't see how a "Spark" can happen so fast, not into the speed or time limit " spark " | |
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| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/2/2005 1:40:56 PM | | shappy Well you have a different idea of what a spark is then she did. Does knowing that make you feel any better? I bet there's plenty of women who would light up around you. I recently met someone here, had a quick drink and listening to him he just kind of blossomed before me, his eyes would twinkle I swear and he would get that little half smile at the corner of his mouth, I thought it was very enticing. Someone who won't give something time or a decent chance isn't worth your time. | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 42 | |
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| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/2/2005 2:35:47 PM | | shappy Maybe next time take a lighter with you. If she wants a quick spark you can leave it on the table for her, say you want a spark, here.... hahaha...did I at least make you smile? | |
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| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/2/2005 2:44:50 PM | | well, I too will admit to having been a victim of the dreaded "stood up" feeling. And my opinion is that Mother of Infinite Mercy, it's 2005, for C'sSAKE... There are telephones EVERYWHERE, so pick one up! It is beyond rude to do someone this discourtesy. | |
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| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/2/2005 2:49:10 PM | | untamed Look at it this way at least you're seeing their bad side before you've invested more of your time and energies with them!! That's how I think, okay, so i find out that this person is a rude azz right away. Good for me, next! | |
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| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/2/2005 2:53:51 PM | | true. bucsgirl... and I don't let it bother me, after the initial shock and disappointment. But I am still amazed that anyone could be so rude. And I too have had the phone call, or worse an email, days later trying to 'explain'. No dice with me. If you can't notify me within a number of hours why you can't/couldn't make it, then you better start looking for your next date with someone else. | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 47 | |
| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/2/2005 2:57:18 PM | I smiled -- thanks
Yeah, I am trying not to let it affect me but it's hard.
I don't see how what I said or did would get me asked to leave, as I kept stating it was just gonna be a fun weekend.
I think after this it's gonna be hard to trust a woman and to believe what they say.
The word "agreed" was said like 50 times before I drove out yet now I see I was only viewed by her as a " possible b/f " | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 50 | |
| Getting Stood Up . . . At OUR Age?
Posted: 7/2/2005 3:07:10 PM | well 2 pts for you then, which is a lot more than what she has lol
My sister wasn't chocked to see me home, she knew
Geez wish she told me lol | |
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