| Who would relocate.
Posted: 1/7/2006 11:46:03 AM | ronniroo said:
If he was "The One" ---ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!!
That's all very well, but how would you know he was 'the one' until you got to know him? Long distance relationships...and particularly ones in different countries make it impossible to get to know someone properly until you've spent a lot of time with them. That's why long-distance relationships rarely work, or fizzle after a while - you have to spend "real-time" with people to really know them and who they are. That involves spending time other than in a "dating" environment. Usually when people go to meet someone long-distance, they go out, or party or have a "good time" out somewhere and don't spend a lot of time just "hanging out"....the way you would if someone lived closer. Maybe if someone had lots of money and/or were retired, they would afford to fly down several times a week to be with someone, but I for one don't. That's why I would never relocate for anyone. | |
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| Who would relocate.
Posted: 7/29/2007 11:30:16 AM | I've been through this situatiom and it's a hard one to weigh at times. There are definetely many factors in decideing on if you're going to relocate and primary decision is the job situation. If I am going to move I want to make sure I have at least a job lined up where I can make a liveable wage.
It was one of the factors that made me decide to call off the relationship with my ex. Her parents were moving to NC due to his job relocateing and he was following the company and she was going to move in with me. She ended up getting homesick and decided to move to NC with her parents and I had the option to come with but I weighed in the job factor.
Call it pride whatever I didn't want to put myself into a situation where I had to move in with her parents and neither of us had jobs lined up down there so we'd have odds stacked against us from the get go. I'd held my current job for 12 years as well and was fully vested into 401k and Pension and they paid me well enough that I could make a liveable wage by myself if needed.
And family played another factor for me. Like her I'm close to my family and while I don't stop by daily to see them the convience of being able to make a 15 - 20 minute drive to stop by and see them is a great thing for me. | |
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| Who would relocate.
Posted: 7/29/2007 2:31:39 PM | | definitely would move anywhere for the chance to stand under a star ladened night sky on a chilly October night listening to our horses nickering in the distance, the moon discretely slipping under the nearest cloud so we can turn to each other and melt into the floating darkness..... | |
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| Who would relocate.
Posted: 7/29/2007 3:48:26 PM | Been there, done that. Wouldn`t cross the street for another human now.   | |
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Posted: 7/29/2007 4:47:16 PM | | It's just geography. I've traveled enough and lived in enough places to know that it's the people who make it home, not the house or the geography. Yeah, I could relocate. My Greek grandfather relocated to America in teh 19teens when he was 15. i guess if he could do that, I could travel and move with modern conveniences! | |
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Posted: 7/29/2007 5:02:24 PM | I'm single, and my job can travel well, so why not?
Heck, I had an opportunity to do this a few years ago, and didn't. Wish I had.
So this time round, I would. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2007 8:13:42 PM | | I've relocated twice for a man, never again. Should that situation occur again, he will have to come to me. | |
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| Who would relocate.
Posted: 7/29/2007 8:16:36 PM | | I wouldn't locate because I have children to think of. My children have established friendships and are comfortable here. The schools are great and it's a safe, clean city, so there's no way I would uproot them. It's much easier when children aren't involved. I think when two people are considering intering into a relationship relocating should be discussed right away. | |
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