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| Why does everyone ask, 'How has your experience on Fish (Match, Yahoo, etc..) been so far'?
Posted: 11/29/2008 6:52:38 PM | Statistically, I have noticed that people that use this (and similar questions) are serial daters and have a whole vault of linear questions.
WOW. I'm not a serial dater and I usually ask that question at some point during the first meet & greet - AND, I don't have a "vault of linear questions". Surprisingly, I'm also able to carry on fairly intelligent conversations on any number of different subjects unrelated to her dating history. 
Like others have said, it's something that we obviously have in common and more often than not, it opens up a couple of minutes of dialogue that usually ends in a few laughs. Frankly, I've never had anyone even hesitate to answer. Actually, quite the contrary. Let's face it, anyone who has been online dating for any length of time has at least a few interesting stories to tell. | |
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| Why does everyone ask, 'How has your experience on Fish (Match, Yahoo, etc..) been so far'?
Posted: 12/1/2008 6:18:51 AM |
Why does everyone ask, "How has your experience on Fish (Match, Yahoo, etc..) been so far? Or, how is this internet dating thing working for you? What are you supposed to say? Great! I get over 120 emails a week. In fact, you're my fourth date this week! What do guys expect you to say?
Several possibilities enter my head:
- Conversation starter when they don't know what to say
- Seeing where you're at (looking/found someone/sorta looking at ___) in the process
- Testing your personality (negative, upbeat, etc)
Typically it's just a (really bad) ice breaker. The question is, are you gonna fault someone for that?
Supposed to say? Um, well, that all depends on you. You COULD:
- Check out thier profile and Start a converstaion
- Tell them "sorry, not interested"
(Yeah, these are the basics, but hey) | |
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| Why does everyone ask, 'How has your experience on Fish (Match, Yahoo, etc..) been so far'?
Posted: 12/1/2008 7:01:09 AM | Basicaly my opinion is this if you ask how was your expriance on the dating site your on it should be a form of an nswer with a question back to the other person. But yeah i agree this is an ice breaker too, but it can also be a turn off point if you dont like what the opererson is putting out . LOL
I think we all know how it is. its about 60 percent wierdos and players and the rest are people your not interested in dating .LOL
I feel that no matter how you look at it, it always comes down to experiances you have and wether you want to expose those things to others or not. I on the other hand will tell it all i think woman need to know how a person feels and this gives them an insite to who you are. If they find common ground with you then you havea good chance. | |
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| Why does everyone ask, 'How has your experience on Fish (Match, Yahoo, etc..) been so far'?
Posted: 12/1/2008 7:14:34 AM | It is a kind of ridiculous question when asked during that first date. And if you answer "Oh, it has been fantastic, met a lot of people, are having a good time, how about you."
They will label you a player.
If you answer:
"Oh, I don't know, it's horrible. I have not met anyone. All the women/men are b!tches/as$holes. Is not working for me."
They will label you "creepy".
So to me the best answer was:
"It's a learning experience."
And leave it at that. | |
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| Why does everyone ask, 'How has your experience on Fish (Match, Yahoo, etc..) been so far'?
Posted: 12/1/2008 11:39:30 PM | It's something I usually ask via IM or in the phone call before the meetup. The site is how I met the woman on the other end of the conversation and something we definitely have in common to talk and laugh about. I like to know as much as I can up front before a meetup, and her experience with online dating is something I'm going to go into. It's usually good for at least one hilarious horror story. All women here invariably have them. Some have multiple stories.
Is the OP serious about getting 120 emails a week? Is that 120 unsolicited emails from new guys a week? Wow. | |
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| The Dreaded Question
Posted: 12/2/2008 11:05:29 AM | Oh, brother Dramier-I hope you haven't been burned on here...I'm cautious, yet trusting; cynical;yet hopeful-I don't need to be burned any more than a Thanksgiving or Christmas Turkey by a newlywed who can't cook...it can and does get that bad...  | |
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| Why does everyone ask, 'How has your experience on Fish (Match, Yahoo, etc..) been so far'?
Posted: 10/29/2009 2:49:20 PM | I actually ask that question for practical reasons: to judge the likelihood a woman will eventually meet me. If she's meeting other guys, then she's serious about whatever dating site we're talking about. If she's been on the site for months but has never met anyone, then I probably won't go out of my way to send her more emails. Yes, I suppose there's the possibility she's just been waiting for the perfect guy to come along before meeting someone -- but even if that's true, history would suggest that I'm pretty far from the "perfect guy," especially a woman that selective. So I generally don't spend a lot of time emailing women who don't answer that question to my satisfaction. Although, I was the first meeting for a couple of women, but the difference there was they hadn't been on said-site for very long.
Strangely enough, no woman has ever answered that question for me on POF. One has been emailing me for six months and although she's mentioned dating other guys, I don't know if she met them from here or through other channels. In fact, I've had several cases on here of not only not receiving an answer to that question, but the email I was replying to with that question actually being the last email I ever got from the woman, as if she so didn't want to answer that question to the point that she didn't want to communicate with me anymore. The only reasons I even know women actually do meet men from this site is either because of the forums or if a woman mentions it in her profile.
This site is strange for so many reasons. | |
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