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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 4:03:05 AM | Sorry sweets, we already knew that and we also already knew that some men are just plain idiots too....so, do you have something new to share with us?! Cute post, just yanking your chain a bit...you're going to take a beating that's for sure! LOL! | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 4:30:39 AM | Yawn..
I am sorry, what was the "secret" again?
BTW, don't care if anyone believe it, but I don't fit in that category.
Been hurt, but I am not bitter. Women's are not the same.
I wouldn't say, I NEED a women, again, not because I am bitter, but because I am not desperate. The right one will come along..I hope..What am I supposed to do about it?
Be in a relationship with someone, just so I can say I have a girlfriend?..
I do show emotions, I am considerate.
Saying hateful things when I women breaking up with you, makes no sense.
Is she going to get back with you if you do that?
She-I am leaving you!
He- Fuk you!
She-OK, let's give it another try.
Keep your man card, you didn't say nothing new.
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Posted: 12/2/2008 5:38:53 AM | all of us if we be honest men and woman alike when hurt !! we tend to inadvertantly pull back , and yes disappear !! from old wounds that never healed !! still licking them !! its not a man or woman thing that's an insult !! its called human characteristics , even when a animal is hurt !!bites !!don't they ???? even some violently attacks you !!
i hate when people try and put out there " THERE'S A SECRET CODE " i heard that on here before , a bunch of BS !! soory to say !!! if we stop trying to impress , being illusive , inpersonal when we meet someone , and just be !! ' TO THY OWNSELF BE TRUE " hell there's no code to be broken just a man and woman trying to connect and build on something rare and unique by being clearly honest with each other . the years past they faced alot of adversity and trials and tribulations along the way in relationships with the opposite sex.
men don't like being hurt ?? hell who does ?? want someone to care about you ??? my friend that's a give in all all spectrums of relationships men and woman alike !! truth of the matter in POF , MEN AND WOMEN , fall into the same catagory looking for a quick fix to thier emotional baggage and pain , that they needed to have let go a long time agao , but still live in denial !!
how come our mothers and fathers never had the problems with relationships we tend to have in todays DRAMA !! driven dating and relationships of today !! i hear it and see it on here all the time !! are people like some video game ?? we need a code breaker ???? or some cheats just to relate to each other on a humanitarian level ?? comply to natures God given senses of attraction and our chemistry ???
no we call it !! a code !!! please !!that's a cop out !! why i say this ??
because men and women alike are unwilling to be truly exposed , accessable, openned, vulnerable , no!!50/50 crap !! 110% or nothing !! all in !! , and because we're unwilling to do so we call it breaking the code !! if one is honest with him or herself there's no need to break anything except your own insecurities and lack of self love , and the confidence to wait , be patient, communicate, understand someone elses point except your own whenit comes to a relationship even friends for that matter !!
you don't invest time into anything what does one exspect to get out ??? ............... ?
if one has investments and never put money into thier investments what happens??....
or a insurance policy never paid the premiums ?? it lapses !! just like a relationship or a friendship !! nothing in nothing out !!! no code !! just search one's self for your enability to cope with another on a real humanitarian level , truly sharing each others pain and disappointment of the past without being critical, self rightious , judgemental, even critical of the person you say you want to meet or the ones we say we love.
there's so many endless treasures that ly within the human soul, gifts of the heart to be explored , it takes time , even a lifetime well spent !!the decission is yours, and please don't blame it !!on some male or female code !! be a man and a woman !! willing to be fulling exposed and accessable !!!
your past has nothing to do with your future !! only if you cloud it !!with regrets !! true love conquers all fears !! so what most of us deal with on POF !! IS OUR FEARS TO MOVE ON !!control by other people of our past !! time to open your cages and set yourselves free !!! like the wings of a dove !! truly you'll find love !!
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 5:54:14 AM | Hear hear MsMicki !!! ... or is that "Here here!" oh nevermind.
Can I hear a great big: NO DUH!!!
Ah well,... I guess in the defense of the OP some dingbat needed to know this  | |
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Posted: 12/2/2008 6:02:43 AM | While I do want a woman that cares for me, my main concern is that she knows and understands me. Maybe if more men were upfont with their intentions and needs, stuck to their words and followed through with actions, a lot of us wouldn't be here.
BTW, I'm guilty of not following that in the past but now I know that in order to find and keep the person I desire, I have to be just like what I wrote. | |
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Posted: 12/2/2008 6:05:53 AM | Hmm well I guess I'm not part of that "man club" then because the last thing I want is for someone to care for me, I dont need a substitute mother and I defy every stereotype you've described in your message.
But then again, I do wear eyeliner occasionally.
"I live alone, I train alone and I'll win the title alone" Mr T said that and that's how I roll.
Mr T.
What a guy. I hero worshipped Mr T as a kid and I dont care what anyone says, he was inarguably the "good guy" in Rocky 3.
Anyway, loving or caring for me would be a process no different to purchasing a rabid animal in the belief it'd make a good pet only to watch it destroy itself or slowly die in an absurd fashion instead.
There is no cure for rabies.
I'm in love, it wasn't ever supposed to happen and I dont know what to do about it.
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Posted: 12/2/2008 6:12:38 AM | Alrighty then....I'm confused....(as usual)..And you men say women are hard to figure out?
We (women) figured out a long time ago that you (men) had feelings. And we even knew why you kept them hidden. With the few exceptions of you that are willing to share said feelings....So now that you have "come out" with this secret are we all supposed to jump up and down, and holler hooray? BS.....
Life is a ****....we get our feelings hurt.... Well pull your self back up by your boot straps and move on...
You found out that your woman was cheating?...Well dump the **** and move on....
I don't really care if you are man or woman, it is our responsibility to make our own happiness. We cannot depend on another person for our happy levels.... There are some wonderful new medications out there that will aide in your quest....lol..
So I suppose you have a "man cave" too? | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 6:19:35 AM | No it's true, some men dont have feelings.
I certainly dont, I'm a sociopath you see, like Dexter, no not the cartoon character I'm speaking about Dexter Morgan the serial killer.
That's me.
Yeah, I'm a sociopath and I'm NOT in love, not me, nuh uh.
lol what'll be next, men care about things??? *Errol Flynn style laugh* har har har gufaw gufaw gufaw
As if.
Come men, let us disguise our true feelings with "anger" because we're too cowardly to be honest with people and speak about breasts in our magical "belching speak" instead
Subsequently, I composed this entire message in "belching speak" it's a language only we men understand
P.S, no, this message doesn't translate into "mother me" so dont even go there. | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 6:22:29 AM | Here is the woman's ....... umm secret ....... shhhhh
Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater.
If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby.
If you give her a house, she'll give you a home.
If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal.
If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart.
She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.
So, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of shit. | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 6:29:48 AM | | NHCowboy, I would appreciate if you would expand on the comment regarding saying hateful things during arguments. In your (and other men's) opinion, when such words are spoken is the man giving voice to truthful feelings and thoughts or is he just saying anything he can, true or not, to inflict pain? | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 6:42:16 AM |
And by the way, I didn't read this in play book, nor was it whispered to me in some code. I learned it in real life, from a man who told me honestly and had the courage to tell me and I will not be asking for him to turn in his "membership card."
Another excelent post lass and as we should all if lucky enough
to have that membership card that has "heart"
P.S. Thanks, as we finally got some of the white stuff! Let it Snow ...... | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 6:52:24 AM |
Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater.
If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby.
If you give her a house, she'll give you a home.
If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal.
If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart.
She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.
So, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of shit.
lol, nice  | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 6:54:07 AM |
Here is the woman's ....... umm secret ....... shhhhh
Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater.
If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby.
If you give her a house, she'll give you a home.
If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal.
If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart.
She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.
So, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of shit.
For some of us that is not a secret but i LOVE the way you stated that. But that is the woman's code not the man code. | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 6:57:57 AM | Heres what you do fellas.
When you're feeling angry punch a wall, yeah, really communicate how "strong and powerful" you are while you're around her, intimidate her, dont be honourable or decent, disguise those feelings with cowardly anger instead
I mean, why bother asserting the courage to sit down and have a civilised conversation involving your concerns???
Pfft, **** that, punch the wall.
Then storm off and slam a door REALLY hard so that the room shakes, stay out half the night until she's worried sick about you, return home drunk and expect sex from her.
Call her a whore, bring up things she's confided in you and use them against her, really demoralise your enemy.
The trick, is to find a door because you know the door wont hurt as much as a wall.
Punch the door and drive your fist through it but make sure you deliver that blow so it just misses her face by a mere inch.
This communicates how "mighty" you are.
That's how to be a real man.
Grow a pair of balls and talk to her instead, you sit down together, you speak like grown ups, you resolve the problem.
That's how it's done.
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 7:12:19 AM |
Ron9: Here is the woman's ....... umm secret ....... shhhhh
Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater.
If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby.
If you give her a house, she'll give you a home.
If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal.
If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart.
She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.
So, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of shit.
Oh look.......light hearted fun!!
was wondering when we'd see some in this thread! | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 7:21:29 AM | WoW V , You should tell these women how to communicate too..
Maybe you can get some of them to stop lying and cheating.
Maybe you can talk some of them into giving half of what they stole from their husbands back to them..
I have always been a man among men and have never beat on my woman or put her down.
I always tried to lift her up and help her to be more positive and a better person.
I gave her anything she wanted, but she still stole, lied and cheated..
Share some of your profound wisdom with the women too... | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 7:23:25 AM |
Think about it, most times when a man becomes ornery it is usually after an argument or "fight"...his feelings are hurt...yup it's true. We are taught at an early age to not show weakness so instead (when we get hurt) we show strength (i.e. anger).
So THAT'S why that last guy I dated responded to me in such a nasty fashion when I basically said I couldn't take his lack of communication. 
Very interesting.
Since he has blocked me and said he never wanted to talk to me again I guess I better move on... to bad he didn't realize that I was hurt too by his seeming lack of consideration and that this whole thing seems to boil down to a misunderstanding. If you are correct, NHCowboy, then I feel bad and wish I could have a heart to heart with him but guess it is too late now.
sigh....
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 7:25:34 AM | That happens if you are a man or a woman. It is due to what you put into it just just because of your gender.
It happens when you digg down into yourself and put in a little piece of YOU into whatever you are doing. The degree of return is dependent on what you put into it. If you just put in the minimum of effort you will yeild minimum results. If you charge up all the passion you can muster and input that passion into it and loop it through your heart to add that little touch of LOVE onto it, no matter what you are doing... POOF instant multiplication.
Men are capable of doing the same exact things. The issue is ALOT of men were raised to be that tough macho man. Alot of women ask for that tough man's man. The trouble is that tough man comes from the amount of testosterone flowing through his viens. Get too much testosterone and the emotions get shut down and conflict results. It is a protection and safety mechanisim built into the male body to be the protector and provider.
If there is is not enough testosterone he turns into a blubering wounded shell because men are not used to having to deal with all the emotions.
We as men have the same emotions as women do. We just have MORE testosterone produced due to having that sack dangling below.
It is capable of helping us or harming us. It is just a matter of being able to put it in check unless it is needed.
Balance in life for both men and women comes from knowing when to surpress our emotional dependencies and also knowing when to let those emotions flow forth to be utilized.
If you are a male and have issues with fighting or confrontation AKA always having to be right maybe you should work on controling your testies. If your a man that is always TOO emotional the same answer is true again.
There is some truth to that old statment that men think with what is in their pants but it is just refering to the wrong thing. It is usually what is behind the visible thing that is the one with more power.
Breaking the man code??????? hate to break it to the men out there worried about the code being broken. Women have had our number pegged long ago, they were just being nice to let us figure it out on our own. Why do you think they have been asking for a sensitive yet tough man. Why do you think they ask for a man that is strong but loving and gental when needed. They already KNEW it is the men that can balance that are the special ones worth holding onto.
Since there is a lack of them out there they had the choice to complain about US men or take it upon themselves to try and turn us into what they wanted in life.
The trouble is you can not change a man that has the primitive chemicals flowing through their viens, you can either accept them as they are or move on.
Too many frustrated women, harboring ill feelings by trying to change something that they couldn't......LOL
that whole "UG ME MALE" has more truth in it because as our testoterone starts flowing in our systems the reasoning centers and emotional controlers shut down and our protection, and "gathering" systems fire up. They are built in reactions to ensure the survival of the human race.
I am 36 but learned this back when i was 19. I know 70 year olds that still don't know this stuff and are always in conflict every chance they get.
Wisdom has NOTHING to do with age. True wisdom comes from the openness to learn and understand that which you do not know.
These are my opinions and observations at least. Yours may be different. | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 7:38:33 AM | | Jesus showed his emotions in spite of being condemned and persecuted for what he believed in. He did not retaliate at people but loved them that much more when they treated him unjustly. I on the other hand do retaliate because when I have been done wrong by women and project it onto other women. It is because of my insecurity, not the righteous indignation I would like to attribute it to. Unfortunately, it is also that much easier to do on a computer where you never know the person and can easily fool yourself into believing there is no person on the other side. | |
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Posted: 12/2/2008 7:50:57 AM | nebula22, I no longer suffer fools glady.
If you're really mad, you force yourself to stop, you pause and ask yourself "what would I realistically stand to gain from this behaviour" and then consciously review every possible outcome in your mind before taking action.
I've never lost my temper with a woman regardless of whether she's lied, cheated or been a bunny boiler with a carving knife.
I've dated women who have gone out of their way to "test me", some men and women love arguments and confrontations, they thrive on them or find ways to create them in order to feel in control or safe.
I'm on the other end of the spectrum, I avoid drama and confrontation as best I can because I'm ex-airborne forces and have a black belt in three martial arts. I have the capacity to be effectively violent and have been effectively violent many times in the past but never ever to a woman.
Not because I consider them weaker than myself, but because I'm not inclined to enter a relationship with a person I feel like beating the crap out of hahaha
Standing there yelling and screaming achieves nothing other than a childish racket.
I understand violence, I've seen so much violence in my time, I've seen bodies torn apart, I've seen all kinds of dreadful things, the results are always the same. I'm done with it, I want no part of it.
I'm a communicator, I'm good at communication, it's what I use to resolve things peacefully with the people I love and most of the time, it works. If it doesn't, then I walk, bye bye.
I've been lied to, I've been cheated on, I've also been physically assaulted by a woman, it's all part of the learning curve and I'm grateful for the bad times.
Fact is, everyone has the capacity to cheat, to lie, to steal and so on. It isn't a case of women being better at it than men or vise versa.
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 8:03:12 AM | | Haha I dont think that was ever much of a secret...Most girls realize that after awhile about guys. guys just hide their feelings, and they dont want to be known as the sensitive one. Its actually pretty obvious. I wonder what guys would do, if girls were the ones who acted that way, and just acted like they didnt care. | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 8:10:43 AM |
Jesus showed his emotions in spite of being condemned and persecuted for what he believed in. He did not retaliate at people but loved them that much more when they treated him unjustly. I on the other hand do retaliate because when I have been done wrong by women and project it onto other women. It is because of my insecurity, not the righteous indignation I would like to attribute it to. Unfortunately, it is also that much easier to do on a computer where you never know the person and can easily fool yourself into believing there is no person on the other side.
Huh?
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 8:20:27 AM | The secret "man code" good Lord, anything to get a date eh LOL, I would think most women knows the " code" and also figured out how to cross the street by the time they are 5 years old 
With books like " men are from mars women from venus" " he's not into you" " why men loves bi tches" the so called man's secret have been revealed.
The reality is most people fall under a specific category and its trying to match the different personalities that becomes the challenge. | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 12/2/2008 8:50:59 AM | some of us women have that figured out
its no secret
its quite simple ...
our basic wirings both arrive at the same point.. the heart
but because of the difference of being men versus women, those wiring travel differently
to understand is to communicate
alot of times it takes a leap of faith to start communicating | |
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