| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 4/8/2009 8:20:43 AM | Thanks for posting this OP
Cause it's true
there does seem to be many scorned men on here.
Not all but quiet a few
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 4/8/2009 8:42:52 AM | | I actually cried when expressing my tender feelings toward my Asian sweetie and she lost interest. Granted, the Asians are a tough breed... | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 4/8/2009 8:50:47 AM | Some cultures apreciated a rude men. You need to be yourself always
Soon the right one will show up. Remeber that when one door close . . . | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 4/8/2009 9:00:25 AM | Bravo OP! 
It's also the reason why men cheat (they are looking for the temporary thrill of a woman who is into them/loves them/finds them attractive.
It's also the reason why they contact a woman after they've treated her like crap (they wanted her love and attention but didn't know how to ask). | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 4/8/2009 10:00:29 AM | Keep your Man Badge OP, you only gave one element of "OUR CODE" away, and they'd already broken that aspect of it!
Here's a tiny piece more, but I'll let the ladies figure it out by example;
Nebula, my friend, almost everytime you post it's about the "cheating woman in your life", my first wife did that, so I know how it feels! On the other hand I got over it, and quick! Didn't want to be dragging those thoughts around with me. And I never thought about it with my second wife...Period! So, why don't you get some help my friend? because I'm sure there are not to many women who'd want to date or form a relationship with someone that considers them all alike or constantly has to worry about your insecurites or fears! | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 4/9/2009 10:38:53 PM | Cowboy, hang onto your membership hon. Some of the ones growling the loudest are likely to be chasing rainbows and taking bubble baths at their own elicit club. True enough rules are "Never discuss the Fight Club" but remember that he was battling his own enigma. Just saying...  | |
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Posted: 4/10/2009 1:12:12 AM | I think your post OP is about a 9.0 on the woman suck up meter; it's very 80's to try to be so sensitive but men are just like women and that isn't a mystery.
You are wrong though; 97% of the crime, corruption, kidnapping, murders, rapes, and evil things done in the U.S are done by men. Some men are not good and they don't want what you say. They want to satisfy whatever needs they have.
Young men are like dogs in heat; they will cheat or hurt any girl to get sex; women are more sleazy than in the past; the internet has made them extremely sleazy and craving attention; the girls gone wild generation is rampant and guys hormones are over the top. Many men never grow up and swinging, cheating, screwing anything that walks is what they crave even as they get older.
A real man is a strong person and does want someone to be there for them; it's not a mystery.
I think you are being way over dramatic about your post and acting like you are curing cancer. Many men want the same thing as women; the problem is that they are so selfish and have no self control that they screw it up. | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 4/10/2009 2:49:50 AM | NHcowboy, I salute you!!!
Oh. and poster #139: Guys have to watch out for a few nasty women. Yeah, they exist, too. | |
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Posted: 4/10/2009 8:43:15 PM | | I think most women have figured this out. And we know that men express themselves differently. We may have had to pay our dues to figure this out, but eventually, most women do. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2009 11:25:43 AM | | I am not interested in a caregiver. I can take care of myself. I met some women who want to "mother" a man. I do not want to feel like I am a child. I read some profiles: "I want to spoil a man". Annoying. That type of women are boring. I dated a 42 year old woman twice divorced. Very nice and caring, but a lazy lover - that is why 2 of her husbands did not stay for long. No Mother Teresa for me! I prefer a woman that knows how to be a great lover. A fun-loving type is never boring. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2009 3:41:44 PM | | this is hardly a ground breaking theory, why tell us things that we already know for ages? my mother is a woman by the way. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 7:29:11 PM | | This problem goes both ways. I have a dozen or more broken ralationships for this very reason. The guy is always so hardened and getting angrier and angrier for no apparent reason. Then I try to second guess, apologize, etc. Then they tell me I'm getting clingy and to be a drag. Then I cry a lot and feel aliented. Then they get even angrier. Then I finally leave, feeling I'm probably just a burdon. They won't be uncool and tell me they want me back, so that's the end of another one. I think men are going to just have to find a way of expressing softer feelings if they want to kep us. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 7:32:36 PM | | I refuse to conform to these "man code" requirements. I cannot be labeled by any set guidelines or boundaries. I am a constantly changing, and sometimes downright frustrating, individual. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 10:59:41 AM | | True man....Nature or God made men that way to be horny, in other words men are "programmed" for sex. And danger, adventure, excitement....Being nurturing, caring and similar "stuff" is for women. Yet women want men to be like them. Well, they just can not have it that way. What makes them bitter and miserable. What I hate most when a woman tells me:" Be a Man!" as if she knows how it is to be a man. Only men know that. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 11:21:13 AM | Plus it's funny how the dictate to "Be a Man!" almost invariably constitutes her urging him to do something which is against his interests, which is probably why he isn't doing it in the first place. So the phrase encapsulates the idea that a "Real Man" (at least in some people's minds) serves others interests, not his own.
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Posted: 5/5/2009 11:24:37 AM | Awesome cowboy, Ive followed this thread on other forums and find that both women and men alike protect the "Guy Code" which I beleive traces to the history of conquest cultures, warlike power structures which we all now live under..As the femminists realized long ago in the 60's, love is overwhelmingly pollitical!
Ive found if you genuinely approach a woman as though you expect her to observe the fact men can be hurt as well as women, they react like wheres your balls buddy, and thanks, I already have a girlfriend. Who is going to be the man? And when someone is too easy and all supportive and love, we think theyre a doormat.
They must be disabled or overweight or simple because they strike us as meek or too agreeable. No challenge.
Men and women alike subscribe to the scorched earth culture of the player. Be sassy and show no fear...
When in truth the shiny perfect ones with all the pretense are living on borrowed money and its all just the Wizard of Oz, big pickup small Dck, and all this male bluster is a form of insecurity which also appeals to insecure women who are made of makeup and their own counterfeit versions of the femminine..
We are a culture of food with no calories. No one wants to just be what we are, which is all we need to be. It all goes back to our failed families, early childhood struggles were still trying to complete..great studies done in bonding and attachment and early childhood and neuroscience that show we are all basically emotional beings, men and women are different, but far more similar...strength is about connection and support, not self reliance..back to some ancient concepts that old cultures lived by hundreds of thousands of years, as opposed to our values which are destroying the planet and ourselves in a mere few thousand...
This is overwhelmingly fascinating when you begin to see the patterns, and we all know the truth of the emperors new clothes, and when a few begin saying what they see it all becomes so clear. Good job cowboy! | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 11:40:26 AM | (I think you are being way over dramatic about your post and acting like you are curing cancer. Many men want the same thing as women; the problem is that they are so selfish and have no self control that they screw it up.)
This guy is typical of what a 'big dog' type will say about this. Raise his kids to be tough and then act confused when they blow thier brains out because they got a B after alifetime of straight A's...what did I do?
All of the behavioral science since the discovery of Serotonin dissagrees with this type A approach. There is no way to compete with someone who is not competing with you but relying on larger energies of connection that brought you both into being, and yes, Cowboy IS curing cancer..Just google Riane Eisler, a leader who was a kid that barely escaped the Nazis, then devoted her life to exposing this energy for what it is..
She spells it all out very clearly.
Okay specifcally; We all lose control when abused and hurt, and instead of being shamed and hurt more we need to be set back on our feet and supported and encouraged. Even Christ cried, My god, why have you forsaken me, and had his heart broken.. So tell me about self reliance and weakness mthomjmark..The one who is never heartbroken has never genuinely loved. And the true sign of a genuine believer is that at some point they go through exteme doubt..
Lets just say, I dissagree. And Id say a host of people in the social sciences would agree that youre absolutely wrong, and thanks for clarifying the classic 'male' perspective so well. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 11:41:05 AM |
the biggest thing all men want is to know someone cares about them. Uh huh, it's true, believe it or not we are looking for the same thing you are....someone who cares and knows how to show it.
Ah ha! I always suspected as much! Wise women have always operated under the assumption that this is true, but learned how to show instead of SAY that they know. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we all could be more selfaware.
But then, again, it might take some of the fun out of the adventure!
We are a culture of food with no calories. No one wants to just be what we are, which is all we need to be. It all goes back to our failed families, early childhood struggles were still trying to complete...
I see where you're going with this, but I'm a great believer that no one gets to blame their childrenhood for their problems past the age of majority. We all have to suck it up and move on, men and women. 
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 5/5/2009 1:29:15 PM |
Ok ladies, I'll probably get kicked out of the "man club" for this but I think there are some misconceptions about men outh there.
We regret to inform you that you have been removed from the man club with certain eligibility pending.
there are penalties for breaking the code, with no chance of reinstatement. | |
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| Breaking the secret man code shhhh!
Posted: 5/5/2009 7:18:58 PM | | Sorry guy, but if someone keeps attracting the cheating type, you need to examine what it is about you that is attracting it. I can't tell you how, as I'm still trying to figure out how I attract a certain quality repeatedly that I don't desire, but it's the truth. Frankly there are millions of women out there that don't cheat, and I know TONS who would never. We're not all fire breathing dragons out here. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2009 8:49:46 AM | [I see where you're going with this, but I'm a great believer that no one gets to blame their childrenhood for their problems past the age of majority. We all have to suck it up and move on, men and women. ]
I agree, Im not speaking of introspection and excusing bad behavior by blaming the past..Im talking about knowing who we are and dealing with the realities that are here now, just like any old addict has to do in order to break a negative cycle they were born into.
The negative cycle is between the generations and it ALSO happens every day between males and females, trust and hopes disrespected turn into anger and pain which begets cynical behavior.. You can stop the past today, but it happens by telling the truth. Thats what Im saying we need to do, its hard, but then its oh so much easier..
Just like the change in our country where we are trying to rid ourselves of corrupt power structures in finance and insurance and so on. Its not about blaming but recognizing the bullshit so we can do better, or else its pretty much hopeless.
You cant move on without seeing where you are..I think we agree.. | |
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