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Posted: 12/3/2008 4:35:21 PM | | re Msg: 50 -- well thanks for posting that, pov. i thought that guy was a little off, but this sure adds a whole new dimension of weirdness to the thing. i'm starting to feel sorry for her too... hope he doesn't have her trussed up in the basement. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2008 4:37:40 PM | well thanks for posting that, pov. i thought that guy was a little off, but this sure adds a whole new dimension of weirdness to the thing. i'm starting to feel sorry for her too... hope he doesn't have her trussed up in the basement.
Yea, really, how lame is that, to start a topic and not come back to respond, but yet email someone directly with insults? I feel bad for her now. Just goes to show, you never get the whole story. It sounds like they have basically the perfect relationship for a guy: sex, smiles and happiness all the time! No, I didn't mean that against men! I see way too often "no drama" well that's what he's got! Women say it too. I understand too much compliance can be a concern but he wasn't really complaining. It's such a big problem he had to open a new account on POF just to ask a question to strangers. That is a bit weird. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2008 4:47:48 PM | | It is hard to ignore the sex issue, definitely complicates things when you realize that you bore each other, and one of you wants out. That is when the dymamite will explode. Unless you can make a decision to love this person unconditionally and be prepared to deal with unreasonable jealosy, need for constant validation and reassurrance of your devotion. Is it possible to be in love after a few weeks? Maybe, but I doubt it. Good luck, what now seems easy may become a chore. But, then again, who am I , I am only 55, been there, done that, designed the t-shirt from both prespectives, am now fully mature and say and do what ever I like, within the bounds of being polite and respectful..... | |
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Posted: 12/3/2008 6:45:26 PM | OMG!!
OP Writes:
your reply of "You've known her months but have been here a week" really made me shake my head....who gives a flying f u c k ????why even worry? Maybe after I met her I deleted my profile and created a new one just so I could ask a question.
See, lemme tell you something....overanalyzing c u n t s like you will never find happiness, you'll drift from one guy to another, and always blame HIM, never your fault.
This is his second missive:
I got the last word in....haahaaaaaaaaaa
looooooooooooooooooseeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
And he has now closed his account...
wow, must be something in the Napoleon complex he has. makes me feel sorry for this *lovely lady*.
That is so crazy! He sounds bizarre! Actually they both sound bizarre!
Might see them in the papers one day.
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Posted: 12/3/2008 6:57:27 PM | | Maybe it's just me, but it does seem that every post from #48 on has been completely off topic. The OP as a person is not the topic. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2008 6:59:41 PM |
Maybe it's just me, but it does seem that every post from #48 on has been completely off topic. The OP as a person is not the topic.
It's just you. I'm #48 and I believe I was on topic, that is, until, I heard what the OP did!  | |
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Posted: 12/3/2008 7:12:05 PM | | Are you dating my mother, LOL? She conforms to every man in which she has a relationship. If they liked motorcycles, she suddenly loved to ride motorcycles, if they like the opera, you guessed it, she loved that then, one even sparked an interest for****fighting, LOL. Some woman are like this. They are unsure about themselves, even at an older age, and feel like they have to adapt to the identity of their love interest. If you like a woman who has never discovered who they are, then I say continue to see her. If you like a more independent woman who thinks for herself, then move on. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2008 7:16:33 PM | Here's an interesting thought....
Remember the days before women worked? I truly believe that some women catered ALOT more to a man's ego back then and some women still do it because they've never known anything else.
This is not a slam, but men do have a much bigger ego than women.....
It's a whole new world out there for some lol... | |
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Posted: 12/3/2008 7:45:58 PM | Hmmm. I don't see why our dearly departed OP was concerned about his lady friend - I mean, it sounds as if he wanted a brown-nosin' kinda gal (once you read what he sent to POV!), and that may be just what he got. What the heck's his beef? Or should I say "WHERE's the beef?" because he's shown a decided lack of it.
As my sainted grandmother used to say (God rest her soul) "Don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya." | |
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Posted: 12/3/2008 8:21:44 PM | | Another troll post, the OP is gone and this forum will live on in infamy as people come on and comment on the thread without reading it all; sigh. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2008 8:29:48 PM | "Tell her the truth that you don't need a "yes" woman.
Tell her that "no" IS an option in any equal relationship."
If he tells her that"no" is an option in any equzl relationship ...shbe will just agree so where does that get him?
OP, if you cant take her behavior, just tell her that you don't like her. She will agree and it's done.  | |
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Posted: 12/3/2008 8:30:09 PM |
This is not a slam, but men do have a much bigger ego than women.....
It's a whole new world out there for some lol...
Wild Heart, It's a big topic, and it runs into being "politically incorrect" to get into it. In the "olden days", where the "ideal" was a stay at home mom and a working "dad", there was a different paradigm. Men "expected" home to be a "safe" place, of affirmation, solace, and they assumed "responsibility". Women expected to not have to juggle children and job, and to have their practical needs atteneded to.
The world has changed, of course, and I, for one, have no interest in "competing" with a woman in a voluntary relationship. It doesn't mean that I "expect" constant affirmation and validation, but I don't want to argue about every little thing.
So, the woman mentioned in the OP, to me, would be preferable to the castrating baitches, who are constantly trying to control. That doesn't mean that she's be "ideal" for the OP, but it's nowhere near the horror show, for me, as some of the controlling women I've encountered in the "wonderful world of dating'. LOL | |
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Posted: 12/3/2008 8:30:44 PM |
Another troll post, the OP is gone and this forum will live on in infamy as people come on and comment on the thread without reading it all; sigh.
For me, it is chilling. Disordered people are skilled at coming on a discussion forum/ dating site and at coming into one's life soliciting sympathy. They have an ability to assign personality traits to others that they themselves possess. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2008 8:46:16 PM | Lil Brooker, honey....
Ignore him. He'll go away. Remember leftovers? Leftovers don't need recognition. They've already had their day. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2008 10:08:16 PM |
See, lemme tell you something....overanalyzing c u n t s like you will never find happiness, you'll drift from one guy to another, and always blame HIM, never your fault. When the OP sent this to me I could only glory in, and at my inner
c u n t i s m. As a matter of fact I think I will grab a handmirror and go pay homage to it now. Sheesh, he says this to me like it would be a bad thing. Foolish man. Now had he called me fashioned impaired it probably would have devestated me. Once again this proves why some species eat thier young. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2008 11:55:10 PM | "Remember the days before women worked? "
Oh please! At 38 you certainly don't.
"This is not a slam, but men do have a much bigger ego than women....."
Give me a break. Read your own profile and previous posts. We (men and women) simply are different . . . thankfully. And as such, we have different egos. Yours (and my finger is directly pointed toward you) is as big as any males.
I am not saying that is bad in itself, just different. It is part of being human.  | |
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Posted: 12/4/2008 1:52:34 AM | Hey .... come real close to the screen as you read my post...cuz u r obviously suffering from some sight issue...
The woman is going to hunt you down and kill you if you EVER make the decision to move on with another sexual exploitation. In other words, you are using this woman's body to suit your needs.... however... for some reason...she is not understanding that you are a player, albeit a 50 year old one, and has made the horrible mistake mistake mistake of falling in love with you.... THAT IS WHY SHE IS SO AGREEABLE...
The only way out is to NEVER contact her again AFTER changing all of your personal information.
Use the other head next time. Good luck. Send a postcard from Argentina to let us know you've made it there safely.
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Posted: 12/4/2008 4:15:40 AM | | Maybe she just wants to make you happy. As to using the word love after three weeks, as you said you are both 50 and know what your doing. I have only truly been in love once in my life, and I knew I loved him the moment I saw his smiling face. We will never in life be together again, but I will always love him, and I just hope he is happy now. Doesn't mean I can't love again like that, but he would be a hard act to follow. What happened? He simply didn't feel the same way, doesn't make him a bad person. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2008 5:32:20 AM | Wow man. You hit the jackpot.
True, this agreeableness can become a problem when you want a mental challenge and the relationship can go really boring. To avoid that, I'd put this woman through embarrassing and painful situations, only in order to keep me amused intellectually. For instance I'd ask her if wearing a chastity belt for two weeks would bother her while I'm gone on a business trip, and then get a locksmith and have one built for her. Or ask her if she ever had a night of stuffing olives in her nostrils. It's wild and it's fun, you must tell her. And guess what, it will be wild and fun -- for you. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2008 6:03:13 AM | POV
Thanks for sharing! Well he isn’t acting like he is fifty is he? I did wonder if this member was for real (who know maybe he was) when asking these questions. I mean he and his partner are really the only ones that can and should get the answers about his concerns. Well sorry to see him leave and do hope the best for both him and the other member. Oh! Yes I do think you hit something (a nerve maybe?) that he would felt entitled to call you those names in his email to you but thanks again for sharing! | |
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Posted: 12/4/2008 6:28:52 AM |
This is not a slam, but men do have a much bigger ego than women.....
Wild Heart with this I have to agree that some men do suffer from ego ideal and it will get them in trouble at times. Also I like to add that it’s very easy to hurt a man’s ego. But not all men are like this insomuch that others have learned to understand and look deeper in themselves (men) and accept their own realities of who they “really” are. So much so that some men put away the “shinny armor suit” and throw out the superman cape and just accept themselves for who we are and not who we think we are and what society makes us out to be. Only then can we more on to become more emotionally stable and secure in who we are. And yes men it’s a whole new world big enough for all of us... | |
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Posted: 12/4/2008 6:40:29 AM |
This is not a slam, but men do have a much bigger ego than women.....
Not mine. Lol. It was well-trampled before I arrived here. Id is ragin' outta control, though! | |
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Posted: 12/4/2008 6:52:13 AM | some men suffer from ego? Really?
If you want to hold a mans interest... then you shouldn't make it too easy for him... if something is given too easily, or given freely, then that guy is likely to make the assumption that you can't be worth very much. This is why you make them work for it!!! I mean you!  Sure they will try to guilt you into it..."we are both adults" and crap like that. Don't buy into it! You see by the op's post that women that are "too" accommodating are not treasured.
I like a man that puts off saying how he feels for a while it makes me wonder about how interested he really is in me. I am a lot more intrigued.  So I guess it goes both ways!!! | |
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