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Posted: 6/5/2009 12:04:20 PM | This guy wasn't crazy- just jaded by experiences in his past. I also may think he fooled you into paying for the meal (which he didn't have to do, he could have just said, "Umm, I don't have the cash right now", You probably would not have given him a chance after that either sooo.. his jerk actions were correct because either way, you wouldn't have liked him. I'm not saying you deserved this-NOT AT ALL- but just move on and forget about the jerk and be willing to pay for a date or your part for your next date. Now you see men turn CRAZY because of this date financing expectations.
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 6/7/2009 11:21:14 AM | Yep.. hate to say it... but that's DATING today but only now... some MEN are doing what women have been doing for a loooooonnnggg time!! Now the tides have turned and they are getting pissed!! ha ha ha!! Now he's a jerk..douche bag... scumbag and even bitter or jaded but he pulled a fast one (at Pizza Hut of all places...ha)!! Welcome to the wonderful world of "dating" LADIES!! | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 6/11/2009 12:39:21 PM | | You know, I wouldn't at all be upset if a woman said to me, "Let me be upfront with you before we go "out" together, let me just say that I intend to pay my share of the bill." or maybe something like, "I like to be treated now and then, but I insist on paying half of the bill." or my own way or whatever way you would want to word it. I (as a male) would most likely insist on paying the bill (without the drama) but would respect the woman's wishes if she insisted on paying her half or portion of the bill! This guy was just a loser and please don't let this JERK color your opinion of all men ... he's just not worth the annoyance or the aggravation. There are good guys out there ... you just have to take the time to find them. And most often than not, they're not "your type" they're they guys you might not normally go for ... so stop looking for the "perfect guy" or the "right guy" and find the good guy who will treat you with respect and honor your dignity and your feelings. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 6/11/2009 1:13:34 PM | | What a JERK! He asks you out to have a Pizza, he should pay. If you ask someone out you should pay, only fair. It is a good thing his true colors came out on the first date. I can't stand stereotyping a sex because of a few bad choices. Yes, there are some that follow the stereotype which makes it harder for ones that are unique. Don't give up, maybe take a break from dating. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 6/16/2009 10:38:21 PM | Since I'm reluctant to read all 230 replies, I was wondering if the OP (Jelica) had met this fellow thru POF? If so, what is/was his user-name?
Regardless, since this was only a $30. meal, it could not have been a monetary issue but more like a guy with mental problems. If I was in her place, my first reaction would have been 'shock'. The second reaction would be to say "Excuse me?" Then, if this guy proved to be serious, I would have taken the bill to the front counter, paid my portion and then told the employee "that A-HOLE over there will pay the rest" and then calmly walk out the door. (single-finger salute optional)  | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 6/21/2009 6:11:10 PM | | I bet all the women are lining to use him for a $10.00 pizza and two drinks, lmfao, what a loser. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 6/21/2009 6:21:32 PM | I know it's been a long time since the incident took place, but it's messed up. I'd say a combination of foolish pride and past experiences had him react the way he did.
It could've been worse, you could've found this out about him after you guys got more involved. May as well cut your losses and consider it an experience, provided the OP is even reading this that is. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2009 10:44:01 AM | | I am very new to this, and I am shocked! Now I am getting worried....I have gotten some really strange contacts...good thing I have not gone to meet anyone yet. I will do what someone else suggested...email, talk, phone...and then meet. Sounds safer...and I am a guy! lol. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:13:32 AM | What can I say, if I were closer I'd buy you dinner, wouldn't have even thought twice about paying the check.
The point is not that men don't want to buy you dinner, you just need to assume there are a lot of seriously wounded, bitter, self absorbed people on internet dating sites, both men and women, and you just have to keep an eye open and listen, they actually give very good clues if you're paying attention | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:53:05 PM | | Oh please, I wouldn't have paid for that sh!t!! I would have walked right the **** out of there. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 6/29/2009 12:20:42 AM | | Demanding you to pay for yourself at Pizza Hut? What cardboard box did this guy crawl out of? | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 6/29/2009 7:46:52 PM |
While I agree the guy probably manipulated the OP to pay, how did she and her "date" manage to get served and eat/drink their pizza and drinks before they were paid for? Pizza Hut is like all other fast food franchises and expects payment before food and drink is served/delivered/picked up.
I don't know where your Pizza Huts are, but the ones here that are stand- alone restaurants, you order, eat and then you get a bill and pay it. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 6/29/2009 9:02:12 PM | Wow, what a story! I can't imagine how a woman would feel being placed in a stuation like that.
I read someone say choose wiser, which is very good advice, however we are not psychics. Sorry, I am not a psychic! Someone is going to slip through our radar.
Don't mass us all together in a closet of doom. We are not all such evil beings as your last suitor. I guess all I can say is sorry you had such a rotten date! Don't quit! | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 6/29/2009 9:22:44 PM |
I don't know where your Pizza Huts are, but the ones here that are stand- alone restaurants, you order, eat and then you get a bill and pay it.
Some Pizza Huts are eat-in restaurants and some are carry out only like Papa Johns or Dominoes. It sounds like they were at one of the eat-in restaurants. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 8/7/2009 8:43:53 PM | The guy is obviously a jerk.I on the other hand have a rather different problem,I am a little old school I suppose,I always pay as I was raised to believe that a gentleman always pays,but I suppose I must be a boring person as whenever I start to really take a shine to a lady she wants to scale it down to " just freinds".Thats o.k. I suppose but unfortunately I'm looking for a relationship.Take heart Im sure there must be one decent guy out there who would treat you as you deserve,like a lady!
happy hunting!
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 8/9/2009 8:03:12 AM | | Wait, wait, wait, Jelica! Why did you grab the bill? For heaven's sake. I would have laid down my half and then walked out. That way you'd have time to get to your car and escape while he was paying for the extravagent dinner you shared! | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 8:10:46 AM | | I agree with SparklingRose - he had his own agenda and got a free meal out of it. Set your sights higher, darlin'. You can do much better than him! | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 8/9/2009 10:17:39 AM | I can't believe....
You actually paid for the date. I might have split the bill to disarm him but I certainly would not have treated that totally jaded deckhead to dinner. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 12:40:24 PM | | Hey Jelica not all guys are like that, sounds like he has some issues..... Remember it's a process. How many guys do you meet in the "real world" where it clicks? Keep pluggin' away and you will find someone, it's the law of averages. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 11:31:41 PM | | You should have known right away, who would take a class date like you to pizza hut! | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 11:33:21 PM | | You should have known right away, who would take a class date like you to pizza hut! | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 11:55:57 PM |
Go ahead and give up on dating because I don't want to date ya! I prefer positive-minded people.
Her saying she had a bad experience with a guy isnt being negative minded. She obviously wanted to get thoughts on**** like that. I'm pretty sure she wouldnt wanna date you either.....not with that attitude.
OP I agree with everyone else, I would have walked out and let him pay for the meal...after giving him a few choice words haha. | |
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