| You call this Dating?
Posted: 1/27/2009 12:59:26 AM | I'd have to agree with the quote
I agree with this poster. First off, (and here comes the food snob in me) I don't do chain restaurants (too many children running around and never any good wine) , buffets (I don't need a whole restaurant touch and sneeze on my food) or fast food places in my personal life. If a guy told me he wanted to meet me at one, date canceled. I'm not saying it has to be an expensive place, but it better have good food. All of the aforementioned, do not have food I would eat. I live in the NYC area and if the best thing a guy could come up with was a slice from the local pizzaria, then I it's a done deal. It's a wrap. BTW, Pizza Hut is disgusting on so many levels. That's the pizza snob in me coming out. Oh and Olive Garden isn't even remotely similar to italian food!
There was another thread and a pizza date and the guy didn't pay for the girls food. Come on guys. If you can't flip the bill for that, then really, are you expecting to impress someone you are meeting?
I don't live in NYC, but nonetheless, my first thought was "Why did she agree to go out to a pizza place, for a first meet/date?" I looked at your profile and from what little I could discern, you seem smart, attractive, etc...about the same age as myself and I know I personally would absolutely laugh at a guy if he wanted to take me to pizza hut, or meet at pizza hut, for our first date/meeting. It's soooo cheesy (no pun intended). Almost like you're back in high school ?! Obviously this guy seemed to be missing the dough in his pizza, but you have to be a little more selective, I think...in the future. If you want to do the online dating thing....I would suggest not going to dinner or to eat, for a first date/meet. Keep it short and simple. Some say coffee, I prefer going out for a drink.
Sharing a meal together just locks you in to a longer date, when you might just want to run the hell out of there as soon as you see the person. And honestly, I wouldn't expect every guy on a dating site to take me to Smith and Wolensky for a steak dinner the first time we meet, so short of a decent dinner like that, why bother with a meal...(he might as well have taken you to McDonald's!
Now, say you have an afternoon meeting, such as one in a park on a nice summer day...coupled with a stroll in the city, something like that...and he suggests you stop for a slice a pizza, that's different....but this guy was just......nuts. Weird. Cheap. Strange. You name it. Not a good representative of the men out there. Not at all.
I'd have raced him to the door, before I paid that check, hopefully sticking out my heel to trip him on the way. Don't get discouraged by him. There are plenty of frogs out there, but this one was a freak.
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 1/27/2009 7:46:03 AM | | Aww, don't give up so fast, Jelica, we're not all like him. That guy was a schmuck, but I kinda understand where he was coming from. On a first date, I think the guy SHOULD pay. Maybe that guy went on a string of first dates, paid, and there were no second dates, in which case he became understandably bitter, and trickled over that bitterness to you (sorry). But still, that was uncool of him. It's about give-and-take...if there's some chemistry there, maybe in subsequent dates, both can share the dating expense... | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 1/28/2009 11:11:36 AM | | Ahhh, Pizza Hut charged him for the extra cheese...enough to make any man wig out especially on a tight dating budget. OMG, I just realized that the OP inadvertantly funded his next date/victim by paying the bill! Well, he'll learn from the encounter to either not order any extras or to ask mom for another $1.50! All you women want those extras that break a man; cheese, pepperoni, sausage, even veggie sometimes and when will it all end!-lol | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 1/28/2009 11:44:26 AM |
The next thing I know he is holding the bill right up to my face and says, you are just like all the other women, who use me.
Now this a classic demonstration of a gentleman with excess baggage. After hearing a statement like this, I would have taken the bill and calculated my half the bill to the penny and let the jerk pay for his share of the bill. Heaven forbid I would let someone like this pay for my meal, but I would not waste a single penny of my money paying for his either. Then I would leave the waitress a gerous tip, because this type of tight wad would probably stiff the poor server. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 1/28/2009 12:34:23 PM | | I agree with the previous poster. I also think this guy is the "gold digger." Face it, YOU paid the WHOLE bill! I am guessing he gets a lot of free meals, or at least tries to, this way. Whenever I go out with someone, I always offer to pay my share. 99.9 percent of the time, they decline. If they don't, and they in fact asked me out--whereby the right thing to do is pay your date's way--they don't get another date. Either way, he is a total jerk. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 2/8/2009 9:46:48 PM | | I saw this on a profile I don't usually comment. Some how I think it will get worse. So many people so little class. If you are a giving person you are now into open season. It is not easy to attract the people you would really get on with. Computer dating was a novel idea; it is past it's prime. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 2/8/2009 9:49:36 PM | "The next thing I know he is holding the bill right up to my face and says, you are just like all the other women, who use me."
I would call him Bi-polar.  | |
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Posted: 2/9/2009 6:21:12 AM | I have notice an alarming rate of men doing this to women. What I don't understand is why women are putting up with this.
I started dating again about 2 years ago, I think I've had about 8 1st dates and no 2nd dates. The men just aren't worth it. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 2/9/2009 6:23:00 AM | ha.. I would have told him "oh no I am much worse then every other women" and then left him with the bill. Let him think what he wants, who cares. lol
Did you order extra cheese or the dreaded veggie supreme?? lmao!! | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 2/9/2009 6:48:16 AM | | This is one thing that shouldn't even happen. I never pay for both of us. I expect her to pay for her own food or whatever and I'll do likewise. Besides, I'm tired of boring coffee shops and restaurants anyway and suggest shooting pool or just something else. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 2/9/2009 11:41:25 AM | /\/\/\/\/\
This is just typical of 'cheapskate over-dating'. People genuinely looking for a love connection should be more discerning BEFORE meeting, therefore avoiding the conveyor belt effect of humdrum - and thus making a budding romance virtually impossible. Less is more. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 2/9/2009 4:55:16 PM | I usually try to meet at a coffee place (they serve more than just coffee, lol, for you non-coffee people), so this situation probably wouldn't happen to me. I really don't want a guy spending any money on me and I don't want to be trapped there for a meal if I don't like them... I don't fight them for the coffee bill though! If they are coming like an hour away, maybe an inexpensive place for lunch.
That sitch shouldn't turn you off dating - dig in your heels girl & go get him!
Happy fishing y'all! | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 2/10/2009 9:09:54 AM | | @jelica...I would of said, no thank you as he passed the bill to me and politely excuse myself to leaving him there. hes a jerk..period. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2009 9:14:04 AM | | That was not even a date. He was a total jerk . He should not have contacted you if he did not want to go out. A pizza and 2 drinks is not a whole lot of money especially Pizza Hut. There are alot of nicer pizzarias than Pizza Hut. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 2/10/2009 3:09:56 PM |
Professionals in their 40s do not go to Pizza Hut for rendezvous. That should have been your first clue. Obviously this person could not afford to be dating......
I am laughing at the thought that someone could actually think they are being used for pizza!
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I agree with this poster. First off, (and here comes the food snob in me) I don't do chain restaurants (too many children running around and never any good wine) , buffets (I don't need a whole restaurant touch and sneeze on my food) or fast food places in my personal life. If a guy told me he wanted to meet me at one, date canceled. I'm not saying it has to be an expensive place, but it better have good food. All of the aforementioned, do not have food I would eat. I live in the NYC area and if the best thing a guy could come up with was a slice from the local pizzaria, then I it's a done deal. It's a wrap. BTW, Pizza Hut is disgusting on so many levels. That's the pizza snob in me coming out. Oh and Olive Garden isn't even remotely similar to italian food!
There was another thread and a pizza date and the guy didn't pay for the girls food. Come on guys. If you can't flip the bill for that, then really, are you expecting to impress someone you are meeting?
He did do you bad they way he treated you.
Normally a chain restaurant is not a good place to go....but I'm talking McDonalds, Taco Bell.
There are higher end chain restaurants that I would consider perfectly acceptable to take a date to eat.
I would not say Pizza Hut is not all that bad, in fact their pasta is pretty good with the new items they came out with.
Olive Garden isn't even remotely similar to italian food!
What?!? Olive garden has good food! And not cheap, if I remember correctly. No I would not consider it authentic Italian food, but great place to eat & seeing how long it takes to get a seat ( Popular place ) to eat a lot of people would agree.
jeesh what does a guy have to do to not get labeled incompetent?....lol No wonder some people just want a coffee date. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2009 4:23:15 PM | | ha ha.. I don't like the Olive Garden. lol. but I don't think it's a bad date.. lol.. Just a personal preference. The few times I ended up there I just got thier salad and breakstick thing and that was good. Can't mess up salad to bad..ya know? lol | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 2/11/2009 10:49:41 AM | any guy that takes you to a PIZZA HUT for your first date, is not worth your time.
i'm not shallow or expect some fancy dinner or alot of cash to be thrown around on me, but who the heck goes to PIZZA HUT on a first date
a walk on the beach would have been a cheaper date, but then you wouldn't have found out what a jerk he was until later | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 2/11/2009 10:57:34 AM | any guy that takes you to a PIZZA HUT for your first date, is not worth your time.
No kidding. There is way better pizza out there to be had...as a matter of fact, same thing with men too. Heck, now I'm waiting to hear about someone going to Chucky Cheese. He thought you were using him? Now that's funny. | |
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Posted: 2/11/2009 11:16:40 AM | LMAO ~ I think BigFish will have a hard time selling advertising to Pizza Hut.  (HA ~ an entire thread trashing PH ~ how funny is that? I thought I'd find the usual anti-chivalry/gold-digger-bashing and general misogamy posts in here ~ not today.) 
~OP~ I'm with the majority. He did you a favor.  | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 2/11/2009 11:19:39 AM | I can't wait to find a man to take me to Hot & Now - I'll be livin the high life then!  | |
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Posted: 2/11/2009 11:37:40 AM | Sheesh, after reading some the replies in here I'm afraid to reveal my thoughts??...lol
My rule is to meet very casually and inexpensively. It could be at a coffeehouse or a four-star restaurant, but if anyone orders anything more than a coffee or drink we go Dutch. I'm not meeting to have some unscrupulous woman use me to freeload dinner, and vice-versa.
On a wider note, relationships take time and "proximity" to develop; no matter how well one instant messages or talks on the phone, and doing the necessary activities together can get expensive.
If, early in the process, "anyone" is expected to pay most of the time, on every date, and the relationship breaks up for any reason, where does one get a refund? When does the person that is the beneficiary of such one-sided largesse pony up for all the money spent "getting to know" them?
It seems the accepted thinking is, as the guy, I'm supposed to pay for every date I go on, for any relationship length, and if things don't work out I'm supposed to cheerfully bite the financial bullet, go on, and do it all over again for the next "prospect".
No, sorry, but I'm just not that wealthy, which in this society evidently makes me relationship Kryptonite.
 Mo | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 2/11/2009 11:52:37 AM | | I met a man for a first date from POF,he suggested a movie and that we could get a little something to eat beforehand. We shared a few snacks and both chipped in to pay. When we arrived at the movie, he paid for the tickets and I bought the sodas and the popcorn. I was really comfortable with that. I would hate for some man to try to wine and dine me only to find out that I didn't see us as very compatable....A meeting is nothing more than a meeting unless there is mutual definition. | |
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| You call this Dating?
Posted: 2/11/2009 12:04:24 PM | Meh, thats nothing.. I dated a guy for a bit that asked me to go to Burger King one night cause, in his words..
"ITS $1.99 WHOPPER DAY, BABY!"
yes, he was that excited about it... | |
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