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Posted: 12/5/2008 10:07:56 AM |
I am one of the few who respects a woman more if she willing to share some special times with me on the first date than one who just wants to get to know me.
And then there are guys who have to post stuff like this in the hopes it will make them look like a wonderful caring guy and hopefully gets him laid too.
Whenever I see a post like this.... IT JUST SCREAMS DESPERATION!!!!!!!!! | |
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| first date sex
Posted: 12/5/2008 10:11:46 AM | LMFAO.
What other reason would there be to go out on a date? I really do respect women who do this more than women who do not. Because after all is said and done, one will no longer feel bad about themselves. | |
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| first date sex
Posted: 12/5/2008 10:20:07 AM |
sure nothing it wrong with it..but if i get laid on the first date...im gonna question how many other guys shes done this with
and I hope at the same time, just to be fair, that you question YOURSELF how many times you've banged one on the first date. Please judge others as you would yourself - it will be a good motto to "grow up" with. | |
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| first date sex
Posted: 12/5/2008 10:30:13 AM |
and I hope at the same time, just to be fair, that you question YOURSELF how many times you've banged one on the first date. Please judge others as you would yourself - it will be a good motto to "grow up" with.
That's a flawed argument because it assumes that the guy and the woman are both looking at it form the same viewpoint....
Whether or not the guy repects himself, is not going to change his views on the subject. A lot of men admit to being pigs, it doesn't mean they want to have a relationship with one. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 10:52:10 AM | Tee hee hee hee.. LOL.
Nothing wrong when a woman wants to do this on the first date. Just as long as both parties are aware of the risks involved and don't run after that once in a blue moon birth protection device fails.. Statistically it can happen to anyone. So before this behavior begins, ask yourself are you prepared for the consequences?  | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 11:05:16 AM | | Follow the chemistry OP. No need to try to micromanage a dating relationship unless your buying into that as a term of the connection. Sex on first date is not a big deal. If it feels right and you feel safe then enjoy it. Dont let n e 1 tell you otherwise. Your and adult capable of making adult decisions. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 11:49:13 AM | Condoms ain't natural either, do you like rubbers on the first date?
I couldn't disagree more....
I think sex is very natural. How someone touches, feels and explores another person, IMO, isn't something taught, but rather something very natural and unique for everyone.
I was with someone who I knew was with a lot of women and he was nothing to write home about.
I thinks it's wrong to assume someone had been around the block just because they're good in bed and it's also wrong to assume someone sucks in bed because they have only been with 1 or 2 people...
JMO tho *shrugs* | |
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| first date sex
Posted: 12/5/2008 11:51:31 AM |
A lot of men admit to being pigs, it doesn't mean they want to have a relationship with one.
What makes you think a woman does?
Your statements and views are so ignorant and narrow minded. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 11:51:49 AM | so it's the first date and your BOTH getting laid and you question how many other guys SHES done this with....ever think maybe she's wondering how many other girls have you done this with? Double edged sword my dear, takes two to tango...
When will you girls learn WE DON'T RESPECT YOU IN THE MORNING! | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 11:54:26 AM |
Condoms ain't natural either, do you like rubbers on the first date?
That wasn't my point | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 12:05:20 PM | Luckily for us younger women there are plenty of guys in our age category who will respect us even after having sex with us, who understand that we're human beings (not virgins or whores).
You just have to find one. That being said, my preference is to wait a few dates because I like to know who I'm dealing with (I've had stalkers before, not fun).
One theory I've heard regarding the OPs original question is simply that the odds he'll call you after first date sex is about the same as the odds he'd call you after a first date without sex. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 12:10:04 PM | Not respecting a woman just because she hooked up with you on the first date is insane!!
Heck, maybe she is just trying to help you out. Funny how it is that most people complain about not getting any and then when someone puts some on them, they turn around and worry or complain about it.. That is just crazy.  | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 1:19:36 PM | RE: oohlala21, Since when does a 20 something guy have the intellegence to rationalize or differentiate female status. At that age sex is sex, woman are for sex. Human being, virgin, whore there's no thought process here. You really are young, and very naiive. Men at that age are all about sex, very rarely will you find one that will appreciate women for the beings we are. Have you ever heard of locker room talk? Don't kid yourself, you are not lucky. Your theory is all wrong, just read what the majority of the men are saying, young or old, they are saying they want to get to know the girl first, IF they are looking for a relationship. The Poster is looking for a relationship and a second date, not one night stands and boody calls. The one night stands are not working for her, so why encourage her to continue? Mama has spoken now go clean your room, dinner will be ready in about half an hour!!!!  | |
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| first date sex
Posted: 12/5/2008 1:33:14 PM |
sure nothing it wrong with it..but if i get laid on the first date...im gonna question how many other guys shes done this with
Im with chiefs76 on this one.Ok if the chemistry is there great and if it was offered on a plate not many would turn it down,but you would have to question the girls integrity,and if you could get serious.I just wonder,do some girls do the business on the first date to try and keep the man if she feels he's the one,even if its against their morales and principles? | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 1:37:29 PM |
A lot of men admit to being pigs, it doesn't mean they want to have a relationship with one.
What makes you think a woman does?
Your statements and views are so ignorant and narrow minded.
Yeah, it's narrow minded. It's ignorant and it's true.
And if a woman doesn't want to date a man because he's a pig, why should she be surprised and why should she call a guy ignorant when the man feels that way? | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 1:50:21 PM |
Luckily for us younger women there are plenty of guys in our age category who will respect us even after having sex with us, who understand that we're human beings (not virgins or whores).
Yep, and there's a lot of guys out there who understand that some women are just human beings in the process of going from virgin to whore!
What makes you think they really respect you afterwards anyway? A bloke's not likely to tell you the truth if he doesn't now is he? I've ****ed a lot of slags and been nice as ****ing pie and friendly to them afterwards. Doesn't mean I want to see 'em again. | |
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| First date sex is great!
Posted: 12/5/2008 1:52:38 PM | | First date sex can be awesome and I have had two long term relationships after first date sex. The problem is that sometimes on the first date, the sex sucks or the other person does something to really turn you off. Woman that allow their dog in bed and you get startled by the dog licking your ass while taking care of business,later. Women that smell, later.Women that have dirty sheets and bathroom, later. Women that can't get over their last relationship, later, and women that are not hygenic and want you to go downtown, later,later, later. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 2:06:30 PM | | It amazes me the number of men that are intimidated by a woman with a high sex drive. How long it takes before you have sex has nothing to do with how a relationship with the woman will go. I've know people to have long successful relationships with women that had sex with them the first night and I've seen women that held off for weeks or months relationships crash and burn. If it scares you gentlemen it's ok too but don't claim to speak for all men. I personally like high sex drives and strong connection, it insures passion. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 2:08:43 PM | I agree with the subject- first date sex is great! i have one stands all the time-dosnt bother me at all! i think it takes a person who aint scared of nothin. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 2:10:36 PM | Ok,
These posts have gone a bit the wrong direction.
But I have comments on both subjects being discussed.
The term giving up the sex or withold the sex to get a second date pretty much make me laugh every time...
1. It is very old fashion to think you have a gift to give a guy. You know you want it as much as he does (society has tried to squash this in ladies, I applaud those that have seen through this puritanical hogwash). You don't have a gift, you have a desire that you decide if you want to act on.
2. Insecure men are bothered by how many men you slept with. Do you want an insecure man? A man that is secure will enjoy what you have learned from others and as much as you will enjoy his experience. It is not a game of who has more notches but a game of if you enjoy each other.
I would like to make sure that everyone understands I am not preaching to anyone to live the way I do, but for me (At my age) I don't want an inexperienced woman. I don't judge a womans past and I enjoy the skills that are learned on the journey that came before me.
Just my opinion, take it or leave it. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 2:27:08 PM | It all depends. Its all in the mood & the moment. We are only human and we have needs, both men & women.
I know that everyone enjoys sex, I myself, I am very sexual person but I enjoy it with the right person & hopefully as you said why dont they call or have a 2nd date; I've never had that problem most people I've dated ends up being in a long term relationship with me.
But its true there are times when it happens the magic fades away. I value the person not just because we had sex, I VALUE THEM AS AN INDIVIDUAL and I expect the same in return. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 2:32:40 PM | Women generally know within 5 minutes of first meeting a guy whether they want to sleep with them tonight... adn well before you think thats kinda sad, just remember guys decide whether they wanna sleep with a woman or not just by seeing her walk by lol
That said, if everything is going good on the first date and you are in the mood just do it.
if you are that worried about getting a call down the road... invite him back to your place, and have him spend the night with you... and make him a nice breakfast in the morning followed by more sex, or prempted by more sex ;) if you are refused morning sex, or you refuse morning sex, then the night before must not have been that great and any further nights won't be any better | |
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Posted: 12/5/2008 6:01:47 PM |
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Thats why I generally sleep till noon after a good one-off lay
And what you said is pure horse s**t!
I lost my virginity to casual sex...we still chat occasionally.
I'm still friends or friendly with a good number of my one night stands.
My last two long term relationships started as what I thought was going to be a one night stand...
Since becoming sexually active I've never gone on a date with someone I haven't already slept with first. I like to get that out of the way before wasting an evening with someone only to discover they suck in bed.
So by that theory I tend to have sex on the first date...but thats cause we've already done the deed.
I've only had one one-off be even remotely disrespectful to me afterwards...and even though it was only in jest I set him straight right quick
What kills it for most women is their insane need for emotional connection post-coitus.
Isn't it good enough that you got laid?
If you can remain friends then GREAT...but if not...W/E...you probably didn't know much more than his first name so you could moan it anyway. | |
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