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Posted: 1/18/2009 7:41:14 PM | Not niceto HATE Misterstone, or should i call u a god, Praise him he is perfect of great Misterstone (bowes before u ) | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 1:37:22 PM | | Why not......It can be a huge turn off for me if you think a girl is gagging for it but wont cause she is afraid of what others think ......Free your minds and the rest will follow.....Guys are often real fools like this if some get it straight away they lose respect and thats weird in my eyes. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 2:11:55 PM | First date sex is the norm. And acceptable - by mature individuals.
There isn't anything wrong with it; it's between 2 consenting adults.
It's ridiculous that, although, a man can do it on a first date and it's considered all good, however, if a woman should they're considered a slut.
And we all know that if a woman is okay with it, the man wonders how easy she has been in her past.
The double standard is and always will be there.
But a man decides to pass a woman by because she will on the first date?
its his loss and, girlfriend, your gain! | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 2:59:08 PM | It was first date sex for him too. So the rest of you guys can climb down off your high horses. As if you won't go for it your own self. Shhh if she gives it up on the first date what was it you were doing? Playing tittle winks.
And if the sex was good I would be back every chance I got. I make no bones about it. Hon you just have to learn there are a lot of hypocrites in the world. And if they don't come back for seconds, consider you just had a narrow escape. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 3:02:55 PM |
Playing tittle winks.
My, I don't know what that is but it sounds VERY arousing!  | |
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Posted: 1/25/2009 7:28:24 PM | Well since both sexes bring different balances of power to the table, I would have to say that it takes 2 to tango BUT, one tango's more than the other in that SHE has probably done it with lots of guys racking up a huge list, but the guys SHE has done it with do not neccessarily have the same number.
I knew a girl who had slept with 60 guys by the time she was 20... I'm pretty sure all those guys had not each slept with 60 women....
Pandoras box kind of
My two cents. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2009 3:13:38 AM | Interesting. Does meeting for sex COUNT as a first date?
Hmmmm........on second thought, I will stick with what works for me.
And start counting sex as first dates. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 10:01:29 AM | | I had a one night stand once and it turned into a 20+ marriage.... You wouldn't buy a car without test driving it would you? Sex is huge in a relationship, if ur not compatable in bed why not find out right away, just be safe about it.... | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 2:31:01 PM | I have had sex two to three times on the first date and only one encounter turned into a relationship. I think you take your chances, but if you want to know why he left communicate with him and if he does not want to talk move on.
-Mike | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 3:18:50 PM | hmmm.. interesting points here.
But ive had first date sex twice, and both times they turned into lasting relationships.
I think sex has to be good, or else it can kill a relationship, so why not find out if its going to work
sooner then later!!  | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 4:20:12 PM | Hmmmmm....and what about the GUY who was so hopeless in bed that he became embarrassed and did not call again? Or the guy who is just a player and while giving the impression he does like the girl and enjoyed the sex and then disappears into the blue yonder never to be heard of/ or seen again?
To my mind guys like that are best forgotten anyway. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 4:35:46 PM | | I am 31, on the first "date" I have always had the woman wanna have sex- I have turned this down about 5 times ever- I was too drunk, didn't really like her ect... But I have been with my gf about 4 years and we had sex about 25 minutes into our first date. I have stated many times on this forum- I never go on a date looking for sex- that is so lame ( to me). I can get sex, I am looking for a relationship when I go out on a date. If it hits off good, I say go for it, but be safe. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 4:55:19 PM | | If I think I want to see him again, I won't sleep with him the first date, maybe not even the second. And I definately won't sleep with him if I don't intend on seeing him again. Yeah, sex is natural, butif it's just not there, it's not there for me anyway.. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 5:12:51 PM |
But ive had first date sex twice, and both times they turned into lasting relationships.
Umm.... You're 19....
How long did they last...? or did you start having sex at age 12..? what do you call a 'lasting relationship'?
For me a lasting relationship is at least 3 years.... Hell, at your age, I've gone out with girls I didn't like for over a year simply because I wanted the free and easy sex... I've never had sex with a girl on a first date, ever become a long term relationship... as I said, I'll hang around, but it never would become long term... | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 5:23:37 PM |
You wouldn't buy a car without test driving it would you
Last two new cars I bought, I ordered, after test driving a similar model...
Once a car has been test driven too many times, it loses value and they sell them off cheaper to get rid of them... a lot of guys don't even want a test driven car even at the greatly reduced price...
A car that has been badly driven or driven too hard and too fast may not run nicely in the future... and may have problems with breakdowns and general wear and tear on the body or just feel 'loose'... People who test drive cars often don't have a lot of thought or respect for the car and treat it badly inspite of the short time they spend in it... Often they will go from place to place test driving them, but have no real intention of committing, but often claim they will just for the fun of the test drive... Frequently a man may hope to get into a few and even consider whether or not he could own one, but as is often the case, he's already committed to a previous model, and that will put an end to that pretty quickly... | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 5:48:27 PM |
You wouldn't buy a car without test driving it would you?
At least with a car you can rebuild the transmission or just toss a whole new engine in...
I'm sure there is only so much that those little blue pills can ameliorate if you've snagged yourself a lemon. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 6:12:06 PM | I learned in Psychogy of Human Sexuality that most women decide within 5 minutes of meeting a man whether or not they or going to have sex with him or not... it's a chemical thing.
But men love the thrill of the chase, so you apparently have to make them work for it....stupid games.
Why does having sex on the first date make a woman a slut? or loose? or say that she does it with every guy she goes out with? That is stupid. Ugh
Ugh
Beth | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 6:18:40 PM |
if you keep on 'practicing' the wrong things, you don't get any 'better'.. I agree.
Just because you have many lovers, if they are one nighters, it does not make you a better lover. You have to be able to know whether you did something right or not to know and you usually can't know this from a one time encounter. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 8:32:25 PM | | no not 12, thanks very much. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 8:32:47 PM |
it's a chemical thing.
Yeah the active chemical is usually C2H5OH moe commonly known as alcohol...
Why does having sex on the first date make a woman a slut? or loose?
Ok... so how many first dates does she have sex on....? All of them...?, just a few..? none...? I'd bet over the years, I've been on hundreds of first dates.... I sure as hell didn't sleep with all of them... how many first dates does the average person have in a lifetime...? What percentage to sleep on the first date is ok...?
or say that she does it with every guy she goes out with? That is stupid. Ugh
So what you're saying is that the guy should believe that he's so overpowering that she changed her dating habits for him? That she never had first night sex with another guy before him? And she suddenly decided that he out of the dozens of guys she has dated, is the first and only one she decided to jump into bed with on the first date...
Yeah right....
Or is it more likely that she does this often enough to be comfortable doing it...? especially if she's older....
You can't really say, you like the guy that much on first meeting... Hell, you don't even know him, so that can't be the reason... Hell, a lot of my friends are likeable in short doses... nice for a few hours.... but once you get to know them.... Hmmmm you might not like them..... totally different.... | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 2:06:03 AM | | I can count the men I've slept with on one hand but have had a one night stand that turned into marriage,,, I grew up with him and knew him though and what's the point of getting to know someone for a long time, really care for them, then have sex and nothing is there, then what, where do you go from there. Test drive that car but I'm assuming you have talked on the phone for awhile or emailed enough that you feel like you know them...... Guys have sex on first dates all the time, are they sluts???? | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 8:38:51 AM |
I can count the men I've slept with on one hand but have had a one night stand that turned into marriage,,, I grew up with him and knew him though
Then that's not really the same thing... generally a one night stand is a one off, you don't know the other person and you're not likely to see them again...
Sex on a first date is vastly different than if you've known the guy all your life then decide to get between the sheets... I can see how knowing someone for a long time can lead to marriage... | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 11:23:19 AM | I dont get that either...now im affraid to have sex with a guy that im into, cause then there is the possibility If i sleep with him the first time...I wont hear from him after that | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 11:30:50 AM | Men and women are different. That is just a simple and plain fact that, for some reason, society wants to ignore.
I just started reading through some of the forums today for the first time. Over and over I'm seeing a trend that completely distinguishes the sexes. LOTS of guys have made comments that clearly state that, regardless of whether they are interested in the woman beyond today, if you offer then sex, they'll take it. On one thread one of the guys said that she was the kinda girl you have sex with and get rid of, but not the kind you have a relationship with. One of the guys on this thread said that if he had sex on the first date he'd wonder how many other times it happened.
TAKE NOTE GIRLS: neither of them chose to reject the offer of sex!
I'm sure there are some guys who would just walk away, but I suspect the numbers are low. If we offer it, they will accept. Don't put them down for it. Don't judge them. Don't expect more. Accept their maleness and either deal with it as it is or make different choices.
GUYS TAKE NOTE: Most women feel invested when they have sex. Not all, admittedly, but most. Very few women will just have sex just to have sex, with the knowledge that they have no intention of ever talking to that person again. We just aren't like that.
This is where the confusion lies, in the differences. We each keep trying to judge each other by what's normal for our own gender. People call it a 'double standard' because they think we should all be the same. We simply are not the same. It's not a double standard, it's men and women. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 11:40:31 AM | After reading almost this entire thread I have some questions lol
What about the person?
Many are talking about mileage....numbers...lists..... kick her tires and give her a go.... How many dates DOES it take to minimize the number of sexual partners a woman could have had..... assuming both are disease free.... what's the difference between a divorced woman who was married for 10 years and had sex 4 times a week vs a woman who dated off and on for 10 years. I doubt the even the most active single gal had sex 2000 times in 10 years.
It doesn't matter if you wait another date or another 10 dates her "mileage" is not going to change.
As for the other side... doesn't withholding sex based on an arbitrary number in the hopes that it shows in interest in you rather than just sex kind of set a precedent for the future of the relationship? Specifically, that sex be used as a tool of some sort rather just a more intimate expression of how you feel?
How many dates are a minimum for those of you who "make him wait"? What constitutes a date? Does amount of time talking on the phone, texting, and love notes accumulate to the magic number?
If sex is bad, it's bad it doesn't matter when it takes place. The only difference is how much time and energy was wasted by the two of you to find out that you are not compatible.
The right time to be intimate should be a matter of the heart andchemistry.....not mental gymnastics and mathematics. | |
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