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Posted: 7/2/2009 12:11:13 PM |
I dont get that either...now im affraid to have sex with a guy that im into, cause then there is the possibility If i sleep with him the first time...I wont hear from him after that
On the other hand, if you don't have sex with him, you might also not hear from him again. The obvious solution is for YOU to decide if YOU want to have sex and then accept whatever happens. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 12:17:02 PM | Damned if you do and damned if you don't......Sounds just like HIGH SCHOOL!
WOW.....I was totally against it and wound up having it with some prick named Rick who played me into thinking he wanted more...OUCH! the I waited for another 6 months before I took the risk of even meeting someone again.....he left a REALLY SOUR taste in my mouth.........
Met a man from here, invited him to my place and the first night we went for it...did it anyways and holy sh*t was it great...and I have been living HAPPILY with the guy for the past 2 months....He never left my house afterwards.I'm still on that first date..and now we are totally emotionally and sexually involved! WHOO HOO!
Here's to FIRST DATE SEX RISKS that can amazingly turn into MORE! I guess it just depends on how commitment phobic/narcissistic the person really is as to whether it lasts or not.And really,if they don't call you back BECAUSE you slept with them,what does that say about THEM? LOSER!
Do what YOU feel comfortable with and try not to think....."SLUT" when you do it....Don't put too much emotion into it until you see if it's reciprocated after the fact..use protection..and HAVE FUN....
RELAX.......it's JUST SEX. hehehehe
OH...and if he doesn't call afterwards...figure he he's just a slut without a heart who did you a FAVOR by showing his true colors right off the bat, don't take it personally...there's PLENTY OF FISH with HEARTS out here who WILL call you back after you fvck them!!!!!!!!!!
To them....I give a standing "O"!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 12:17:52 PM | As someone who had first date sex with my now husband.....I say go for it!  | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 12:30:56 PM | Since my divorce 10 years ago I have had a total of 4 relationships that lasted just over a year. I had sex with each of them on the first date. So at least for me sex on the first date does not rule out a lasting relationship.
It really just depends on how much you really like the person as to whether or not you pursue a second date. You can like someone enough to have sex with them, but not to want them as a girlfriend/boyfriend. For example, a high maintenance girl. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 12:40:22 PM |
You can like someone enough to have sex with them, but not to want them as a girlfriend/boyfriend. For example, a high maintenance girl.
I think "like" is the wrong term.How about use them for sex.....and don't want her because she isn't worthy of anymore effort than being a sperm depository.
I have never wasted my time having sex with someone I don't like....seems a little pointless if you ask me.Well....not unless I was getting paid, I mean.
And WHO doesn't call back for more free sex, at the very least, but a LOSER!??????
A chicken sh*t....that's who and who needs THAT in thier bed or life? | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 12:51:16 PM | About two years ago I gave my first ever candlelight dinner to a lady that I was very impressed with the night before on our meet and greet. I so happens that at age 48 it was her first candlelight dinner - she was very very impressed to say the least. As I cleared the dishes and we finished the first bottle of Asti she said, "I don't know what it is about you but I have told you things tonight that only my very best best friend knows about me." After dinner we talked more and when I broke open the second bottle of Asti I gave her a toast. "To our last first date." She said, "Here, Here!" I meant it. "She Had Me From HELLO!" We made love that night, We started a little before 10 and finished just after 4 am. She asked if I was always like this and I told her she could come back any for the rest of her life and have seconds. I meant it. The relationship lasted 2 months and due to outside problems at her work we broke up but it took some time to get totally over her but a better one did come along. But if a guy or a gal wants to know about the person and have a relationship with that person they go back for the second date and more. If they are a one and done then they loose out not me.
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Posted: 7/2/2009 2:10:44 PM | look at how many relationships end after they have sex 500 times! odds are it will end at some point anyway so don`t worry about it. i think the number one problem on a first date is people are too cautious about the impression they might make and hold back which if your partner is a freak they will think you`re to conservative and if you`re too much of a freak for them you`d get bored with them anyway. Just go for it. worse case is you get a nut!!!  | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 5:55:54 AM | | Sex based on physical attraction and basic likeable qualities may be enjoyable but never to the degree of being emotionally connected with someone. Women I have met want lengthy lovemaking with someone they know and have a strong connection with and the freedom to let them selves go. Taking the time to truly get to know a woman and understand her wants/needs heightens the pleasure tenfold. Comparing lovemaking/sex to a 7 course meal with dessert the sex, the enjoyment of the first 6 courses heighten the anticipation of the intimacy and can be explosive to say the least. On the other hand, having the dessert first leaves little reason to stick around, especially if the meal offered is not your favorite dish. I have been fortunate in that I have always been invited for follow up dinner parties with varied deserts, one better than the last. Bon Appetite! | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:57:03 AM | | i have no issue with that. as long as we both want it, i see no problem with it. if i have sex with u, apparently i am interested in you. unless u did something completely off the wall or scary, y wouldn't i call back? maybe u need to look for a different type of guy. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 3:18:25 PM | It's no secret, at least not for me, that I know within the first few moments of being in his company that something has definitely "clicked" and caught my attention and if he's game, it's on. Yes, I will and have had sex on a first date.
Confession time:
Sometimes I'm the one who doesn't call back!
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Posted: 7/28/2009 3:35:35 PM | In all things, moderation.
Use your discretion. Be responsible. Be willing to accept the outcome. Being careless with anything doesn't lead to anything good. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 4:04:59 PM | OP I like your attitude. There are a lot of "rules" people stick to (male and female). Sometimes these "rules" are labeled "games" and sometimes "respect". It kind of takes the adventure away but sometimes may be necessary for self preservation... I suppose.  | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 4:21:59 PM | I see two sides of this, and they both equate to a little thing called honesty. If you're honestly in the mood, go for it. If you're solely in the mood, be honest about it.
Respect, or not to respect...that is the question. Honesty does make a huge difference. It puts that first date into its rightful place, and puts certain angst at ease. Then there's no worries about whether or not there's going to be a phone call or not. I guess since no one likes to wear labels, the angst of the "phone call" comes from the idea that no one wants to be or feel used. (Oh, and fyi...we men feel the same way about this.)
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Posted: 7/28/2009 4:33:43 PM | you just need to be clear on what you want and to distinguish this in the mind of the male involved. there is no such thing as sexual liberation or meeting women's needs when it comes to men. the mind set is neandrathal! there are still "grown" males running around with the madonna / whore complex or good girls don't / bad girls do syndrome.
if you want to have sex with the guy, go right ahead, but don't kid yourself that it will be taken as any way except cheap. you may get another call - a booty call! just be prepared! if you get fortunate, you may stumble across a decent man who enjoys you just as you are.
sometimes it doesn't matter, either ... I went out with a man for six months before I slept with him. we live several miles apart and he does travel some for his job, so I thought we were well on our way to at least being friends. however, as soon as I had sex with him ... it may as well have been a one-night stand! I have broken up with him three times in 2-1/2 yrs. he comes back around, but not much changes.
THAT's why I'm on this site! stating my wants / needs and trying to see if there are real, normal males around! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 4:38:39 PM | I think "like" is the wrong term.How about use them for sex.....and don't want her because she isn't worthy of anymore effort than being a sperm depository.
I have never wasted my time having sex with someone I don't like....seems a little pointless if you ask me.Well....not unless I was getting paid, I mean.
And WHO doesn't call back for more free sex, at the very least, but a LOSER!??????
A chicken sh*t....that's who and who needs THAT in thier bed or life?
This is from a "closer2u" post and it is EXACTLY correct ! I have been dealing with sorting out a situation like for over 2-1/2 years! I'm at this site to make every effort to get past it! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 6:11:00 PM | " If you get fortunate, you may stumble across a decent man who enjoys you just as you are."
And there's the rub. This is what will make it last. Unfortunately, it's damn hard to tell the difference between "This guy really does like me for what I am" and "This guy has scented blood [sic] and is saying what he needs to say."
I guess that the best advice is what you've already heard; go to bed with him if YOU want the sex. Not if you want to make him happy, but if he turns you on and you want to make you happy. DON'T vest in it, because it's either going to work between you or not, and the sex isn't going to play into THAT a damn bit. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 10:38:26 PM | Closer2U,
I love you!
Problem is when they want more sex but not really more YOU. So they'll tell you anything to keep getting laid. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 11:07:05 PM | | SEX IS THE ANSWER, now what was the question? LOL | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 2:11:03 PM | | if somebody was that bad would you tell them???????????????? | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 2:39:12 PM |
ok what is it with guys and first date sex.. what is wrong with wanting to get laid if you like the guy?
There is nothing wrong with that at all and in fact it would show me how much you desire me but what I don't like is when you ask your date if you can have sex with them , the thing is when you ask you seem to cross an unknown boundary and your date goes postal on you for asking for sex even though you didn't know your date had that boundary.
why dont they call or have a 2nd date? i would.. if i had a good time and was in the mood **** it...why is that wrong? if you had a good time and like the girl before sex why not after sex...
I know I wouldn't bother going on a second date date no matter how good of time we were having if the sex was bad but whether you make me wait for the 5th ,50th or 500th date if the sex was bad I wouldn't bother going on the another date with my date and that's why I don't understand why some people wait to have sex. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 9:33:57 PM | Do you know what makes me laugh and laugh about those insecure guys who name call for having the same sex men have?
The fact I could F*ck every single man in town, even the elderly, throw in some women even, I mean EVERYONE, 6 a day, sometimes 10 or 12 soreness permitting..
Then tell YOU that I want to wait and you would assume I am a lady. I will bat my Bambi eyes at you and tell you I haven't done this much. Move your hand away when you try to touch my bits. etc..
Waiting is nothing but a game and can be taken up by any one at any time xD ...GROW UP.
OR I could have went so long without it and like you, so I have my needs met and I bet you liked it too, you slut! I wont call you the next day, I am an immature, insecure hypocrite.
And props to the men who see the worth of the sexually charged female. | |
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