| Difficult to meet people with no children
Posted: 1/30/2009 7:47:25 AM | By 30 one would expect to have kids, I think about 26 is the right age to start having kids though, finished college/university, have a stable job and you are more then likely in a good relationship with someone. If they are going to commit to you fully then having kids is certainly a great thing, I wouldn't want to be having kids after 35 though, my cousin and her husband did it and had trouble for a long time doing it.
You can't just schedule when you are going to have children during your lifetime, especially when you are young and single. It is counting your chickens before they're hatched, the cart before the horse. Until you've found a stable, steady, partner or spouse, there is really no point in saying when you'd like to have them. Growing up in a single parent home, I always knew I never wanted to have children unless I knew they would have a father in the home too. My not having children at 45 is no accident, it is NOT cause I'm barren, hate sex,hate children, hate men, or because I'm unnattractive. It is because I was smart and used proper protection and birth control since I have not found anyone that I wanted to marry or knew they would stick around for the long haul. People have children totally for the wrong reasons. In today's world with the family planning and birth control methods that are available, children don't have to be just an accident. They are worth more than that. Find the "right person" first, then bring another human being into world. | |
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| Difficult to meet people with no children
Posted: 1/31/2009 8:12:01 AM | Dude you have to look at it this way. They are her and her ex's children. Not yours. Unless she's looking for a baby's daddy and isn't financially stable cause she had children and didn't start a career before hand. Well don't think anyone would want to date someone like that, or she should even be looking to date. But should be taking care of her childrens future first.
Also yah there is alot of ppl on her 28+ that have atleast one kid. It's life, women can't have children for very long. So alot start having kids mid 20's right out of college/university. | |
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| Difficult to meet people with no children
Posted: 6/14/2009 11:15:56 AM | I am pushing 30 and don't have kids and would prefer to date someone that also does not have kids. when I started on this site I wouldn't even read a profile if they said they had a child and there are lots. I realized that is not fair to the men or to myself, I was blindly overlooking nice people and making assumptions about them before ever giving them a chance. My main reasons for not contacting men with kids were:
1) to avoid the "baby mama drama" & the baggage that come with it.
2) they have a different lifestyle and set of priorities then I do.
I've always liked kids and am now more open to dating a single dad. I still don't often make first contact with if there have kids but I don't blindly over look them anymore either. | |
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| Difficult to meet people with no children
Posted: 6/14/2009 1:20:52 PM | Well I turned 40 last year and I am single no kids. Just haven't found Mr. Right to have kids and the older I get the harder it will be. Plus I'm not sure I want to be a mother in this stage of my life. As far as dating guys who have kids I don't mind but I find they don't have as much time to commit to a full-time relationship. Its hard for me to understand that sometimes. Since I don't have to balance that lifestyle kids, work, ex's and playtime.
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| Difficult to meet people with no children
Posted: 6/18/2009 11:51:15 AM | thanks 2pelohoney for pointing this out.
having children is definately a lifestyle change. a change that some are not willing to change. call it selfish, but I enjoy going to jamaica on a whim or being able to afford things without worry.
as well, no offense to parents with children....
when starting a cult I would like to pick my own members, not just have members due to association :) | |
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| Difficult to meet people with no children
Posted: 6/18/2009 8:23:29 PM | Children or no children..
You are right, it is difficult to meet people without kids, I agree with you %100. I just wonder, how many of the single parents are on assistance of some sort, or having the other parent ( if the parent in still in the life of the child) have the child half the time. Not the greatest way to raise a kid. Stats show that messed up kids come from more often then not a single parent family. People need to think before they go around having unprotected sex.
That being said, I would love to date a guy that has a kid, I see nothing wrong with it, as long as he was not on assistance of some sort and he was working to make things work from his family. | |
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| Difficult to meet people with no children
Posted: 6/18/2009 8:30:50 PM | glad you saw my point but sorry to say I missed yours.
when starting a cult I would like to pick my own members, not just have members due to association :)
what? hmmmm (shoulder shrug)???? I don't get it.
are you comparing having a (blended) family to being in a cult? sorry to say but people don't get to pick their family members. you can choose to ignore & exclude them but they are still family. | |
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| Difficult to meet people with no children
Posted: 6/19/2009 9:44:45 AM | yes having your own family is like having a cult.
moulding your followers with specific ideas and values.
I think people do get to pick their members. we pick people we want around us everyday. I pick my significant other and if I choose to have children with her the children will be raised my way/her way, mostly mine thou ;)
starting a relationship that already has children.... they are already moulded to someone elses values and morals.
as far as family that you have(mom dad bro and sis) you can exclude them out of your life as well. you control who you want in your life and out. | |
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