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| | How do you really feel about getting old?Page 11 of 12 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12) | There is of course absolutely no positive use in worrying about the what ifs......,
...., and 'what could have been'......, in this 'now' life.
But we all have weak moments and so as humans we sometimes do indeed worry 'too much'.
I feel very blessed and privileged to have had my youth back in the days when I feel 'I had it all'....., I feel they were in deed 'the glory days'. I feel we had so much more freedom back then....., I certainly seemed to have as many opportunities as I wanted...., it seems to me, we got away with lots of 'stuff' back then.
Back then we most certainly were not burdened as much, by the overt 'image based value systems' (inspired by market driven medias) that seem rampant today. Back then the media was not co-opting our minds and morals to the degree they so visibly ARE these days. I do believe it would be a much harder life(for me) if I was a gen Y or Z 'youth of today'...., than the youth I enjoyed (way) back then....., whenever.
Is that too obtuse ?
But...., physically..., my hearing and sight are not as precise as they once were...., and apart from what my scalp pushes out too profusely..., other hair does seem to grow way too quick and from four of five orifices in my head...., (maybe some 'dreadies' would be easy to weave out of them)....., I don't have chicken 'bingo' flaps hanging from under my arms (or anywhere else)......, seriously aging does bring lots of wisdom and humor.
Jeeze..., if you start concerning yourself too much with image(at any age)....., well then you are just painting yourself into a corner emotionally.
It will not become easier for you.
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/19/2009 8:48:06 PM |
Back then the media was not co-opting our minds and morals to the degree they so visibly ARE these days.
I am reminded of the posters of Kitchener during WWII, 'your country needs you' and all those blatant propaganda movies. Whilst in some ways I can see your point due to infinately more access to media on a worldwide basis undreamed of in the 40's. I would say that nowadays there is more general knowledge about the powers of persuasion and advertising techniques to the point that a lot of advertising actually acknowledges often with wry humour exactly what it is trying to do, even in childrens programmes.
As for the four or five orifices in your head.......there are seven, with possible the fontanelle being an eighth and in the case of misbehaving kids, nine if one includes the metaphorical maternal wishful bullethole. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 6:51:42 PM | Not scared off getting old but i am scared off getting old alone...i know that i have my babys (daughters)..but thats not the same..sitting out side and having a beer or wine by myself does not appeal to me at all..... | |
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Posted: 10/25/2009 5:19:11 PM | .........having a beer or wine by myself does not appeal to me at all.....
I can totally relate to this comment. I am on my own every second weekend, when my ex has the kids, and I've often thought I'll get a bottle of wine but it just doesn't seem right drinking by myself............... | |
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Posted: 10/25/2009 11:22:30 PM | I've often thought I'll get a bottle of wine but it just doesn't seem right drinking by myself...............
SPICY.....i dont think there is anything wrong with it..in moderation | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 4:34:33 AM | Well, the other night I got invited to a party,
But I stayed home instead.
Just me and my pal Johnny Walker,
And his brothers Black and Red.
And we drank alone, yeah, with nobody else.
We drank alone, yeah, with nobody else.
Yeah, you know when I drink alone, I prefer to be by myself. - G Thorogood.......
is it worth going out?....... | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 5:58:33 AM | Hilly,
I know as OP, this thread has been around for some time now. But you made me think about this for a while and this is an outlook I have.
(brew a coffee this could take a while - Im battling for length of post with Nana)
Age, growing older defines over time the (hopefully) benefit of wisdom.
I have felt over time and have reflected on it that I certainly am a much happier with myself person, than I was in my twenties. I remember the times of, as most of us were at that younger age, "rebellious, not a care in the world, I don't need to worry about the future attitude". Oh hell, and bugger those oldies who THINK they have the RIGHT to impart pearls of wisdom, whether asked for or not, for we are YOUNG and if we don't know, who cares !!!!!!!!!!!
In that aspect I smile , as now being one of those oldies, I have, whether they have wanted it or not, imparted those little pearls (perils ?) of wisdom to a younger generation, over time.
I also felt for absolute sure, many times I got into "evolving aspects of life" I had no idea what I was doing or what I wanted and just winged it. The usual stuff, being young, taking each day as it comes, no sense of life direction, more concerned about partying and chasing girls and good times.
Over time, and through making alot of mistakes as well as some fantastic achievements (fantastic to me anyway) find now, hindsight and living the life I have has shaped my character, my belief system and my view of people and what I deem important to me.
From this, for me, I find it far more valuable to associate with people who think of me as "gee, he's fun to have around" or " damn, that discussion we had made me think about what we discussed for days"
As I get older, I am valuing those who I interact with that make me feel positive to be around, and I hopefully do the same for them. I'm more inclined to be with "those who buzz my brain box" rather than those who view me as someone who may look as ugly as a hatful of wombats arseh*les.
Getting older has benefited me with a clearer certainty of what direction I want in life, whom I wish to associate with and how I want to conduct myself in the world. I'm still going to make mistakes. I will still be involved in situations, though, not apparent at first, will make me feel uncomfortable. But beingolder has provided me with better skills to deal with it, and adapt and grow and learn.
I look in the mirror and I see the deepening crows feet around the eyes, the greying of hair (and the shock, horror of more hair growing in places I didn't think hair would grow!) and view these as badges of earning, for the way I have conducted my life, and my body certainly reflects that.
My secret to anti-ageing would be claiming first, its no secret. Be happy with who you are, change those aspects your not happy with, do those things that make you feel good. Act like a teenager, have a view of someone who is young at heart, but also, be one who is comfortable to be the adult and utilise the wisdom acquired when necessary.
Be comfortable in your own skin, no matter what you look.
And on a final note I will mention a major attribute we have that the younger folk will have to wait ages to acquire.....
Age and Treachery will ALWAYS overcome Youth and Skill
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Posted: 10/26/2009 6:20:38 AM |
So am I unusual? Or is this normal?
How do you really feel about getting older and looking older?
Can you honestly say it doesn't bother you? Or is that just a front for how you really feel about your ageing self?
Nope, it never bothered me 'til Aunty Ethel from down the road looked at me....you know, knowwwwwwwingly - that was a wakeup call to seek solace in the mirror & eliminate the wrinkles (mine, not hers). Seriously, once you accept the inevitable then what's to worry about? Whose expectations are we trying to satisfy anyway - those of our own vanity, or pressure from a shallow-as-a-puddle society? And ultimately where does it stop? Take good care of ourselves, sure, but don't get wrinkles worrying about it. On my deathbed I'd rather be worrying about whether I enjoyed myself enough rather than whether I managed to hold off having a face like a smacked ar*se 'til I was 95 (there I go again, assuming I'm going to live to be 170).
That's the ideal. However, the reality is that us humans obsess, we're insecure (though we love the bluster & bravado of denial), and very rarely are we not led by our innate desire to be accepted, praised & adored by the very people whose opinions mean jack when all is said & done.
OP, there are some great examples out there of women who grew old gracefully (Aunty Ethel isn't one of them though). Grace-paper-rock-botox... grace wins every time. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 7:59:48 AM |
we're insecure (though we love the bluster & bravado of denial), and very rarely are we not led by our innate desire to be accepted, praised & adored by the very people whose opinions mean jack when all is said & done. Yes, its true about the insecurity but feeling loved and accepted just nullifies it. I never even thought about being older until my husband actually left and then suddenly it seemed a huge hurdle that no rationalisation about aging gracefully could overcome. I initially did the whole 'blonde' thing in a panic and madly dieted in a quest for some kind of perfection/acceptance from society. With time I've come to a kind of self acceptance but feeling loved is even better.
Surely the significant point in being loved and appreciated is that it is by someone whose opinion does matter and is therefore worth something.
grace wins every time This coming from an African demon? | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 3:47:38 AM |
This coming from an African demon?
Absolutely. Demon by name.....
Surely the significant point in being loved and appreciated is that it is by someone whose opinion does matter and is therefore worth something
That's a given if we're talking about our nearest & dearest - I'm talking about conformity on a wider scale. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2009 1:46:20 PM | NEVER HANG YOUR GENES....in the same wardrobe as your selfesteem.
God if l had the money...ld go for a few modifications too.BUT l see those who are running around desperately trying to regain their youth....spending copious dollars on it...and they tend to get lost in it.
Vanity is a real **** really...age is an abuser...and wrinkles may be there making people get real about their lives.
l think you have to ask yourself...why do you feel you cant grow old gracefully?
Because prior to botox and all the other carrots doctors now dangle ...we all coped quite well.
lts eventuated because of fashion and what peoples perceptions have become thats considered sexy!
l hit a brick wall at 46 after l put on some weight...and luckily all my family look 10 years younger than actual age.
l hate it!!....weight has been far more disturbing than getting older.
Even sadder!!!...is that men on these dating sites are after women with fewer signs of aging.l think this has come about due to mens attitudes....those of us who are accepting of who we are.
You dont see MEN racing around getting face lifts and tummy tucks etc.
So WHO are women doing it all for!!...MEN..... for attention.
You may be an attention seeking addict?... | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 11/30/2009 4:41:42 PM | God if l had the money...ld go for a few modifications too. and
So WHO are women doing it all for!!...MEN..... for attention.
You may be an attention seeking addict?... So based on what you've said there, the only difference is that you can't fund the addiction?
You dont see MEN racing around getting face lifts and tummy tucks etc.
Don't know about facelifts and tummy tucks cos I've never had those, but I do see men in getting botox. They are usually pretty good looking types, wanting to keep what they've got. But like the women who get it, it takes guts to admit it publicly, and I doubt you'd ever know from looking at them unless they've gone overboard.
It's a funny thing, that once you admit to someone that you've had botox, how many people will 'fess up to you too. It's been a surprise to me how common it is...behind closed doors of course... which is odd for attention seekers really... ;) | |
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Posted: 11/30/2009 5:48:00 PM |
How do you really feel about getting older and looking older?
Can you honestly say it doesn't bother you? Or is that just a front for how you really feel about your ageing self?
I will turning 44 later this week and must say for the most part I don't feel any older than I did decades ago. I have no doubt I look older, grey hair etc. But I am fit enough to still do all the things I enjoy.
I believe my best days are ahead of me. My children are young adults, so I have a freedom to do and be as I choose. 44 years has given a wealth of experience to draw from. I hope to be still hiking and exploring this amazing planet with camera in hand well into my eighties and nineties. I often meet 'elderly' folk on tracks and trails and yes, they move a little slower than I, use hikers poles for safety, but the gleam in their eyes and excitement they have toward living is very inspiring. I really do believe age and life in general is all to do with attitude and perspective.
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Posted: 11/30/2009 9:54:08 PM | getting old... ?... mhea... that's the deal with long life.... you get older # wise...
I'm 54 ... shiite... there's no hiding from the numbers.... eeeek
the feeling?... a certain contentment right now... I've done all my "jobs"... the things I set out to do... or needed to do... had the duty and love to do....
I've exercised my wonder lust and traveled many times.. loved and lived.. found the edge many times... faced death and uncertain situations,survived... I've cared for my parents as they aged and finally passed, took over as an elder in the family and sorted a lot of the legal stuff .. I've worked/bought and sold to have my own house... I live debt free.. made few enemies...
I've sought out the true "elders " of this place and been "sang/smoked in" and made my peace.. covered in white ochre in a secluded special place.. said my sorries for my families footprints and possible confrontations over our 150 yrs since arrival, told my families story of a hundred years in this district... face to face with the "stone age".... learned a few of their truths... I "feel" the land now... I'm part of it... I have nowhere else ....
so many of my older family/relations.. have died around the 87 mark... few got into the 90's... my genetic clock is set, one would think.....
I guess I'll have to find something to do to keep me busy until then,I suppose... I'd hate to spoil the family average.... | |
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Posted: 12/2/2009 9:47:07 AM | 48.....who invented 48???!!! COME ON OWN UP...WHO *#7$$ing INVENTED 48...and what happens?
Happy burpday to me....happy burpday to me.....happy burpday dear oh my god those aren't hairdresser streaks its grey and those laughter lines are beyond hysterical and who said body bits should undulate like that especially when they still aren't fat!!! 48.....you can just shove it. Decided to say I am 55 cos then I look farging brilliant for my age. What's even worse is that I am now in my 49th year. | |
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Posted: 12/2/2009 2:26:58 PM | Happy Birthday Greyingred!!
My odometer also ticked over recently. Interestingly this time, my sense of mortality met with my vanity, and the outcome was the realization that this is perhaps the last chance I have in life to build up a 007 (Craig, not Brosnan)/wolverine/300 body.
Good thing it's summer! | |
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Posted: 12/2/2009 3:17:31 PM | ^^^ You know Travold, they say you are only as old as you feel.
I think you should let all of us OlderForumGirlies give you a good groping so we can tell how old you really are!
And HappyB'day to GreyingRed! | |
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Posted: 12/2/2009 3:48:50 PM | I too passed another milestone in my life recently, people now addressing my
mail, are now writing my age in the postcode boxes.
My family wanted to give me a cake with my age number in candles.
But everything being climate change these days, thought it might
not be in the best interests to emit that much heat into the atmosphere.
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Posted: 12/2/2009 5:03:21 PM | thank you all. Honest true gov last night was..well....shows I am not only getting old but am obviously a complete dinosaur...seriously got offered via text (such romance and class not!!!) if I want a threesome fuk........how can one refuse such a caring, erudite, respectful, genuinely affectionate offer...SHEESH. Think I will accept my other neighbours much more insightful, generous offer and he can mend my alternator...now that is a man who knows how to woo an old bags heart..and he gay.
think you should let all of us OlderForumGirlies give you a good groping so we can tell how old you really are
pathetic girlie...haven't you learnt anything????? You don't ask, you just grab and tell them later..asking merely risks the "NO" word . you reckon if we squeeze him hard enough then his muscles will contract, compact and he gets the oo7 bod? Yup giggle giggle.....you go first...we'll sneak up on him and EASY SQUEEEEEZY ....phwoar...... but have to say he might look a bit odd cos I will be squeezing Sean Connery and I have no idea who you want..oh who cares by the time we have finished squeezing, his head will have burst anyway and then no one will recognise him...not even himself. Added bonus, it also saves him getting old EVER.
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Posted: 12/2/2009 5:49:30 PM | | hmm looking old, well I think like anything if you don't feel good about something than change it, I do. Keeping myself up has always been big with me. I'm not extreme where I looking like a phony but I don,t feel like I have to be scared either, just even. And yah sort of doing your homework, keeping up with the trends and being real about what looks good on you but not trying to sweeze into something that makes you look ridiculous. Taking care of yourself by eating healthy foods, and of course drinking lots of water is a must. You know even on days when I'm slumming it, I pull it off. So aging doesn't really scare me at all. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2009 1:11:04 AM | Old is always 15 years older than you are!
I remember when I was 17 I attended a 21st birthday party and I thought that the host was over the hill! That gap then seemed huge but as we get older the gap between those older than ourselves seems to get smaller .
I don't think that we ever see ourselves as "old" that's for all the others out there.
Not sure whether I would have any enhancements or not, out of the question on my budget at the moment anyway. I always try to maintain a really good haircut as when my hair feels and looks good it gives me a bit of a lift. I am blessed with a good metabolism and have a slim/athletic figure (appearances can be deceptive) I am not always healthy in my habits, I am still puffing away and like the odd coldie or 6. What I find the hardest is when I look back and realise that it's over 30 years since I left school ! I can't be that old surely, I'm not mature enough.
I hope to grow old disgracefully but also realise that I have less years in front than I have behind me. Therefore I cannot waste them on being staid and conformist.
Oh and whoever said life is short What have you done that's longer? | |
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Posted: 12/3/2009 3:13:31 AM |
I too passed another milestone in my life recently, people now addressing my
mail, are now writing my age in the postcode boxes.
happy birthday Nomad.. may ... something bring a smile to your face this week...
and happy birthday to red... .. hope you enjoy.. yourself..
getting older?... hmmm. Ive decided.... it now depends on the day.. and what body part .. just happens to be clapping out that day.... on how I feel abouty the topic...
today./.. Im happy to be able to eat... and enjoying textures and tastes of food... I can;t stop smiling....
and Im really enjoying every breath...
air.. is just wonderful..
sighs... contentedly...
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Posted: 12/3/2009 12:24:21 PM |
happy birthday Nomad..
Thank you Ms soulmate,..........back on topic, a quote from old twinkle toes.
Old age is like everything else. To make a success of it, you've got to start young. -( Fred Astaire)
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Posted: 12/3/2009 3:23:54 PM | It bothers me, I'm always the oldest everywhere I go and even though I'm told I look young for my age my mirror says otherwise! Oh well, I've had a very eventful life and I'm loved by the people who matter. As long as I remain young ( immature?) inside I'll be ok. | |
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