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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/17/2009 9:28:59 PM | There is of course absolutely no positive use in worrying about the what ifs......,
...., and 'what could have been'......, in this 'now' life.
But we all have weak moments and so as humans we sometimes do indeed worry 'too much'.
I feel very blessed and privileged to have had my youth back in the days when I feel 'I had it all'....., I feel they were in deed 'the glory days'. I feel we had so much more freedom back then....., I certainly seemed to have as many opportunities as I wanted...., it seems to me, we got away with lots of 'stuff' back then.
Back then we most certainly were not burdened as much, by the overt 'image based value systems' (inspired by market driven medias) that seem rampant today. Back then the media was not co-opting our minds and morals to the degree they so visibly ARE these days. I do believe it would be a much harder life(for me) if I was a gen Y or Z 'youth of today'...., than the youth I enjoyed (way) back then....., whenever.
Is that too obtuse ?
But...., physically..., my hearing and sight are not as precise as they once were...., and apart from what my scalp pushes out too profusely..., other hair does seem to grow way too quick and from four of five orifices in my head...., (maybe some 'dreadies' would be easy to weave out of them)....., I don't have chicken 'bingo' flaps hanging from under my arms (or anywhere else)......, seriously aging does bring lots of wisdom and humor.
Jeeze..., if you start concerning yourself too much with image(at any age)....., well then you are just painting yourself into a corner emotionally.
It will not become easier for you.
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/19/2009 8:48:06 PM |
Back then the media was not co-opting our minds and morals to the degree they so visibly ARE these days.
I am reminded of the posters of Kitchener during WWII, 'your country needs you' and all those blatant propaganda movies. Whilst in some ways I can see your point due to infinately more access to media on a worldwide basis undreamed of in the 40's. I would say that nowadays there is more general knowledge about the powers of persuasion and advertising techniques to the point that a lot of advertising actually acknowledges often with wry humour exactly what it is trying to do, even in childrens programmes.
As for the four or five orifices in your head.......there are seven, with possible the fontanelle being an eighth and in the case of misbehaving kids, nine if one includes the metaphorical maternal wishful bullethole. | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/23/2009 6:51:42 PM | Not scared off getting old but i am scared off getting old alone...i know that i have my babys (daughters)..but thats not the same..sitting out side and having a beer or wine by myself does not appeal to me at all..... | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/25/2009 5:19:11 PM | .........having a beer or wine by myself does not appeal to me at all.....
I can totally relate to this comment. I am on my own every second weekend, when my ex has the kids, and I've often thought I'll get a bottle of wine but it just doesn't seem right drinking by myself............... | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/25/2009 11:22:30 PM | I've often thought I'll get a bottle of wine but it just doesn't seem right drinking by myself...............
SPICY.....i dont think there is anything wrong with it..in moderation | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/26/2009 4:34:33 AM | Well, the other night I got invited to a party,
But I stayed home instead.
Just me and my pal Johnny Walker,
And his brothers Black and Red.
And we drank alone, yeah, with nobody else.
We drank alone, yeah, with nobody else.
Yeah, you know when I drink alone, I prefer to be by myself. - G Thorogood.......
is it worth going out?....... | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/26/2009 5:58:33 AM | Hilly,
I know as OP, this thread has been around for some time now. But you made me think about this for a while and this is an outlook I have.
(brew a coffee this could take a while - Im battling for length of post with Nana)
Age, growing older defines over time the (hopefully) benefit of wisdom.
I have felt over time and have reflected on it that I certainly am a much happier with myself person, than I was in my twenties. I remember the times of, as most of us were at that younger age, "rebellious, not a care in the world, I don't need to worry about the future attitude". Oh hell, and bugger those oldies who THINK they have the RIGHT to impart pearls of wisdom, whether asked for or not, for we are YOUNG and if we don't know, who cares !!!!!!!!!!!
In that aspect I smile , as now being one of those oldies, I have, whether they have wanted it or not, imparted those little pearls (perils ?) of wisdom to a younger generation, over time.
I also felt for absolute sure, many times I got into "evolving aspects of life" I had no idea what I was doing or what I wanted and just winged it. The usual stuff, being young, taking each day as it comes, no sense of life direction, more concerned about partying and chasing girls and good times.
Over time, and through making alot of mistakes as well as some fantastic achievements (fantastic to me anyway) find now, hindsight and living the life I have has shaped my character, my belief system and my view of people and what I deem important to me.
From this, for me, I find it far more valuable to associate with people who think of me as "gee, he's fun to have around" or " damn, that discussion we had made me think about what we discussed for days"
As I get older, I am valuing those who I interact with that make me feel positive to be around, and I hopefully do the same for them. I'm more inclined to be with "those who buzz my brain box" rather than those who view me as someone who may look as ugly as a hatful of wombats arseh*les.
Getting older has benefited me with a clearer certainty of what direction I want in life, whom I wish to associate with and how I want to conduct myself in the world. I'm still going to make mistakes. I will still be involved in situations, though, not apparent at first, will make me feel uncomfortable. But beingolder has provided me with better skills to deal with it, and adapt and grow and learn.
I look in the mirror and I see the deepening crows feet around the eyes, the greying of hair (and the shock, horror of more hair growing in places I didn't think hair would grow!) and view these as badges of earning, for the way I have conducted my life, and my body certainly reflects that.
My secret to anti-ageing would be claiming first, its no secret. Be happy with who you are, change those aspects your not happy with, do those things that make you feel good. Act like a teenager, have a view of someone who is young at heart, but also, be one who is comfortable to be the adult and utilise the wisdom acquired when necessary.
Be comfortable in your own skin, no matter what you look.
And on a final note I will mention a major attribute we have that the younger folk will have to wait ages to acquire.....
Age and Treachery will ALWAYS overcome Youth and Skill
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/26/2009 6:20:38 AM |
So am I unusual? Or is this normal?
How do you really feel about getting older and looking older?
Can you honestly say it doesn't bother you? Or is that just a front for how you really feel about your ageing self?
Nope, it never bothered me 'til Aunty Ethel from down the road looked at me....you know, knowwwwwwwingly - that was a wakeup call to seek solace in the mirror & eliminate the wrinkles (mine, not hers). Seriously, once you accept the inevitable then what's to worry about? Whose expectations are we trying to satisfy anyway - those of our own vanity, or pressure from a shallow-as-a-puddle society? And ultimately where does it stop? Take good care of ourselves, sure, but don't get wrinkles worrying about it. On my deathbed I'd rather be worrying about whether I enjoyed myself enough rather than whether I managed to hold off having a face like a smacked ar*se 'til I was 95 (there I go again, assuming I'm going to live to be 170).
That's the ideal. However, the reality is that us humans obsess, we're insecure (though we love the bluster & bravado of denial), and very rarely are we not led by our innate desire to be accepted, praised & adored by the very people whose opinions mean jack when all is said & done.
OP, there are some great examples out there of women who grew old gracefully (Aunty Ethel isn't one of them though). Grace-paper-rock-botox... grace wins every time. | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/26/2009 7:59:48 AM |
we're insecure (though we love the bluster & bravado of denial), and very rarely are we not led by our innate desire to be accepted, praised & adored by the very people whose opinions mean jack when all is said & done. Yes, its true about the insecurity but feeling loved and accepted just nullifies it. I never even thought about being older until my husband actually left and then suddenly it seemed a huge hurdle that no rationalisation about aging gracefully could overcome. I initially did the whole 'blonde' thing in a panic and madly dieted in a quest for some kind of perfection/acceptance from society. With time I've come to a kind of self acceptance but feeling loved is even better.
Surely the significant point in being loved and appreciated is that it is by someone whose opinion does matter and is therefore worth something.
grace wins every time This coming from an African demon? | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/28/2009 3:47:38 AM |
This coming from an African demon?
Absolutely. Demon by name.....
Surely the significant point in being loved and appreciated is that it is by someone whose opinion does matter and is therefore worth something
That's a given if we're talking about our nearest & dearest - I'm talking about conformity on a wider scale. | |
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