| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/9/2008 11:43:23 PM | Wow! Thanks chemical, that's the best.
I've long been an admirer of Audrey Hepburn, but I never realised she wrote articles for Readers Digest. She was pretty talented...
As an aside.... I gave up reading after I got into Readers Digest, because there was no need anymore. With the richness and depth supplied monthly by RD that I can absorb just by looking at the pages, gosh I soon gave up thinking too. Now whenever anyone asks me my opinion about anything, I just hand them this months issue.
It saves lots of time... which I plan on spending later to avoid getting old at all!! | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 1:28:43 AM | I demand a recount frequently....
Someone somewhere got the 3's & 4's mixed up, I just know it. I'm in the camp of enjoy every day to the max..I don't feel pressure to be acting like a young buck, but I party and enjoy life the way I like and ...it's liberating to just be your self and then you realize you're not acting your 'age' you're acting how you feel. That I believe is the secret.
But I realize I've got to do certain things so I don't look too old....I frighten myself in the mirror when I haven't shaved or my hair(what hair)? is not short....dead short...
I've just thought these aren't very good anti-aging tips for girls...........mmmmmmmm
I'm the sort who loves his sleep, and feel much better for it.. when I'm not busy I sleep and I can put the zzz''s in no problem
So in summary
Shave
Keep your hair short
Plenty of sleep
and last but not least....Pure Blondes and Jaegar Bombs.....
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 1:39:35 AM | hmmmm no hilly
i stress not over the inevitable (stress causes wrinkles)
i have aunts that never got the chance to be old
grandparents that i adored (no wrinkles) rosey cheeks & warm welcomming smiles
im itching to have grandkids so i can spoil them rotten & give them back...:)
the downside i dont want to go it alone ...ive watched loneliness eat away @ elders & its sooooooooooooo sad! | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 2:40:48 AM |
I hear drinking red wine is the elixer of youth & also good for you
Studies (and am almost certain confirmation-bias had been ruled out) support this 'old wives' prescription, although its debatable whether the anti-ageing properties come from the wine itself or the preservatives added to it. In any case, I reckon its a mighty good idea. Just look at those continental women especially the French and Italians.....I reckon all that olive oil and red wine contribute a great deal to skin elasticity and a higher rate of metabolism to the contours of those hour-glass figures.
On that subject, I have noticed some changes in my skin texture myself eating wholesome organic stuff only, drinking heaps of water, riding my bike and breaking into buckets of sweat, then having a semi-cold shower when my exercise is done. The only thing is I still drink gallons of coffee, in which case, I might need to grab a hold of those whitening toothpaste that Naamah mentioned to spruce those pearly whites.
I've thought about getting some of those umm, anti-ageing creams FOR MEN (yep alright....I'm sprung....I read GQ*cough* The Economist), but in all honesty, I rationalise between whether to get that or an 18th century razor.....and the razor always wins because I simply can't help myself (I budget my spare coins...sucks no?). In my mind's eye, even if I went and busted the bank, diminishing returns would suggest that, the only diff would be the texture of my skin (if it works at all) but am still left with the same old mug! Which reminds me of my sis, who had her bust done 4 years ago and I thought in the order of priority she should have had her nose done first, she thought I was a wise ass, but it made perfect sense to me. No-one's gonna notice those bewbies when that honker was blocking the view.....she hasn't rang me since. Except every Christmas.
Regarding product endorsements, I'm not much help Hilly but my mother swears by the anti-ageing rejuvenation cream from the Organic Pharmacy....and she's hardly got any wrinkles on her (plus she's sun smart, eats well and laughs.... at me).
have you ever seen those beautiful photos of the toothless smiles of really old people with twinkling eyes that just makes you want to sit with a glass of wine and listen to their life's tales...
Yes I've seen those toothless smiles.....hellllll nooooooo, I don't wanna look like that! My adoptive nanna use to chase me around with that toothless smile (or so it seems) "wess muh teeef yoou liffel deebil". Whack! With the walking cane and whack whack some more...hehehe, I am sure I induced some mild heart attack there when I incorporated those submerged clackers for my Punch & Judy sock show.
I am very lucky since most folk think I look a ton younger than I am...
Indeed you do! Lucky! Welcome to the forums cloudbursting.....you're so very pretty in your pics, just like a John William Waterhouse or a Dante Gabriel Rossetti. | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 3:18:10 AM |
....just like a John William Waterhouse or a Dante Gabriel Rossetti.
That's funny? I didn't think she looked like a man at all.
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Maybe Christina Rosetti though? Or Elizabeth Siddal? (<--- inserted to disguise how stupid I really am). | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 3:45:40 AM | | well i have to admit , i know im getting old as for some reasion i seem to be ailed by things that in the past would have been no worrys . i guess it is all part of growing old but i live in the words of the older motorcycle groups , GROW OLD DISGRACFULLY. | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 3:49:46 AM | Maybe Christina Rosetti though? Or Elizabeth Siddal
Oh man, you're right.....but I left it too long to edit. Apologies there clouds......[damn you expletive, exposing me like that]
On topic: I actually feel ok-ish re getting old....its the dying part that bugs me. In fact I fear it now more than ever....every time I am on the road driving or riding I get this morbid thoughts. I suppose none of you think like this, eh? | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 3:57:20 AM |
I actually feel ok-ish re getting old
Actually after a few jabs of the unspeakable "B" word today and a hour long massage im suddenly feeling far, far better about getting old.....talk about growing old disgracefully! | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 4:40:04 AM | Depends on the day, doesn't it?...
I just had a mega stress night... dealing with young theives, the big boss's visit, the posh chicks new bloody "idea", a stack of new stock... and I feel about 106 and am pretty damn sure I look it too!
A massage? God yes... | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 4:50:00 AM | On Telly they said drinking red wine can reduce the onset of ageing.
Now isn't that a nice thing? I mean, have you ever met a wrinkly wine-o?
Right, I'm gonna tap a barrel of the stuff and soak in it for the night.
G'nite. | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 5:13:00 AM | I am struggling with the whole 'getting old' thing. On one level I understand that it's natural and that there's no point trying to be someone you're not. On another level, I am appalled by saggy fat bits that were never there before and body hairs that appear suddenly where there were previously none. And I defy anyone under forty to really understand this problem. Aging is fairly gradual until you get into your forties and then there seems to be a rush of noticeable differences in body shape, skin and hair.
My marriage breakdown has changed the way I feel about image. I was never very concerned about aging when I was married and thinking we were going to grow old together. However I found it a challenge to that way of thinking when the new version he chose was ten years younger and overtly sexier. In those circumstances it's not enough to say that looks dont matter and that who we are on the inside is more important.
There's a direct correlation between age and wisdom. But what a price.
If you can find someone to laugh at every day it's really good too. Not for them I guess, but just try to be discrete in case they don't have a sense of humour. Yes by all means keep your victims apart because there's always the possibility they'll gang up on you if you laugh at them in a bunch
.............Couldn't resist that one E.D. since you're usually the one pointing out our literacy issues. | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 12:20:11 PM | Getting old does not really bother me that much.Must be a bloke thing.The only thing that bothers me about it is there is more hair growing out of your nose and ears.As well us blokes have the added knowledge that as we get older our ears are going to get bigger.Must be a penalty so we are forced to listen more to the female of the species instead of thinking with our little heads. | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 12:52:04 PM |
And I defy anyone under forty to really understand this problem. Aging is fairly gradual until you get into your forties and then there seems to be a rush of noticeable differences in body shape, skin and hair.
I'm hearing you girl! This aging crap is truly horrendous. The really awful part is that on a daily basis I FORGET that I am now an old fart. Seriously. I go along in my life feeling really happy and vibrant, and sometimes even sexy when some male perves on me (ok - so it's the old age pensioners with zimmerframes) and it's all good. Then the moment comes when I look in the mirror........... and recoil in horror. What the fcuk happened to my face #%$#@!!
But heck, at least I can still pull a 13 year old. One of my sons friends told him that he thought I was "really pretty and really nice". Yes, my son was horrified but the counselling seems to be helping 8-) | |
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Joined: 11/1/2008
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 3:37:45 PM | Something that has me puzzled...
From what I've seen, the people (women particularly) that are running around getting botox injections, nips and tucks etc are the same women who are "muttons dressed as lamb" and then
For attractive lips, Speak words of kindness.
.... desperately clinging to their youth, when in fact what they're doing makes them look old and sad. and then
For lovely eyes, Seek out the good in people.
I was wondering at the seeming contradiction in these posts?
There's a direct correlation between age and wisdom. But what a price.
So true. And of course when you're young you think you're wise anyway ...whereas when you age you can see that you are not young looking anymore. Dimeadozen and Myforumsite, thanks for the wonderful wonderful news that aging accelerates in our 40's. That's made my day. (noooooot) | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 7:15:13 PM |
thanks for the wonderful wonderful news that aging accelerates in our 40's. That's made my day. (noooooot)
Don't worry too much, from what I hear the aging process plateaus in your 50's... prolly cos your boobs can't sag any further because they're resting on your pot belly, you can't lose anymore hair cos it's all already fallen out...same with your teeth. Your ever increasing 'laugh lines' are well hidden behind your thick horn rimmed spectacles and all your varicose veins have been taken out to use for your by-pass surgery s. Most imortantly tho, demetia has set in and so you can't remember how good you looked in your forties.
And at least you women have got something to look forward to in your fifties...menopause. | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 9:15:31 PM | I truly don't really mind getting older.
And death is coming regardless, so I'm cool with that too.
If it wasn't fr my daughter. it could come at anytime and I'd be OK with it.
The only thing I won't do is lay on my death bed saying I Shoulda, coulda, woulda....Now is the time for doing. | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 9:29:02 PM | | try losing the sarcasm, its born and grows in negativity that leeches through into your spirit, emotional state of mind and body and in is reflect in your face … | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/10/2008 10:04:30 PM |
And at least you women have got something to look forward to in your fifties...menopause.
ummmmmmmmm would love to know which part is the bit i should look forward to, the hot flushes? the hormone imbalances? and with the word MEN in menopause can only be tiresome  As apposed to waiting til in the 50's have a couple of friends going thru the onset one was in her 30's and still going thru it and the other mid 40's and from what I hear, i'm in no hurry to get to that milestone..... happy to stay 19 forever now just to convince the body to get back there | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/11/2008 1:24:44 AM | Lordy... I can't believe there are so many posts in one day!... how do you find the time people.. I think I'll be falling behind.. Though I have to say I can see how you could get addicted to this stuff... Bunch of crazy buggers opining away... heaven really ( I need to get out more, clearly).... (or maybe we all do on here!!!).
Not sure how to do that highlight quote thing, need lessons!
Thanks for the very generous welcomes folks & the entertainment...
Hilly.. you are not very fair, I was sure the offer of chocky positing was worth at least a wee bit of advice & I hope you never DO suffer from the fury lip syndrome (ta for trying to soothe with the angle thing... but you know once you notice such a thing it becomes an issue... besides... that might well be an important angle that one!)... you might chuckle in a few years... (need to check your profile... I'll turn up with a gentle query & hopefully a solution when you get to my age... assuming you are not yet... very gorgeous new pic by the way, woohoo!)
& Namaaahahaha, you are a tease... telling me there ARE actually some products that work but not what & how (or is that just an in private thingy?)... & yes I did think the same about the Botox thing... I think it wouldn't be something I could do for lots of reasons... but have no prob with anyone elses choices (mostly cos I'd rather spend my money on music & don't mind looking haggard for it... hey but I'm the gal with the scarecrow arse hair so lost cause anyway!)
In fact what is it with you 2... the gorgeousest babes online... & I might add pretty much everyone else posting here that I've noticed looks pretty schmink as well (cept for that hammer-head Julian of course ptoooee.. put up that pic of "cousin it" boyo!!!... kidding big spunky pants)... hmm... maybe the beauty tip is to be a part of the secret forum on POF?... Hmm maybe I better be considering Botox... wont help with my hair pigmentation though! (re the laser issue)
By the way ta for gorgeous flattery Pedro (hmm Pedro, my Pedro!) ... He's good at it that lad, isn't he... sigh
Ooops, must have used up my daily word quota... x | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/11/2008 1:40:17 AM |
Lordy... I can't believe there are so many posts in one day!... how do you find the time people.. I think I'll be falling behind.. Though I have to say I can see how you could get addicted to this stuff... Bunch of crazy buggers opining away... heaven really ( I need to get out more, clearly).... (or maybe we all do on here!!!).
he he. yup. | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/11/2008 1:47:49 AM | I've been looking at profiles of those who posted in this thread and you know what? There's a few wrinkles and crinkles and I never noticed those until you told me 'dang I'm old'.
I know I'm my age and it surprises me. Apart from a little stiffness in some injuries, I feel like I did a decade ago. I still love the same thing, maybe more, that I've always loved.
Physically, I joke that I'll get a tummy tuck or my boobs done. I'm happy with my body. Ok, so I wish my eyelashes were longer and thicker. I wish my lung capacity was greater. Otherwise, I'm happy with my lot. I'm a non-smoker so that's been a blessing to my skin. I rarely drink (in fact, recently sworn off drinking al together), I go to bed reasonably early, wear very little makeup.
You know when people say they don't look their age? I'm always being told tha
t. Yeah but as soon as I open my mouth you can tell I've lived my years. | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/11/2008 2:13:29 AM | Ahhhh My Dear 'Young Bucks' and 'Chickie Babes'
Aging is a fact of life - no one escapes it but the dead! We can enhance our appearance surgically and perhaps slow down the effects with all kinds of treatments and creams but........ aging is a certainty. Accept it!
That old cliche 'The important thing is not WHAT happens in your life but HOW you handle it' rings true here.
I believe its the HOW you deal with aging thats important here. Take control. Aging is unique to each individual. Acceptance doesn't mean letting ourselves go and developing a depressive state of mind each time we look in the mirror or at someone younger that ourselves. Acceptance means loving the inner person - you - and then......be proactive! Select your good points, work on them and do whatever it takes to make you feel good about yourself.
I remember being in my 40's and envying - yes envying those 'older women' who looked serene, classy and contented. I was going through the insecurities of a wife with a womanising husband and thinking it was because I was no longer 'young' and 'beautiful'. I look back on photos of that time and I WAS young(er) and beautiful(er). It wasn't about me really, it was his journey and he needed to take it without me.
Now at 61................ been through menopause at 43 after a hysterectomy(no you don't lose your sex drive!).......a marriage of 33 years......a relationship of 8 years........I am living in a very, very peaceful and happy place right now. I am disgustingly healthy, I have lots of friends both male and female, I enjoy a great lifestyle of freedom and adventure, I have a very loving family who support my every move, I am outgoing enough to explore new hobbies/activities, and I still have a very healthy interest in romance and the opposite gender.
No...I don't particularly like wrinkles but I have them! I don't particularly like grey hair so I dye it!
In short I like me and I really don't care a @#$@%@ if someone notices I'm aging because I AM!.
This is the real deal - this is me!
Give yourselves a great big hug! | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/11/2008 2:47:06 AM | Great post - loved every word - as a 48 yr old women I certainly - don't feel old - have a 14 year old son - work - socialise - and PARTY  | |
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| How do you really feel about getting old?
Posted: 12/11/2008 4:44:31 PM | Trying to read some of the stuff I didn't have time to read yesterday..
....just like a John William Waterhouse or a Dante Gabriel Rossetti
Don't fret Pedro, I was busy being flattered, since I do love Preraphaelite images... ah... there's my problem... my fashion sense is so many centuries behind!
..Maybe Christina Rosetti though? Or Elizabeth Siddal? (<--- inserted to disguise how stupid I really am).
...well we're even then, I shall have to google these ones I'm afraid 
Hey, by the way, someone told me that Botox just paralyzes the muscles it comes into contact with... is that true?... Doesn't it feel strange?... What if you wanted to give someone a growly look? | |
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