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| He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?
Posted: 12/21/2008 7:00:19 AM |
If you think someone is hot, but they do not.. are you cool with that?
A guy who's hot and doesn't realize it - I'm cool with that. He's just being himself going through life, unconcerned about his looks, and that naturalness is confidence in motion.
A guy who's hot and can't accept it - not cool with that. It usually comes with insecurities that find their way into your relationship in other, needy (and sometimes manipulative) ways.
And - as has been said before but I agree with it - hotness is an individual thing. I've heard I'm hot and I see pretty, not hot. So if my guy thinks I'm hot, coolio! If not, I don't care so long as he looks at me with love in his eyes. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2008 8:21:59 AM | if your hot and know it but not conceited,thats cool.it all boils down to how you apply your hotness or deal with anothers hotness.dont forget theres always the cold shoulder.
if im considered hot to a girl and i consider her hot then happy days and nothing else matters | |
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Posted: 12/21/2008 8:31:23 AM | As it’s already been brought up many times in here – “Hotness” means much more than the physical or superficial package.
You could have an accident and be badly disfigured tomorrow? You could base your appeal on income, ambition, and how many expensive “things” you’ve accumulated in life, but can lose your job, have your business fail, or be wiped out by bad investments in a heartbeat?
You better have much more going for you, deep down in your core, to weather such catastrophes and still emerge whole. This inner strength is not based on looks, money, or blind ambition, but your character, values, compassion, and humility.
Most people SAY they have those things, but until you’re actually confronted with supreme tests it’s all lip service. | |
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| He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?
Posted: 12/21/2008 8:56:43 AM | This is an interesting one.
Knowing what you are is not the same thing as knowing what you are "in the perceptions of others".
I am extremely comfortable with who I am. I am self confident but not vain; can still poke fun of myself and don't take life too seriously; and yet give myself completely to doing everything I need to do for my kids; my clients and me. I live life with passion.
But some people consider a woman who is confident a turnoff; they assume she must be controlling or hard. Some find it extremely sexy. My build is extremely curvy; those who like curves adore me; those who like model thin don't. I have a quirky sense of humor which some people get, some don't.
So am I called smoking hot by some? Yes (and it is always nice to hear though I don't live for it) lol Have I been also called "just not my thing?" Also yes.
Do I consider myself hot? I consider myself me. I don't care if I'm hot or not. I just know I'm very comfortable with who I am and where I'm at and what I am. That is what I'm looking for in someone else; comfortable and confident without being vain or self absorbed. Just, real.
Hotness does not depend on how someone else sees one. It is more than that. It is more to me how someone truly "looks" at one and sees, not just that person, but how the person also sees themselves, and how they relate in "aura" with each other. Mitchener Out. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2008 9:08:25 AM | I'll put even simpler -- The minute you start actually "believing" in all the adulation, attention, and worship of your "hotness", you're done.
True humility is not measured in words, but actions.
I HATE blowhards or false modesty. I have radar for such things and can spot people that really buy into their own hype a mile away, and I don't care how hot they are (or they "think" they are). I avoid them like the plague. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2008 9:46:48 AM | ^^^ Beg to differ. It's not "all" about confidence. The most arrogant a-holes I know have a lot of "confidence" going for them, but also suffer a complete lack of humility and sensitivity. Because of all the attention they get, they think they're the center of attention (they "buy into" their own headlines, their own hype) and have a disregard for anything or anyone that isn't part of their own, special, selfish universe.
Confidence without commensurate humility, maturity, and grounding means nothing.
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Posted: 12/21/2008 10:08:33 AM | Mowtownmaniax makes a great point:
Confidence without commensurate humility, maturity, and grounding means nothing.
As for the questions posed by OP, as far as strictly looks go, I would definitely not consider myself hot. But I do enjoy my personality & I think that gives me something to find attractive about myself. When I walk into a room, I know there are many "hot" women there, but I like myself and make good conversation so I'm comfortable with me. :)
Plus, isn't that what the off switch on your lights is for?
And blindfolds.
And gags. Screaming in horror at one's nakedness really does take away from the sex. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2008 10:11:56 AM | | I didn't say**** I said confidence. I get what you are saying but I think you're confusing 'confidence" with****. Believing in yourself is beautiful being**** about it is not. There are limits however confidence (going by what you are saying, in small amounts) is still sexy no matter what. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2008 11:36:34 AM | | In my best Fat **stard voice, "I'm just down right sexy" .....LOL, seriously though, the word "hot" will never be used to describe me unless they're referring to me after I have just finished running after the ice cream man in the summer. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2008 12:10:16 PM | motownmaniax:
I think what you are saying in a different way is you dislike arrogance. To me, arrogance is confidence in a selfish, self abosrbed "God's gift" way.
I also detest arrogance; though I love confidence. It is how a person vieiws the world.
Are they viewing it as Others centric? Do they live trying to be the best person they can be, comfortable with themselves and able to give and receive freely, believing they have something of value to offer others and being happy treating others with decency, respect and kindness as also worthy of value?
Or are they viewing the world in "how does the world see me?" Strutting their stuff "knowing" they're on a stage full of admirers, where their "hotness factor" (i.e. their looks, their money, their famous job, whatever it is) gives them an entree that makes having a personality, manners or decency a nonstarter? False modesty is similar; they "know" they have admirers and coyly pretend otherwise to hear praise and more acclimation.
I am assuming you are referring to the latter in your post of what you detest? If so, agree 100%. If not, I apologize for misunderstanding.
But I also believe sometimes the hottest people are the people who people look past at first glance (the not obvious). As you get to know them, hear their story; see how they relate to the world, see their inner shine through and radiate through their outer beauty (whether they are conventionally beautiful or a little less so) they can end up being blow you away hot. You feel like you found a treasure in a discount store, lucky to have spent the time finding something amazing that most people don't bother looking for at first pass. I am always looking to see what is beyond surface in people, what makes them unique, special and themselves. What I find is always amazing. | |
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| He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?
Posted: 12/23/2008 8:10:28 AM |
Beg to differ. It's not "all" about confidence. The most arrogant a-holes I know have a lot of "confidence" going for them, but also suffer a complete lack of humility and sensitivity. Because of all the attention they get, they think they're the center of attention (they "buy into" their own headlines, their own hype) and have a disregard for anything or anyone that isn't part of their own, special, selfish universe.
Confidence without commensurate humility, maturity, and grounding means nothing.
Mo, that deserves repeating!!!!
On the flipside, there are also the folks who hide behind false confidence, too, just because they are afraid to let any one in for fear of getting hurt. JMO.
Back to the OP ... I know I am hot when I have taken care of myself and others ...
I believe that "Hot" is the complete package ... i.e.,
How well one takes care of themselves ...
 physically
financially
emotionally
spiritually
... and then how well one extends "care" to others. I tend to enjoy empowering people to see their self worth ... so NO, it does not deminish their HOTNESS if they don't see their greatness ... it is just a hidden treasure in their personality (IMO).
Time to get to work on this!!!  Cuz I wanna be a HOTTIE!
Happy Holidays to all. Crok  | |
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Posted: 12/24/2008 5:41:57 PM | Oh yeooo Mo!!! Did you mention 'road trips'??? hmmm that would be hot .. lol  ..
It's snowing, it's nice out. But then I have a home to warm up in.. a few thoughts for those who don't have that basic ...
Back! = speaking of Hawt! There are a few mens on this tred whats iz sizzlin' too .. nudge nudge wink wink know what I mean? .. ;) lol .. That little penguin is hot too ..
Hope everyone is doing exactly what they want to be doin right now!
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| He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?
Posted: 12/24/2008 5:49:42 PM | [Does it really matter if someone else thinks your hot?
What if you don't believe it?
What if You think You're hot, but no one else seems to?
Is it "cool" to know you're "hot" or is that "hot" too?? ]
WHAT?! lol
it's fine if she doesn't think so as long as she lets me think so cuz if i think so then she doesn't really need to think so, as long as she's not too down on her-self, cuz then it's like; i don't think so! | |
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Posted: 12/24/2008 11:23:23 PM | i know damn well im not hot,i have known this for some considerable time,and it does bother me a bit,because that means that people are judging me on what they see,and not what counts,the person behind the mask.
of course it hurts to think that the vast majority of people,male or female make an instant judgement on just what they see immediately,instead of finding out what the person inside is like,but that is the way of the world we live in today,lets face it,how many of you are opening gifts right now because someone perfectly beautiful was advertising it!?
it's what's inside that counts,and if im not hot,well i guess i will just have to keep plodding along,being an ugly duckling,until one day,i turn into the not so ugly one | |
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