| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 7/30/2009 10:39:38 PM | I don't know why men wouldn't want someone classy and intelligent, other than the fact that most men wouldn't want someone smarter than they are. Maybe you should look for more intelligent men... (Just a thought)
The small demographic men you speak of are probably the men that want a woman that "wear the pants in the house". Not that that's a bad thing, just maybe not what you want.
The being dumped for "more attractive". Those are shallow guys. I know I must be attracted to someone prior to any relationship that would require a dumping. I may dump for incompatibility, usually I would consider it a life style difference.
Now for the story. In my past I have dated people that use a buy here pay here to purchase a washer.... My question was why would you end up paying 2000 for a washer that cost 800 new and 100 used.... to me that is not very intelligent. Its pretty simple math. I pay 80 a mo for 2 yrs, or I wait a month and pay 100 for a used one that I get to use for 5 yrs. To me the buy here pay here is dumb, may seem classy and new, but still dumb.
So there's an opinion and a story LOL.... Sorry about the shallow guys that were prob just looking for a piece. Now for the suggestion don't give the piece till you know they're deep....
(Not saying you do, considering IDK anything other than you posted on the first post...) | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 8/1/2009 3:00:19 PM | sumo_sumo on 2/16/2009 10 05 PM
Subject: Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Message: OP:
Men don't dislike you because you're intelligent and witty. They dislike you for plenty of other reasons. Why do women continually lie to themselves, using her perceived strengths are intimidating to men? Even worse, why do men continue to pander to these self-diluted princesses by agreeing with them, and then claim to be above the fray?
Ladies: If a man is NOT interested in you, it is not because an entire gender is intimidated by your perceived strengths. Men are turned off by something about your personality. Judging by your thought-process men might be turned off by your ego and delusions.
Men: Don't be a simp and sell our gender out, only to put yourself about the fray. You look pathetic. More pathetic than somebody who actually thinks men are intimidated by her.
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This guy says it all. Nuff said. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 8/1/2009 3:07:37 PM | Most of these self proclaimed "intelligent" women aren't. Witty yes, much more than me. But if they are so "intelligent" what have they done to claim this throne? How many have invented electricity, cars, airconditioning, bridges, airplanes, dams, buildings, et al.
Rather I find the most intelligent women cooperate with men. They don't bash men online. They don't have to; instead they seek to understand. That has been my online experience. And when I have attempted to debate these so called intelligent women (those who bash men online) they were unable to debate in a civilized manner.
So one must conclude it's not intelligent women men are afraid of. But of self-proclaimed "intelligent" women with an attitude problem. E Harmony had a survey years ago. Men's #1 choice of woman was a "kind" woman. Who needs a difficult partner in their life? | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 9/1/2009 12:08:29 PM | | Actually the witty part is not a problem its the intelligence that scares them because then might find out that we r childish and stupid that we try to hide from u when in a relationship cause when an argument starts r stupid comes out cause we dont think on the fly during argument an intelligent woman will use it against us or in conversation too but if u really luv the guy u will fake stupid to make him feel
like a man til he doesnt feel he should compete for smartness and ur intelligence he will complimentcompliment u the way u want to be for ur intelligence | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 9/1/2009 3:48:02 PM | This behavior works both ways unfortunately, the majority of women (under 30) go for men of average intelligence who are physically/psychologically attractive in a carnal way before the well read, intelligent guy. They prefer the male model/hottie, bad-boy, or player. People tend to overplay the attention the male doctors, wall-streeters and college professors get. The age of the gold digger has come and gone, this is a niche market that now only makes up about 5% of women. Yes, success and the ability to provide is still important in a LTR, but money is no longer a top ranking priority (to single women under 30 at least). I'm only commenting on the under 30 crowd since I don't know as much about women over 30.
If you were to line up a bad-boy (cocky club goer), a bad-ass (biker or thug etc), plain as day but incredibly attractive guy and well read guy with a high IQ in front of 100 women (again, under 30) and asked them to choose a date you would get close to the following results:
Bad-boy/player - 20%
Bad-ass/biker/thug - 20%
Model guy - 50%
Smart guy - 10%
The reason for this is that we are now in the age of independence. People feel that who they are in a relationship with, and the relationship itself, no longer define themselves. If a woman is smart, she doesn't necessarily "need" her equal. She wants what she wants, and it doesn't necessarily have to fit any mold. The same goes for a man. Smart men don't necessarily want women as intelligent as they are (not me, I pine for one). There are many doctors/lawyers/etc with a lot of vapid eye candy on their shoulder. The days of relationships being made up of people who are of similar status in all aspects are done. Also, many men who have no problem dating women who are much more physically attractive than they are, usually do have a considerable problem doing the same with women who are much more intelligent. Yes, they feel threatened. I hope I have helped.  | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 9/1/2009 4:06:31 PM | The wittiness I can take it or leave it, probably leave it because it's somewhat annoying and too many people go into overkill with it.
But intelligence... now that's hot. There is no greater aphrodisiac in the Universe than an intelligent woman with a genuinely keen awareness whose thought patterns delve beneath the surface. It is sexy as hell!
And on this note, I'll say that intelligence has absolutely nothing to do with the presence or lack of formal education. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 9/2/2009 4:23:21 AM | What really needs to be appreciated is that 85% of paedophiles are non-exclusive, meaning that the are sexually interested in adults AND children - not just children, paedohiles without an interest in sex with adults are rare so just because someone is aroused by you (an adult) doesn't mean they haven't got a perversion towards children.
I work with some sex offenders and know that internet dating is one of their preferred ways of getting access to children (the kids of the women they date), so like someone else said on here, use your instincts and break the chain | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 9/2/2009 10:39:13 AM | It's not the intelligence per se. Character flaws like boorishness, intolerance, insolence, a sense of privilege or superiority, etc are not restricted to the less intelligent. And these traits, in a person armed with a wit born of intelligence, are insufferable.
Also, people with the intelligence to make subtle observations will generally want to exercise their nuanced perceptions. To a person not operating with the same fine distinctions, this interplay can appear as incoherent, condescending or even mean spirited. Even when the intent is simply "Look at the clever funny I made!" | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 9/2/2009 2:26:24 PM | Classy and intelligent with a great sense of humor are all wonderful qualities. I much prefer them over stuck up, boring, and one-dimensional. However, I don't prefer them at the expense of physical beauty.
The only reason I throw that last part in there is because you said you've been dumped for women that were "more attractive" as well as dumb which leads me to believe you're doing the apples and oranges thing of comparing personality to looks.
Just like you ladies, ideally I'd like the total package; classy, intelligent, great sense of humor, and attractive. I don't really want a classy, intellgient, funny plane jane any more than I want a stuck up, uncultured, one-dimensional beauty queen. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2009 4:30:40 PM | intelligent and witty men appreciate intelligent and witty women ..just so they don't have to explain everything in small words
they actually enjoy quick banter, their friends' opinion on themselves and the woman they're with
men tend to dislike annoying and b!tchy, not the intelligent and witty women
why would you think otherwise? | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 9/10/2009 4:42:02 PM | Oh right, the female version of "Why does it seem that women dislike nice and sensitive men?" 
Same answer in both: because other factors are more important when it comes to (sexual) attraction.
Nothing to see here, move along. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:27:05 AM | oh, brother.
'witty' and 'intelligent' are terms so subjective as to have no context, so the question is meaningless. and frankly, if someone can't see that, i question their intelligence in relating to their own species.
just for the sake of discussion, though, let's reframe slightly, to 'why does it seem that men dislike women for their strengths?' now THIS question has context. nonsensical context, but context nonetheless. the context is victimhood: 'i'm so misunderstood. my relationships don't work because men don't get me.' no reason for the woman in this scenario to look at herself or make changes, since the problem always lies with the man. nice and convenient.
and of course, with it comes the disempowerment of victimhood. people with true relationship intelligence do not choose to disempower themselves. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 9/11/2009 7:09:02 PM | Well OP, it goes like this
Men like witty, .. as long as they're not the target of your wit.
Men like intelilligence,... as long as your intellect and critical thinking isnt turned on them.
Simple.
Some men dislike intelligence in women because they know she will see through even their most elaborate BS. She cant be fooled, what a bummer eh? A man will not stick around a woman who uses her critical faculties on him. All of a sudden, she becomes 'nasty' and 'biotchy' where before she was witty and intelligent.
Its a matter of perception, and a matter of how much BS the man is trying to give out.
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