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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 1/2/2009 5:18:10 PM | Well, darling,
because a woman could be classy, intelligent, with a great sense of humor and cold as a rock or simply not a good caring person.
Why would I want an intelligent, classy, witty man with no morals?
Since when wit and intelligence make somebody a good person, a warm-hearted person? | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 1/2/2009 9:01:36 PM | | Well I went to a magnet high school where the mean SAT score was 1400, so you can imagine there are a lot of smart women in that environment. Well, the women there were uber-nasty in terms of personality. Women who are more intelligent know how to push the right buttons to make people feel upset, and know how to better manipulate people. Sad but true. Unfortunately, I am attracted to intelligent women, so I am screwed... | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 1/2/2009 9:02:37 PM | For me the greatest aphrodisiac is intelligence and wit. When coupled with a pretty face, it’s a knock out. I love women who can laugh at my jokes, and I love even more women who can make me laugh.
A wry sense of humour in a woman indicates imagination and intelligence, which in turn promises a relationship that is stimulating and exhilarating! | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 1/2/2009 9:47:28 PM | I'm intelligent and witty and have no problem finding men to date and/or have relationships with - I don't think it's the "intelligent and witty" part that's your problem.
It could be you're trying so hard to show how witty and intelligent you are that you're sitting there sizing men up to see if they "get" you and rule them out when they do typical first-date things, like make bad jokes, ask surface questions and brag about themselves. Not many men are pro at first dates and I'm glad. I don't want to spend my time with an expert first-time-dater! They're more themselves on the second or third date.
Step down from the "I am all that and a jar of caviar" egoic pedestal you appear to have set yourself upon and you'll find that men adore witty and intelligent women who are also FUN to be around. Stop judging these poor guys and just enjoy them! Or judge them AFTER the date, not during it. Maybe it's not them who are being shallow in this scenario; check the level of projection at work in your experiences and see if there's some validity to the idea. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 1/3/2009 8:48:38 AM | I do not know why a person would like a person who places them at center and laughs at their jokes. Why would any one want a person to listen to them intently as if everything they said was pure gold. How could a person pick a human who spends a day thinking about or good money on books on how to please their mate? I do not know.
I just know that when my eyes meet the eyes of a really good looking man my brain falls out. I just want to hear his voice. It could be the smell of axe body spray or the right timing but I think it is just what happens. I have a earned a lot of papers from differing schools in Humanities, Divinity, Technology, Biology, Education...for my mom to show off. I did stand up at an open mike competition and placed well. So I am certified witty and intelligent. I do not think that is why guys like me. I think that is why they continue to like me. After my brain reboots. Nothing is more attractive then seeing a reaction to you. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 1/3/2009 10:42:40 AM | I love smart women
The problem is not all women who think they're intelligent are actually smart. A lot of them are just self-centered windbags who like to hear themselves drone on about the three things she knows about. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 1/3/2009 12:01:55 PM | I was once (at band camp... haha) talking to this guy who just didn't get my humor. His responses to my one liners made it quite clear he wasn't getting it. That was actually more entertaining. For a minute.
Remember the bell curve? There are some on each end and most in the middle... as with life.
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 1/3/2009 10:42:37 PM | | well hippiebookster heres the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth.men have 2 heads.one on their shoulders and another one between their legs.so it all depends on which head you are dealing with.heres the scoop.what is it YOU want.most of us will tell you anything to get in youre pants. | |
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| Why do men dislike intelligent women
Posted: 1/23/2009 7:03:07 AM |
Please send pictures of your ass in fishnets or a thong
What exactly is your problem....both sarcastic and disrespectful Captain BLAH!!!!  | |
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| Why do men dislike intelligent women
Posted: 1/23/2009 8:19:18 AM | | Not sure if it was said already, but another reason why the guy could be intimidated is that he may feel you're out of his league and he may not feel that he's up to your standards. Just throwing that tidbit out there. | |
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| Why do men dislike intelligent women
Posted: 1/23/2009 8:40:43 AM | Why should this be a mutually exclusive choice?
Personally, I like witty, intelligent women who know HOW to be a sexpot.
In other words, someone who is witty and intelligent makes a great.... FRIEND! If a woman wants to be more than that, she had best know how to get my sensual side motivated as well.
So, be witty and intelligent. It's never a minus. But if a women doesn't know how to intrigue a man's interest and libido, she's pretty much a lost cause.
This doesn't mean a women needs to be a nymphomaniac (let's not confuse sex with sensuality), but it is nice if a woman knows how to overtly be feminine. And before this stokes too much controversy let's consider that many women like intelligence and wit... but also like men who know how to be "masculine".
Whether that's through confidence, ambition, accomplishment, the ability to flirt, being good with power tools, athletically inclined, etc, etc. Otherwise, why would women often say that want men who are considerate, but not "doormats". However a women gauges "manly" qualities, they want men to be men. Just as men want women to be women... whatever the heck that means. ^_^
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| Why do men dislike intelligent women
Posted: 1/23/2009 8:53:56 AM | I come from a family of intelligent women so I am used to them. However, there are some intelligent women who have other attributes which are deal killers (IE mean and intelligent).
Being intelligent and funny is very attractive to me. | |
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| Why do men dislike intelligent women
Posted: 1/23/2009 9:12:30 AM | I find it interesting that people pick their best attributes and think the opposite sex is intimidated/not attracted by them. Do these people not have any attributes/habits that are repulsive? I know I don't particularly care for women who poop with the bathroom door open....
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 1/23/2009 9:27:43 AM | oh no mam I enjoy them a lot , used to think this was a blessing with not so intelligent or witty but I was soooo wrong i thought i could get away with everything with this type of person and I did the only problem with that is i was not the person i have become.
intelligent women are more fun and when you get older the " ok like , like totally " women are ugh! boring and make you lazy and shallow
give me the the witty ones any day | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 1/23/2009 10:57:20 AM | | Intelligence is a very attractive quality in a woman and most guys want intelligent women. However, men generally don't want bossy and argumentative/very opinionated women. Are you coming across as too bossy or argumentative to the guys you have been dating? | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 1/23/2009 11:35:26 AM | | I really dont agree with you.i agree that guys do look for an attractive gal but after a time being they do look for a gal with good sense of humor and intellegence in her as u cant just have sex all time of your life.if the gal is attractive intellengent and have a good sense of humor she stays .If that has not been a case with you then i think you meet some prevort sex hunger | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 1/23/2009 11:44:04 AM | I agree with other posters. An important part of being intelligent and mature is being able to listen. You don't always have to agree with what someone says, but you can learn a different point of view. Someone that doesn't accept that there different ways of looking at things or interpreting things is not someone I could be with any more than I would expect someone to be with me if that were my attitude.
The more I learn, the more I realize what I don't know. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 1/23/2009 11:50:54 AM | I once had a BF, very intelligent guy, we got along great. Once, we were discussing in a group setting the "100 year flood". He said it was coming soon; I said--not in any overly agrumentative way, just sort of gave my opinion--that I disagreed, we leech off the water too much now with the population boom, so I don't believe we will have one again. He never said another word all night until we got in the car--he was LIVID at me for "disagreeing with him in public" and he told me NEVER to do that again. WTF?! So, do you consider this to be "highly opinionated"? If so, you are in for some REAL disappointments in life!
My point is, some men are not very realistic and expect their women to be subserviant saints. NONE of us are. No one is going to act perfectly. Get real! | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 1/23/2009 6:11:22 PM | Frankly, I wish I could meet more single, witty, intelligent women. Out of curiosity, where do you go to meet men? I think I should start finding a place like that.
(by the way we call the shallow, sexpots "woo girls." If you've seen that episode of How I Met Your Mother, you'll know what I mean. | |
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| Why do men dislike intelligent women
Posted: 2/13/2009 8:15:07 AM |
Geez .. must have been having a rough day...Sorry
...I RESPECTFULLY request you send pictures of your ass in fishnets or thong, PLEASE...
Ok Capitino Blauh, I have to admit I did laugh when I saw this. Not my chosen kind of "humor," but if we were discussing something different, I think you could actually laugh. I just don't find sarcasm and put-downs and/or disrespect, all that entertaining or humorous that's all...Sorry!!! NOW BE NICE!!! | |
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