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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 2/13/2009 8:10:08 PM | Because - while there may be many intelligent and witty women - more often and more likely they are just caustic and cynical women who are just masters of one liner "put downs"... pretending that they are intelligent or more likely - have convinced themselves that they are INTELLIGENT - when in reality they are just angry - condescending jerks.
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 2/14/2009 5:59:07 AM | "Or, am I just meeting the wrong (shallow) people? "
Yes you are. If I ever caught the eye of Janeane Garofalo or Tina Fey, sorry current GF, you are out the door! there's something about their sarcastic wittiness that I find soooooo appealing.
Before all the women are on my case, I'm also out the door if my GF catches the eye of
1. Matt Damon (very smart guy too!)
2. Vin Diesel (I don't get that one much)
3. Basically any actor with youth and looks. | |
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| Why do men dislike intelligent women
Posted: 2/14/2009 7:04:42 AM |
If intelligence was to be measured simply on the basis of how many "big" words you know, I guess you'd get the blue ribbon
insecurity complex?
some men feel intimidated by the 'urinal glance/comparative size check'
this guy must brag: "my words are bigger than yours are" ? ;)
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 2/14/2009 3:29:54 PM |
Okay, from my person experience, only a small demographic of men actually like women who portray themselves as classy, intelligent beings with a great sense of humor. They may say that these are fantastic attributes, yet I constantly see men chasing the stereotypical sexpot. I've also been dumped a couple times for someone deemed "more attractive", and or frankly dumb. I'm not trying to sound arrogant by any means, but are men intimidated by this? Or, am I just meeting the wrong (shallow) people? I'd like to hear your opinions, or stories. Thanks!
I spent some time reading all posts here.. and checked Hippie profile. There is nothing wrong with that, looks like the kind of person I would be happy to have as friend. I don't think she is an arrogant person, even if her post may be.
But I notice she is 22 years old, and probably fishing in a pool where the fishes prefer a different kind of bait. I strongly suggest to look in different kind of places, for different kind of men. One thing I often see in girls is to ignore the preferences of the man they choose. For example.. first choose a man, then try to make him like her. That doesn't work 90% of times. Why not simply find someone who likes you for what you are, from the start?
I have to confess something here, when I did see this post I couldn't avoid to remember I could write that kind of post when I was her age, just swapping the words "men" and "women". I was sooo sure most women run away from "intelligent and witty" men, to fall in the arms of tall, muscular idiots. Well... I was young immature and naive. Then I learned the error in my ways.
To sum in few words:
1) change your target requirements, don't try to manipulate people to like you
2) learn to appreciate people less "intelligent and witty" than you, they are the majority
3) learn humility, nobody is perfect, but life is great anyway | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 2/15/2009 7:55:36 PM | CassaGo --- while justified or not... I suspect the WTF situation was not whether you or he was correct -- it was whether you were loyal to him in public... He saw it (justified or not) as you betrayed him - humiliated him in front of other people...
Completing the debate in private -- and not in public - would have avoided the whole blow up...
Many people could not back off -- as you didn't -- pretty normal and natural ... I doubt that you deserved his blow up --- but just my take on things...
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 2/15/2009 8:03:53 PM | I'm going to echo what Xiamoa said up above. There's every chance that the OP might be past the maturity level of boys her own age, and might be better served seeking someone a bit older, who's gotten past the fratboy mentality and has learned what it's like to not only think and act, but be like an adult. I think she's probably going to be happier with someone who can appreciate the "old soul" she has.
Because to be honest, most 22 year-old boys I've had the misfortune to meet couldn't provide much conversation past "Huh-huh... Bewbs!" or "Sports! Sports! Sports!" or "Dude, I got SOOOOO wasted last night, and then I woke up to this total coyote arm, and..."
Thanks, but no thanks. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 2/15/2009 11:27:45 PM | | I want to meet a guy that dislikes intelligent women. That's basically my number one requirement, is for the girl to be smart. Witty? That's just like the best possible thing. For me, intelligence is ranked above everything else in terms of attractiveness. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 2/16/2009 12:57:08 AM | yah I know what you mean I hade my far shar of being dumped for semlor reasons it hard to find a woman with any amount of depth thes days that can carry an intelligent conversaion for mour than 2 minets without smocke coming out there earsLOL
well got to go but if you like look me up sometime and hit me up | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 2/16/2009 1:35:37 AM | I know I'm not smart enough to keep my thoughts to myself without them knowing I'm up to something. Been told over and over that they can see the cogs turning while they speak and then when they realize I think they said something really dumb it's all over - no kissing, no hugging and no hanky panky....sulk. Oh if only I were smarter. Men are so difficult sometimes.
Hey you up there^^^^^^^^you are TOO FUNNY (tongue stuck firmly in cheek). Wow, people in (very smoky) glass houses... | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 2/16/2009 2:10:02 AM | Well, to be honest...And I hate to put it so vulgarly...But it's because most men think with thier dikks...But those of us that DONT, and are LOOKING for an Intelligent and witty woman tend to get overlooked. It's time to start attracting a different kinda man...And it starts with your way of thinking hun. Try imagining the EXACT guy you want..In every detail..>Do this EVERYDAY, and make sure to hold onto that image...The more you do this, and the more emotion you put into it..The quicker it will happen..You'll start meeting all types of people that fit the bill....Then you just gotta figure out WHo it is ya want. Sounds easy I know..But thats cuz it is..Believe ME, it works! lol | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 2/16/2009 7:58:05 PM | OP:
Men don't dislike you because you're intelligent and witty. They dislike you for plenty of other reasons. Why do women continually lie to themselves, using her perceived strengths are intimidating to men? Even worse, why do men continue to pander to these self-diluted princesses by agreeing with them, and then claim to be above the fray?
Ladies: If a man is NOT interested in you, it is not because an entire gender is intimidated by your perceived strengths. Men are turned off by something about your personality. Judging by your thought-process men might be turned off by your ego and delusions.
Men: Don't be a simp and sell our gender out, only to put yourself about the fray. You look pathetic. More pathetic than somebody who actually thinks men are intimidated by her. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 7/25/2009 7:13:45 AM | The sub-title here is:
[Does everybody need to be right? No. Are people who always seem to need to be right irritating. Often. ]
In the span of human recollection, not much really, the quantity of women who dared to be witty and smart are few indeed. This is a function of male domination that really got going in the 1500's when the healers were burned as witches. The history of humanity has been one of killing and war. Herstory is the story of herbology, food preserving and child rearing. Males have to learn how to accept women as equal!
I used to think we'd be better off with female leaders and then came Margaret Thatcher.
However, Germany, seems to be doing quite well with Angela Merkel.
Indira Ghandi was and stil is in a class of her own.
I think my faith in women still holds firm. When it comes to creating a better world, I have more faith in women than I do in males.
Men who cannot be comfortable around smart and witty women simply do not have the smarts to know they are MUCH better off with a smart woman. The sub-text here is a human who _can_ associate with a "bright mind" has to be authentic. A bright mind will see through inauthenticity in a flash and also be in your face in stating such.
The positive side is one can CREATE a relationship with a witty and smart woman when a not so bright woman would wait for a relationship to _happen_. Whether we will admit it or not, "falling" - in love aka lust" is by definition powerless and misleading to the norm of a relationship. A relationship that is based on powerlessness is doomed to failure.
The actual creation of a relationship is a process whereby the creators decide what they need in that relationship for it to work for them.
As to "being right" That is a way of being, [ everything about a human is a way of being ]
at this moment "my way of being" is that of teacher. By telling you what I know, I cover up what I don't know. In Ontology, the art and science of being, we say a way of being is a racket to cover up inauthencity which arises from not being authentic. So what we have is a failure to be authentic and putting out a different message to confuse the listener. Who gets fooled?
Once one gets why "being right" is in play, it becomes entertaining as you can then begin speculating as to what the person is covering up. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 7/25/2009 9:06:30 AM | As long as you're respectful of me (and I'll try to extend you the same courtesy), you can be as intelligent and witty as you want to be, and I'll love you for it!
I agree, boys who like to be in control are intimidated by this kind of woman. Men are not. We love it! A Barbie who just sits there and looks pretty without talking only goes so far...
When it comes to sex, men prefer the direct approach: After some pleasantires and a bit of chit-chat, "I would like to fvck you". No games. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 7/25/2009 3:50:03 PM |
But it's because most men think with thier dikks...But those of us that DONT, and are LOOKING for an Intelligent and witty woman tend to get overlooked.
Oh god. Is anyone else sick of hearing this? I hate to break it to some of you, but you may be getting overlooked because you're boring, ugly, unfunny, etc. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 7/27/2009 10:39:46 PM |
Okay, from my person experience, only a small demographic of men actually like women who portray themselves as classy, intelligent beings with a great sense of humor. They may say that these are fantastic attributes, yet I constantly see men chasing the stereotypical sexpot. I've also been dumped a couple times for someone deemed "more attractive", and or frankly dumb. I'm not trying to sound arrogant by any means, but are men intimidated by this? Or, am I just meeting the wrong (shallow) people? I'd like to hear your opinions, or stories. Thanks!
Those are the kind of women I very, very, very much prefer. Most certainly, it's important to me that I find them physically attractive, but that attraction will increase tenfold over time if they've got the beauty of intelligence and wit. The personality is the thing that ultimately hooks me, though the exact "what" of that, just as in the cae of what I find physically attractive, can very significantly from woman to woman.
Give me a woman of woman of quality that I find pretty over a sexpot, slut, stripper, or celebrity-wannabe any day. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 7/28/2009 8:50:27 AM |
Because they feel intimidated.
I love a classy woman that is intelligent.
It's because when we tell our buddies we're dating an intelligent and witty woman, they tell us there's no Santa Claus or Easter Bunny either...
Seriously, an intelligent witty woman is worth far more than a good looking bimbo...
Little boys are intimidated by smart women, men love them... | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 7/28/2009 11:50:23 AM |
Okay, from my person experience, only a small demographic of men actually like women who portray themselves as classy, intelligent beings with a great sense of humor.
I am happy to be in that small demographic. I actually like a woman who can challenge me and make me think. She does not have to have a great sense of humor just the same kind as me ;) | |
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