| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/18/2008 10:25:42 AM | 63off said,
Braddl1...the guy has made copies of scenes about rape and says all women fantsize about rape and acknowledges NO male responsibility in it at all. I take no joy in saying this but your friend is about to be raped, probably repeatedly. In fact it scares the sh!~ out of me. Please think twice before walking out on her, she needs you now more than ever.
I do fear that as well as do my sister. But my sister also fear what I will do to the guy if I go around him. So I told my sister to stay in contact with her. That way I can sort of keep cool and calm and have a level head if I'm needed. And maybe she needs to hear it more from a woman's point of view. I can be an idoit at times and might blurt out something the wrong way and push her away or something like that. | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/18/2008 10:32:07 AM | | Don't do anything stupid Brad. If something bad does happen just call the cops and let them handle it. The last thing you want to do is end up in jail trying to get your shots in. Once the guy is in prison he will get all the attention he can handle. Rapists are pretty low on the food chain. | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/18/2008 10:35:24 AM | | Being the type of straightforward person that I am, I would've confronted the guy right on the spot. (That is a sickening and degrading remark). I would've told the guy that's not a nice thing to say and ask for an apology for his remark. Or cleverly give the guy a taste of his own medicine by looking at another hot guy and replying "Lucky I'm with you or else I'd be with him!" then laugh. | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/18/2008 10:46:26 AM | Braddl1...if-- as your previous post indicates-- you have a past track record of uncontrolled violence under circumstances where you are provoked by abusive behaviour towards your sister, or other women, you need to stay AWAY from this guy entirely.
1. The last thing that *you* need is a prosecution for assault as a result of going after this guy physically. If you think for a second that cops' sympathy over the fact that you went after a guy that you figured was a rapist-in-waiting would allow you to avoid that problem, think again-- hard.
2. Your profile indicates that you live in Florida. Even if you know that this guy does not have a gun right now, you have no idea as to whether he might get one if he gets the sense that you have it in for him. Dealing with gunshot wounds is only entertainment in Hollywood flicks and bad hip hop videos.
3. If this guy is a rapist-in-waiting, your sister and your friend are not the only women at risk. All the more reason to clue the cops in about this guy, and stow any b.s. concerns you may have at the lack of street cred involved in ratting this prize out to the cops. IF he has not done anything illegal (yet) hopefully that would keep it that way. | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/18/2008 12:43:14 PM | sherilyn...to argue your point of not knowing this kid personally... is just what a criminal defence attorney would do. They would turn it and twist it in any way possible to make this kid out to be sweaty pie.
This kid has premeditation on his mind...and seems to have for quite a while now.
All evidence shows bright RED flags at his character. Serial killers have had the very same pattern (after the fact of murder) and when people are questioned, they recall these kind of disturbing behaviors!
This kid needs help...if these posters were the jury....'the rape dreamer' may stand a chance for intervention.
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/18/2008 4:28:58 PM |
sherilyn...to argue your point of not knowing this kid personally... is just what a criminal defence attorney would do. They would turn it and twist it in any way possible to make this kid out to be sweaty pie.
Correct me if I'm wrong but, isn't that what living in the US is about? The right to not be guilty until proven in a court of law? You are judging him and convicting him based on ONE persons testimony. I'd love to point out the evidence that shows that Brad is probably the actual perp but that would get me suspended since posts are about the subject and not the posters previous posting history, so I'm sticking to the facts here and only here.
There is no proof that the guy is premeditating anything. All we have proof of (if it can even be believed) is that a guy likes to watch rape scenes and say outrageous things to get a reaction out of people.
Why is it that everyone here is actually supporting someone that has outright made physical threats now? I find that ironic that the one that wants to blatantly hurt someone else and says he has to be keep holding back is being given more respect than the guy that mouths off and shows of rape scenes from Hollywood movies and has actually shown no real intent of doing it in real life. How many of you have now wished physical harm on this man? Shame on all of you. | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/18/2008 4:56:52 PM | I don't want to see him get hurt, the whole point in making sure that he isn't a bomb waiting to go off is to make sure no one gets hurt. If he was just sitting in his room watching scripted rape scenes on his computer then so be it, everyone had their kinks. It's the fact that he is going around saying, "I'd rape her" or "Women want to be raped". Those are considered warning signs that something might not be right with him.
There would be no harm in him sitting down with a therapist and finding out if he has a potential problem, or at the very least letting the cops know that he has been making offhand remarks about raping women.
Normal people don't go around saying they would like to commit a serious violent sexual crime just to look cool. | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/18/2008 5:05:55 PM |
Normal people don't go around saying they would like to commit a serious violent sexual crime just to look cool.
And they also don't talk about hurting other people.
Neither of these people is completely right in the head. However the guy in question is only 22 (if I recall correctly) and is probalby just doing it for shock value like so much of their generation does in every media aspect. | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/18/2008 7:15:13 PM |
All we have proof of (if it can even be believed) is that a guy likes to watch rape scenes and say outrageous things to get a reaction out of people.
You are assuming that he said that for the reaction rather than because he meant exactly what he said. tsk tsk Shame on YOU!
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/18/2008 8:03:20 PM | read the initial post again. Does not mention that this was a fantasy. How this became a subject of fantasy is a mystery to me. It appears the comment wa that he would have forced the other woman to have sex that night. I wonder how anyone might defend this comment.  | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/18/2008 8:21:19 PM | Rape is not something to joke about. I've never dated anyone who would disrespect another woman or myself like that. I do know if he had been my Bf he would of been left sitting by himself after whatever I had been sipping on had been nicely poured over his head to cool his sorry ass off.  | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/19/2008 9:43:03 AM |
Why is it that everyone here is actually supporting someone that has outright made physical threats now? I find that ironic that the one that wants to blatantly hurt someone else and says he has to be keep holding back is being given more respect than the guy that mouths off and shows of rape scenes from Hollywood movies and has actually shown no real intent of doing it in real life. How many of you have now wished physical harm on this man? Shame on all of you.
I sort of feel sorry for you. I do make threats. That's weak. I tell ppl what I feel to their face. Sorry, but anyone that makes veiled threats against my friends and family will have to deal with me. Any one asking a guy if he ever though of raping his own sister desrves a good a** kicking. Hey, I know I'm weird for not cuddling him like you want to. Sorry I think like this, but that's just how I was raised. You watch over your friends and family.
Sherily, you what to know why I'm and a lot of other women are sort on edge. There's "serial" rapist in town. Well the police don't want to admit it, but at least 8 women, mostly college age have been attacked in the last few months by the same guy. I think someone talking about and viewing rape scenes is strange.
What amazes me is your attitude towards rape and yet you say you were raped. I don't get it. I know a girl back in college that had nightmares about being groped by a group of guys. She wasn't raped, but was sure as hell molested. | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/19/2008 9:57:38 AM | | So I take it you never say things like "I'd break/destroy you" when you're referring to a woman sexually. Chill, he probably doesn't mean it literally unless he was dead serious or seemed like he actually wanted to hurt her. I think he may have meant sex, not rape. | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/19/2008 10:07:49 AM |
So I take it you never say things like "I'd break/destroy you" when you're referring to a woman sexually. Chill, he probably doesn't mean it literally unless he was dead serious or seemed like he actually wanted to hurt her. I think he may have meant sex, not rape.
Nope dude, I never have said that I would break or destroy a woman. Not my style. I like seeing a woman smile not tremble with fear.
I thought the guys was just being an idiot until he showed me that dvd and all the talk about rape and domination. And then when asked me about my thoughts about raping my sister, that when I came close to losing it. Nothing funny about this guy. Sick stuff and he wasn't joking about it either. | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/19/2008 10:14:32 AM |
I sort of feel sorry for you. I do make threats. That's weak. I tell ppl what I feel to their face. Sorry, but anyone that makes veiled threats against my friends and family will have to deal with me. Any one asking a guy if he ever though of raping his own sister desrves a good a** kicking. Hey, I know I'm weird for not cuddling him like you want to. Sorry I think like this, but that's just how I was raised. You watch over your friends and family.
Yes, lets resort to physical violence over some words. Violence solves everything after all. :) You're going to physically hurt someone because they suggested they might hurt someone else. This makes you not the same type of bad person how?
I think someone talking about and viewing rape scenes is strange.
Yes and you'd probably say a man talking about having sex with another man was as well. Just because you don't understand it doesn't make it a crime. | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/19/2008 10:17:19 AM | WHOA! Hold up. DVD? SISTER? Wtf? You gotta explain that one to me champ.
About saying the destroy thing, I don't mean you have a maniacal look in your eyes while wielding a hammer. I mean when you're horny, she's horny, you're talkin about what you'd do to her, girls love it from my experience. | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/19/2008 10:38:59 AM | slickerthanyouravg said,
WHOA! Hold up. DVD? SISTER? Wtf? You gotta explain that one to me champ.
I explained it in my previous post, but I will do a little cliff note version for you. He has DVd rape scenes for his viewing pleasure. He gets off on seeing them. Ok Whatever his deal not mine, but the guys is sick.
Then when I'm leaving he asked me the sick question about have I ever had teh thought of raping my own sister. That's where the a** beating was rightly deserved, but my sister in all her wisdom saved him and me from a lot of hassle.
About saying the destroy thing, I don't mean you have a maniacal look in your eyes while wielding a hammer. I mean when you're horny, she's horny, you're talkin about what you'd do to her, girls love it from my experience.
Sorry I took it another way. But yes I have said that I was going make he climb the walls and alot of silly talk like that, but never have I said that I would rape her. That to me would kill the mood and let a good erection go to waste. LOL. | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/19/2008 10:46:06 AM | Wait a second, Braddl1.
In your previous post, you said that 8 college age women have been attacked in your town in the last few months ?
And you just had an encounter with some guy who comments about wanting to rape people, watches compilations of rape scenes, asks you if you ever thought about raping your own sister ?
Hello ? Why are you not in the cop shop right now telling them this ? Maybe they might want a lead on this case ? | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/19/2008 10:51:53 AM |
About saying the destroy thing, I don't mean you have a maniacal look in your eyes while wielding a hammer. I mean when you're horny, she's horny, you're talkin about what you'd do to her, girls love it from my experience.
I would not be amused or turned on, personally. Being handled roughly and talked to roughly is not my thing.
Yes and you'd probably say a man talking about having sex with another man was as well. Just because you don't understand it doesn't make it a crime.
No, I don't think homosexuality is strange or unpleasant. What consenting adults choose to do in private is their business--even if that is rough, violent or painful. It may not be my cup of tea, but I don't deny others the right to their own pleasures. The difference is that RAPE IS UNCONSENTUAL SEX--and that IS a crime. Honest to God, it amazes me that you are unable to grasp that concept and accept that it's wrong to FORCE someone to have sex or perform sexual acts or to joke about doing that.
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/19/2008 11:01:58 AM | sherilyn70, you have no idea whether this guy has done anything wrong.
He may be exactly the guy that did something very wrong to 8 women in that same town, according to the OP.
His demonstrated fascination with sexual assault indicates someone who is far more likely to be that guy than any other male taken at random in that town.
If he did not do it, he is just offensive, and a *friendly* talk with the cops certainly does not breach any of his rights, does it ? | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/19/2008 11:07:20 AM | well, my post was going to be about how it was very, very sexually aggressive on his part, joke or no..
but then, i read about the rape compilation video, and yeah, this is a boy with problems.
now, that being said, there are women out there with that fantasy, believe it or not, and maybe, lord willing he can find one before he does some actual damage | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/19/2008 11:08:07 AM | you have no idea whether this guy has done anything wrong.
And what reason do we have to think that he might have? I'd say brad probably needs to report himself as well for the violent thoughts he seems to often have. Who knows what man he might have beat up on the street recently because they stared at his sister a little too long?
His demonstrated fascination with sexual assault indicates someone who is far more likely to be that guy than any other male taken at random in that town.
I disagree as this is not an uncommon fantasy. I once again refer people to literotica.com to see for themselves. It is a fairly common plot line in erotic stories. | |
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| If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do?
Posted: 12/19/2008 11:14:20 AM | Bradd, I think I'm going to have to agree with sherilyn on this one. I think that having a DVD compilation of rape scenes or getting off on rape scenarios does not make him a rapist. I think his "joking" of wanting to rape a woman and his comment about you raping your own sister (ewww) are inappropriate and disturbing but it does not naturally progress to him committing the act of rape.
I don't really understand the allure of BDSM sex or how some that enjoy this type of sexual domination and humiliation feel it is liberating but I wouldn't assume that they are inherently violent or perform criminal acts. The fact is that men and women do enjoy and are aroused by rape scenarios. Typically, their fantasies include a safe environment with someone they trust not to ultimately hurt them or force them to do something they don't want to do.
However, I do believe that only you can judge how dangerous you actually think this guy is. You have described his comments and his actions but its really hard to judge second hand information. Being in his presence and evaluating not only what he says but how he says it and his demeanor would make a difference in deciding whether he is just expressing a fantasy or planning on committing a criminal act.
Since there have been some women attacked in your area, it may be worth a trip to the police to share your concerns. I suspect that his comments and his rape dvds wouldn't be a huge cause for concern but only they can judge whether the information is worthy of investigation. | |
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