| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 12/17/2008 2:54:44 PM |
I have a somewhat odd question. I have discovered, in the past year, that I really like to be on top and can orgasm quite easily that way, most of the time.Some of them seem to really like it, and 1 came with me when I was on top.
But *some* of them have gotten soft when I've been on top, which to me probably means they don't like that position or it doesn't work for them? Or what?
This has happened for sure with 3 different guys now.
From this here I see that you do mention that you can reach the big O quite easily, but my question is how long does this usually take? With some guys if this takes too long they might go soft from this taking too long for you to get off. Like many of the other guys on here have said, I am a huge fan of the woman on top, I love watching her going up and down on me and admiring her beautiful body and all it's great parts, but if this process begins to take too long it can become, dare I say it, boring? And some may simply loose interest, if you are on top doing all the work and taking a while. Maybe try changing up the position while you are on top or other methods, but keeping him interested and into the moment is key. Better luck next time, and by the sounds of it you seem to not be exclusive so I sure hope you're using protection. | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 12/17/2008 3:37:54 PM | I think that this is a very individual thing for the guy(s). It just depends what interferes (e.g., not being in control enough might upset some guys--and when guys are upset, you know what happens) and/or fails to give them enough stimulation to keep them hard.
I'd recommend discussing it with the man outside of the bedroom (and when sex is not immediately in prospect). Ask him if there's anything you can try to make your favorite position work better for him.
The other option would be (if he doesn't go soft immediately), do it your way for few mins, then switch to a position that will get him harder again; then go back to your position until he begins to lose it, then back to something that will get him hard, etc., etc.
Good luck. Don't give up on something that does it for you so well. | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 12/17/2008 6:36:54 PM | Well you know what? I've been a little reluctant to post my 2c because I realized it was all posted on your profile...like it or not. But I don't seem to be getting much attention anyways so I'm just gonna join in the fun!
As for liking on top and having your guy go soft, I guess what I would think is he's not that into that position. Just like with everything we all have our preferences.
Try doggy...at the right angle you will get the g spot too. And as for reverse cowgirl... it's great for the ones who like the spanking!!! | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 12/17/2008 7:28:41 PM | | hmm..so you do it like female missionary? Thats my fav too..but he doesnt go soft..try to get m0re length out then in..maybe not enough friction?? | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 12/17/2008 7:45:14 PM |
Well you know what? I've been a little reluctant to post my 2c because I realized it was all posted on your profile...like it or not. But I don't seem to be getting much attention anyways so I'm just gonna join in the fun!
The sex forum is more fun than the others, Crazy. Lol. I post in these things frequently, and it seems they only keep the last 25 threads, whether in your history (right under your pic in these pages), or online through google (if they search your pof user name). Pfft. Can't know for sure, but I suspect that profile scanners, IF they get past your photos, past your interests and whatever your "about me" says, and IF they scroll to the bottom of your page, may be satisfied with whatever is quoted there from your last five posts, which is all or most of the first line of each post. Sooooo, at least with this post, you're probably in the clear. Lol. Btw, I haven't been spanked yet for anything from the forums showing up on my profile, although I have been occasionally attacked for something I said by other posters in the thread. Some of these forum folks have sharp elbows.
Post with impunity, Darlin'. Everybody else does.
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jayb2b
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 12/18/2008 8:36:22 PM | | 64Classic... just ignore big(small)manmoe... he is an attention seeking juvenile who probably lied about his age. His other posts are similarly juvenile. | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 12/18/2008 10:01:24 PM | I had an early GF where this was our most frequent position and we both loved it.
Later with other women I had problems staying hard sometimes and I nailed it down to this:
Sitting up/back so we're perpendicular with her knees by my ribs is not so good. Its OK for a few minutes and visually exciting but eventually I'll need more. When in that position there just isn't enough in/out going on and she's more open - less tight - and I'm not getting the squeeze and slide I need.
Solution:
Lean forward and "lay down" more. Kissing face to face or dangling breasts so I can reach them with my mouth is awesome. Also, leaning forward bellies get rubbed. Also, I can reach and pet her back, bum and thighs. Put your knees down/straighten your legs a bit so they're down by my thighs - this closes things up a little and makes things a bit tighter feeling and in general there will be more more in/out while you get to focus on moving for your own pleasure.
Anyhow, that's the way I like it and the extra stroking on her backside I can do seems to do a lot for her too.
Hope this helps. | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 7/7/2009 1:32:02 PM | Kaylie,
The slide can be great for you but it can also be very, very painful for the guy.
I had exactly what you describe happen to me once. The woman was sliding forward and back and tilting her hips for clitoral contact with my shaft. The problem was she hit very hard and our willies just don't bend that close to our bodies and it hurts quite a bit. I managed maybe two minutes of this then deflated like a popped balloon. I had been thinking she must be close to be going at it so hard so I tried to hold out.
Didn't take long to get back up (double entendre intended) but I got a whoopin' for not being a real man and staying hard. Good thing my girlfriend understood and we just let her leave before resuming the fun. | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 7/7/2009 1:42:51 PM |
But *some* of them have gotten soft when I've been on top, which to me probably means they don't like that position or it doesn't work for them? Or what?
This has happened for sure with 3 different guys now. One of average size, one above average in size, one less than average in size.
It could be overstimulation that causes the guy to go soft... or it could also be not quite the right type of stimulation for him. It can happen.
I've had that problem with some girls doing oral on me... too much sensation too quickly... and they mistakenly think I don't like it when in fact they are doing it 'too well'... and I have to explain what's going on with me. | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 7/7/2009 1:54:01 PM | I'll tell you my personal story of why I never let women be on top anymore.
I think I was around 18 when this happened. I was engaging in some particularly vigorous bouncy-bouncy, when my lady friend over-extended her lunge, and slid off my fuck-bat. Said fuck-bat then came to rest in the little concave pit between her crotch and thigh, and she brought her full weight back down on it before I could react.
I jackknifed. If you don't know what jackknifing is, pray you never find out. There was a sound, almost like bone breaking, and my world became a searing, screaming onslaught of never before matched agony. I'd rather endure vivisection at the hands of cruel Unit 731 doctors than go through that again. I'd rather let Josef Mengele go wild on my insides, sans anaesthesis. Even years later, I still have a very slight curve to the side, and a thickening in the middle of my shaft as a result.
Suffice it to say that faced with the potential reoccurence of such a penile holocaust, the woman's pleasure becomes a distant second prioritywise, trailing far behind "not shattering my dick." | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 7/7/2009 6:39:13 PM | | I think that depending on how your moving, where your weight is being positioned, etc that it can effect blood flow to a man's member. I enjoy having a girl up there, but usually have to change it up after about 10 mins or the same thing happens.. soon as the girl gets off I get it back short while later. Just keep changing the positions up | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 10/26/2009 7:23:40 PM |
I'll tell you my personal story of why I never let women be on top anymore.
I think I was around 18 when this happened. I was engaging in some particularly vigorous bouncy-bouncy, when my lady friend over-extended her lunge, and slid off my ****-bat. Said ****-bat then came to rest in the little concave pit between her crotch and thigh, and she brought her full weight back down on it before I could react.
I jackknifed. If you don't know what jackknifing is, pray you never find out. There was a sound, almost like bone breaking, and my world became a searing, screaming onslaught of never before matched agony. I'd rather endure vivisection at the hands of cruel Unit 731 doctors than go through that again. I'd rather let Josef Mengele go wild on my insides, sans anaesthesis. Even years later, I still have a very slight curve to the side, and a thickening in the middle of my shaft as a result.
Suffice it to say that faced with the potential reoccurence of such a penile holocaust, the woman's pleasure becomes a distant second prioritywise, trailing far behind "not shattering my****"
OUCH!!!!! but you have a way with words that makes me  | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 10/27/2009 12:31:48 PM | It's kind of like when the roles are reversed and he's focused on himself and not you. You're glad she's having a good time but that doesn't necessarily mean you are.
And not to say that you're doing anything wrong, but some guys got to have that rock & roll rhythm. You lay there and you think - can't this woman push any harder, thrust any deeper? She might as well be pounding my hip bone and leaving my d*ck in the cold. Why is she taking breaks every 30 seconds? Every time we get going she has to stop and rest. I can do more from the bottom than she is doing from the top. | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 10/27/2009 3:11:16 PM | I can do more from the bottom than she is doing from the top.
I think you pitched this with disdain, but was reminded of one lady, kinda tiny, who hopped on top one day, with kind of an impish grin, claiming she was gonna take control, and control the pace! Lol The moment, well maybe three, I started to thrust up, her jaw kinda dropped, and eyes closed, and she said somethin' about, "Unnhhh, if you're gonna do THAT . . . . ", and Goooosh!   O's generally came freely to her, but her ex apparently was a top-only guy, and she had always been kinda pinned underneath with no wiggle room. Lol After that, all the hip bones in the vicinity were moving in unison, no matter who was "on top". | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 10/27/2009 3:26:01 PM | I had that problem with my ex. I think when a woman is on top some men feel intimidated. The loose the control and have less to do with the enjoyment the woman is having. I think when a man goes soft while on top it is all psychological (with him)!
Bouncy Bouncy !  | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 10/27/2009 8:38:32 PM |
I think when a woman is on top some men feel intimidated
If they're intimidated, they have no business doin' what they're doin'.
I think when a man goes soft while on top it is all psychological (with him)!
Hey, what happened to the equality agenda? Could be possible that soft situation has something to do with the partner he's with. | |
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| Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 10/28/2009 1:03:26 PM | I don't think it has to do with the partner. He obvioulsy wasn't forced into having sex and he wasn't forced into having an errection when HE was on top or in any other position. The guy just doesn't like a woman on top, or it doesn't feel as good or like the other person said - He's afraid she's gonna break it - LOL .
That's all folks !  | |
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