| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/4/2006 12:19:55 PM | | Shaunamarie - I feel the very same way. I would rather be broken up with by email as to avoid the dreaded breaking down crying trap. I have also broken off things once by email and it was a difficult decision, some could call it cowardly, but I was honestly afraid of sobing all the way through it too and it hurt enough to break up let alone have to hear someone else be hurt at the same time. Also I agree with the dealing with feelings in my own way on my own time and wish that for others. It sucks, but regardless, breakups suck no matter how you do it. | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/4/2006 12:55:53 PM | In today's age of electronic communication it has become "too easy" and way too impersonal. Meeting people on these sites/forums is good but after you meet and you decide that maybe things should go forward - then communication should go the old fashion way.... telephone, in person, good old fashion letters/cards....
No problem telling someone you only just had a coffee with that you are not interested, but why not do it while you are having coffee instead of the next time to email or IM you?? We are all adults and shouldn't be devastated by because our coffee date didn't turn into forever!
Now, those who break up long term relationships, or what at least one party deems to be committed...by email/IM/text.. whatever.... That is just not right...
My 2cents worth.... Happy fishing everyone..
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/4/2006 4:50:13 PM | | I got dumped by having my then girlfriend perform oral sex on her boss on my answering machine. After listening 4 or 5 times, i finally erased it! (j/k) | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/4/2006 5:01:48 PM | "I've been dumped face to face, by phone, by voice mail, by fax, by email, by snail mail, by text message, by smoke signal, sign language, billboard, classified ad, singing telegram, flaming arrow, carrier pigeon...."
I got dumped the old fashioned way. She served me with Divorce Papers.
She had no creativity at all  | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/4/2006 5:05:11 PM | | yes twice once by email the second by letter. What i have been told by my guy friends is the reason why they do this is to avoid the crying thing. Just another excuse if you ask me. He's not worth it! | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/4/2006 5:27:28 PM | | I had been dating this girl for over 3 months. She had me over at her place on my b-day and had baked my a cake and bought me a gift and 2 weeks later she dumped me by e-mail!! I really cared about her so much. I called and called and begged her to at least discuss it with me, but I never heard back from her. The hardest part for me is that she now has a profile on this site. It kills me whenever I come across it. She doesn't live too far from me and I had bumped into her once waiting at a traffic light and she had sped away. I never felt so betrayed and humiliated. | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/4/2006 5:31:14 PM | | Guys want to do it by email or voice mail because men have no sales resistance. If we do it face to face, and the girl starts unbuttoning, unfastening or unzipping things, there's no way in hell we go through with it. A guy will trade one last roll in the hay for another month or so of dating ANY time.. | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/4/2006 9:12:28 PM | Ah Karma!!! It is sooo good!
I dated a guy, a college professor, mind you for six months. He had two Masters and was working on his Post Doctorate. I was so into him and three months asfter we began dating, exclusively I saw signs there might be something wrong.
He gave excuses that he was going out of town, he had to teach an extra class, whatever.
Finally, after six months I got the email:
He found a lady with MORE education than I had, it was very serious! He said that I was a great friend, lover, yada, yada, yada.....
and that was it. I was upset, but did get over him.
The best thing is, I saw him this summer and asked how he and she were doing.
She left him after five weeks of marriage and the marriage was anulled.
He then thought since I looked so great and was happy that we could start back where we were when he wrote me off. LOL!!!!!
I let him know there was no chance in H**L that that would ever happen.
A few weeks later he apologized to me and still thinks there may be a chance! LOL!!! | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/5/2006 5:16:39 PM | | One guy I dated emailed me after a two months together that he was seeing someone that week. I had to laugh because he actually said he was a coward and a Pu**y. But he didn't want to hurt me. Ok email is not the way to go if you are to afraid. Atleast call or something. I could of been a real B*tch because I did still have his house key but I was to nice and just handed it back to him and moved on.... | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/6/2006 5:04:22 PM | Hold on a second, I'm about to jump in the shower...
Just kidding! Actually, I think that it just might be the male version of "I'm washing my hair tonight..." That being said, it is retarded for someone to just say nothing, or "I don't feel comfortable discussing my reasons..." I thought human beings possessed the power of speech for a reason. | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/7/2006 7:36:39 AM | and it always starts with those dreaded 3 little words
"It's not you!"
and don't forget the oh-so-famous..."I really like you, but..."
Hold on a second, I'm about to jump in the shower...
lol..and guess they must've got sucked down the drain... | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/7/2006 7:54:48 AM | | Not only did he break up with an e-mail. He told me how painful it was for him. But, I did try and talk him and see what was up. Because a few days before we broke up he told me he was falling in love with me. He was looking at houses and wanted to know what I thought about them. He was leading me down the garden path. He used his kids as an excuse, and then had the nerve to say that maybe we could get back together later. But, then I found his profile back on line. It is his loss, not mine. He wasn't honest with me or himself. | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/7/2006 8:06:06 AM | Hey, I once told a woman she couldn't come over that night because I had to clean the gravel in my aquarium.
And she BOUGHT it!!!!  | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/7/2006 10:23:53 AM | | I've had it happen once, and I've gotten "Well that was really great, call me sometime," two days after he said "I love you," (wtf?!? I'd known that guy for ages! We'd been good friends, then lovers, then this, and it really blew it all the way around. Losing the friendship was the worst part.) What I hate the most, though, is when they make you guess so you finally call them and they say, "Oh, I've been really busy, I forgot to call......" Now THAT is cowardly. But you know, if someone is that immature, we didn't have a future anyway.... | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/7/2006 10:32:42 AM | | Um still can't figure out why questions like this exist. UMMMMM, is there any other way. Helo. Im on a computer and my name is....... | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/7/2006 12:30:20 PM | | I dated a gentlaman from POF. After a month of dating he gave me a Ruby and Diamond ring. We talked about marriage and moving in together next year. I was totally head over heals in love with this man, but I had a few reservations about moving in and all that, I have 2 teenagers so its a big decision. So I went out to talk to him about how I felt and he told me there and then to "get the f#*k out". I was shocked beyond all belief how he had reacted. After a few days of talking back and forth, he emailed me and told me that he could never be with me, that he didn't like my youngest daughter's personality and that he had over committed. I do believe that he has since gone back on to POF and met someone else. How much you wanna bet this is a pattern. He had a really nasty, unpleasant, controlling, domineering personalty. Good luck to her, she will see his "other" side. | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/7/2006 1:39:59 PM | i WAS DUMPED IN AN EMAIL ON A LONG TRIP HOME, AFTER SPENDING 5 DAYS WITH THE MAN ALL IT SAYED IS " WERE DONE" NO EXPLANATION, HE NEVER TALKED TO ME AGAIN. | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/20/2006 8:27:22 AM | Well, I met a guy here on POF last June and we dated for 3 months. Stupid me probed the issue via email since I hadn't heard from him and my reply was as follows.....
as you know im not very good at serious conversations but i do need to be honest about how im feeling.
we have been together about 3 months now and its been alot of fun and you trerat me great. However i dont feel love in my heart and by now i think i should, dont get me wrong your a great person and its fun to be around you.
I have had this problem before, maybe its a comitment thing with me i dont know but i have to be honest with you, this isnt working for me anymore. Im sorry that i hurt you but it wouldnt be right to keep doing this but this is how i feel and you deserve honesty and someone who feels about you the same way you feel about them.
I hope this makes sense to you but if it doesnt i understand.
I was really hurt and can't believe the reply. I emailed him so I guess started the flow but seriously! I had spent every weekend with this guy and usually one week day overnighter. We had sex basically every single visit, I've had dinners and breakfasts with his friends and work associates.........I was really falling for him. To boot, he still shows long term on his profile online! I have had a hard time sleeping as this only happened a few weeks ago and my heart still hurts! I just can't believe I really thought he was a nice guy and he didn't even give me any signs! Well I sure as hell he gets it together and doesn't do this to anyone else, since it's happened in the past. I had a few tantrums in my profile changes for about a week cause I was just so insulted and hurt. Finally I fixed it up and opted to move on. The joke of it is, I really wish there was good explanation, he got frightened and would contact me. I have to face reality though, he hasn't made any more attempts to explain himself after I had asked him to.
So answer is yup! and it sucks big time! As you can see, I now have decided not to allow too much communications through the computer and then I can base my decisions on real.
I know how much it hurts and can only hope that these people get it back four times over!
chin up! you are the better person! | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/20/2006 8:40:34 AM | | I got blown off by someone that writes in her treatise of a profile,2nd line,about honesty;she "always responds" . Never even a "go to hell" e mail,lol. | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/20/2006 9:34:58 AM | My first boyfriend did that to me...except in the email he also decided to explain why...gee how thoughtful, right? How about not! He told me it was because he had deep feelings for my best friend and could not stop thinking about her, etc. etc. I thought i was going to throw up. Because of him, i lost to two best friends. And thankfully they are my friends again now, but its so not the same.  | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/20/2006 9:45:24 AM | | That happens a lot, lately. Some people prefer to do that rather than calling on the phone or saying something face to face,that way theres arguements, confrontations ,seeing their emtional disapointments. Its not a good way of doing things, but people do it so they will not have to deal with the person,their breaking up with. | |
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| Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 9/20/2006 9:59:56 AM |
I had spent every weekend with this guy and usually one week day overnighter. We had sex basically every single visit
People put WAY too much importance on sex. It's just one small facet of a relationship.
To boot, he still shows long term on his profile online!
All that means is that he wants long term. It just isn't going to be with you.
I just can't believe I really thought he was a nice guy and he didn't even give me any signs!
Because you weren't his cup of tea doesn't make him NOT a nice guy, does it? ANY two people don't make a couple.
he hasn't made any more attempts to explain himself after I had asked him to.
The reason why you should be happy you only wasted 3 months.
only hope that these people get it back four times over!
That's a bit childish. Wishing bad things on people because they weren't the right guy for you is something I expect from a 19 year old, not a grown woman. If that was the way to handle it, you'd be upset with 99.99999% of men. Everybody but the one you eventually end up with.
You are the winner here. Imagine what it would have been like after 3 MORE months. Or 6. Or 12.
It doesn't always work because ONE person wants it to. In fact, it NEVER works when only one person wants it to.
A buddy of mine was sent a text message by his wife saying she was filing for divorce.
He was driving his car when he got it. She was 3 feet away in the passenger seat when she sent it.
Now THAT'S cold blooded. | |
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