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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 12/20/2008 3:15:44 PM |
Imagine the subsequent aftermath and media circus that would follow if someone like Angelina Jolie or Halle Berry decided to post on a dating site.
Will never know. The profile would be report as fake and mod would delete. :) | |
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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 12/20/2008 8:29:08 PM |
Aren't you all scared those around you will stumble across your profile online and "know"??!
OP, I looked at your profile. While I know you're not requesting a review, you needn't worry about uploading a pic. If you intend to leave your profile as-is with all the "prefer not to say" and general absence of content, it won't matter anyway.
But I'm not scared at all. Plenty of things scare me in life, but being "outed" on a dating website isn't one of them. Usually the peeps who are scared of being discovered have something to hide or are cheaters. I've seen several people from my place of employment on here. They are all well-educated and successful. Not being able to find someone to hook up with in real life is not a character flaw.
For some reason, it seems preferable to shag anonymous drunken peeps you may have met in bars, but to admit you're on a dating website suggests that you are socially inept.
If you're embarrassed to put your photo on your profile because you don't want your friends or family to see that you're using a dating site, you may be lacking in confidence. It's a proven fact that people that put their photos on their profiles get a dramatically better response. There is a work-around solution if you really can't stand the thought of your photo being online, and that is for you initiate contacts with individuals and either offer to send a photo if what you say piques their interest. But of course you'd actually have to fully participate in order to entice someone's interest.
No man is an island, so said John Donne.......
G'luck......... | |
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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 2/14/2009 10:28:38 AM | | That's one of the reasons I take my picture off of here sometimes because I actually know for a fact that some folks in my office have used, or are using this site. My dating ad is not that big a deal. I just worry more about certain things they might read that I've posted in the forums. Especially in the sex forum. I'm a little more "open minded" about many sexual things, and I don't really want some of my more conservative coworkers finding that out. Sometimes I post a picture, sometimes I don't. Just depends on what I've been posting I guess. | |
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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 2/14/2009 10:36:45 AM | who care what other people think?? seriously, you have created an unnecessary fear for what?  if someone sees your profile on a dating site and they are from your work, ask yourself what they are doing on here as well? unless they have no life and are checking sites to dig up dirt on their coworkers, then what have you got to be worried about lol, they're the idiots. secondly, your personal life is nobodies business. quit worrying about what other people think. | |
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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 2/14/2009 10:40:28 AM | I was working for Match.com way back when it all started up. The stigma is stupid and has changed quite a bit, Nowadays its kinda common place and most start out really nervous and gradually loosin things up a bit. I had one person I noticed as a old co-worker tell me she was writing a book about online dating. poor lady was so apprehensive/embarrassed about it . I kinda felt bad for noticing her.
The amount of people who are on dating sites has quadrupled, so lots of people are cool with it. I don't care if people know, big whoop! Its a great way to meet like minded people for the working stiffs/parents.
I used to get so many complaints from women about being harrassed. I must have blocked 200 ISP's. The spammers were the worst, they have gotten alot better these days and everyone should be aware of them and thier tactics,they have become alot better. The porn spammers were a pain too. | |
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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 2/14/2009 11:50:05 AM |
Aren't you all scared those around you will stumble across your profile online and "know"??!
Know what???? That your single and dating? Don't your friends and co workers already know your single. Or are you NOT single (that could be an issue)? If your scared of others finding out then maybe you shouldn't be on a dating site.
The only time that I have issues with people finding my profile is if they are one of my clients...then I just block them and move on. | |
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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 2/14/2009 1:22:00 PM | | When I first found out about this site and joined, I showed my friends and coworkers. Then one day while Im at work and on PoF, some really cute girl IM's me and asks me a tons of questions. She was model-pretty, so naturally, I thought it was a fake profile and I thought it was my friends messing with me from another computer. I made a couple rude remarks about Gingers, and off she went. I found out a week later that they weren't messing with me at all and the really cute girl was actually a cute girl. | |
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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 2/14/2009 1:42:38 PM | | My single son ran across my profile and I heard 'Mom, what are you thinking?' My answer 'the same thing you are, how else do you meet people?' I told him that if he knew any good men, introduce me, if not --get over it. Women at work know I am online, their only comment....be careful. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2009 2:05:10 PM | OP, have you considered that they probably wouldn't have stumbled across your profile here unless they were here too?
Exactly - why would someone here care if you were here too? Why would anyone care? Unless you were married
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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 2/14/2009 6:59:14 PM | | I started going to sites about 6 years ago. I made it a plan to tell anyone who saw me with someone I met on the Internet that's where we met. I remember sitting at a restaurant with a group of people on the condo board I was on...half of us were divorced and we had just started up. We thought we'd tell a little about ourselves and I included in my little blurb that I went on dating sites. There was the shocked silence at the table. A week later one of the guys said he thought he'd try it and was soooo excited that he was communicating with someone who sounded so sweet. They wound up moving in together and were going to get married. I got a thank you card from him for being so open about it cuz it gave him the courage to and he was so happy. I think half the people that poo poo it do it on the sly and are just afraid of the old stigmas attached to it. My daughter always used to rag on me about it...now she's on this site and has met a couple of nice guys. Girls she knows go to dating sites. People are people...what difference does it make how you meet them? | |
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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 2/15/2009 1:27:28 AM | Oh pshhhhhhh....who cares?? I mean really!! I tell my single co-workers about POF and even got 1 to join (btw, she met a man here and they are going strong in their 10th month together).
This is the 21st Century...just about everyone and their brother is dating via the net and if they arent, then they know someone who is!
Lighten up, grow some b*lls, and post that pic!!  | |
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