| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/4/2005 1:02:50 AM | | i agree with you about becoming friends first, then moving on to bigger and better things, but have you never been attracted to someone and get involved with them, then finding out that they were not the one for you? insted of breaking their heart and saying hey were arent working out or you r not the one for me, you let them know that you respect them as a person and still want to be friends with them? women dont ALWAYS just wanna be friends. | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/4/2005 1:28:42 AM | A friend is the guy who buys you dinner before you hook up with your booty call. You know the guy who calls her cell phone while you are having dinner and she says is just a friend. Ya right...the other end of the conversation goes like this.."Hey baby you coming over to see me tonight....ok and order something extra and for me just say you are full and get it to go....I am sure your friend wont mind. You need to stop paying for her, and her "friend". Go find yourself a girl you stand a chance with.
On the flip side, if you are with a woman who you really love and she loves you a friendship is the cornerstone of a great relationship and an absolute must......just my 2 cents | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/4/2005 10:00:16 AM | | Sorry, I do not play the friend game.Did that all in my 20s.If another man wants to play the friend game with a female.Then i say go for it.Whatever works for you.If you think it takes months of dating and spending money to figure out what a woman wants from you that is your opinion.My opinion and what i have seen in my lifetime is that a woman knows what she wants the first time we meet.If a woman tells me she wants to be friends then i cannot get away from her fast enough.Sorry i am no frigging back up for no friggin woman.I lost alot of my pride and money in my 20s because of these screw up women.But never again...I rather be alone and a hermit than to be with the friend game. | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/4/2005 1:49:59 PM | | Being a woman who met and married one of those "sweet guys who bring flowers", I can tell you that you are full of crap. There are more women than you think who WANT men to treat them like ladies and not "drop them on their ass" as you put it. Frankly, your "machismo" attitude sucks big time. Maybe you should talk to more women and get a better understanding of how we think and what we feel before you elect yourself our spokesman. | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/4/2005 2:02:46 PM | | I do not know who you are addressing?^^^^But if you are addressing me i really do not care what you think of me.You have no ideal how i treated these so call woman i treated in the past no more how men treated you in the past...I just know saying and doing are 2 totally different things.To each their own.Whatever works for you. | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/5/2005 12:48:36 PM | You are right - your business is your business - but using the phrase "so called women" explains why you are having problems. Maybe you need to set your standards a bit higher?
Good luck. | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/5/2005 5:52:16 PM | | I have no problems since i got out of the frigin dating scene.I got my pride and i will not give that up for no body.Life is so much better that way...You have your life and i have mine.In other words you have your opinion and i have mine.But does not give the right to attack somebody just because you do not agree with somebody elses opinion. | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/5/2005 6:49:25 PM | Welllllll..........
Being just friends is where it all starts. Doesn't everybody know that. It is what a relationship is built off. Maybe you moved way too fast because woman don't usually go from I love you to "lets just be friends". We like to start that way "just friends" not finish things that way. | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/5/2005 7:01:27 PM | Hi 5 Dude!!
Tell me now, Ive met men who just wanna be friends too!! So it works both ways. Granted friends is fine, they claim friendship can blossom. But hey what the heck are they doing on here then advertising for dating iffn they ain't datin? Here's a good one for ya......Do men like to be chased or do they like to be the one chasing? I'm finding out after 20+ years of marriage and now divorced, that Im not sure what's the deal!!! So ladies and gents you tell me? Do we chase them or let them chase us??? Things hve sure changed since my younger dating years!!! | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/5/2005 7:52:21 PM | | IF friends work for you,Then i say go for it.Me personally i do not play that game.If it works for you.Great.Just do not think it will work for everybody else....When a woman tells me she wants to be just friends i cannot run away from her fast enough.Sorry.....Been there done that all in my 20s.Never again though...I use to be these so call friends with these women until loser boy shows up.Then she dose not know you then.She caresless...I rather be a hermit and alone than to play that game.....It does not take months of dating to figure what a person wants from the other.A woman knows within hours what she wants from you.If a man want to play the friend game.Then go for it.What ever works for you. | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/5/2005 9:41:56 PM | | Dude your 32 K now listen I'm 20 and thats the same bs I hear to but its all what your attitude is towards the subject if you come on to hard as a needy desperate guy or even if your just alittle to overly pressed about the dating situation the women/lady of your choice is likely taking that as a bad sign and yes I know I young to know all these things but I've dated all types of women older younger smart....dumb lol but those are other stories If your not doing that and your playing it cool on the subject try doing something outta the way like roses be romantic try writing a poem taking interest in what they do basically try being thier for them as a friend instead of trying to press them about the subject :) you'd suprised but it actually does work | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/6/2005 6:12:13 PM | WOW!! after reading some of these posts i have to say that some of you have no idea what you're talking about...look...coming from a woman herself...if a woman says she just wants to be friends...it's b/c there's something there that she doesn't want...yeah you may be a great guy and a great friend...but what she's thinking is....is this who i want to spend my time with...do i want to get into a "relationship" with him....could i see myself getting naked and doing sexual things with him...usually if she just wants to be friends it's b/c she's asked herself many questions and came up with at least one negative answer...
unlike a lot of men...women usually tend not to jump into things quite so fast...they like to look at ALL the options...they analyze every aspect of a relationship...not every woman goes for the alcoholic...or their ex...or someone who abuses them...take me for example....i've been in bad bad relationships....and now i know exactly what to look for and what to avoid...i'm not looking for a friendship...or anything like that....and honestly...if i met a guy who i didn't see myself getting involved with i will let them know...if i did want to be their friend...i would tell them lets just be friends....and the reason why we usually don't tell you why our decision came up that way is b/c it's just a nice way of telling you that there's something about you we don't a relationship with...do you honestly think that it would be better if we said...hey... i just wanna be friends b/c honestly you're too fat for me...or you're not my type...or i'm not attracted to you whatsoever...i mean c'mon now...we're not the devil here...we do try to be a little nice about things... | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/6/2005 6:19:10 PM | Being friends first, making sure you have enough in common, enough of the same values and goals and making sure you LIKE one another is key BEFORE starting a relationship...Anyone can jump into one and anyone can just have sex..Takes a lot more to have a relationship..Too many skip this and get torn up..Also some women and MEN will use that friend card because THEY are not ready for a REAL relationship..
Don't lose heart and hang in there..Dating is hard, it sucks sometimes and we all get sick of the games..You can either pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep trying, or you go be alone..Choice is up to each of us...
Hang in there.. | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/6/2005 6:49:01 PM | | As for myself i rather be alone to be with people that want to play games.I have seen soooo many women that claim they want to be friends and let it grow into a relationship.But when the first loser boy shows up she drops you like a hot potatoe.Then in return worships the ground loser boy walks on.....AS far as your feelings she careless....Some friend hah!....You see it is all a game to you!As long as you get what you want.Who cares about the guys feelings...I am so glad i am out of the dating scene.To many liers out there. | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/7/2005 3:44:04 AM | | I do not believe i addrees you in any way shape or form.If you would read some of the profiles you will find out that there is alot of people not looking that is on this site.And the ones that are most of them are not real.They are just in it for the mind games andvsee what they can get their hands on. | |
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ogre04
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Joined: 7/14/2005
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ogre04
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/7/2005 4:24:26 AM | | its there way of telling you your not trying hard enough or an easy way of letting you down wich is bullshit no one knows how it will be till you date them then they know who you are | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/8/2005 10:22:29 AM | Everytime this has happened to me I just knew.... I FN knew it .... why that is! And that why is because they wanted to keep on the backburner or on a shelf, so they can come whinning and pouting due to their selfish little hearts getting trampled on by some guy!
That or they wanted to stay friends and become F buddies! | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/8/2005 10:55:51 AM | You are right in saying that a man labels a woman a tramp or slut if they put out on the first date, but the man gets the label of a stud when ne sleeps with the woman on the first date. This has gone on for as long as sex has been free will. We as a free sex people will never get passed this persona. Evolution will never serpass it but there is hope for us yet. Some men out ther realize that if it were not for those women who put out on the first date they would not get laid for a long time. Not all men are ass*%#'s ladies. Men's ego's need to be pumped up and some ladies too, we know if you want to get to know a person who cares if they sleep with you on the first date.Atleast you find out early if they can satisfy you in bed. We are all teachers and students when it comes to sex there is always someone that we teach and some we learn from.
Lets just have fun,safe and uninhibited sex,and drop they labels that only hurt the people that we want to get to know. | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/8/2005 7:27:37 PM | | i've been down the i just want to be friends road many a time and afterwords all i think to myself is that they gave up a really great person who u can actually bring home to your folks without a police record or a bun in the oven. | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/9/2005 6:51:11 PM | | tarheelman....well i just thought this was a DATING website...was i wrong to assume that this is that kind of site...?? hmmm then i should just stop with this website since a lot of people aren't looking for anything anyways....or i should talk to the guy who designed this website and ask him why he lied...why he led people like me to believe that this was for people looking for someone...hmmm...that's kinda strange...ohhh well...and yes you did address me...as well as everyone else...if you don't wanna hear my comments don't post anything...simple as that... | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/9/2005 7:16:14 PM | Some men pull out the friend card to. It can be disappointing, especially if they led you on...
Basically whenever I've said "Let's be friends" to a guy it means one of two things:
1) I just got out of a relationship and need time to heal. You "do" have potential but don't push me or I'll bolt. Let's start out as friends as it should be!
2) I like your personality enough to hang out with, but there is something about you which repells and I'm totally not into you.
It can often be a nice way of saying one of the following:
- You're not attractive (you remind me of my ugly warty uncle Tibor)
- You have hygiene issues (ever heard of deoderant)
- Your to needy (you have no life outside of stalking women)
- Your obnoxious (you're fun to laugh at but to embarrassing to take serioulsy)
- You're a player (Who can trust a guy whose eyes are always on the prowl)
Never pine over a person who wants to be just friends... If you can't think of them as just a friend then graciously bow out of the situation. | |
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| why do women always just want to be friends
Posted: 8/9/2005 8:00:15 PM | "Being just friends is where it all starts."
Not for me. Usually there's some clear indication of attraction during the dating phase. I might take my sweet time to get to know a girl, as long as her body language and attitude keeps telling me she's attracted to me sexually. This sexual attraction is where "it starts" for me. If that mysterious element is missing or beginns to fade, then she's just a friend, and I'll usually only see her in group settings, and not take her on dates. I have a few good woman friends, and there's a pretty clear understanding between us, often unspoken. I can't see ANY of my woman friends EVER developing into anything more. | |
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