If you arent interested in someone, why not just say that politely and move on. However to get "go back to africa", "find a date at the gorilla cages at the zoo", and "what self respecting woman would date a N@#$#@", are uncalled for.

kg,

The type of responses you received indicate the ignorance of some people. I have many friends/associates who are black and I've asked them their opinion on inter-racial dating and if they have a preference for who their kids date. A little background....my daughter had a crush on a young black kid and she told me about it. Personally, I'm okay with that and she invited him over to spend an afternoon, which he did and was very polite and respectful. Things didn't work out for whatever reason and my daughter doesn't want to talk about it. But this was what prompted me to ask my friends their opinions. By the way, their preference was that their children dated other black children, but again, like me, they were open to the idea. All I care about is that when the time is right, my daughter meets someone that will be good to her and make her happy, regardless of color.

Of course, our conversation opened up all kinds of other issues. Like children of inter-racial relationships and such. All of us agreed that those children seem to have a harder time knowing where they fit in. What is your feeling on that? Again, keep in mind the friends I was speaking with this about were black and we are all mothers too.

I just would think after the American people made such a huge statement in the elections, attitudes would have been a tad bit more receptive. Yes we have come a long way, but after whats happened here and on a few other sites to me in the last week or so, I see we as a country, still have a long way to go.

If you arent interested in someone, why not just say that politely and move on. However to get "go back to africa", "find a date at the gorilla cages at the zoo", and "what self respecting woman would date a N@#$#@", are uncalled for.

I lock my doors any time I'm anywhere in a bad neighborhood regardless of who is crossing the street. Every time I do this and it's a black person, I feel awful because I assume they think it's because they're black. No, it's because I'm in a bad neighborhood and I'm alone. If the person was a white male, I would check my doors as well. Some things are just human nature, and I wouldn't assume that she crossed the street because you were black, unless you were able to speak to her. Your whole comment is chalk full of assumptions. You sound paranoid.

I have a question for you, out of curiosity, if you email a white girl and she isn't interested, do you automatically think it's because you're black?

Commentary to ONLY1DAYWALKER: On your statement: "Obama winning by a land slide has pretty much proven to me that racism in the United States is pretty much dead.", oh dear, get some help! Obama won because of a revolutionary grass roots movement that radicalized many non-voters (many people of color) to vote like never before, not to exclude hordes of disenfranchised youth who were sick of more of the same. But the main catalyst for his win, were the masses of Republicans and Independents who simply didn't vote. Get the facts straight, racism is alive and well in this country. It's just much more transparent.