| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/27/2008 9:41:29 PM | Oh yeah, the bra and panty sets give you the sexy attitude
...Does it ever....I bought a new outfit for a Christmas party recently and under I wore black lace panties & bra... and they were sexy....I just felt so good....it would have even been better if I had someone to wear them for.
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/27/2008 11:41:02 PM |
The topic came to mind after shopping the Boxing Day sales* yesterday and I couldn’t believe how the fashion changed in such a short time to being more overtly sexy.
You musta hit one of those Boxing Day, "All Panties - Half Off!" sales huh???
Seriously, the tendency to sell clothing that necessitates the purchase of more clothing so that we can cover up the fact that the first clothing wasn't enough is more about retail profit than it is about "sexy". It's even become hard to find a long-sleeved blouse for fall and winter wear. Instead they sell short-sleeved shirts that we have to buy a cover for.
I don't think that walking around half-dressed makes a woman look sexy as I've known a number of guys who find a little mystery far more provocative. While a guy will certainly take a few minutes to ogle a half-dressed woman walking down the street, I think an experienced lover knows that "sexy" is how woman makes him feel when he is with her. There are a lot of beautiful people who are pretty cold fish when it comes down to being intimate.
I do agree that wearing lacey lingerie can make a woman feel beautiful and feminine but sexy isn't a look... I think it's a feeling that is hard to hide when someone is having it. | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/28/2008 12:37:52 AM | I also dress for comfort, but no one will mistake my loose fitting shorts or PJ pants and over sized t-shirt for sexy.
On the other hand, a woman can do this and appear incredibly sexy. | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/28/2008 2:02:40 AM | | Since I have been single after 25 years of marriage, I have discovered a new confidence in myself and my choices. I never felt this way before. Now I find that men remark on my being sexy/sensual, not necessarily in those exact words, but they let me know that they see this in me one way or another and it's not that I am trying to be this way. I think it's just I am more sure of myself and FREE to be however I want to be, and men seem to find this attractive. It has been a pleasant surprise, and completely subconscious on my part. | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/28/2008 5:02:37 AM | Personally, mine comes from being confident in myself.
Anyone can bake a cake and put the best kind of frosting on it, BUT, if the cake it's self doesn't rise, then all the frosting in the world can not make that cake taste or look any better.
Sexy/sensual begins and ends within a person, without it, they are just another face in the crowd.IMO.
Some days I blend and other days I stand out like a peacock in full bloom, it's all in how I feel about myself on any given day. | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/28/2008 7:04:35 AM | In my mind "sexy" and "sensual" are two different things. Sexy is a look that can be achieved without a person appearing sensual and as one poster put it can verge on looking sluttish.
Sensuality however is a aura a person has that is not developed or learned. I have known sensual women who were not confident or particularly intelligent or outgoing and who didn't dress in any sort of sexy way. The dictionary defines sensuality as;
1. being sensual: the capacity for enjoying the pleasures of the senses
2. being pleasing to senses: the quality of being pleasing to the senses
Encarta ® World English Dictionary © & (P) 1998-2005 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.
I have to agree that it has more to do with senses than visual. A sensual woman is sensual at all times without expending any effort. When she wakes in the morning without make up and her hair going all different directions, she is still sensual. When her hair is up in curlers and she is wearing that faded and worn rumpled old house coat, she is still sensual. When a sensual woman gets all decked out to go somewhere, has her makeup on and hair done up, her sensuality reaches an intensity that almost defies description. Her dress doesn't have to be "sexy" or her make up over done or her hair anything special and when she walks into a room heads turn. Attention is focused on her and people are drawn to her. She makes no conscious effort to achieve this and may even be uncomfortable with what she sees an a lot of unnecessary attention but she simply can't help it.
Sexy is something most people can achieve but in my mind true sensuality you either have or you don't. | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/28/2008 7:51:51 AM | There is both intent and a subconscious desire. True sexiness and sensuality come from within--an attitude that makes the sexy "look" work. I have seen women dress in an attempt to be sexy and fail because they lack the self confidence and aura/essence to carry it off. A truly sexy woman will exude that aura even dressed in a sackcloth.
When a man tells me that I am sexy, I consider his intent and his conscious desire.
As for fashion and sexiness, I think things have changed since I was young. I teach at a community college and both females and males dress in ways that even in the 60s, we wouldn't have considered school attire. Are the guys distracted by the tank tops? No, but they look; I know this from comments that my students have made either to me or in my hearing range.
If I am going someplace after class and wear something low-cut, I wear a sweater (yes, even in summer, a light cotton sweater). I have been approached by several male students who apparently think I am sexy--whether their intent is a higher grade or to score with the teacher, I am not sure. | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/28/2008 8:06:03 AM | | Sexy is not so much a physical attribute ( large breasts, toned body, pretty face, etc) as it is a mental projection. I have known large, older women to look very sexy in jeans and a top while I have observed younger, more fit women looking down right trashy with their clothes that leave little to the imagination. All in all, it is how YOU want to be perceived that affects the way you dress. BUT, always dress accordingly. | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/28/2008 8:06:31 AM | | Sexy is not so much a physical attribute ( large breasts, toned body, pretty face, etc) as it is a mental projection. I have known large, older women to look very sexy in jeans and a top while I have observed younger, more fit women looking down right trashy with their clothes that leave little to the imagination. All in all, it is how YOU want to be perceived that affects the way you dress. BUT, always dress accordingly. | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/28/2008 1:23:14 PM | Both.
I know I have been compliment by women without me overtly doing anything I know of.
I also know that I can "pour on" the sex appeal; when I do, I know exactly what I am doing, and I know exactly what the response will be. Funny thing, I had no idea I could do that until my divorce about 11 years ago.
It's fun to play with, and being sexy is a close relative of creative flirting. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2008 1:30:59 PM | I have two sisters who are absolutely beautiful. But for some reason the men in our life always say I am the sexiest. I dont know why, perhaps it is innate. God knows I don't dress provocatively, you can usually find me in jeans and a tee. I don't usually fix my hair up,
just tie it back in a ponytail..... so it has befuddled me.
I would have to agree that is in a subconscious thing. I have done nothing to perpetuate this rumor! | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/28/2008 2:08:29 PM | It's an attitude ~ not a look.. Its the essence of who you are and it exudes naturally and without thought or pretense. It has little to do with what you wear or how you wear it. It's an innate sultryness that some people have.
Wearing sexy frilly bits just for yourself (doesn't have to be anyone else seeing them) I think is a "symptom" of a gal who possesses innate sensuality. ;0) | |
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Joined: 3/24/2008
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/30/2008 8:47:38 AM | | Just had a thought... the sex/sensual thing is a bit like being cool. You can't go out trying to be cool... it's for others to make that judgement. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2008 9:18:15 AM | I don't think being sexy/sensual is an act...I think it is the normal persona of some individuals...I am sure you have seen many people try to act sexy but fail or come across as seeming needy and/or slutty.
The sexiest people are those who don't have to try to look or act it. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2008 9:26:45 AM | Some women can be sensual and sexy without trying, its natural to them. You may be one of those women who is sensual by nature and not intention. Some guys will perceive you as sensual and wanting sex no mater what because that is what they want. They see what they want to see ( some folks are not going to be confused by facts like the fact you are not feeling sexy nor do you want to be seen as sexy by them). I tend to agree with the more feminine look for professional women. A long time ago, back in the dark ages we called the 1970's, professional women became more prominent in "visible" positions. (for example news anchors) back in those days a woman in such a position had the strangest compulsion to dress in more masculine attire. It was a major turn off to me and lots of others. if you want to be respected as a professional AND a women dress like a woman (its what i thought back then anyway) in any event the more feminine and softer attire came into vouge and now its ok to look feminine and be powerful, its accepted as it should be. Given the choice i think a powerful professional woman should dress in a feminine manner. Some traditional feminine thinking, as in building relationship and patience, are much needed in the world right now, always have been. You seem a woman at peace with herself, its ok for you to express yourself either in the feminine or the masculine. here's hoping for the feminine. feminine does not equal "looking" it is the soul of a womans power to be a woman (my opp only)  | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/30/2008 3:30:22 PM | Sexy is sttitude. I've been told by both men and women (straight) that they consider me to be a very sexy person. I always dress appropriately for work and play, I'm not 22, but I dress like a woman. One woman said it was the confidence portrayed when I walk into a room and that people stop what they are doing and look. A man I dated said that I have presence and loved walking into a room with me. I find this amusing since I'm short and full-figured, not what most men consider to be visually "sexy". I was also the girl that boys barked at in high school and would offer a milk bone.
Sensuality is very different and very wonderful. | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/30/2008 6:06:23 PM | | Some people are more sexy or sensual then others, think Marilyn Monroe next to Roseanne. It is an inborn trait I think, it certainly doesnt mean you are slutty. My friends always tease me, calling me girly girl, and glamour girl, I take it as a compliment, because thats is part of what makes me , me. | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/31/2008 8:51:43 AM | Runs: Dress how YOU want.
And you have to consider the source of these "compliments"/criticisms--women. Not to offend, ladies, but many women can be catty, jealous and competitive. Granted, in the workplace, it's about being "professional", not being "attractive" (although, in sales, the two qualities have to, by necessity, blur), so, in the workplace, dressing conservative is probably considered appropriate, but, when women tell you to "tone it down", might it be that they're just jealous that you look sexier than they do...?
And how do MEN perceive you, hmmm? | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 11:50:46 AM | | Like I said earlier.. It's not what you where or when/how you wear it.. it is innate and exudes in full business attire.. or cleavage bearing evening attire. And, yes, you are correct.. many women are jealous of a woman that turns the mens head even when she's dressed "appropiately" in her knee length skirt, white button-down blouse and buisness jacket.. | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/31/2008 11:59:21 AM |
Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
It can be conscious and subconscious, depending on the circumstance. When I go to buy panties I buy them with a couple of thoughts in mind. One thought is for comfort with my running clothes, one is for daintiness and prettiness, and the last is for sheer sexiness. Same can be said for outfits I choose. | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/31/2008 7:37:49 PM | | Why is it being sexy/sensual is a female thing. Women like to see a sexy guy too. Not many out there, but I'm sure if we all look hard enough one of us might come up with one. | |
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| Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 1/1/2009 8:08:30 AM | I've been accused of trying to look sexy when I wasn't. I did a thread awhile back about should we try to de-sexy-fy ourselves. There have been times when I've been flirted with by very young men, when I was wearing shorts/tank tops, jeans,etc. Was a little embarrassing! That's how I usually dress. Apparently it's a sexy look for me.
It's not one I try for, just my style of dressing.
I'm sure that if I dressed in old lady clothes, they wouldn't find me sexy looking. So, I'm not one of those who can look sexy in anything. However, I never try to look sexy. But apparently with my dressing style, that's the end result. I don't do the belly showing or extreme cleavage. Or anything inappropriate. So, for me it is not subconscious, or deliberate. Just my style on my body, which I try to keep in great shape. For me and my health, not to attract men. 
That's an added bonus. | |
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