| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/30/2008 6:20:11 PM |
OK...to all the people who believe men outnumber women on these sites, I still want to know why you think that is?
Is it that there are more married men on these sites cheating? Or something that keeps single women from trying?
I'm not just wanting to know if men outnumber women on dating sites, but also the WHY.
Here are some educated guesses:
---Women are scared off by online dating horror stories.
-----There still maybe a lingering social stigma regarding personals. (I’m generalizing here but women seem to be more sensitive to social image and men seem to be more adventures.)
------It’s seems to be ok for a girl to ask her friends for help when wanting to find romance. Guy dare not ask their friends.
------Fear of rejection
------Privacy concerns
------Women tend (again generalizing) to be less assertive and feel putting an ad up would be too aggressive.
Others? | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/30/2008 6:45:11 PM | I think someone hit the nail squarely on the head--a goodly percentage of the men are married or in relationships, and just cruising to see what is out there. Wifey is in the kitchen washing the dishes after dinner; he is checking things out on his computer. In fact, advice for you ladies, ask them point blank in initial corespondence if they are married or otherwise taken--you will be astounded at those who answer yes!
This also explains why so many are interested in chat only; never intend to meet. Or make date and never show up.
I think the ratio therefore is not relevant to anything. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/30/2008 7:11:00 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
That's subjective. I personally doubt there is THAT MANY married men here to cause the difference.
But I do suspect that you, who seem to have had bad experiences with these fools, go out and tell your girlfriends that "All guy on-line are married, " is a bigger factor in scaring women from trying on-line dating. IMHO. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/30/2008 8:22:17 PM | Engorged….
I have no doubt there are many married men here. But so many that it creates the inequity? I find that hard to believe. Maybe someone could do a study. Until then I think other factors better explain it.
Otherwise, this society is doomed. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/30/2008 8:28:26 PM | | its not a matter of ratios. men out number women on these places many times to one but it really doesnt matter. the fact is that a great number of the men are so dysfunctonial that all they are is a number. there are plenty of nice women here but being an angry over weight drunk doesnt attract anyone. well maybe in maine | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/30/2008 8:33:39 PM | | ya and seventy five percent of divorces end up in marrage. funny thing is married guys especially ones on a second or third wife can spot all the mistakes women make looking for men, and it all comes back to women not wanting to accept the true nature of men. look at the profiles, if the guy you describe that you want actually showed up you would be bored to death. remember ladies all men are dogs, from the white house to the board room to the mail room, but like dogs they are loyal and always come home to their master. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/30/2008 9:21:25 PM |
It's been known since 1662 that more boys than girls are born, so the number is almost always greater than 1 until you get up to age ranges where the fact that males die more and earlier starts to have an effect.
Although before more modern times a good number of those male children died in childhood. As I recall this resulted in fewer men than women.
re: tyedyedsoul, msg 29
There's the biggest one:
---- There's no women on the interweb.
just borrowing a phrase, but I've been using the internet since bitnet was still bigger. The number of men has always outnumbered women greatly and likely still does.
There are a lot of women in the forums alone, whom have had numerous run-ins with married men. Does this not occur everywhere, not only in online dating? Also if women are choosing the married men in large number they would also be rejecting single men and thus amplify the effect. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/30/2008 10:15:58 PM | The men to women ratio in my area is about 2.5 to 1.
Besides what's already been mentioned, possible reasons why more men on dating sites are
- dating sites have developed a reputation as the place to go for casual encounters and men are more open to that then women. I believe this to be the main reason.
- more men are socially retarded and/or have personality defects and are unable to meet women any other way. Actually, this could apply to either gender but I think more so to men. We always read in the news about online predators and they're typically male. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/31/2008 1:28:40 AM | Since there is a huge market for men, but little demand for them. I would say the men are easy to come by.
And since there is a shortage of women, but a huge demand for them. I would say women are hard to find.   | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/31/2008 6:56:42 AM | ^^^^^^
Keep the bitterness in check. Women seem picky because they can be. It's simple economics. They are the scarce supply and we are the huge demand. Therefore their price goes up. Their not being shallow their being reasonable.
We would do it too if women outnumbered us. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/31/2008 7:14:53 AM | Their not being shallow their being reasonable.
Completely the opposite. I think if you do a thread search here, you'll see alot of topics about how women have unrealistic expectations when it comes to online dating. ..same goes for men...I know overweight hefty guys and personality-wise, crappy as well, that want some young hot women for some reason.
Also, do a GOOGLE search on:
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"Why it’s OK to settle for Mr. Good Enough
Author Lori Gottlieb on the fading line between compromising and settling "
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This author makes a valid arguement that alot of aging, single women these days (some approaching 40, never married and no kids) are being completely unreasonable when it comes to seeking out a mate. They want it ALL, they want it perfect, they want the 20-page laundry list not to fall short even with a 19/20 requirements fulfilled.
Funny the caption under the photo: "If you’re 30 or older and still single, should you settle for Mr. Good Enough or hold out for the Perfect Man? NBC’s Savannah Guthrie reports."
One time a matchmaking business owner, that had some lunch-dates matchmaking business....had a dissatisfied female single client. If the guy couldn't be 6 feet tall, she would not give him a shot. Apparently, the one time he decided to give it a shot and actually SAY something to this woman.
Apparently, he had a "match" for this woman, but he didn't necessarily meet her ht. criteria...or some petty thing she should over look. She had always been disappointed in the service for not finding her a match.
During their one-on-one in his office , he goes, "Well, you might as well consider this guy and maybe you shouldn't be so picky when looking for a mate like you have been."
She grabbed her purse, and walked out in a huff.
Just as well, I suppose, but anyways, check out the Laura Gottlieb article on the NBC Website....and also watch that Video clip. VERY enlightening. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/31/2008 8:16:28 AM | grk, Belonged to an adult-oriented dating site, and it presented statistics for various countries and who was seeking whom for what, as in both hetero and homosexual leanings. By far, men ISO women outnumbered women ISO men on average 10:1. Yes, the range from country-to-country ...and region to region, ranged from 5:1 to 20:1 ...w/ Alaska and Guam taken into scope.
Coming to a free dating site, such as this ...and being a man who's not given up on having sex w/ women, I'd be willing to bet that I was among the majority of its members, but no longer am no longer ISO sex or dating to this end. As I sense that most women who join up w/ dating sites are ISO an LTR ...be that matrimony or a viable alternative for coexisting in peaceful, productive passions together.
That I found ...or was found here by that needle w/ strings attached, which bind us, I would likely be even more in the minority of men here who 'get it' for what comes w/ the territory of a woman who's still got it for all that he was ISO beyond the sex. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/31/2008 9:50:16 AM | radiusman, as I stated in my first post in this topic, I said to BE NICE.
We're not here discussing who has the "advantage" or whether or not men or women are shallow, but first determining if the statement "men outnumber women on dating sites" is truth or myth, and then discussing WHY it seems more men join dating sites than women.
It's pointless to get into the "shallow" argument. Frankly, if women outnumbered men 10:1 on this site, I think all the relationship-minded men would be just as selective.
If you want to discuss "shallow" or "advantage" then there's a 97-page topic on this very forum to play in. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/31/2008 4:07:05 PM | | Zermat you have a great outlook..NOT Why are you even on here if that is how you truly believe? For every bad "guy" thing you find I am sure I can match it with what I have seen. You weed through the good and bad but you seem to have a negative attitude before you even talk to anyone. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/31/2008 7:34:58 PM | Honestly, I don't notice more men then women on dating sites even though men are always claiming that there are more of them on here then us. I've done plenty of searches of female profiles just to see, and I see just as many women as men on the dating sites I've been on.
I think this might seem like a fact to many men, because they tend to be on the rejection end of things on dating sites, but in reality, the membership on dating sites seems to be 50/50 to me. (like I said, I've searched female ads myself just to see)
I don't think women are as reluctant to use dating sites anymore. I think it's pretty commonplace among us now. I've only used internet dating sites myself, to meet people over the years. And I've noticed more and more people in older age brackets, are now using internet dating sites as well. If anything, they seem more popular then ever with both sexes and all age brackets. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/31/2008 7:55:28 PM | | There are so many ways to look at this. For example, is the ratio consistent over age groups? How many men and how many women are "lurkers" but never contact any one? Why are most of the people on the forums women? I think it is a good way to meet people and see if their values match. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/31/2008 8:16:19 PM |
grkboy qrote: Finally... I wonder also if the amount of people cheating
on someone also thus raises the population of one gender on the sites
over the other.
The research I've seen seems to indicate that the incidence of
extramarital affairs for men and women is about the same. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 12/31/2008 10:33:17 PM |
Completely the opposite. I think if you do a thread search here, you'll see alot of topics about how women have unrealistic expectations when it comes to online dating. ..same goes for men...I know overweight hefty guys and personality-wise, crappy as well, that want some young hot women for some reason.
That may be true, but those same guys are unlikely to pass up countless other women in hopes that someone like that would come along. As the rest of your post discusses I have simply yet come across a guy, any guy, who could match the requirements that all too many women have. Is there a guy out there that would reject a woman for being a cup size too big or too small? Or being just outside some arbitrary age range? I've never run across a guy like that, but I've run across women that refused to talk to me because I was inch too tall or a couple weeks too old.
I've encountered such trivial requirements that I know the only guys these women could date are guys who are lying to them and telling them exactly what they want to hear. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 1/1/2009 4:51:34 AM | I think their are way more men than women, i know another dating site that lists stats of new people joining, every week its about 4 or 5 new women users and about 17 18 new male users.
i have been on various sites, and have had hardly any hits at all...despite trying vigorously...i know i am no brad pitt, but i am not that bad i dont think...certainly wouldnt say i am bald and fat....the same thing goes for pubs as well, there are alot more men to women....
get out there girls...and get your friends out there....
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