| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 8/10/2009 10:58:28 PM |
I don't know if there's more men than women or if women are just more reluctant to initiate messages... but the ratio of initial emails is definitely a lot more favorable for the ladies, so I've been told by several friends of both sexes.
Yes, women do play the “passive” role (often) and that alone isn’t right. But also, to what another poster wrote, that the reason there are more men then women is because there are more “short, bald, fat broke..” men. Absolutely false. I’ve spent a lot of times just checking out male profiles to get an idea of where and how men are doing on these boards (aka my competition..lol) . As many men get into their late 30’s, 40’s, many (not all of course) may have a receding hairline and put on a small bit of weight. Heaven forbid a woman talk to one of these men! Plenty are tall, and plenty have good jobs. Women in the same age group may put on a few pounds as well, but that very rarely turns off most men. So, there is the double standard. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 8/11/2009 9:13:10 PM |
bonopeart: Yes, women do play the “passive” role (often)
and that alone isn’t right.
Even if it's wrong for people to play the passive role in this
context (a big "if") they'd only be hurting themselves. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 8/12/2009 3:17:32 PM | I have done a considerable amount of research on the subject (as a writer, I have a tendency to do that) and studies prove that men do outnumber women on Internet dating sites. For one, women tend to be more leary of dating sites than men due to the obvious safety factors. For example, men generally don't have to worry about such potentially scary scenarios as getting raped. Studies also show that 50 percent of all men on dating sites are married, in a relationship or otherwise unavailable, while the percentage of women who fit those categories is far lower. That's another thing women take into consideration, and why they are more likely to forego the dating sites.
From an anthropological perspective, even though it's 2009, men are still hard-wired to be the pursuers of women. Furthermore, women with children are still, in large part, more likely to be the dominant caregivers to young children, even if they do work outside the home and share joint custody with their kids' fathers. So divorced women with kids are more likely to put off--or at least postpone--dating than men.
Hey, you can't change tens of thousands of years of socialization overnight! So to answer your question, yes, men do outnumber women on most, if not all, Internet dating sites. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 8/12/2009 5:23:35 PM | I think it's true, when I search for men, I get up to 75 -80 pages of results, and it's of those who have been on between yesterday and today.
If I do a reverse search for women with the same criteria, I get about 20 pages of results. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 8/12/2009 8:34:00 PM | At the outset I have to say I've met several guys from another dating site so I'm not saying I'm mad that I can't get a few dates - but the following statement is complete rubbish, male and female all think they have it tougher!!
"As many men get into their late 30’s, 40’s, many (not all of course) may have a receding hairline and put on a small bit of weight. Heaven forbid a woman talk to one of these men! Plenty are tall, and plenty have good jobs. Women in the same age group may put on a few pounds as well, but that very rarely turns off most men. So, there is the double standard"
Bullpoo - of course (British) men don't want women who have put on a few pounds, a lot of them have no idea of what average is, some resort to saying they want the 'slim side of average' so I'm assuming it's okay to be average as long as that means slim - my figure is not slim and would have been okay modelling swimwear in the 1950s when women had boobs and hips but now I'm not even average apparently, my trousers still say 12 (8 American) and tops 14 (10 American) , although I used to be a smaller and more toned when I was younger and could work on this. Nearly all guys in that age range have less than average jobs , multiple kids (multiple child support) and don't want any more children - we might not be superfertile but we're not all menopausal either.
For your info my, what I now know to be, FWB uses this site and hides his picture!!  | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 8/12/2009 8:44:05 PM |
KittenWithAQuip: Studies also show that 50 percent of
all men on dating sites are married, in a relationship or
otherwise unavailable...
Not all men who are in a relationship are unavailable
because, for example, some men date multiple women. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 8/13/2009 6:51:37 AM | | Do guys who date multiple women ever decide on one to stay with - or is the thrill in the chase and that biological imperitive for men to breed with as many women as possible. It's up to us gals to keep our legs crossed for as long as possible - that's not a moral thing or prick teasing thing, just a emotional preservation thing - if all gals on internet dating went on sex strike the bad guys would disappear like magic. Women can always go to a nightclub late and get laid you know. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 8/13/2009 7:57:45 PM |
I did a search on every age level in a 25 mile radius of myself for both genders. I would not want to be searching for a partner in your city. As I said in my earlier post, location plays a big part in it. Here are the results for Ottawa, Ontario, Canada as searched for both genders in 5 year increments:
20 - 24 Male 281, Female 600+
25 - 29 Male 299, Female 600+
30 - 34 Male 223, Female 600+
35 - 39 Male 193, Female 600+
40 - 44 Male 136, Female 600+
45 - 49 Male 158, Female 600+
I would have broken it down further, but I think this gets my point across. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 8/13/2009 9:32:40 PM |
ginger-kitty: Do guys who date multiple women
ever decide on one to stay with?
Yes. Some eventually get married and raise a family.
ginger-kitty: It's up to us gals to keep our legs crossed
for as long as possible.
It's not all peaches and cream for the man either.
He has to say "no" to some ladies lest he be perceived
as too easy.
ginger-kitty: Women can always go to a nightclub late
and get laid you know.
Were they not picky, many women and some men could
have an abundant supply of random-quality meaningless
sex partners. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 9/3/2009 12:59:10 PM | | The reason why there are more men on dating sites than women is because it's easier for women to meet men initially than it is for men to meet women initially. All a woman has to do is just leave her house and go anywhere, men have to go to a certain place and at the right time. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 9/3/2009 8:31:53 PM | | No matter how you cut it. But for every woman that goes on a date there is a guy that goes on a date... From all the posting from other guys.. I guess if so few guys are going on dates from here. That means 20% of the guys out there are going out with 80% of the women... | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 9/3/2009 8:48:17 PM | | Not at all. In any age category that I've looked at on this site, females are the dominant number. Females are also pickier as well, which might be why they're on the site so long while males might find one girl and quit. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 9/4/2009 8:21:42 AM | Bassgirl,
There are many, many women's profiles that haven't been logged into for over 30 days, are you really sure that men's inactive profiles outnumber women's inactive profiles?
Meegway,
Did you take into account the fact that there are so many inactive profiles? Do your numbers include inactive profiles? | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 9/4/2009 1:28:48 PM |
This often depends on various factors such as geography and age. In my geographical area and age group, men outnumber women by about 2.5 to 1 ratio.
Quite true. In Russia the women outnumber the men to such a degree (approx 4 million as of July of this year) that an article was written about their "reverse" roles of the sexes. The women there always do the instigating, always approach the men, etc. They also have the problem of women date raping the men, instead of the other way around. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 9/8/2009 7:29:27 PM | | I'm guessing men out number the ladies 2:1, reason being, half the men on dating sites are married or attach and are online looking to see if they can improve on what they already have ...I get so many stories from my female friends that say the get guys that are married or attach being online contacting them. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 9/8/2009 7:36:57 PM | | Does it really matter? A lot of people play the lottery every week, even though the odds of winning are something like 13 million to one. Despite the odds, someone always wins. And as the old saying goes ..."you've got to be in it to win it!" | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 9/8/2009 7:48:19 PM | Where I live, it was 6 guys for 1 girl, when I checked 2 years ago. Now it's 3 guys to 1 girl.
I think a lot of what contributes to the imbalance is that there are lots of different venues where a girl can sign up for free, AND that girls tend to be on top of retiring (deleting) their profiles when they leave the site. | |
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| men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth?
Posted: 9/9/2009 11:06:09 PM | Do a search for any city in the Toronto area. I've counted and done the research and in this area it is even greater then 20:1 of men who have good jobs, their own place and hair on their heads. Many women have told me they get around 12-30 emails a day in the city of Toronto.
In my area: Fact | |
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